My Son In Law Attempted Suicide...

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I think Jim should help you out towards rent for a few months. You don't just leave someone high and dry like that.

Why don't you feel your daughter's situation is improving?
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
I agree.

And maybe your daughter is experiencing withdrawal symptoms....
Originally Posted by The New Black
I third this. Lotsa, I'm so sorry you're hurting and going through so much all at once. Major, big, soft, comfy ((((hugs))))
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Lotsa I am keeping you in my prayers. I am sorry you are going through this. I agree that Jim should help with rent for this month since you originally rented it together. And knowing your situation, the least he could do is financially help, especially if he is so insensitive to still try to have sex with you.

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Yup, if he in on the lease, he doen't just get to move out and leave because he's not getting enough attention. Nope. It doesn't work that way
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Yup, if he in on the lease, he doen't just get to move out and leave because he's not getting enough attention. Nope. It doesn't work that way
Originally Posted by scrills
I could be wrong, but I think he took his name off of the lease, as he has already notified the apt complex that he was moving out.

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To answer some questions....My daughter has taken to her bed. Says she is sick. Jim's name is still on the lease. He texted me that he would help out until I get another job. Won't be back until Thursday. Staying at his daughter's house. Said he hates packing.

I'm just being Lotsa right now. I'm packing up and spending the night with my ex bf and friend with benefits. He's cooking dinner for me. I just need to get away from all this stuff right now. I need a warm body next to me in bed plus I'm really hungry. Life goes on.
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Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Lotsa - I just saw a story on AZFamily about two horses that got hit this morning in the road at 68th and Shea - near you right? Guess they got loose from a horse property, got spooked and ran. The photos online are very sad. Did you hear about this?

Last edited by asugirl; 10-08-2013 at 03:41 PM.
Oh Wow!!! Yes that is right by me. There is a running/horseback track and horses there. I walk there some mornings. That's very sad. I was just watching them Sunday nite. The riders had on helmets with lights. It was cool to watch.

So I ended up not spending the night. I swear I really want to be this naughty woman, but just can't. I even had a guy I've known for years offer to pay my plane fare and all expenses for me to visit him in Dallas, TX. I told him I would think about it. I guess being in love has made me a good girl. The crazy thing is that when I was almost home my car started making a loud, weird noise. Fortunately, I was able to get home and no warning lights came on. When you think it can't get worse it does. I texted Jim and he said he will help me out. He wants me to have a functioning car. I'm starting to feel I'm in the Twilight Zone.

On a good note....my daughter called tonite. She had just come from one of her recovery meetings and was feeling really good. She wants to hang out tomorrow.
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Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
I'm glad your daughter's feeling better again. Recovery is never straightforward, she'll likely go backwards a bit now and again, it's normal. Hope you enjoy your time with her tomorrow.
Sorry about the Jim situation.
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Oh Wow!!! Yes that is right by me. There is a running/horseback track and horses there. I walk there some mornings. That's very sad. I was just watching them Sunday nite. The riders had on helmets with lights. It was cool to watch.

So I ended up not spending the night. I swear I really want to be this naughty woman, but just can't. I even had a guy I've known for years offer to pay my plane fare and all expenses for me to visit him in Dallas, TX. I told him I would think about it. I guess being in love has made me a good girl. The crazy thing is that when I was almost home my car started making a loud, weird noise. Fortunately, I was able to get home and no warning lights came on. When you think it can't get worse it does. I texted Jim and he said he will help me out. He wants me to have a functioning car. I'm starting to feel I'm in the Twilight Zone.

On a good note....my daughter called tonite. She had just come from one of her recovery meetings and was feeling really good. She wants to hang out tomorrow.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
I know the feeling and have been in your exact same situation recently. Except I knew I didn't want anything physical. Just good food and company. It was nice to fill the time and eat and not watch my games alone. I also didn't care to see other guys I knew before that I really liked even though in theory I wanted to. Love just kinda sucks, lol.

That's really good news about your daughter.
Had a good time with my daughter. We laughed a lot. We always crack each other up. We have similar personalities. Her husband was being a jerk. He tried to have sex with her this morning and she turned him down. Said she wasn't ready yet and didn't feel good about her body right now. He told her that it looked like she had gained 60 pounds while she was gone. I had him take me home later and I had a talk with him. Once again I had to explain to him to let her transition into being home and to not talk about her weight. He was also burdening her about his job situation. He just doesn't get it. He's being impatient with her. It took her a while to get to this point and will take her a while to get past it. I just really don't want her to slip back and I told her I was here for her. I told her if things felt to be too much to come over and we can spoon and take a nap together or better yet watch The Real Housewives together. She said that sounded good. With all of this she was in good spirits and actually was laughing at him. Not to his face but with me. I told her that he will never change and she said that she knew that. They are going to dinner tmrw nite to celebrate 15 years of marriage. I'm babysitting. Shoot....just dawned on me that Jim is coming home tmrw nite. Oh well. At least we can't fight with the kids here. Maybe we can all go to the pool and have a relaxing evening. Still don't know what I'm going to do with my car. I didn't even try to start it. I'm afraid it may blow up or something. WTF, is happening? I almost have to laugh at how crazy my life is right now. I keep thinking that tmrw is a new day, but I'm beginning to worry about what else is going to happen. Each day seems to bring more problems. Is this Karma? Did I harm someone and not remember?
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Are you kidding me? Your son-in-law tells your daughter it looks like she gained 60 pounds in a month and then still expects her to have sex with him?? Unbelievable. No way I wouldn't lose it with that fool. That is ridiculous.
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Is he always so clueless?! Someone needs to teach him the art of being a supportive partner. I'm glad you're there for her.
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Jim has been staying at his daughter's house. It's temporary. He's coming over tonite. We really need to talk. I'm not letting him out of the lease. I need him to pay his portion. We'll just have to work something out.
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From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Jim has been staying at his daughter's house. It's temporary. He's coming over tonite. We really need to talk. I'm not letting him out of the lease. I need him to pay his portion. We'll just have to work something out.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
How much longer is the lease?
Are you paying more now than when you lived alone?

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There is 12 months left on the lease. The rent is a little more.

I've been on the phone tryng to take some money out of my (2) pension plans, but they won't budge. One I can't touch until I turn 65 and my newest one, with the most money, can't be touched until I've been unemployed for 1 year. I can transfer the 2nd one to an IRA when I get another job, tho'. That still doesn't help me right now.

I've applied for 2 weeks straight for unemployment and I still haven't received anything. It says online that it isn't resolved yet. Not sure if the doc is disputing it or it just takes time to get set up.

So frustrating. I'm sure this will all work out in the end, but it's causing me so much anxiety right now. I couldn't sleep last nite becuz of the anxiety, plus I was really missing Jim. I'm upset with him, but I do love him very, very much. I can't imagine being without him. Hopefully, things will go well tonite.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Finally got up the nerve to start my car this evening. Started right up. I drove it around the complex parking lot with the window down and I could hear something dragging. I parked it and looked under it and saw this protective shield dragging on the ground. It keeps gravel, etc from going up into the underside of the car. The same thing happened to my other VW. It fell off when I went over a speed bump. I feel so relieved that it isn't something expensive to have fixed.

Jim and I didn't talk last night. We watched a movie together. We ended up sleeping in the bed together. It was so nice for me. I haven't been sleeping without him and I slept like a baby. I feel better today. More rested. He is doing a golfing tournament this evening so won't be home until late. I plan on talking to him tomorrow about his responsibility and to not fight any longer. Just try to get along until the lease is up.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Lotsa, when my protective shield thing did that, I took it to auto zone and they fixed it for me (you just have to buy the little attachment things to hold it on, I think it was under $5)

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Thanks, PerriP. I plan on taking it in somewhere on Monday. Not having a good day today. Jim told me last night that I have 2 months max to either be able to live in this apartment alone or move out and he will stay until the lease is up. Still saying he loves me and this is really hard on him, but he needs to be alone for awhile to concentrate on himself and his work. All of this has made him realize that he isn't ready for a serious committed relationship. He even had the nerve to suggest that after 6 months we get back together. He thinks this will give him enough time to himself. I told him that I would never forget how he has treated me at a time when I really needed him and I didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who would do that to me. This is so crazy. He expects me to hug him when he leaves to play golf and wants to bbq together tonite. I just want to be away from him forever. I want him out of my life right now.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."

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