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How do you tell someone that you are not interested in them although they haven't expressed interest in you? A ex tried to kiss me the other day, and is still texting me. I need to say something but I don't know how. Any suggestions? I'm sure how to draft this text.

I'm not interested because he's not the type of person I would want to date again. Nice person, but we want different things.
Originally Posted by scrills
It depends...

First tell them straight you aren't interested and if after repeating it twice it doesn't work you either:
1. Tell them you aren't available as you are dating someone else and it looks serious, or
2. "I'm not interested you are like my brother/one of my brothers'" (Obviously it helps if you have a brother or brothers or a close male cousin who is like a brother. )
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Don't worry, TRBL. It is very easy to scratch, rub or irritate a mole on your neck. PS- It is fantastic that you are being vigilant.


I would love to know why my neck is throbbing. It started out of the blue. I would also like to know of my friend is okay and what she wanted. She sent a vague message and has not replied. Strange for her.
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Thanks everyone.. for those that don't know, 2 years ago (2 years ago this week in fact) I was diagnosed with a malignant melanoma. Two days ago I noticed that a mole on my neck was... swollen? It's feels taller, almost like a blister. It's slightly tender, and is red around the edges. Which could be caused by hormonal swings, or I could have irritated it with clothing or scratched it in my sleep (not buying this explanation myself, as I really don't like things around my neck), or.....

So anyways, I have a call in to my dr. (she is out of the office this week). Per her instructions I "played the cancer card" and as soon as she finds out I called she will fit me in, (otherwise her next open slot is May).

I can't do anything else but chill the heck out.
Originally Posted by TRBL
I hope everything goes smoothly and I'm sure everything is okay. My thoughts are with you though! =)
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Finally! I know celebrities have been campaigning against photogs taking pictures of their children forever now, and it's actually working. Several magazines and sites are now agreeing to stop taking and sharing the pic's. That makes me happy. I've heard some of the speeches Jennifer Garner and Halle Berry have given in public hearings. I think they are finally getting the message across that these magazines and news sites are in fact harassing the children, and those who buy specific publications are supporting it.

*Of course that doesn't mean no more celeb kid photo's, ever. I am sure they will share some or arrange for a shoot here and there but that is much better than stalking parents and jumping out of bushes in front of their children to scare them and get a particular shot. Mainly involving the celeb/parent in turn getting upset. They have used shady methods for years.
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 02-25-2014 at 05:23 PM.
^yes! I'm really excited that people are paying attention.

Although this made me laugh from People (part of their statement from their website)
. But we have no interest in running kids' photos taken under duress. Of course, there may be rare exceptions based on the newsworthiness of photos.

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Last edited by PerriP; 02-25-2014 at 07:25 PM.
Good Gawd. Lol. I never understood that. At one point celebs children were off limits, unless the parents gave permission during a story. That's just common courtesy. Strangers don't jump out of bushes, or follow you around taking pictures of your kids. That's effing creepy! I don't care who you are. Just because a person acts/sings/dances and provides you with some entertainment does not mean that anyone has the right to cross lines like that s Most people would call the law but in these situations the celebs end up getting in trouble because they are swarmed, taunted, and pushed to an altercation. It's perfectly natural to defend your young, but not in that world. It's was bad enough when they really started hitting hard in the 90's, but stuff has changed so much since then. The photogs have become ravenous, and so did the public need to know of every mundane detail in their life. I think reality tv stars and Celebutante have made the photogs behavior much worse. They don't have any real talent so they stage so much crap and call photographers in. It fed into the frenzy.

Maybe they can get rid of D List Celebs next.
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Blah. There was a dinner tonight and some kind and helpful people brought us to go boxes loaded to the brim with food. I don't even want it. The box of sweets looks like vomit. Vomit that has something to do with fried apples (which I love) but I am not sure what. I can already tell that switching caterers was not a wise decision.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Pretty good article, if anyone is interested in reading.

http://m.theatlantic.com/health/arch...issism/279660/

It is rather long and I am still working my way through it, but it is interesting. It covers the large number of children who have been diagnosed with ADHD since the % started a fast and steady climb in the 90's, and how these children could possibly be showing absolutely normal behavior, signs of childhood narcissism (normal or above average) or incredibly fragile and low self esteem. That relates more to children who put far too much emphasis on outside praise and tend to fall apart at the idea of criticism and failure. They often meltdown/walk away from the task at hand rather than realizing that not everything comes to you easily. The author also briefly mentions a little about the excessive number of kids being diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

I always appreciate articles like this. It's easy to tell something is up when you see large numbers of people/kids being diagnosed with particular conditions after a coinciding drug is released on the market. The standards are often lowered where numerous people can easily fit the bill. I watched that happen with Prozac in the mid 90's.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

^ The thoughts that numerous children are on medications they should not be on annoys the crap out of me. I wish more parents would be cautious about what they have their children put on. It creates a problem. I see several who do not need it, and I see some who sincerely do but their parents refuse to consider it because they have met many of those misdiagnosed kids. My youngest nephew is one of those. He has problems that continue to get worse, not better. The possible need of meds was suggested by his school principal and teachers. I am not fond of school *drug* referrals, but they really needed to give it more consideration. And if doctors gave more thorough evaluations, the problems could be reduced.

* I did love this part

A quote from Sir Ken Robinson on ADHD: "I'm not saying there's no such thing, I just don't believe it's an epidemic. If you sit kids down, hour after hour, doing low-grade clerical work, don't be surprised if they start to fidget. Children are not, for the most part, suffering from a psychological condition, they are suffering from childhood."

Several good points were addressed by parents and readers alike who see the cutting/reduction of recess and PE, along with very restrictive parenting *and restrictive recess for that matter. you get suspended for using your playful imagination these days* as contributing to misdiagnoses. Outlets, for many kids, are not what they used to be. That is well noted in numerous blogs and cases were the law is being called on parents for letting their kids play in their front yard without an adult on top of them restricting their every move.

Other than that, the comments go wrong. No surprise there. People automatically shutting down and discounting due to the words childhood narcissism (never mind the fact that he mainly focuses on the completely NORMAL aspect of it) and people ignoring this article is balanced in acknowledging actual cases of ADHD exist, and that misdiagnoses is possibly a common. Not saying ADHD is BS.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 02-26-2014 at 12:30 AM.
((((TRBL)))) I'll keep you in my thoughts as I not-so-patiently wait and hope for the thing on my nose that may or may not be a BCC to disappear. Take care and try not to worry too much.



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TRBL, I just saw your post. How are you doing, sweetie? I hope you have heard from the derm and have an appointment. It sounds like everything will be all right because it hurts! - most of the really evil things don't hurt.

Thinking of you {{{TRBL}}}. Hang in there, we love you.
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I am going everything I can to not kill my manager.
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Thanks everyone.. for those that don't know, 2 years ago (2 years ago this week in fact) I was diagnosed with a malignant melanoma. Two days ago I noticed that a mole on my neck was... swollen? It's feels taller, almost like a blister. It's slightly tender, and is red around the edges. Which could be caused by hormonal swings, or I could have irritated it with clothing or scratched it in my sleep (not buying this explanation myself, as I really don't like things around my neck), or.....

So anyways, I have a call in to my dr. (she is out of the office this week). Per her instructions I "played the cancer card" and as soon as she finds out I called she will fit me in, (otherwise her next open slot is May).

I can't do anything else but chill the heck out.
Originally Posted by TRBL
You're in my thoughts and prayers.

How was the treatment and recovery process two years ago? What area of the body?
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I seriously hate my job right now. I can't with this. I hate it. I may have to leave this department.
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Scrills, maybe keep a secret "diary" of how you feel each day after your job ends. Just something you record at home - a few words in a notebook or on the computer.

If you find over time that most days you are really hating it, even though the marketplace is crap these days, begin making plans to get a different job if it is at all possible. It messes up your psyche, and possibly your immune system to stay and stew in a situation that is really awful and doesn't show the possibility of improvement. I feel that way about jobs, relationships, etc.

People who grit their teeth and stick with abusive situations end up with stomach issues, migraines, etc., and it bleeds into other areas of their lives.

I hope things improve at your work, but if not and you leave, their loss!
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I ran into a friend this weekend. he works in HR and is going to to get me in there. It's a good company to work for.

My manager is being a B***H. I was recently switched to her because the other person working for her complained so much. Since the switch, she has been up my butt about things that need to get done for late 2014 or 2015.

For example, today we had to have a pre-meeting to our pre-meeting before the real meeting to discuss Q3 and Q4 2014 when I still don't have what I need from her for Q2. And she spends the entire time going on these long rants making me feel like I didn't do my job. I can't with this. It has been like this for about a month and a half. She calls me and reems me out about things that need to be done for next year. Nevermind that I put together a calendar showing her when I would begin to work on all the stuff she is mentioning. I even told her that the team involved said not to contact them again until June, and in fact they would contact me.
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I agree with Curlypearl. I've had that one job that you just can't stand going to. I was depressed. Came home every night and basically just went to bed. I was stressed out and didn't know what to do. My body was responding to the stress and I was gaining weight, felt tired even though I slept over 8 hours each night. I hated everything and snapped at people in my life. One day, my husband sat me down and told me to quit my job. He said the money wasn't worth it and that I needed the change. I listened! I don't love the job I'm in now, but it so much better. No job is worth it, and I've come to realize that. Best of luck to you!


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Last edited by DaniGirl88; 02-27-2014 at 06:55 AM.
Thanks everyone.. for those that don't know, 2 years ago (2 years ago this week in fact) I was diagnosed with a malignant melanoma. Two days ago I noticed that a mole on my neck was... swollen? It's feels taller, almost like a blister. It's slightly tender, and is red around the edges. Which could be caused by hormonal swings, or I could have irritated it with clothing or scratched it in my sleep (not buying this explanation myself, as I really don't like things around my neck), or.....

So anyways, I have a call in to my dr. (she is out of the office this week). Per her instructions I "played the cancer card" and as soon as she finds out I called she will fit me in, (otherwise her next open slot is May).

I can't do anything else but chill the heck out.
Originally Posted by TRBL
You're in my thoughts and prayers.

How was the treatment and recovery process two years ago? What area of the body?
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
2 years ago, I had a mole develop and grow quickly on my right thigh, I went to the derm, she removed it and had it biopsied. A few weeks later I had a surgical excision of the site (I now have an incredibly ugly 4 inch scar) as well as a... (I forget what it's called)... where they removed and biopsied lymph nodes in my groin to make sure the cancer hadn't metastasized. There is a thread on here somewhere that I wrote as it was all happening. Search for skin cancer and it should come up (if you are interested).
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