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Old 03-18-2012, 10:15 PM   #40501
 
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Snow. Please, please don't ruin my dad's travel here. They're half way here and the weather is horrible and we have no idea how they're going to get the rest of the way.

Please, please let there be a solution to this.
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Old 03-18-2012, 10:35 PM   #40502
 
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You can all come to Georgia to visit me. It was 90 degrees today.
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Old 03-18-2012, 10:42 PM   #40503
 
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First, I had go and pass my hypersensitivity gene to my child.

Then, I had to try to unsuccessfully teach that hypersensitive child to navigate the social waters of life as a short male.

Now, I have to face trying to help him understand why, at the young age of 19, he is already starting to notice hair loss...when I have a huge, dense mane of hair, so does my husband, so do both of my parents. His dad, didn't start to lose his hair until his late 30s early 40s, IIRC. It's possible that his hairline is just receding some...but it's really a moot point. He's terrified and obsessing and it's already pushing him further back into the corner of introversion he's already in because of his short stature.

I'm not going to insult his intelligence by trying to convince him that the world doesn't care...because he and I both know it does. The world couldn't WAIT to start reminding him how short he is (as early as the 3rd grade).

I've already suggested that he see someone to help him deal with his self-esteem issues...he's not having it.

It's so f**cking difficult to watch your child have to struggle through these kinds of things. They're not life-threatening or physically painful for them, so everyone else has a cavalier "get over it" attitude; but the profound psychological effects on their lives are just as disabling--sometimes more. Knowing your child feels too inferior and self-conscious to sometimes perform basic tasks in life is heart-wrenching for a parent. Especially when he inherited the inability to cope well from me...his dad is short but has a "f**k you if you have a problem with it; you don't pay my bills!" attitude about life.

Sigh...when does life stop being so difficult for some of us? At the moment death?
I have a male friend who is quite short (5'3"), got a receding hair line at 19, and isn't very attractive to boot. It was very difficult for him to always be the single one, the "outcast", and he would confide in me about it. At 30 he met an amazing and beautiful woman who loves him so much. They have an amazing relationship. It WILL happen for your son. I know it's hard to watch our kids struggle. I'm also close to his mom and she would often talk about how it hurt to see him lonely. Now they are all happy that this woman was out there waiting just for him.


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Old 03-18-2012, 10:48 PM   #40504
 
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Speck, with all the snow surrounding us we'd have a hell of a time getting there. LOL But thank you for the invite. Maybe we were neighbors when I lived in GA??

They've found a new route from where they are in Colorado and are just going to hope for the best! The weather has been crazy for them all day with bad winds and now they'll have to deal with snow. Unbelievable.
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The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.
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Old 03-18-2012, 11:28 PM   #40505
 
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Oh god, somehow there is a mosquito in here because I heard the awful drone of it near me. I'm now cocooned in my sheets and it's no less horrifying hearing it buzz around me trying to get in. ****ing mosquitoes.
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Old 03-19-2012, 12:15 AM   #40506
 
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I no longer have living parents. Sigh.


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I'm so sorry. I understand, it's a very strange feeling.
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Old 03-19-2012, 04:33 AM   #40507
 
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I want the second and third books from the hunger games series. Do I buy them in a bookstore tomorrow or buy them for half the money from Amazon? I NEED them.
Curly Laura - I often buy the second hand books on Amazon or even better, if you go on Read It Swap It | The UK's Free Book Swap Shop! | The Library

You can swap books on there for the cost of postage Its great - I've gotten so many brand new books that way, in exchange for ones I no longer want. Im certain Hunger Game copies will be there - as its so popular!
Thanks for the link! That's a great idea.

Do you get to keep the books?
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I want the second and third books from the hunger games series. Do I buy them in a bookstore tomorrow or buy them for half the money from Amazon? I NEED them.
Curly Laura - I often buy the second hand books on Amazon or even better, if you go on Read It Swap It | The UK's Free Book Swap Shop! | The Library

You can swap books on there for the cost of postage Its great - I've gotten so many brand new books that way, in exchange for ones I no longer want. Im certain Hunger Game copies will be there - as its so popular!
Thanks for the link! That's a great idea.

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Sure. Once you've swapped its yours so you can read it and if you don't like it or want to keep it, put it back up for swap again or keep it
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Curly Laura - I often buy the second hand books on Amazon or even better, if you go on Read It Swap It | The UK's Free Book Swap Shop! | The Library

You can swap books on there for the cost of postage Its great - I've gotten so many brand new books that way, in exchange for ones I no longer want. Im certain Hunger Game copies will be there - as its so popular!
Thanks for the link! That's a great idea.

Do you get to keep the books?
Sure. Once you've swapped its yours so you can read it and if you don't like it or want to keep it, put it back up for swap again or keep it
I've joined up now. But I don't want to part with my books. I love them. Oh what to do?
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Old 03-19-2012, 05:50 AM   #40510
 
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Sometimes people say exactly what I'm thinking:

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Generally (but I won't swear to "always"), the rabbits in my garden eat without washing their food. You might speak with Bugs about being high maintenance and the possibility of fricassee.
Seriously, it's a rabbit. Believe it or not, they do not need extra-clean lettuce, even if they are your pets.

This is better than the lettuce washer, though:

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What else can I use if I don't have a steamer? Problem is I don't want to stick a metal colander into my $200 non stick pots.

Maybe I can do something with my rice cooker or find something else to put in a pot.
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You have a $200 non-stick pan and not a $5 steamer?! Wow
Who the **** buys $200 nonstick pans? And makes them their main pot as evidenced by it being the choice for sticking a steamer in? Oh, if only one could buy sense.
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Old 03-19-2012, 06:04 AM   #40511
 
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Oh, FB friend with usually awful quotes about love and women which are supposed to sound deep and romantic! Today's is a doozy:

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Si usted quiere saber lo que una mujer dice realmente, mírela, no la escuche!
Translation: If you want to know what a woman really says, look, don't listen, to her.

Please to die in a fire.
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Thanks for the link! That's a great idea.

Do you get to keep the books?
Sure. Once you've swapped its yours so you can read it and if you don't like it or want to keep it, put it back up for swap again or keep it
I've joined up now. But I don't want to part with my books. I love them. Oh what to do?
Lol. Well that could be a problem.
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Old 03-19-2012, 06:26 AM   #40513
 
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I wonder if people always mean what they say, or are they sometimes just being mean.

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Old 03-19-2012, 07:14 AM   #40514
 
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Oh, god, why do I venture into the comments section of certain articles?
http://blogs.wsj.com/speakeasy/2012/...-sex-and-race/
I can't with this and the rest of the Asian fetishizing justifications (and of course, the pointing out of the evils of Western women):

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I am a late bloomer –admitting my repulsion from American girls a bit late in life. Contrary to popular (American) belief, Asian women are not submissive though they do like pleasing their guy. But they demand respect and know which issues to care about. Now life is a pleasure — my Japanese GF doesn’t blame me for breathing and genuinely appeciates out time together(whether it’s on my couch, out drinking or wandering around)

And she doesn’t expect me to ‘understand’ her as well as her Girlfriends do(since I’m a guy) or provide psychoanalysis. Best of all (listen up, guys) she doesn’t apply pop psychology to daily life and diagnose me with a variety of ‘conditions’ per Oprah, Dr. Phil and the other usual suspects.
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Typical that the media have created an insulting name for Whites who look for Asians, but there is no such for for, for example, Latinos and Blacks who seek out Whites. The number of Black men who desire White women is enormous.

The documentary focuses on an extreme case, this pathetic Steven. That’s how you get viewers and push your message. In reality, many White men hold a milder but still positive view of Asian women, in particular East Asian women. This is for several reasons: first of all that they are not as feminist as so many Western women who have a chip on their shoulder and treat men like suspects. Second, that they value a hard-working and ordinary man more than the slick guy who picks up women at night clubs. Third, physically they look good: slim, short, slim shoulders. A small nose which is a sign of youth (the nose keeps growing through our lives, which is why we instinctively find a big nose unattractive, signifying that you are too old to have children with). Broad cheekbones give the illusion that the eyes are farther down in the face, again a sign of youth (the eyes end up higher in our elongating faces as we grow older). Thick hair with luster – again a sign of youth, therefore something we instinctively find attractive.

Naturally Western women will complain. They want it all: the Diet Coke, the slick guys at the night club who they sleep with before they marry the til-then ignored guy with a higher income when they reach their thirties, the right to be loud and spout feminist nonsense without losing the attention of ordinary men. Far from all are like this. But enough to make it hard for many men to find a decent Western woman.
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Live and let live, these innocent Asian women are actually using the guy sas much as they guys are fixated on their trivial reasons for marrying them. Anyone who has lived and spent some time in China realize how cut throat people can be here
I don't know what's worse: the acceptance certain people have of the stereotype that Asian men aren't manly enough to the point that they think no Asian man is attractive, then saying that's a "preference", or the people who refer to Asian women as "exotic" and go on about how desirable they are simply for being Asian (which to them equals obedient and obsequious) and also veiling that as "preference". If only people would at least be honest about where that supposed "preference" comes from rather than getting defensive, they might actually check themselves.
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Old 03-19-2012, 07:58 AM   #40515
 
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I am crushed, I think this may be worst time of my entire life. My husband and I separated a week ago today.

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My foster dog girl has her period.

I need to get her diapers.
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Old 03-19-2012, 08:04 AM   #40517
 
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OMG Josh Turner is the total package. *swoon*

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Old 03-19-2012, 08:18 AM   #40518
 
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I probably shouldn't care and I wouldn't care if it were anyone else, but Most Annoying co-worker called out today. Yesss!
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Old 03-19-2012, 08:27 AM   #40519
 
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m*therf*ckin' alarm didn't go off! just f*cked my schedule all up!
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Old 03-19-2012, 08:29 AM   #40520
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Yay I am 21!!


My mom is such a dork she bought me a "Finally 21" sash and she wants me to wear it to school.
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