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^^ Sorry he is unhappy with his stature. I have no advice but I do know this - there are fantastic, wonderful women out there who prefer and love non-tall men. And I am one of them. : )
Originally Posted by jeepcurlygurl
I'm sure you are both fantastic and wonderful!...and I've already tried that. And, he knows it--he currently has a gf and has had a few over the years. But, they're always short-statured as well, and he hates that he thinks he is limited to only those who are short-statured as well--even though he's really not. My constant retelling of my own true story about how I didn't even notice his dad's stature because I was distracted by his amazing body and that it never was an issue anyway doesn't help either.

It's also not just about "getting the girls." Friends, acquaintances, and strangers always point out stature as well. Even when it's done jokingly, the fact remains that he's short.

Some people are better equipped to deal with "adversity." Unfortunately, he isn't one of them. I fear he's going to be crippled by this--I'm already seeing it.
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I hope he's able to heal from that. No one should have to suffer from things beyond his control.
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Well that's a shame that he will let that lessen his joy of life. We all have stuff that makes us different. I'm left handed, have a big nose, big curly hair, moles and scars and other physical things that make me very "imperfect" according to some. And yes, people have mentioned those things all my life.
But thankfully I just decided at a fairly early age that it wouldn't get in my way. I hope he does the same in the not too distant future.

ETa I was taller than hubby #2 and Mr Harley. And we never really thought about it when I wore heels that made me even taller. It's a shame that the notion that men have to be taller than women is still around.
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Oh, Honeycurls. I am sorry. But it seems like you did the absolute best you could. Unfortunately, you can't fix this. He is an adult now. It is up to him to be happy in his life.

At some point, I would tell him I wasn't going to listen to him complain about it anymore.
Honeycurls you sound like you did all you could. Hopefully as he gets older, he'll start learning to accept his height as part of who he is and not a pitfall.

My boss is a shorter guy and he's attractive, successful, and has a beautiful family. Short guys can have it all too!
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I hope he's able to heal from that. No one should have to suffer from things beyond his control.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
Thanks. I'm really not sure what it's going to take, but he's very stubborn, so it's definitely going to have to come from within.

Well that's a shame that he will let that lessen his joy of life. We all have stuff that makes us different. I'm left handed, have a big nose, big curly hair, moles and scars and other physical things that make me very "imperfect" according to some. And yes, people have mentioned those things all my life.
But thankfully I just decided at a fairly early age that it wouldn't get in my way. I hope he does the same in the not too distant future.

ETa I was taller than hubby #2 and Mr Harley. And we never really thought about it when I wore heels that made me even taller. It's a shame that the notion that men have to be taller than women is still around.
Originally Posted by jeepcurlygurl
Right? He has so much else to be thankful for...like that he didn't inherit my metabolism or his dad's lack of intellect, or my family's tendency toward diabetes, or my hormonal issues...and a gajillion other things. He tends to focus on the negative, unfortunately.

...or that men have to be "tall"...period.

Oh, Honeycurls. I am sorry. But it seems like you did the absolute best you could. Unfortunately, you can't fix this. He is an adult now. It is up to him to be happy in his life.

At some point, I would tell him I wasn't going to listen to him complain about it anymore.
Originally Posted by ruralcurls
Thanks, RC; I've never coddled him about it, and I do try to keep the discussions about it brief. I know him, though, and if I am too abrupt, he's going to take it as that I don't care. He doesn't moon around about it all the time; but every so often it comes up in conversation and I'm reminded of how profoundly it has affected his life--which is what happened yesterday. I've tried umpteen times to impress upon him that it is what it is, we all have faults, that some guys are picked on because they are tall/lanky/fat/unattractive/disfigured/whatever and all he can do is surround himself with those who don't focus on it, be a man of "tall" character, and be the best person he can be irrespective of his height.

I'm just trying to do a little negativity self-purge today. He just emerged from his room and is in a great mood, and seeing his smiling face has lifted my spirits dramatically. So much going wrong in our lives right now, I was hosting a little pity party for myself this morning. Thanks all for the positivity!
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Originally Posted by Honeycurls
Which decision? To reproduce w/ a short guy?
Yeah, my exhbd isn't very tall either and it's looking like my little boy might stay a shortie, too.

Not thrilled about this but there are def worst things in life.

I wonder how he's going to take it.

I guess it depends on how short we're talking.

Yeah, I hope your son gets over this. I totally get how you want to protect them from everything...hate to see them hurting.
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After dinner I caved and turned the AC on. I'm so upset but I couldn't take my stuffy house anymore!
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Im 5 even and i have at least one man in my family shorter than most. Most are under 5'6". These men are chick magnets. Women love them. It aleays amazes me that my uncles arw so popular with the women.

With your son, it wont be his height but his attitude that will keep the the women away. Confidence is key.

The ep of sex and the city was on this morning where samantha dated the really short guy

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After dinner I caved and turned the AC on. I'm so upset but I couldn't take my stuffy house anymore!
Originally Posted by curlysue21
My AC won't go off probably for another month or two.

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Most short men I know, are forces of nature. They don't let it stop them. It actually drives them to excel.

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2) carmine has about 6 different names and Im paranoid about missing it.

I need the package in hand with my list of names for carmine

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After dinner I caved and turned the AC on. I'm so upset but I couldn't take my stuffy house anymore!
Originally Posted by curlysue21
My AC won't go off probably for another month or two.
Originally Posted by juanab
I feel terribly for you then. Three months running it is enough for me! I love having fresh air come through open windows.
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Most short men I know, are forces of nature. They don't let it stop them. It actually drives them to excel.
Originally Posted by juanab
yea most i've met were very cocky.


and at my job the guests that come in I swear it seems like most of the women are either the same height or taller than their SO, lol.

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