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I have to vent for a minute. Never, in the 20+ years that we have been friends have I felt such a need to take a long break from my bestie. I can't even be around him without rolling my eyes and getting pissed off. He does nothing but whine and make horrible decisions and whine some more. He doesn't want to talk about anything but woe is him. I know he is struggling with depression again, and I do not want to seem like a complete b**ch (though I can be to him with out hard feelings), but do something or stfu because you are becoming impossible to be around. He goes on and on about his depression and when you suggest he go back on his meds he says he can't take depression meds with his Maxault. Then he says he wouldn't take them if he could. So I suggest yoga. I'm all for options other than meds (but I'm telling you, he needs to get back on them. It's... long story but I have good reason for saying it). He took it for quite some time, loved it, and felt fantastic. He needs to do something other than lay in the bed all day, but he comes up with an excuse or dodges that subject. He talks about how he can't eat and has no energy because of his Topamax. He is weening off it, of course much more rapidly than the doc ordered. He eats like a pig at my house, because someone is cooking for him and he won't get up himself and do f**k all. He quit his job, saved up before hand, looked forward to a break, and has panicked the whole time. He started picking up shifts 2 weeks into his break, but he whines about having to work one day a week. That's all I heard tonight. "Ugh, I don't want to work tomorrow. I'm so over it." WTF DO YOU WANT? God I wish he would figure it out, quietly. And the isht with this guy. I want him to love me. He knows it's not going to happen, but it's another way to pursue someone unavailable and throw himself further into depression, which is what he does. To top it all off he is hanging out with his ex (just friends now) who is now an addict and prone to breakdowns. He called him a few months ago, told him he knew he was part of a plot against him, and made threats to comes to his house with a knife and slash his tires. He was convinced several people hacked into his computer and were toying with him/plotting against him. Now that my friend is having depression problems, paranoia comes more easily. He believed him, and he now believes his roommate is spying on all of his online activities. *His roommate is IT and does have software to log in and see what everyone has been viewing when he visits clients. Pretty damn standard in his line of work, but you can't tell him that. It's all about him* It is because of an email error message. Yeah, not a healthy friendship. I am just frustrated. He talks, wants feedback, and argues against every option... As usual. I am so sick of it.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 11-19-2013 at 11:07 PM.
^ Of course I still love the dumb a**. I would not get up this early on my day off for someone I didn't. Plus I need a moment to drink my coffee before he gets up and mopes.

I read some comments from people on a depression support group last night. I was actually looking for something else and got side tracked. After growing up with a father who had depression, PTSD, diabetes, (as if the rest isn't bad enough), major anxiety and various other problems resulting from a very abusive childhood... I know how tired of it you get. I loved him, I completely understood him (why he was how he was), but he could be unbearable. It took many years to get him to do anything other than pop anti anxiety meds, and there was a great deal of trial after he agreed to talk to someone and try treatment. If you know Nam vets, talking is a feat in its own. Anyway, as I said I agreed with a lot of what they felt (which is hard to talk about w/o being jumped on by someone who has not a clue what the other side is like) until they all started talking about their suicidal urges. Nope. Please go talk to someone yourself :-/ I just want him to do something. Anything. As I said I have been friends with him for 20+ years. This is the most impossible he has ever been and it's been going on for some time and getting worse. I want to scream at him, but it does no good. You can't get through.
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 11-20-2013 at 06:13 AM.
People who have never actually HAD a child who try to give advice on how to do things. You can't possibly understand so don't think you know so much! Wait until you have a little one running around, then you'll start to get it!

People who purposely go outside of their apartment, especially at night, on their cellphones and talk on speaker phone as loud as possible. We know you're trying to get attention and its making you look STUPID. Also it's VERY annoying! Stop it!!

Guys who see you walking somewhere every single day and who are obviously attracted to you, and stare at you until you're uncomfortable, and yet never say so much as hello. I'm not an object or a thing, I'm actually a person and I can SEE you doing it and its annoying as hell.

When you're at a stop light and the light is red you absolutely CAN make a right hand turn! Unless there's a sign that says otherwise. Seriously, all of us behind you are wanting to go so stop being so scared
People who drive trucks, or large vehicles who slow down to 2 mph for tiny little bumps or potholes in the road. Really? You think that little thing is actually going to mess up your truck? Your truck is made for going over that ****!

People who just stare at you or watch your every move, and it's not like they're checking you out or wanting to start up a conversation. They're just simply being rude.
I have to make a cake today and 3 dozen deviled eggs tomorrow. Rawwwwr! Damn eggs. I tried to get out of that one this year and my boss flipped out. Why are there no eggs on this list? We love your deviled eggs! Okay, then. I have a feeling the Fire Marshall's little boys would be upset, too. They ate a dozen alone.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

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(anyone else who needs one today, feel free to adopt it!)
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I've been debating on whether or not to buy a new car. Back and forth, back and forth. Research, research, looking around, research, back and forth. And I can come up with good reasons to buy and good reasons to wait a bit. today, I think I made my decision (not to buy) and I feel a weight has been lifted. (although as I am typing this I'm thinking "ohhh but a new car would be sooo nice")
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for Fifi - because it sounds like she needs it:



(anyone else who needs one today, feel free to adopt it!)
Originally Posted by rouquinne
Thank you, Rou. I tried to talk to my friend this morning and he interrupted me every single time I opened my mouth. He has no clue he is even doing it. He is like a hamster in a wheel. Just stuck in his head, going in circles, and has been for a year straight. I sent him a text later, because it's the only way I can say what I need to say. He had no clue what I was talking about. He tells me about suicidal thoughts every other week. He has done that as a morbid jokes in the past. Telling me he was cutting his wrists in the bathtub, when he didn't have a bathtub. This time he is serious. Constant panic attacks. Obsessing about and being depressed over dreams for days, and some other stuff he told me that really threw me for a loop. He's a bit delusional. I know when he is having a moment, and when he needs help. He needs help, can openly talk about his depression and thoughts of killing himself, but can not see he needs help. I guess he's coming back over tonight. I was not planning on it and really don't want him to but... I'd really like to have a good night.


What is wrong with parents? The past 3 times I have gone somewhere I have ended up behind a mother who is turning around in her seat, watching the kids rather than the road. Swerving from lane to lane... My friend would do that and drive me crazy! Um, bridge! Watch the road! Idc if they are yelling at each other. Tell them to shut up while looking forward. They are not going to kill each other, you might kill them though. *Meanwhile they are both strapped in car seats and can't even reach each other. Crazy things. They were adorable balls of toddler chaos.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 11-20-2013 at 02:43 PM.
A longtime contact of mine, who happens to be a headhunter, asked me to come think about working with him on a new venture today.

Verrrry interesting.
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I am not very graceful tonight. I have 3 face masques that get rather hot. I just applied the hottest and got it up my nose. Your face seriously feels like it's engulfed in flames and I will look like I have a horrible burn for an hour. Then it fades to wonderful! It uses hot peppers and lime to stimulate. My nostrils did not need that though.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

^ I have no idea how people make it the full 10 minutes with that thing on. I can do it with the almond/pepper/paprika but not this one. It says 5-10, and I do 5 followed by a nice cooling masque.

I have found reviews funny. It has HOT! on the label, clearly states it is a very hot masque that will result in redness for 1-2 hours, and people do reviews freaking out about an allergic reaction that caused heat and redness. :-/
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Hey Ladies! Hope all is well. Took a break from hair forums and decided to keep this one only. I'm ready for the holidays. Hope you all are as well

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Toasted bagel and a glass of wine for dinner.

I have house guests coming this weekend, and a Christmas party Saturday night. I should be cleaning the house, but thinking a bath and bed would be better. I can do it all in two nights, right?
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A longtime contact of mine, who happens to be a headhunter, asked me to come think about working with him on a new venture today.

Verrrry interesting.
Originally Posted by claudine191
That sounds intriguing!!!! Good luck
I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.
Audrey Hepburn
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Toasted bagel and a glass of wine for dinner.

I have house guests coming this weekend, and a Christmas party Saturday night. I should be cleaning the house, but thinking a bath and bed would be better. I can do it all in two nights, right?
Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian
It will have to do, and I will soon be in the same boat. I did clean for 2 days, and kept it in order today, but after I go back to work no one will know. I will then have 2 days to get the house ready for several guests.


That does sound like a promising opportunity, Claudine.


At least my friend changed his mind and went home tonight. I hate to say that, but I can't listen to the exact same stories for 5 nights in a row. He keeps forgetting he has already told me, was here when part of it happened, or on the phone with me when another part happened. I am well aware of it and the strange dream about Mobsters of old which has him so torn up, for reasons I can not understand. I'm quite sure no one in a pin stripe suit and wing tips is coming to collect money and really can not fathom why he has hung on to it (for over a week) and let it shake him so deeply. And this is coming from a person who does believe dreams can tell you things, or simply be inspired by a movie, or just be weird and pointless.'Anywho, I have to cook tomorrow and I hope clean a little more tomorrow night. I need to get the guest room closet in order. It will be a bit easier to motivate without company.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I've finally started painting the outside of my house, have barely put a dent in it and my neck's killing me already, this is going to be so much fun.

My neighbour over the road has decided that putting a large sandstone seahorse in the middle of their front garden is a good idea. Hmm, not so sure about that one. Thankfully I can't actually see it because my shrubs are blocking the view.
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There is a person at work who keeps emailing me the same question in various forms. I continue to answer the same way.
today she emailed me saying "see??? this is why I asked this question before! do you understand now?"

no. I don't understand. Because your question makes no sense and each time I explain it to you I give you the same pieces of information. If you apply those pieces of information to the current situation, you will get your answer.
The answer does not change.

- and she's been doing the same job for at least 3-4 years so this is NOT new - for whatever reason this is her hang up this year. (and she keeps referencing a document that is not the one I put out - with the incorrect page numbers "look at pages 6 and 7, how they say the same thing"... um, no they don't.)
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I think it may be one of those days...
my boss is currently pouting bc the woman he is planning the holiday party with is not doing whatever he says.
he's going on about how he refuses to do anything for it this year (except make the 5 extra centerpieces that are needed, of course, and decorate, but he will NOT have time to do the skit this year)

i hate the skits
Edited to delete some details bc i really am that paranoid

he's being a real jerk
and it's carrying over into the work stuff, he's telling me (barking, actually, which is unusual for him) to do things that were the way we did them years ago and we've since changed our policy on things. it's like he forgets

then "well you're being unreasonable"
(because I tell him I have to do things the way our process dictates)

yes. one of those days.
coworker has gone down to cafeteria and i'll soon be drowning my frustration with a nice toasted bagel
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Last edited by PerriP; 11-21-2013 at 04:29 PM.
PerriP - sorry about your work situation. Work politics and work drama are the worst. It is as if some people have never left high school. And it sucks when your boss is the drama source.

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