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Forget showers! I think everyone needs a nice relaxing bath (she says with love).


Minxy, I agree with the number change.


The RCT brought back a memory. We had one queen bee in high school who was the worst to slut shame, make up rumors, and try to talk people into shunning others, for no real reason. Maybe they talked to her boyfriend about a school project, or were pretty and made her feel threatened. Whatever! She lived to make peoples life hell. Others tried to talk to her, and it did not work. She kept it up, despite being warned. One day, a raging bull of a woman locked her in an empty english class room and wore her out. She was out of school for 2 weeks. Not the best situation, no, but neither was standing by while she made others lives a living hell. She never did anything like that again.

** And it also beats the alternative of people killing themselves or someone else. 3 days suspension, and move on. **
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 04-10-2013 at 11:08 AM.
Turn your phone to silent until you get a new number. If you are concerned about missing a call/text from someone important (not that creature) text them to let them know your phone is on silent and you will be checking it ___ times at day at _______.

CHANGE YOUR LOCKS.

Take care of yourself sweetie.
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Dear Friend,

I understand that you're wounded because I've stopped communicating with you. I want to say it's nothing personal, but I'm afraid it is: professional envy. You dropped your main client and reclaimed old clients in a heartbeat; when you left, I lost your agency's business and am once more struggling to obtain new clients.
At best, this is tiresome; at worst, it's a real *itch financially.

I wish I could find a way around this so we could maintain our usual reparte, but I can't. I'm happy for you, though sad for me. I do wish you the best, and things could change in the future (for the better, for me.). I need to focus on making that happen, though, and hearing about your easy success somehow deflates my drive. Telling me how you network, etc. doesn't help. Believe me, I do everything I can think of to generate business.

So, your message today about my "mood" didn't rub me the right way. I've told you I'll be in touch and I will......when I'm ready. Until then, I've politely withdrawn. Please respect that.

Sincerely,
X
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SG - I never said anything rude to Curlyminx and I've always backed her up in her tough situations. I also did not comment on her not showering bc of her recent happening, I commented on those who have a habit of not showering. And frankly, if I were Curlyminx, I wouldn't appreciate you continually talking about my hygiene during a depressive state repeatedly just to try and rile up another member. Especially when said member didn't call anyone out personally.


If you feel the need to point fingers at me, or if it makes you feel better to use me as your scapegoat right now, thats fine, but kindly leave Curlyminx out of it bc this isnt about her, and its really unfair.




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Originally Posted by iroc
Honey, you're not a scapegoat by any means of the imagination.

I'm not going to argue this point any further and honor your request to leave minxy out of it. But just note that I wasn't the only one who noticed the comments you made and linked it to minxy as well as to others. So check your behavior and notice the passive aggressive tendencies in there. M'kay?
Originally Posted by SunshineGrrl
I made the first post after Murr quoted mine, so that was directed to her. I quoted a few other people and responded to them, as well so I don't know how its assumed I was directing it at someone, when I quoted Murr, and Nej.

Either way, I would certainly not do something like that to anyone going through a difficult time. Regardless of how someone, or some people want to twist my words or intentions around. Not exactly the first time thats been done here.

For the record, you can't possibly tell someone that something is 'none of their business' when the information was presented on a message board. Thats not exactly keeping it private.

I'm glad you notice I have an attitude. I recently stopped holding back bc I'm sick of everyone else giving attitude and me sitting back and taking it. Keep in mind, I'd never be rude to someone unless they were rude first. Period.

And you can't brag about showering. You just can't.

I'm off to do my dishes now.


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Originally Posted by iroc

I quoted you because I felt that you chose the wrong time to talk about "please tell me "not showering" means taking baths instead", so I wanted to deflect it.

it was a joke, I make a lot of jokes, if you can't tell. I do take showers, I was being "dramatic".

Your statements, are very clear what you were saying, believe it or not, this ain't Ripley's.

You were throwing shade, everyone caught it but you.
You don't say examples like that, with out throwing shade.





state farm, can I get a sarcasm meter
RCC, we had a boiler in CT, but even with it on the highest heat setting the water was lukewarm at best so I couldn't take advantage of never running out of hot water. I could only never run out of lukewarm water. So close, yet so far away from being able to take an endless hot shower. Our water heater here is surface-of-the-sun hot and does last for long enough, so I'll take it.

My dad had a tankless water heater (on demand) in the last place they lived and I definitely want one of those one day.




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Okay, sure, you got me. A person gets punched in the face and I say, you're disgusting and you smell, go take a shower. If that many people think I would intentionally be that malicious then theres no point in me explaining myself any further. My misunderstanding was towards Curlyminx and I've already spoken to her.



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Last edited by iroc; 04-10-2013 at 11:31 AM.
Oh, minxy. Change.Your.Number. (give the new one to scrills )

Please take the good medicine tonight.
Originally Posted by ruralcurls
^^^ This! All of it. And hugs. Lots of hugs!!!!!
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Its chaos a few hairs at a time. ~Minxy
First of all, Minxy, stay strong. Listen to us. Change your number. Change the locks. Get a restraining order. Don't listen to her mind f8cks when she attempts to worm her way back into your life. And she will. Abusers can be extremely manipulative. My sister was with one many years ago, so I know. Always remember how and why you ended up in the ER in a weak moment to further your resolve.

Also, the showering issue is silly. We're all old enough to know what's best for ourselves. However, when you're depressed, taking care of yourself ain't high on the priority list. Not that anyone cares, but I often go one day during the week without showering (usually during the weekend), especially if I don't have to be anywhere. I also washed my hair once a week all winter, though with the weather warming up, I'll increase it to twice a week. It doesn't need washing any more frequently than that.
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((Minxy))

I'm sorry this happened to you. Can you block her from calling? Also, keep track of her contact. Do you have a restraining order?

As someone who got out of an abusive relationship, I remember the emotional turmoil that occurred afterwards.

Please be kind to yourself. You DO deserve someone to sit with you in the e/r and I hope you find that person someday. You are an amazing, beautiful lady and anyone would be lucky to have you.
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((Minxy))

no contact will serve you well (it's really hard to do, but it's so worthwhile, I promise)

change the number, your email, your locks. get the RO if possible. and just go with NO CONTACT, don't feed the beast. Let it starve. Don't give it any of you, any longer. anytime you do hear from her and want to reply - reply HERE - don't give her the satisfaction of ANY reaction from you

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Originally Posted by iroc View Post
I'm glad you notice I have an attitude. I recently stopped holding back bc I'm sick of everyone else giving attitude and me sitting back and taking it. Keep in mind, I'd never be rude to someone unless they were rude first. Period.
There is nothing wrong with being assertive.

However, some of the most assertive people, once it is pointed out to them that their words have come across as hurtful when they did not intend them to be, will then apologize.

And intention does not matter.

It’s so important I’m going to say it again:
intention does not matter.

ETA: You said a couple posts ago you’ve been in touch with Minxy. I hope you have, via PM or something. Because I feel you certainly owe her an apology.

If you want to keep all that from the rest of us in an attempt to not back down from this and give “attitude,” as you say, well, that’s your call I guess. But then don’t be surprised when people continue to call you on the carpet for it.

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I have a great big newish water heater. For real newish, not cheap slumlord new. One good thing that came from the flood a few years ago. But for some reason it takes an unusually long time to get to the facets. But I've yet to run out of hot water yet!

Nice change from my last apartment. We didn't even have enough hot water to fill up one bath. And it was an old uninsulated porcelain tub which makes the water get cold quickly. You had to continuously stir the water otherwise it would be hot in the front, and freezing in the back. We didn't have a shower. We all had to take baths at different times of the day so we could all have hot water.

We did eventually get a "shower" right before we moved out. She velcroed a shower head to the drywall. . . . It was connected via these doohickeys at the back of the facet that couldn't withstand the water pressure. Water was constantly spraying out of it, and managed to unscrew the entire facet once

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crappydoodles I bought the wrong underwear. they fit fine around the waist, but were designed for women curvier than I. I have no butt. It's sad. I don't even have the good looking no butt. I have a bit of pudge that spilled out of my thighs. And now I have a bunch of saggy panties to emphasize it. That's sadder. Ain't nobody can feel good about wearing saggy panties.
So I'm at whole foods getting some mac& cheese, and Opera Colorado is here performing.. Awesomeness.
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Its chaos a few hairs at a time. ~Minxy
I was contacted and we have resolved it.

ETA:

I mean IROC contacted me. There was no problem.
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I'm glad you notice I have an attitude. I recently stopped holding back bc I'm sick of everyone else giving attitude and me sitting back and taking it. Keep in mind, I'd never be rude to someone unless they were rude first. Period.
Originally Posted by iroc
There is nothing wrong with being assertive.

However, some of the most assertive people, once it is pointed out to them that their words have come across as hurtful when they did not intend them to be, will then apologize.

And intention does not matter.

It’s so important I’m going to say it again:
intention does not matter.

ETA: You said a couple posts ago you’ve been in touch with Minxy. I hope you have, via PM or something. Because I feel you certainly owe her an apology.

If you want to keep all that from the rest of us in an attempt to not back down from this and give “attitude,” as you say, well, that’s your call I guess. But then don’t be surprised when people continue to call you on the carpet for it.
Originally Posted by wild~hair
If I had intentionally made a comment directly to someone I would apologize. I have always, i repeat, always apologized for things I've said or directed at someone on here if I felt I was in the wrong. Whether its been accepted or acknowledged, or not.


This instance is not being 'kept' from anyone, nor am I meaning to give an attitude. I cleared up my intentions, and the possible misunderstanding to the person involved, and thats what is important. Clearing it up with the board is near impossible and will continue in futher misunderstanding or continued questions about my character and I don't see the point in that. People will think what they will.


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Oh, and by the way, lay the eff off already. All of you. I get it that I said something that may have been taken the wrong way. And that happens often. Big surprise, I'm not perfect. And so I apologized and tried to clear it up. I really don't need half a dozen people making me feel like **** for a mistake. You've all made your point. Just because I'm a big mouth doesn't mean I don't have feelings too. I, as one person could have made someone feel bad by something I said, so how do you think it feels when several people say it to you?




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So murrrrrrr liked my post, and the first thing I thought was "I bet she liked it for the mac&cheese!" I mean it's not pizza, but it is the yum!
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When I grow up, I wanna be a Jiujitsu Turtle!

My british name, courtesy of Ninja Dog Shade Haven-Staffordshire: TRBL Hough Jewelstone Turtleneck

Its chaos a few hairs at a time. ~Minxy
So murrrrrrr liked my post, and the first thing I thought was "I bet she liked it for the mac&cheese!" I mean it's not pizza, but it is the yum!
Originally Posted by TRBL

actually it was because you said whole foods, and I thought of their pizza....but even better than their pizza, their soft pretzels...





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