juanab

Minxy, please printout a notice of eviction and give her 30 days to vacate. This gives you both a definitive date and is the legal thing to do. The last thing you want is to change the locks and get into trouble. She has been living there for an extended period of time and if I am not mistaken is considered a de facto tenant. Better to err on the side of caution.

Please do it! Your home should be your bastion from the craziness of the outside world. If you can't have peace in your home, where can you have it?

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Curlyminx

Everyone is right. I will stop communicating.

I am desperately trying to do this "correctly". Communication will end and I will keep myself as apart as possible. Until she leaves. My mom comes home this Sunday frmo Mexico and I plan on spending time with her either both Sunday and MOnday, or just Monday. Either way, once my mom is back, its easier to deal with things. Knowing my mom is close helps me feel more secure about what is going on.

I want my mom.

I think I'm going to lunch so that I can go call my dad and vent to him about it. He is awesome at hearing me and trying to be gentle in his support (I'm a bit difficult when I'm angry and he knows that) and his critical thinking helps me see things that I don't want to.

Thanks everyone. I'm sorry I keep complaining about this stupid situation, but I'm truly trying to get out. And get out as healthily as I can.

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spring1onu

Minxy, my mom is in a vaguely similar situation and after 15+ years may finally be rid of him (I hope). She has spent all those years in constant turmoil and severely unhappy. My sister and I have done what we can to help, but ultimately it had to be her to stand up and make a decision. I know it's not easy, all of this is so much easier said than done when it's your every day reality.

I hope you're able to find the strength to get her out and move on to being happy in your life because you very much deserve it. It breaks my heart to read what you're going through because I don't want you to lead the miserable life my mother has. It has hurt me to see her not be able to live the happy life a good woman like her deserves because she doesn't value herself enough and it hurts just as bad to see a friend going through something similar.

You're in my thoughts and I hope you're able to gather strength in the support you have here.

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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.

Fifi.G

Very well said, Juana.

It's okay Minxy. No need to apologize. I would suspect that many people here have been in a bad relationship and gone through some stuff at one time or another. You just have to stand up for yourself, and you will feel better when you do.

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Golden Crisps!! I was going crazy trying to remember which cereal Sugar Bear was the 'spokes bear' for.

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spring1onu

I'm really craving a bahn mi. Bad.

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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.

juanab

Thanks Fifi.

Minxy, no need to apologize. We feel your pain and we care.

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cmb4314

Curlyminx, I can't even begin to imagine how frustrated and upset you are. I hope she leaves soon so you can finally relax.

SCG

I can't believe I just went to the store to buy allergy medicine. In February. Like, what is going on here?!

I hope it kicks in soon. It's that 24-hour nonsense, so it might take a while... >_>

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And it will steal your innocence
But it will not steal your substance
But you are not alone in this"

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SCG

One more thing... All these people in relationships keep posting stuff on Facebook like "chin up! Being single isn't that bad! You'll find someone some day!"

I get what they're trying to do, but... Y'all do realize you're not experts on singlehood just because you got OUT of it, right? Just sayin. Maybe let us forever alones feel our feels today. (Although, the only feels I have today are happy ones. Because chocolate. Also, I've never really cared about Valentine's Day to begin with. )

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"And death is at your doorstep
And it will steal your innocence
But it will not steal your substance
But you are not alone in this"

“My ability to turn good news into anxiety is rivaled only by my ability to turn anxiety into chin acne.” - Tina Fey

Fifi.G

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spring1onu

I only see it as an excuse to bake brownies. And give Mr. Spring a card that said "I love you a hole punch" and it had the shape of a heart on it done with a hole punch. I can't handle that kinda cheese, I just had to get it for him even though we don't normally exchange anything.

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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.

Speckla

I would never make it in the dating world. I'd be single for life if I hadn't met my husband. He's pretty much the only guy who can tolerate me and my wacky self.

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Fifi.G

So I did have to laugh hysterically when my friend sent this today.

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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

spring1onu

Amen to this, for real. There isn't another man on earth who could live with me and I have no idea how he does it.

I'd never get a second date in the dating world, not a chance in hell.

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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.

Speckla

Annndddd....there's nothing wrong with being weird. It is a perfectly normal state of being.

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SCG

Those brownies look so yummy, spring! And I love puns, so obviously I would've loved to get that card!

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"And death is at your doorstep
And it will steal your innocence
But it will not steal your substance
But you are not alone in this"

“My ability to turn good news into anxiety is rivaled only by my ability to turn anxiety into chin acne.” - Tina Fey

Speckla

I might date you if you had the Baby Calvin.

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Speckla

My husband married me for my chicken legs.

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B-wavy

I'm going to springy's house. Brownieeeeeeees!

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SCG, I thought someone mentioned allergies in the last day or two, but I couldn't remember who it was. The past few days I've been sniffling, but I don't feel sick. This morning I woke up at 4 am and was so congested I couldn't breath through my nose, and this is with me taking Claritin year-round. My throat has that nasty, scratchy pollen feeling too. This is nuts! It's February for pete's sake!

Speckla

And Speck's for chick legs!

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