Holiday issue

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I have a son who took after my curls and has beautiful curls, when they are taken care of. They are still cute even when they are frizzy or out of place, but when they are healthy, he truly is beautiful All over, but his curls are too.
On christmas I was in his room and his mother came in after she got herself dressed up nicely for Christmas and had a dress shirt, pants, and tie for him. She put it on him, but didn't tuck his shirt in, and didn't comb his hair, or put shoes on him. So I'm just checking the tv and I see the yule log, it's some christmas program. I made a comment about it, and instead of moving on taking care of her son and the both of us getting things ready for Christmas, she decides to stop everything and start a fighting match with me saying I can't have that on I need something educational. I was like chill out, it's been on 5 seconds and I made a comment. I turn the channel and it's a Christmas program in spanish. She immediately says get that off the television I don't want him listening to spanish speaking programs. By this time I was angry as hell about all this, and I put his boots on him and let her just walk out. I made a deciison I didn't want to be around her at all that day.
Why couldn't she just work together with me to make my son look nice? They say women and men are equal, then why did she have to stop making progress while I was moving forward, and just b*tc!? Is that like the way a womans' mind works or something? She can't work together with a man, she has to steeer the whole project in some other direction?
The final point is her sister came over, and my sons hair wasn't combed nice, and his shirt wasn't tucked in. The second thing she said to him was, it's time for you to get a haircut. MY son is seventeen months and I don't want him to have a haircut. But you see how she interfered with the forward progress of doing things right and how it effected one other person, her sister, then another, my son, then me. Why doesn't she see how her ridiculous way she goes about things ends up doing things such as that? Which is needless and quite harmful in the impressions it provides to people.
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My first comment would be if you don't like how something is done, instead of complaining about it, do it the way you would like. If you didn't like that your son's shirt wasn't tucked in and his hair uncombed, why didn't you simply do it yourself? He's your child just as much as hers. She DID work with you--she got him dressed. If it wasn't up to your standards, then it would only have taken a few minutes for you to get him that way, and things could have gone on pleasantly from there.

Second, if you don't like what someone says, instead of getting pissed off and going somewhere else (here) to complain, talk it out with them. Maybe she was irritable for some other reason. Maybe she didn't feel well. Maybe she feels you criticize her too much. We don't know, and the only way you're going to know is if you ask her.

As far as how a "woman's mind" works, well, I'm sure you don't want people asking you snide questions about how a man's mind works, so I'll leave that one alone.
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Wash: Suave Tropical Coconut
Leave-in: Suave Everlasting Sunshine, detangle with Denman brush
Gel: LAL Sport or Wet Look
Scrunch with flour sack towel, plop 10 minutes, air dry
Refresh with either plain water or Suave/water mix
I said, a mans mind works in a way where things keep moving forward, in a positive direction. Not sidetrack and pit stop and dilly dally only upsetting things and causing drama. I'm not saying every woman I've ever been with does that, but maybe it's something all women share in common, and some have more control over it than others.

I let it go because I didn't know it was a big affair. He was dressed, but she redressed him. And immediately started lashing out at me, I didn't want to be near her, I didn't go anywhere, she left the room. Uncalled for.

I feel like you are taking her side. I'm expressing her ridiculousness over the holiday and the repercussions of it. Enjoy your sunday and your week.
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take this sort of discussion over to the life forum
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take this sort of discussion over to the life forum
Originally Posted by GlamourCurls
Why?
No MAS.

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I'm not taking her side; I'm pointing out ways the situation might have been diffused, or reasons why she might have been acting the way she did. Often things like this have little to do with the current situation and everything to do with the dynamics of the relationship. If you don't like the way she was acting, then you should be talking to her about it in a constructive manner instead of asking us to critique behavior and stewing about it days afterward. The only way to really find out what was going on in her head is to ask her about it.
3a/b, F, normal porosity

I've gotten my routine down to the bare essentials, finally
Wash: Suave Tropical Coconut
Leave-in: Suave Everlasting Sunshine, detangle with Denman brush
Gel: LAL Sport or Wet Look
Scrunch with flour sack towel, plop 10 minutes, air dry
Refresh with either plain water or Suave/water mix
take this sort of discussion over to the life forum
Originally Posted by GlamourCurls
This is the Life forum.
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3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

I have a son who took after my curls and has beautiful curls, when they are taken care of. They are still cute even when they are frizzy or out of place, but when they are healthy, he truly is beautiful All over, but his curls are too.
On christmas I was in his room and his mother came in after she got herself dressed up nicely for Christmas and had a dress shirt, pants, and tie for him. She put it on him, but didn't tuck his shirt in, and didn't comb his hair, or put shoes on him. So I'm just checking the tv and I see the yule log, it's some christmas program. I made a comment about it, and instead of moving on taking care of her son and the both of us getting things ready for Christmas, she decides to stop everything and start a fighting match with me saying I can't have that on I need something educational. I was like chill out, it's been on 5 seconds and I made a comment. I turn the channel and it's a Christmas program in spanish. She immediately says get that off the television I don't want him listening to spanish speaking programs. By this time I was angry as hell about all this, and I put his boots on him and let her just walk out. I made a deciison I didn't want to be around her at all that day.
Why couldn't she just work together with me to make my son look nice? They say women and men are equal, then why did she have to stop making progress while I was moving forward, and just b*tc!? Is that like the way a womans' mind works or something? She can't work together with a man, she has to steeer the whole project in some other direction?
Originally Posted by darcurl
How were you making progress? You were watching tv. It seems like she was doing something to get him ready.

The final point is her sister came over, and my sons hair wasn't combed nice, and his shirt wasn't tucked in.
Originally Posted by darcurl
And the reason you still hadn't tucked it in was...?

The second thing she said to him was, it's time for you to get a haircut. MY son is seventeen months and I don't want him to have a haircut. But you see how she interfered with the forward progress of doing things right and how it effected one other person, her sister, then another, my son, then me. Why doesn't she see how her ridiculous way she goes about things ends up doing things such as that? Which is needless and quite harmful in the impressions it provides to people.
Originally Posted by darcurl
So you don't want to help her do his hair nor will you allow her to get it cut? But ~she's~ interfering w/ the "forward progress?"
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

In GlamourCurls defense, I moved the thread from the General discussion forum, which is where it was originally. I apologize for the confusion.

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