Not to be a Debbie downer . .

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Thanks for the insight fifi. I knew someone like that as well. I backed off from her too because she was constantly depressed, overly aggressive, very pessimistic and refused to go on medication or even seek counseling. She is bi polar and thinks she can just "deal with it" on her own. I have not heard from her in months. But, I know I did all I could for her.
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Thanks so much guys. I kind sunk into it after posting yesterday. I cried a little in my room, made a big breakfast and ate until I was stuffed. I had a migraine to boot as well. My oldest cousin on my mom's side called me out of the blue and asked what I was doing and invited me over to hang out with some of my family and I took her up on the offer. I had to fight to go cause honestly at that point I wanted to just lay in the bed with my dog and be sad all day. I know that wouldn't have been helpful but . . . it seemed like a nice pity partying idea.

But I forced myself to get dressed and went to the city to her place. I had a good time, I ate and laughed and honestly didn't feel so bad. I could feel the loneliness still looming around, but I kept pushing it away.

I spoke to both my parents yesterday, but as for spending time with either it didn't happen.

I would've gone to my exboyfriend's house but we're just working on things now and I feel it's too soon for us to jump into that. He checked on me all day which I appreciated. But I still feel that Christmas should be spent with family, so Idk . .. idk.

Yesterday was decent, but it was different. My parents seem to think there's nothing wrong with it though. I suppose I have to get over it since I'll be 25 in February. Eh.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
Well, yeah, you will have to adjust to a new reality.

If a tree and decorations make you feel happy, be sure to put them up next year. Hopefully, your parents will be settled into their new lives/homes by next Christmas and you can visit w/ both of them (and other relatives).
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I have to say I disagree with those who advise against "bringing others down" by going out when you feel blue. It's up to everyone to manage her or his own feelings when encountering sadness, and to make the effort to do something for another at this time of year. Certainly there are those people who cannot be helped, but making even a token effort, such as offering a smile, a handshake or a hug, will make both the giver and receiver feel good.

One sad person at a party is just life. I think PaperMache was right to go out, despite feeling somewhat lost.

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I have to say I disagree with those who advise against "bringing others down" by going out when you feel blue. It's up to everyone to manage her or his own feelings when encountering sadness, and to make the effort to do something for another at this time of year. Certainly there are those people who cannot be helped, but making even a token effort, such as offering a smile, a handshake or a hug, will make both the giver and receiver feel good.

One sad person at a party is just life. I think PaperMache was right to go out, despite feeling somewhat lost.
Originally Posted by claudine191
Wait. Where? I didn't see anyone advise against it in the slightest. I saw curly after curly tell PMH to go out, blow the dust off (as the expression says), make some connections and welcome some smiles and hands. And one person worry about/struggle with the idea of bringing other people down when they are sad.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Thanks for the insight fifi. I knew someone like that as well. I backed off from her too because she was constantly depressed, overly aggressive, very pessimistic and refused to go on medication or even seek counseling. She is bi polar and thinks she can just "deal with it" on her own. I have not heard from her in months. But, I know I did all I could for her.
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190
You are welcome. Friends love you. Don't forget that. They are there to help, and you are there to help them when they are in a funk. There have been numerous times that I was glad I made myself go out, despite my mood. It ended up being exactly what I needed.

Glad you got out for a little while, (((PMH))). Again, I am sorry. That is a rough thing to be going thru during the holidays.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

That's what I warred with, I didn't want to go and be that sad person and born everyone else having a good time down. But I figured if everyone else was happy it may rub off on me so I took a shot in the dark and hoped for the best.
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That's what I warred with, I didn't want to go and be that sad person and born everyone else having a good time down. But I figured if everyone else was happy it may rub off on me so I took a shot in the dark and hoped for the best.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
I don't think the average person's day would be ruined bc you are feeling down in the dumps bc your parents are getting divorced. (And the Bible says we're supposed to carry each other's burdens.)

I think the energy vampire types piss ppl off bc they are manipulative...not bc they are sad.
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I'm not sure what's going on, but we are here for you.
That's what I warred with, I didn't want to go and be that sad person and born everyone else having a good time down. But I figured if everyone else was happy it may rub off on me so I took a shot in the dark and hoped for the best.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
Same thing I said to sKorpio applies to you, too. Don't worry about that. I think we've all been there. Don't want to bother people, or bring them down, but that is part of what are friends for. It's not all rainbows and sunshine, 24-7.

Even when I got completely flustered with my best friend, and took a tiny breather (I had worried myself absolutely sick about him)... I had him over for a birthday celebration soon after. He is really going through it himself, and again has been for over a year now, but I still wouldn't trade him for anyone else.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

That's what I warred with, I didn't want to go and be that sad person and born everyone else having a good time down. But I figured if everyone else was happy it may rub off on me so I took a shot in the dark and hoped for the best.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
I personally would have felt worse knowing someone was at home crying rather than take a chance on bringing me down.

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That's what I warred with, I didn't want to go and be that sad person and born everyone else having a good time down. But I figured if everyone else was happy it may rub off on me so I took a shot in the dark and hoped for the best.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
I personally would have felt worse knowing someone was at home crying rather than take a chance on bringing me down.
Originally Posted by claudine191
It feels good when you can help a friend! Or even a stranger. Or even an enemy (sometimes LOL).
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Yeah you guys all have a point; I'm like that with my friends. I would rather them be around me than be sad alone. I guess I just didn't want to be a burden especially on what's "supposed" to be a happy holiday.
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Yeah you guys all have a point; I'm like that with my friends. I would rather them be around me than be sad alone. I guess I just didn't want to be a burden especially on what's "supposed" to be a happy holiday.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
Same here. Plus I feel like it would be awkward for me if I spend time with others if they're with their families. But I am paranoid lol
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Yeah you guys all have a point; I'm like that with my friends. I would rather them be around me than be sad alone. I guess I just didn't want to be a burden especially on what's "supposed" to be a happy holiday.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
You did the right thing by going. Holidays are hard. I'm glad you took care of yourself.
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Yeah you guys all have a point; I'm like that with my friends. I would rather them be around me than be sad alone. I guess I just didn't want to be a burden especially on what's "supposed" to be a happy holiday.
Originally Posted by pprMACHEheart
You did the right thing by going. Holidays are hard. I'm glad you took care of yourself.
Originally Posted by claudine191
I gotta get used to it I suppose. I think the first time things happen are hard, maybe next year will be different and hopefully I'll have my own place and make my own traditions with Jericho (my dog).
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I highly recommend Frosty Paws (for Jericho).

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Are they peanut butter ice cream treats for dogs? If so he's obsessed with those.
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Yes!

(Mine eat the cardboard, too.)

I'm getting some for New Year's as well.

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Yeah he loves those. He only eats cardboard from packages though, Jericho's a selective dog. lol
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I sorta feel the same loneliness. I am in Taiwan first Christmas I spent without the family and now New Year's around the corner and it's tough. If I had my dog things would be so much easier , but alas. I just breathed through it I actually had to go into work on Christmas for a little bit to reshoot some things. I kept a positive face and forged ahead. New Year's idk what I will do but if I can drink some that will be enough
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