I feel the same way, but I normally don't say anything because I can't abide the explanations and rebuttals that will go on for pages and pages.I said the exact same thing about girl/lady/etc, but got jumped on for it. So it must be only I who can't express a similar opinion.I never take offense to the word, but the person saying in a negative context might want to duck.
For me, a word is just a word, and it has no power over me unless I choose to allow that. Now, the way the word is said/used, or the context in which the word is used, or even the person using the word may make a difference to me, but I choose not to let things like that get to me.
eta: claudine, I will join in also. how about a quartet?