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I never take offense to the word, but the person saying in a negative context might want to duck.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
I said the exact same thing about girl/lady/etc, but got jumped on for it. So it must be only I who can't express a similar opinion.
Originally Posted by jeepcurlygurl
I feel the same way, but I normally don't say anything because I can't abide the explanations and rebuttals that will go on for pages and pages.

For me, a word is just a word, and it has no power over me unless I choose to allow that. Now, the way the word is said/used, or the context in which the word is used, or even the person using the word may make a difference to me, but I choose not to let things like that get to me.



eta: claudine, I will join in also. how about a quartet?
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Well said, B.

We shall have to coin a name ~

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I have far too much to do today. I am trying to get motivated, but I could not be lazier this week. I just want to have fun, Cyndi Lauper.
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

The Sisterhood of the Victim Pants sounds good.
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Kiva! Microfinance works.

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Oh I could absolutely think of a few for you right now, but I'll just leave it at learn to laugh a little.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

The Sisterhood of the Victim Pants sounds good.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
ZING! Damn that's good!
You're only a victim if you choose to be one.

Oh, and "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
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But you guyse know we're talking about the context in which the word is used, so if you don't get offended by the context in which it is used, just say that. I'm not offended by words either. But when a male is using it in a way ot degrade me I'm going to be pissed. Which is 9/10 how it is used. I didn't realize that at first either but then I paid attention and realized menz are douchez.



I'M SO MAD. At this test I actually studied for. I hate when teachers make questions that are designed to screw you over. As in what is blah blah ?
a) correct and wrong
b) wrong and true statement
c) wrong
d) correct and true but now you're not sure because the others have you second guessing your brain JK IM WRONG ANYWAY.

LIKE why you do that...why you do that for every question. I went back and erased things and then I realized I had them right first.

I don't even care, just give me all C's. Get me the eff out of this schooooool I swurrr.
You're only a victim if you choose to be one.

Oh, and "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Originally Posted by B-wavy
You realize this expression is used to blame the victim and put the onus on the oppressed rather than the oppressor, right?
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You're only a victim if you choose to be one.

Oh, and "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Originally Posted by B-wavy
You realize this expression is used to blame the victim and put the onus on the oppressed rather than the oppressor, right?
Originally Posted by Saria
Saria, context is everything. If that is the way you choose to see it, so be it. I will not argue with you.

Not everyone feels the same as you. Your "right/wrong" isn't the same as mine or anyone else's, but I would never deny you the right to feel the way you do.

My life experiences have led me to a place where I just will not get my panties in a bunch over a mere word. There are more important things to me.

Period. The end.
Ugh. My stupid ankle hurts and my stomach is upset. I wish I could just go home from work now.

My knee scooter is the greatest invention ever, though. It is crazy fast to just glide down the hallway on it instead of messing around with crutches. Hell, I think it's faster than walking. If only it could spin around in tight spaces, it would be perfect.

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Disagreements.

You can say no right.
You can say no wrong.

Move on.




Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.
Ugh. My stupid ankle hurts and my stomach is upset. I wish I could just go home from work now.

My knee scooter is the greatest invention ever, though. It is crazy fast to just glide down the hallway on it instead of messing around with crutches. Hell, I think it's faster than walking. If only it could spin around in tight spaces, it would be perfect.

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Originally Posted by cmb4314
I'm so glad your scooter is working out for you! You better put a horn on that thing so you don't run anyone over.
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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.
Ugh. My stupid ankle hurts and my stomach is upset. I wish I could just go home from work now.

My knee scooter is the greatest invention ever, though. It is crazy fast to just glide down the hallway on it instead of messing around with crutches. Hell, I think it's faster than walking. If only it could spin around in tight spaces, it would be perfect.

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Originally Posted by cmb4314

I see people using those all the time. They're awesome! LOL.
Originally Posted by thelio
God, I'm sitting here crying at work. I love #33 and #48.
No MAS.

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I guess I'm "winning" the battle at home, but I must admit that the cost of this war is such that it is worthless that I am winning.

It doesn't feel like a win when I end up crying everyday. My decisions remain intact, but I hurt so bad over the battle to remain intact that I wonder how worth it it really is.

I know for the future. Know what I'm fighting for. Know my own worth before getting in so that I can have a chance to avoid all of this.

My stomach is still in knots after being at work for almost 3 hours and I'm supposed to go to lunch with my mom.

I better start feeling better.

I wanted to go have fish tacos with my mom at taconazo!
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Feeling a certain way about a word doesn't change its meaning. A girl isn't a woman. Just because one is ok with being called both doesn't change the meaning of the word.

Sort of like that science meme. Science is still true even if you don't believe in it.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
I actually own a real dictionary. And according to that dictionary - 4. "girl - a man's or boy's sweetheart." 5. "a woman".
But regardless of what some dusty old dictionary says, my point is that I don't mind if someone calls me girl/babe/lady. It doesn't offend me. Last I knew I'm allowed to NOT be offended. Hard to tell nowadays when everyone is offended by everything.
Originally Posted by jeepcurlygurl
Jeep, I don’t think RCC is saying you’re not entitled to your feelings on the matter. She’s just pointing out there is a context to words, our current society, that it might be helpful to be aware of. That’s all.

I do think your dictionary is out of date, however. It seriously says girl=woman? What’s the copyright on it? Dictionaries go out of date as language changes.

I could pull out a dictionary from 150 years ago and make some pretty strange assertions with it as my backup, know what I mean?

Calling one’s female love interest girl or my girl is increasingly rare. I cannot remember the last time I heard it used where it wasn’t being done so in jest. Eventually it will have the label “archaic” next to it in the dictionary and it will pass out of usage completely.

Good riddance, I say!

The first online dictionary I checked said this about it [II thought the usage note was especially interesting]:

girl [gurl]
noun
1. a female child, from birth to full growth.
2. a young, immature woman, especially formerly, an unmarried one.
3. a daughter: My wife and I have two girls.
4. Informal: Sometimes Offensive. a grown woman, especially when referred to familiarly: She's having the girls over for bridge next week.
5. girlfriend; sweetheart.

Origin:
1250–1300; Middle English gurle, girle, gerle child, young person; compare Old English gyrela, gi ( e ) rela, item of dress, apparel (presumably worn by the young in late OE period, and hence used as a metonym)

Can be confused: gal, girl (see usage note at the current entry).

Usage note
Just as many mature men, even young men, resent being referred to as boys, many adult women today are offended if referred to as girls, or the less formal gals. In business and professional offices, the practice of referring to one's secretary as the girl or my girl, as in I'll have my girl look it up and call you back, has decreased but not disappeared entirely. Such terms as the girls in reference to a group of women, girl or gal Friday in reference to a female secretary or assistant, and bachelor girl in reference to an unmarried woman are increasingly regarded as offensive, and working girl in the sense “a woman who works” is declining in use. See also lady, woman.

Last edited by wild~hair; 02-21-2013 at 12:28 PM.
I really wish the quote tag wouldn’t ****ing boldface everything.
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