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A man is married to one of a set of beautiful identical twins. Someone has insulted his wife's twin, K, so he tells K that she is so beautiful inside and out and that is why he married her sister.

Am I the only one who finds this slightly inappropriate? I'm sure he meant nothing by it and just wrote it without thinking it through completely, but still.
Originally Posted by Honeycurls
Twins can often be similar in more ways than appearance. Of course they are not the same person (duh, right?) but many are beyond bonded or connected. I would be more likely to think the person was just trying to be encouraging and comforting and that's not inappropriate, even when it might not come out exactly right.

Just to add to... If I'm sure the person meant well, I will give an A for effort, maybe have a chuckle, and move on. Honestly good intention is far more important than wording, imo.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
Oh, yeah, I know...I should have just said "poorly worded" instead of inappropriate. I suppose "inappropriate" implies ill will. I think he's a good guy, and I'm sure his intentions were good. The thing is...the twins' personalities are very dissimilar. If you remove the identical twin aspect all together, it seems an even stranger thing to say.

"You are very beautiful inside and out, that is why I married your sister."

It almost seems like he's saying that since he couldn't have her, he married her twin sister. I'm actually more amused by it than anything, really. The fact that they are identical twins really doesn't reduce the weirdness of it for me. And, he's someone whom I would expect to be better at expressing himself, but that doesn't mean that he is...clearly.
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Originally Posted by curlyarca
I find this so interesting. According to the chart from NYT I'm in a much higher class than I ever expected or feel like I am.

I guess when I think of class I think more socially. The three indicators they use; Education, Income and Wealth, to me, are based on choices.

I grew up poor, I got a college degree because my mother had such a hard time finding a job after my father passed away in the 80's because she didn't have one. "Do what makes you happy in life, but get that piece of paper first" she would say.

I make a good salary because I chose a good job, however I work for every dollar. Working in a Utility company means 24/7 operations. I work long days, I have to be on call so many weeks per year and if there's a storm or some other natural disaster then I'm on 16hr shifts until everything is repaired. Actually when the weather is bad, that's when we're the most needed. I've been outside doing my job in the blazing heat, freezing cold, blizzards, hurricanes...you name it.

On paper I look like a high class lady, but no one will be inviting me to any black tie galas anytime soon. I'm just too blue collar for that.
Originally Posted by cailin
I agree that people have to take some responsibility. You can't take on a huge debt that you can not afford and then cry, "I shouldn't have to pay it back!!" At the same time institutions have to do the same. You shouldn't set people up for failure when it hurts us all. That's assuming the world is perfect, and most people are good, which isn't true. The video made me think of this article I came across several months ago. I found the comments more interesting than anything else.

http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/...housing-crisis

I also kept the student loan discussions in mind while reading...

I am also not one who looks at other "systems" with rose colored glasses on. I want to see more jobs brought back. I have watched my salary increase be marked out for things like a recreation center for the wealthy seasonal home owners. I have watched several jobs be taken away. I am watching the disappearing act of invention and innovation. It's disheartening.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

... many in my generation had a very hard time getting a CC because we had no credit. Not bad, just none. Most were rejected several times.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
this was me when i first moved here to London. at the time, i REALLY wanted to buy a little house in the same neighbourhood i live in now. it was only $88,000 for a 2 bedroom, 1.5 bath renovated house.

but i had NO credit! i had given up all my credit cards almost 20 years earlier after the psycho ex ran them all up - i still wonder why the idiots who let him do that didn't notice he was signing his name, not even trying to forge mine. the companies had to write off a lot of the debt after letters from my lawyer and i paid the rest off and cancelled the cards.

when my mortgage broker explained i couldn't get a mortgage without establishing credit, i went and got a secured card and used it wisely for the next 2.5 years.

and i got a better house in the same neighbourhood. (good thing i didn't get the other one, it's right next to one set of train tracks and has NO basement - ergo, electric heat $$$ and no central air!)

this week, i renewed my mortgage at a MUCH lower rate with a new provider, and they are giving me a new credit card at a MUCH lower interest rate (i didn't want a rewards card) and a line of credit.



according to that chart, i am solidly upper-middle and top-5th in class.



i never would have guessed.

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i'm having dinner with Mr. Gorgeous tonight.

Originally Posted by rouquinne

That was a huge common (and a blessing in our younger ages. 18 y.o me didn't need a credit card) and I still know many who do not have one. They don't want it.

I'm sorry your ex did that to you. It's unfortunately another common story. I watched friends get their cars repossessed after breaking up with crazy ex. 7 year set back... It can really hurt. At least things are going better for you now!

And weeeee I hope you have fun at your dinner tonight!
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

[QUOTE=Honeycurls;2209004][QUOTE=Fifi.G;2208943]
It almost seems like he's saying that since he couldn't have her, he married her twin sister. I'm actually more amused by it than anything, really. The fact that they are identical twins really doesn't reduce the weirdness of it for me. And, he's someone whom I would expect to be better at expressing himself, but that doesn't mean that he is...clearly.
Originally Posted by Honeycurls
Yeah, that would tickle me a little. It's a not quite, but I get your drift moment
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Originally Posted by curlyarca
I find this so interesting. According to the chart from NYT I'm in a much higher class than I ever expected or feel like I am.

I guess when I think of class I think more socially. The three indicators they use; Education, Income and Wealth, to me, are based on choices.

I grew up poor, I got a college degree because my mother had such a hard time finding a job after my father passed away in the 80's because she didn't have one. "Do what makes you happy in life, but get that piece of paper first" she would say.

I make a good salary because I chose a good job, however I work for every dollar. Working in a Utility company means 24/7 operations. I work long days, I have to be on call so many weeks per year and if there's a storm or some other natural disaster then I'm on 16hr shifts until everything is repaired. Actually when the weather is bad, that's when we're the most needed. I've been outside doing my job in the blazing heat, freezing cold, blizzards, hurricanes...you name it.

On paper I look like a high class lady, but no one will be inviting me to any black tie galas anytime soon. I'm just too blue collar for that.
Originally Posted by cailin

Occupation, education, income, and wealth aren't purely based on choices though. However, if you do think about each in a vacuum, what's interesting is class used to be based/weighted quite a bit more on wealth, specifically inherited wealth. Not so much anymore, and one argument to explain this is increased education.

I have little wealth (inherited or otherwise), and even though I'm upper middle or higher in occupation, education, and income, I still only hit around 70/75 in class overall.

It is really interesting.

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^ That also reminded me what was going on in my county in 2006, 07 & 08. A large number of seasonal residents multi million dollar homes went up in smoke. It was like a domino effect, and all too common. No harm, no foul for them though. It was there 2nd, 3rd, 4th home.

Eh :-/
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

What? I some how got from this...

http://youtu.be/5puB_7Q2n74
(i agree, for the most part but see most bank employees going before cab drivers)

to "Is Hummus Conquering America?" Hehe. There were more important questions/discussions about how FB/YT & Twitter are making people more angry/cruel in between. I like that topic. It is true that people display behaviors on line which are no where near acceptable in the day to day. Also a Are You A Snob? quiz which was pretty funny. Do you stock your refrigerator with standard American beer? Yes. Have you ever been on or seen a factory floor? Yes. Have you ever lived in an area where half the population does not have a college degree? All my life. Have you ever had a job that makes one or more part(s) of your body hurt? Absolutely. It was silly, but was geared to the elite.

Maybe for those who think they are elite as well. He should have asked, "Have you ever peeled an orange?" :0
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 09-15-2013 at 03:57 PM.
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There! From my head to yours.
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

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I hope all the Colorado Curlies are okay. That's so sad. More than 17,000 homes damaged/destroyed and over 1000 missing in the floods

That's a crap load of paper work with FEMA. At least the majority of those reported missing are a result of family members not being able to reach them on the phone. Hopefully many of those are fine and just without service.
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I'm feeling a little like I'm back in elementary school today. Boys keep pulling my hair.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

We have news in Canada!!!! Stop freaken sending me news stories that happen down the street from me when you live in another country! I assume you're trying to be helpful somehow, but it makes me feel like you think I'm an idiot
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Wow, PerriP!

You look very strong (in a good way).
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I don't think I've done a headstand since I was in primary school. And that other pose - never! Well done PerriP!
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I am not going to get my hopes up. Tomorrow or the day after, we will be bidding on one of my dream cars. This one is extra special for reasons I don't want to state publicly, yet. (I'm paranoid, I don't want someone swoop it out from me). We are pre-authorized for financing for more than it's worth, if it wasn't for the extra specialishness. I am not going to get my hopes up. Hell, who am I kidding. If I don't get this car I'm gonna cry.
I am not going to get my hopes up. Tomorrow or the day after, we will be bidding on one of my dream cars. This one is extra special for reasons I don't want to state publicly, yet. (I'm paranoid, I don't want someone swoop it out from me). We are pre-authorized for financing for more than it's worth, if it wasn't for the extra specialishness. I am not going to get my hopes up. Hell, who am I kidding. If I don't get this car I'm gonna cry.
Originally Posted by cympreni
I hope you get your car!! I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you.

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