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I've actually heard more guys say, just in general conversation about someone they were dating, that they always think/fear something better will come along in the past few years than I ever have before, and I can't help but think it's somehow connected to "being connected" on a much larger scale.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I've actually heard more guys say, just in general conversation about someone they were dating, that they always think/fear something better will come along in the past few years than I ever have before, and I can't help but think it's somehow connected to "being connected" on a much larger scale.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G

I have heard guys say that as well. But my question to them is why do they fear that they are missing out, when they are with someone they like and care about. It's selfish of those guys to do that. I know some women do it too. I think that thought process is crazy when it comes to dating today.
Unfortunately, my best friend seems to be attracted to younger guys. People in their mid 20's, so I'm not talking robbing the cradle, but younger. The last guy he fell for kept saying that he liked him but he didn't want to put a label on it. He didn't want to make official plans. He didn't want to call it a date. "Lets let it happen organically". Vomit. I have no problems with the idea. I don't want to rush things, but I hate it when people say stuff like that, after reciting a list of don'ts. And these two have known each other for 2 years and had been seeing each other at the least once a week for 6 or 7 months. My friend was not even pushing him, he just kept talking about their 'whatever' as if it were a farmers market. I kept telling to run. Not a good sign. He's still keeping things at a distance, and unclear, for a reason. He finally told him he was thinking about moving back home. I get the impression he is talking to someone else back home, too.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Unfortunately, my best friend seems to be attracted to younger guys. People in their mid 20's, so I'm not talking robbing the cradle, but younger. The last guy he fell for kept saying that he liked him but he didn't want to put a label on it. He didn't want to make official plans. He didn't want to call it a date. "Lets let it happen organically". Vomit. I have no problems with the idea. I don't want to rush things, but I hate it when people say stuff like that, after reciting a list of don'ts. And these two have known each other for 2 years and had been seeing each other at the least once a week for 6 or 7 months. My friend was not even pushing him, he just kept talking about their 'whatever' as if it were a farmers market. I kept telling to run. Not a good sign. He's still keeping things at a distance, and unclear, for a reason. He finally told him he was thinking about moving back home. I get the impression he is talking to someone else back home, too.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
Wow! That's pretty crazy. I don't know why dater's today want to rush into relationships. The ones that don't rush into things want to play this cat and mouse chasing game. That's a shame that he can't commit to him after they have been talking for 2 years and even went on dates. That's crazy. I hope your best friend finds someone better for him.


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I've actually heard more guys say, just in general conversation about someone they were dating, that they always think/fear something better will come along in the past few years than I ever have before, and I can't help but think it's somehow connected to "being connected" on a much larger scale.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G

I have heard guys say that as well. But my question to them is why do they fear that they are missing out, when they are with someone they like and care about. It's selfish of those guys to do that. I know some women do it too. I think that thought process is crazy when it comes to dating today.
Originally Posted by Lanikai
Absolutely some women do it too, and it is crazy. I've talked to guys who really and honestly liked the person they were seeing, but like my friends last interest, they don't want to call it a relationship, a date, whatever. They want it left completely open ended so they can still walk out or back at any moment, and no one will get hurt because nothing was said other than, do want to hang out? Yeah right. Again, it's not always for another woman. Maybe just the possibility of another woman. Sorry, I was going to take you out to dinner but my friend is having a party and I am going to it. See ya! I would invite you but (excuse)... There might be someone/something better.

Go on! She/He is absolutely better off without that nonsense. I can't stand the type of people who stand others up or leave them hanging. That was one of the rudest things you could do to someone, and it is beyond common now.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Of course, my friend had told me about some other red flags too. This guy told him he was Asexual, and asked him to watch a documentary about it. Now he is pansexual, but keep in mind he doesn't like to label things :-/ I said why don't you tell him to STFU, quit buying into this crap that you don't know your sexual preferences until you are much older that is pushed in most colleges now, say he's even more confused, and call it a day. Nothing wrong with it.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 10-22-2013 at 05:35 PM.
Yep. Dating is really strange now, for everyone. Lol.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Yep. Dating is really strange now, for everyone. Lol.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G

Yep you said it. LOL!
Haha. I couldn't help being slightly insulted for him. He knew he was gay from the get go, and said nothing until his 20's. I knew, so did his family, but everyone waited for him to say it. He put up a front for society, like all of my gay/ lesbian family & friends. I would be throughly annoyed by someone who kept changing, or adding to, their sexuality every 2 seconds like it was a guessing game.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I've actually heard more guys say, just in general conversation about someone they were dating, that they always think/fear something better will come along in the past few years than I ever have before, and I can't help but think it's somehow connected to "being connected" on a much larger scale.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G

I have heard guys say that as well. But my question to them is why do they fear that they are missing out, when they are with someone they like and care about. It's selfish of those guys to do that. I know some women do it too. I think that thought process is crazy when it comes to dating today.
Originally Posted by Lanikai
This is true, but it's easy to weed these guys out fast. There are still lots of guys out there that are somewhat 'traditional'.

I actually went on a date who kept looking at his phone during the date. And rushed the end of the date. I'm pretty sure something better came along for later. Then he didn't call til the next Saturday. I mean did he really think I'd respond, lol?? It was horrible. And he was visibly checking out other women in front me.

Last edited by Josephine; 10-22-2013 at 09:40 PM.
I've actually heard more guys say, just in general conversation about someone they were dating, that they always think/fear something better will come along in the past few years than I ever have before, and I can't help but think it's somehow connected to "being connected" on a much larger scale.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G

I have heard guys say that as well. But my question to them is why do they fear that they are missing out, when they are with someone they like and care about. It's selfish of those guys to do that. I know some women do it too. I think that thought process is crazy when it comes to dating today.
Originally Posted by Lanikai
This is true, but it's easy to weed these guys out fast. There are still lots of guys out there that are somewhat 'traditional'.

I actually went on a date who kept looking at his phone during the date. And rushed the end of the date. I'm pretty sure something better came along for later. Then he didn't call til the next Saturday. I mean did he really think I'd respond, lol?? It was horrible. And he was visibly checking out other women in front me.
Originally Posted by Josephine
That is a true jackazz. Yeah when a guy is openly disrespectful or clearly uninterested, I am out of there. There are plenty of guys who want a traditional relationship, some who even are conventionally cute. You just can't waste your time with the dummies out there.

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^ Yes it is! I mentioned a date I had like that in another thread. One date, first date, planned a two weeks in advance. He was texting me like crazy until the day of, and then I didn't hear from him at all. Asked if it was still on, he said yes but was 2 hours late. We went out to dinner, he texted someone else the whole time, kept excusing himself to go to the bathroom and I am sure text more, didn't even touch his food, and I only ate half of mine by the time he asked if I was ready to go home. On the way home I asked what was up and he was going to a bar to meet someone else. I said, bye! Have fun.
I feel sorry for her.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 10-22-2013 at 10:24 PM.
He did the text a couple weeks later thing and still occasionally drops by work to see me when he's in town. No. Go away. He moved to Charlotte and he's a full time fire fighter, part time model (do note that's since the move. we don't have modeling in my neck of the woods. he was assistant manager of a steak house here. lol. his attempts to impress failed). He's a dawg.

*pardon my edits. when my phone service drops, so do words in my sentences.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 10-23-2013 at 09:40 AM.
@Johari

Wow!! They are really forward. What do you do when they ask you questions that makes you uncomfortable? I know I have had men who hit on me ask me about what sexual positions that I like, just talking to me for like 5mins. It's crazy!!
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Originally Posted by Lanikai
I kinda jokingly play along but if theyre persistent, I let him know im not interested.

I never got asked about sexual positions, but if I did id say 'Don't worry about it' or 'What do you think?'

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I don't know, most of the guys I have dated are not into looks that way (as in they care about typical hair, makeup, toned body, etc). But the types I'm generally attracted to most likely wouldn't be.

I definitely try to look all good when I go out but yes, the only guy I dated that was sorta shallow is the guy I met in heels, sexy clothes and full on makeup and great hair.

What I don't like is a guy that never calls and texts too much in the beginning w/out calling. What I will not stand is a guy that only texts. So i decided to give one dude a chance, I figured after our first date maybe he'd feel more comfortable. Nope. I just ignored him. And then he'd text me to hang out just hours before and complain I was never available, um really? He wasn't even hot or fun, just boringly nice, so what incentive would I have even for a fun night out?? None.
Originally Posted by Josephine
Ya when I dress all up more guys approach me but they don't seem like the sweet caring types.

And I definitely agree about texting! Like it's hard to get to know someone over text, nowadays a phone call is rare.

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I don't know, most of the guys I have dated are not into looks that way (as in they care about typical hair, makeup, toned body, etc). But the types I'm generally attracted to most likely wouldn't be.

I definitely try to look all good when I go out but yes, the only guy I dated that was sorta shallow is the guy I met in heels, sexy clothes and full on makeup and great hair.

What I don't like is a guy that never calls and texts too much in the beginning w/out calling. What I will not stand is a guy that only texts. So i decided to give one dude a chance, I figured after our first date maybe he'd feel more comfortable. Nope. I just ignored him. And then he'd text me to hang out just hours before and complain I was never available, um really? He wasn't even hot or fun, just boringly nice, so what incentive would I have even for a fun night out?? None.
Originally Posted by Josephine
Ya when I dress all up more guys approach me but they don't seem like the sweet caring types.

And I definitely agree about texting! Like it's hard to get to know someone over text, nowadays a phone call is rare.

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Originally Posted by Johari

I know what you mean. When I dress up I tend to get the extremely creepy guys who seem like they could be stalkers.

I agree about texting as well. I personally don't think it's hard to get to know someone through texting as long as we can talk on the phone as well, but I'm old school and I like face to face conversations so I don't end up like some of the people I have seen on that show Catfish. Texting and phone calls are good but when people online and even texting can pretend to be whoever they want, face to face is definitely the best option to me.
I don't know, most of the guys I have dated are not into looks that way (as in they care about typical hair, makeup, toned body, etc). But the types I'm generally attracted to most likely wouldn't be.

I definitely try to look all good when I go out but yes, the only guy I dated that was sorta shallow is the guy I met in heels, sexy clothes and full on makeup and great hair.

What I don't like is a guy that never calls and texts too much in the beginning w/out calling. What I will not stand is a guy that only texts. So i decided to give one dude a chance, I figured after our first date maybe he'd feel more comfortable. Nope. I just ignored him. And then he'd text me to hang out just hours before and complain I was never available, um really? He wasn't even hot or fun, just boringly nice, so what incentive would I have even for a fun night out?? None.
Originally Posted by Josephine
Ya when I dress all up more guys approach me but they don't seem like the sweet caring types.

And I definitely agree about texting! Like it's hard to get to know someone over text, nowadays a phone call is rare.

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Originally Posted by Johari
It definitely seems like text only is the new thing these days. I don't know if it's just to avoid the initial uncomfortableness or what. I've been guilty of it myself, but I'm also very shy. Took me a long time to get over that.

Seems like any guy who has ever hit on me has been creepy. I actually had to hide from a guy at a bar once, how sad is that? It's like you either get the cute butthole or the creepy nice guy.

I got the creepy nice guy when I online dated, briefly. He was ready to get married after a month too. lol
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I don't know, most of the guys I have dated are not into looks that way (as in they care about typical hair, makeup, toned body, etc). But the types I'm generally attracted to most likely wouldn't be.

I definitely try to look all good when I go out but yes, the only guy I dated that was sorta shallow is the guy I met in heels, sexy clothes and full on makeup and great hair.

What I don't like is a guy that never calls and texts too much in the beginning w/out calling. What I will not stand is a guy that only texts. So i decided to give one dude a chance, I figured after our first date maybe he'd feel more comfortable. Nope. I just ignored him. And then he'd text me to hang out just hours before and complain I was never available, um really? He wasn't even hot or fun, just boringly nice, so what incentive would I have even for a fun night out?? None.
Originally Posted by Josephine
Ya when I dress all up more guys approach me but they don't seem like the sweet caring types.

And I definitely agree about texting! Like it's hard to get to know someone over text, nowadays a phone call is rare.

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Originally Posted by Johari
It definitely seems like text only is the new thing these days. I don't know if it's just to avoid the initial uncomfortableness or what. I've been guilty of it myself, but I'm also very shy. Took me a long time to get over that.

Seems like any guy who has ever hit on me has been creepy. I actually had to hide from a guy at a bar once, how sad is that? It's like you either get the cute butthole or the creepy nice guy.

I got the creepy nice guy when I online dated, briefly. He was ready to get married after a month too. lol
Originally Posted by sixelamy
I really don't mean to offend with this. It just makes sense...

Several articles are being written about the social awkwardness in Gen Y. It's pretty well noted. Of course that is a generalization, and can not cover everyone (my nephews are 23 and 24 and call me as much as they text), but it does seem to increase with the mid to younger members and some of the oldest members of Z. Several people have even had difficulties placing work related phone calls. I think that is one of the reasons why we lose so many younger applicants on my job. Answering and talking on the phone is a large part of what you do, for 12 hours. More interaction behind a screen is a common, so it completely makes sense and to me isn't as much honest social awkwardness but rather inexperience in some. I still can't fathom how the idea of placing a phone call became such an issue. It's not a big deal, and it's still called a phone for that reason. But, I have even found myself wondering if I could still have a proper conversation in person over the past few years, as my online/texting interaction has increased. And I was never one who had problems talking. It's catching. Lol. *It's also just been trendy, in a sense.

I do think the younger members of Z prefer to communicate in a different manner. They are not as fond of texting or social media. They prefer to snap chat, skype, face time, or actual face to face time. I see a difference with my youngest nephews. The 13 year old does have Aspergers so he honestly is socially awkward. He prefers to avoid gatherings, it takes it some time to actually talk, and he remains glued to his iPad. His younger brother and my young cousins (and neighbors) are completely opposite. You rarely see them doing anything other than listening to music and rolling around in the dirt. Their parents have had no problems getting them off the computer/Xbox and getting them outside. Several of my friends with GenY/Older Gen Z kids had a horrible time. They are not as impressed or wrapped up in it, so far.

We shall see.

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I have ran into the same problems with men. You are not alone, but I have also met some great ones. Sadly, I was still in love with another at that time.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 10-24-2013 at 01:44 PM.

Ya when I dress all up more guys approach me but they don't seem like the sweet caring types.

And I definitely agree about texting! Like it's hard to get to know someone over text, nowadays a phone call is rare.

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Originally Posted by Johari
It definitely seems like text only is the new thing these days. I don't know if it's just to avoid the initial uncomfortableness or what. I've been guilty of it myself, but I'm also very shy. Took me a long time to get over that.

Seems like any guy who has ever hit on me has been creepy. I actually had to hide from a guy at a bar once, how sad is that? It's like you either get the cute butthole or the creepy nice guy.

I got the creepy nice guy when I online dated, briefly. He was ready to get married after a month too. lol
Originally Posted by sixelamy
I really don't mean to offend with this. It just makes sense...

Several articles are being written about the social awkwardness in Gen Y. It's pretty well noted. Of course that is a generalization, and can not cover everyone (my nephews are 23 and 24 and call me as much as they text), but it does seem to increase with the mid to younger members and some of the oldest members of Z. Several people have even had difficulties placing work related phone calls. I think that is one of the reasons why we lose so many younger applicants on my job. Answering and talking on the phone is a large part of what you do, for 12 hours. More interaction behind a screen is a common, so it completely makes sense and to me isn't as much honest social awkwardness but rather inexperience in some. I still can't fathom how the idea of placing a phone call became such an issue. It's not a big deal, and it's still called a phone for that reason. But, I have even found myself wondering if I could still have a proper conversation in person over the past few years, as my online/texting interaction has increased. And I was never one who had problems talking. It's catching. Lol. *It's also just been trendy, in a sense.

I do think the younger members of Z prefer to communicate in a different manner. They are not as fond of texting or social media. They prefer to snap chat, skype, face time, or actual face to face time. I see a difference with my youngest nephews. The 13 year old does have Aspergers so he honestly is socially awkward. He prefers to avoid gatherings, it takes it some time to actually talk, and he remains glued to his iPad. His younger brother and my young cousins (and neighbors) are completely opposite. You rarely see them doing anything other than listening to music and rolling around in the dirt. Their parents have had no problems getting them off the computer/Xbox and getting them outside. Several of my friends with GenY/Older Gen Z kids had a horrible time. They are not as impressed or wrapped up in it, so far.

We shall see.

*My phone...

I have ran into the same problems with men. You are not alone, but I have also met some great ones. Sadly, I was still in love with another at that time.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
Non face to face dating has become the tread these days. Like people feel that if you talk to someone online for like a month or a week that you know everything about the person and now you can take the relationship to the next step. I had online creeps as well who were like "yeah we talked for a few days so when do you want to meet up so we can get to know each other better ;D". I'm like dude seriously talking to me on facebook for 5 mins each day for 2mins is not an invitation for sex. It's crazy today and gets crazier now that this generation tends to meet all of their partners online

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It definitely seems like text only is the new thing these days. I don't know if it's just to avoid the initial uncomfortableness or what. I've been guilty of it myself, but I'm also very shy. Took me a long time to get over that.

Seems like any guy who has ever hit on me has been creepy. I actually had to hide from a guy at a bar once, how sad is that? It's like you either get the cute butthole or the creepy nice guy.

I got the creepy nice guy when I online dated, briefly. He was ready to get married after a month too. lol
Originally Posted by sixelamy
I really don't mean to offend with this. It just makes sense...

Several articles are being written about the social awkwardness in Gen Y. It's pretty well noted. Of course that is a generalization, and can not cover everyone (my nephews are 23 and 24 and call me as much as they text), but it does seem to increase with the mid to younger members and some of the oldest members of Z. Several people have even had difficulties placing work related phone calls. I think that is one of the reasons why we lose so many younger applicants on my job. Answering and talking on the phone is a large part of what you do, for 12 hours. More interaction behind a screen is a common, so it completely makes sense and to me isn't as much honest social awkwardness but rather inexperience in some. I still can't fathom how the idea of placing a phone call became such an issue. It's not a big deal, and it's still called a phone for that reason. But, I have even found myself wondering if I could still have a proper conversation in person over the past few years, as my online/texting interaction has increased. And I was never one who had problems talking. It's catching. Lol. *It's also just been trendy, in a sense.

I do think the younger members of Z prefer to communicate in a different manner. They are not as fond of texting or social media. They prefer to snap chat, skype, face time, or actual face to face time. I see a difference with my youngest nephews. The 13 year old does have Aspergers so he honestly is socially awkward. He prefers to avoid gatherings, it takes it some time to actually talk, and he remains glued to his iPad. His younger brother and my young cousins (and neighbors) are completely opposite. You rarely see them doing anything other than listening to music and rolling around in the dirt. Their parents have had no problems getting them off the computer/Xbox and getting them outside. Several of my friends with GenY/Older Gen Z kids had a horrible time. They are not as impressed or wrapped up in it, so far.

We shall see.

*My phone...

I have ran into the same problems with men. You are not alone, but I have also met some great ones. Sadly, I was still in love with another at that time.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
Non face to face dating has become the tread these days. Like people feel that if you talk to someone online for like a month or a week that you know everything about the person and now you can take the relationship to the next step. I had online creeps as well who were like "yeah we talked for a few days so when do you want to meet up so we can get to know each other better ;D". I'm like dude seriously talking to me on facebook for 5 mins each day for 2mins is not an invitation for sex. It's crazy today and gets crazier now that this generation tends to meet all of their partners online

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Originally Posted by Lanikai
Asking to meet someone in person is not the same thing as asking for sex. How is someone supposed to get to know you better if all of your interaction is via a screen? I do realize that there are guys that only online date for sex, but they are usually easy to identify. They're the ones with the pics with no shirts and/or a nearly empty profile.

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