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Any Aussie curlies on the board?
Originally Posted by kat180
i think Starmie lives down under.
Originally Posted by rouquinne
Yes there is.
I do indeed.
Signing out now as I sadly need to do some of the work I'm paid to do, but will be back tomorrow!
3b in South Australia.
The next time I'm in NY, I'm going to plan my trip in such a way that I can throat punch CIBC's mom. It may be a verbal throat punch and it won't be rude, but it will be throat punch.
That odd moment when a pic from naturally curly shows up on your newsfeed and you realize that's your sister. Very odd indeed.
Turtles: omg please don't put that in your moo moo

Nej: too late... moo moo has been infiltrated.
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Try not to use wikis as sources. Other than that, I likey!
Originally Posted by kayb
I agree, and additionally, you should carefully check your writing because there are several grammatical errors and incorrectly structured sentences.
Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali











My mom told me my play wasn't good last night.

At intermission.

I was feeling good about it. The cast and director worked SO HARD! The audience was was reacting well.

I yelled at her that she pretty much stabbed me in the heart, and she'd never tell my sister something like, "Your kid is ugly" (well, maybe SHE would) so she can't do something like that to me. AT INTERMISSION.

She told me, "I almost lied to you and told you it was good but I couldn't do it."

I told her that many of my other artist friends' have parents who encourage them and make a big deal over their projects even if everybody else says they are terrible and that I just want her to act like a normal mother. For once.

She said it's NOT her job to lie to me, but to tell me the truth to prepare me for the real world...so, if she tells me my play sucks, it won't hurt as much when a critic does.

She used to say the same thing about my weight. She'd tell me I looked like a fullback, and then defend herself by saying she'd rather me hear it from her than from a kid at school, because then it wouldn't hurt as much when I heard it from them. I'll never get that logic.

This particular guy also didn't show-up last night, despite that I've made a huge deal over all his projects, didn't bother to text or call to say Good Luck either, and that really got to me, too.

So, I was pretty sad last night (throw in some PMS on top of it.) Just not in a great mental state (AT THE MOMENT. I know it can change in an hour.) I'm literally asking people, "Do you want fries with that?" after how hard I've worked all these years and it IS getting to me. I lost another job and my writing career isn't exactly taking-off and I'm as single as I can possibly be.

I'm just very sad and in self-pity mode. It's not fair. I can't help but feel like everyone else is just sailing-on so successfully in every area (I know things are not how they always looks) and what the hell am I doing????? I feel like a loser.
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hate to say though that by now, this kind of thing should be expected and not a stab in the heart.

You have two options.

1) you cut off or severely limit all contact with your mother. You STOP waiting for her to morph into the perfect TV-sitcom mom and you move on.

2) if you choose not to do that, then you accept that you can't change her and you change YOURSELF and how you react. As I see it, there are several ways you could avoid this type of incident again if you insist on inviting her to your plays.

-don't talk to her at intermission or right after the play. I'm sure you have things and people that can keep you busy backstage. Don't sit with her and don't ask her what she thinks.

-don't scream and explode when she says stupid things. I'm not sure what the reference to her calling your sister's child has to do with anything. Even if she did call your sister's child ugly, that's not really comparable to commenting on your play - they are two totally different things. Your mother's behaviour wasn't bad because of what she does or doesn't do to your sister, it was bad in and of itself.

-she doesn't care what your other friends' parents do, and that's irrelevant anyway because she's not like them and never will be. STOP expecting her to be someone she's not. If you must invite her, and you happen to run into her and she starts with the negativity, just walk away. When has a discussion with her ever led you anywhere worthwhile?

As far as getting a boyfriend, I find that these things tend to come when you've settled other unsettled areas of your life. If you can cut off or disengage from your mother and learn to accept yourself, it may leave you more open to finding and maintaining a healthy relationship.

Your writing career is going just fine. You are getting productions and audiences are receiving your work well. That's all you can hope for in that business - the rest is gravy.
Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali











Thank you.

She told me last night, "Fine, I'm just going to lie to you from now on" and I said,"No no, you just aren't going to come".
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine

Did you say that because you truly mean it, or because you wanted to get a reaction from her / wanted to hurt her back / wanted to see if she would care and beg you to invite her and give her another chance?

I think you need to SAY less to her (ideally, nothing at all) and just DO - live your life without seeking involvement and input from her beyond the common courtesies of sharing a living space.
Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali











Lard, I'm up to pride... I sorta saw that coming.
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Speckla:

Try not to use wikis as sources. Other than that, I likey!
Originally Posted by kayb
Also, don't post your real name on here! You don't know who's reading the forum.
Originally Posted by medussa
I agree with all.
I definitely agree with Amneris. This is my rough draft and my fingers fly across the keyboard and I often miss my mistakes the first preview. I wanted some opinions of non-relatives. I will hear from family how good they think it is rather than a critical review.
To the review board for me. Thank you!
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Lard, I'm up to pride... I sorta saw that coming.
Originally Posted by SarcasmIsBeauty
Lard?? oh no no, you must switch to something polyunstaturated! It does the heart good!
My mother kept her word and sent the $150 check yesterday for the $150 that I was manipulated into lending my sister a few weeks ago. It's postdated 9/18, but I got it.

Also, last night I took some ground turkey out of the freezer to defrost and noticed that the sell by date was 5/7. It had been hidden in the back of the freezer for four months. I made turkey meatballs an hour ago. Hopefully, I won't get sick and die from meat that should have been eaten by two months ago at the latest.
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I knew it. I warned her. In fact, I begged her not to do it.

Five mini-crunch bars later, I know I was right.

Ugh. I can't resist chocolate.

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I really don't understand.

I invited a friend of mine to see Premium Rush last Tuesday and he said okay. I called him all Monday to verify and it wasn't until evening that he confirmed that he wouldn't be able to make it. This week I invite him to watch Lawless sometime over the weekend, he said Monday is better and that I should all him to remind him. I texted him this morning to ask if we're still on. No reply, I called him twice, no reply.

I texted a different friend last weekend to ask if he wanted to have lunch on Monday and he never responded.

I'm just gonna stop asking people to do **** if they don't have the decency to respond.



I feel frustrated and alone. Why the **** did I enrol in school? I haven't made any friends, yes, it was the first week of school but everyone already knows everyone from undergrad. The one friend I do know from undergrad is working on her Ph.D. and is too busy tutoring to even have lunch or come over to my faculty. I wanna go back to Japan.
I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
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Talking to customer care: I accidently type one seX instead one one seC! I died laughing. Customer care was less than amused.
I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
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Imaginaerum! I really need to take a vacation to Finland in November.
Oh My Lawrd, big mistake!!!! Just tried this....so yummy! Did add a pinch of baking powder.

{single serving} deep dish chocolate chip cookie
1 tbsp. butter, melted
1 tbsp. white sugar
1 tbsp. brown sugar
3 drops of vanilla
pinch of salt
1 egg yolk
1/4 c. flour
2 tbsp. chocolate chips
In a bowl, ix together the butter, sugars, vanilla, and egg yolk.
Add in the flour and salt.
Mix until combined.
Add in the chocolate chips.
Put the dough into a small microwaveable bowl, ramekin, or coffee cup.
Microwave for 40-60 seconds or until the cookie looks done.
Best served warm… Enjoy!
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There is something that is so unf about tech guys. I need one in my life. I would be tempted to call customer care every night as long as I knew this dude was on duty. Rawr!
I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
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Tomorrow, young miss, you will actually wash your hair. I know you just rinsed it tonight, it smells like metal, not your strongly scented shampoo/conditioner.
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Mix of 2s med-low porosity, med-fine texture, lots of hair
I took 3 inches off my hair tonight and layered it. Looks ok but think I'll take another 2 inches off the bottom. Still looks and feels dry. Yay for saving money!
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Tomorrow, young miss, you will actually wash your hair. I know you just rinsed it tonight, it smells like metal, not your strongly scented shampoo/conditioner.
Originally Posted by missbanjo
I had trouble getting my daughter to care about her hygiene for years. Hair a greasy mess, BO, she just didn't care. I finally taped a list of everything she needs to do morning and night and it has helped tremendously.
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