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I think my boss is going to make me have an anxiety attack today.
Originally Posted by scrills
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OMG!

i cannot believe this...

my boss, my rock of Gibraltar, my number one fan....

has been appointed as a Justice of the Peace and he is leaving me at the end of this week!

i am sitting here at work cancelling the next 6 months of his life and trying not to do this....

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Oh Rou!!
I'm happy for him, but but what about YOU??? Can he take you with him? Do you know who will be in his spot? AHHHHHH!!
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Mondays
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

TRBL
do we have an update from your dr?
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nothing yet... She only works at the office I go to on Tuesdays & Thursdays.. If I don't hear anything by 10am tomorrow I'll call them again.
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When I grow up, I wanna be a Jiujitsu Turtle!

My british name, courtesy of Ninja Dog Shade Haven-Staffordshire: TRBL Hough Jewelstone Turtleneck

Its chaos a few hairs at a time. ~Minxy
No news is hopefully good news!


People, people, people. My co worker was just watching a video of a guy reading police officers the riot act. He was walking down the road with a gun. The officers pulled over to talk to him, make sure the gun was properly registered, etc. the guy was flying sideways on them. I demand your supervisor! You have no right to stop me unless you suspect me of a crime. Do you suspect me of a crime? The officers tried to explain that numerous calls came in about a man walking with a gun. I can vouch for that. Around hunting seasons we get numerous calls from tourists about people walking down the road with rifles. Are they breaking a law or committing a crime? Not in the slightest. Is it uncomfortable or suspicious to people who do not know it is hunting season and think man with a rifle automatically equals crazed person coming to kill them? Yes. Anywho, the guy was completely over reacting. He refused search or seizure when they had only asked to sew his ID. Just trying to make sure all is on the up and up to calm the nervous people watching, and then let the man go on his merry way. Pulling out the camera phone and reciting rights was a bit much, but you are damned if you do, damned if you don't. Either the reporting party or other party will get mad and lodge a complaint.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Can he take you with him? Do you know who will be in his spot?
Originally Posted by TRBL
he is not allowed to take me with him; they have special judicial secretaries that do that work only and my job is designated as assistant to the director.



no announcement has been made yet on an interim director and it will most likely be the fall before a new permanent one is chosen.

i'm giving serious thought to applying for another job at another Ministry because one was posted today for a communications coordinator. it's very rare for those jobs to be available outside of Toronto and it pays $20K more per year than i'm making now.

having worked on the courthouse openings 3 times now, i've got loads of experience with the events side - i've even written a few briefing notes.

i've got to get myself together for that - but i plan to have a good cry tonight and drink wine and eat stuff i shouldn't.

it's a long time since i've worked for someone who believed in me enough to make me believe in myself again - if that makes any sense at all.
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Go for it, Rou! If it is a rare opportunity, there is no harm in trying to seize it. It almost seems kismet, and I am quite sure you would get a glowing reference.


Good grief. Now the one PT that planned on leaving early 2 days this week decided to leave early today too. His wife took their daughter to the ER for a test. It came back negitive but she has a UTI and his wife wants him home. I hate to sound b*tchy, but his wife can bite me. She goes to the ER or takes one of the kids to the ER every single time he works. They do have a ton of kids, but it's easy to call bull isht when she pulls this month after month after month. One would think she would realize the value of a pay check given that she does not work and he is going to school while working 2 part time jobs to support her and their 5 kids. Nope. She wants him home.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

^ Yes, that is the same one that left 2 shifts the last time I worked with him, when both my co workers were out, and when we were working with a brand new and clueless part timer. He picked up 2 shifts at his other job after promising to work with us. I warned him the first night, and made a formal complaint. The bosses were supposed to talk to him. They are doing crap. They invited back a part timer who got up and walked out mid shift while training. He stayed 4 hours and did not come back. Surprise, surprise.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I say go for it, Rou.
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Scrills, I don't know what this new boss is up to, but if she's starting to affect your health, please go to HR or someplace where you can find support. She sounds toxic. I wonder how many long-time staff members have been driven to resign under her command?
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I have to go to a funeral this week, about which I'm very uneasy. I'm having a hard time absorbing the loss, and I'm afraid I'll make a spectacle of myself, even though I'm not family, and not even a lifelong friend. I just really liked this person a lot, and he was a wonderful source of help to me. I'm depressed as heck about his passing. It sounds crazy, but I really wanted to protect the family, and in a certain way, though I know intellectually that I could not do so, I feel like I failed. In a certain way, I'm canine in my reactions: I wanted to growl and bark at anyone who might cause them trouble or pain.

How do I get through it without acting like an @ss? It's likely to be packed, if that's relevant to any feedback.
I don't like to behave very emotionally in public, especially when my feelings are very dark and/or negative.

TIA

p.s. I also secretly paid a bill for the family today. Is it okay to lie through my teeth when they eventually find out? The amount of $ was small, but they have their pride, and the company to which they owed money is one with which I'm very familiar and one which also knows of my closeness to the family. My instinct is to simply say, "Shut up" (In a friendly way) or "I don't have the faintest idea what you're talking about" but I'm concerned about causing offense. How would you handle it?
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Last edited by claudine191; 03-03-2014 at 07:53 PM.
i have been very bad; i've had 3 small glasses of Irish whiskey on the rocks and just had some chips and dip to eat.

The Boss has always been so kind to me; i knew nothing about court services 3 years ago - he's answered every silly question i had completely and truthfully without glossing over things no matter what it was. he's treated me like an equal - a partner - in our business, unless some confidentiality rule came into play.

his wife and several other people have told me that he has said that i'm the best assistant he's ever had - the notes i've had from him the last two years at xmas say the same thing.

i know i'm being terribly selfish, but.... i'm going to miss him so much! it's like working for your tough but very fair older brother!

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http://labellatestarossa.blogspot.ca/

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My instinct is to simply say... "I don't have the faintest idea what you're talking about" but I'm concerned about causing offense. How would you handle it?
Originally Posted by claudine191
this is what i would do!

sorry for your loss, ninja!

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I have to go to a funeral this week, about which I'm very uneasy. I'm having a hard time absorbing the loss, and I'm afraid I'll make a spectacle of myself, even though I'm not family, and not even a lifelong friend. I just really liked this person a lot, and he was a wonderful source of help to me. I'm depressed as heck about his passing. It sounds crazy, but I really wanted to protect the family, and in a certain way, though I know intellectually that I could not do so, I feel like I failed. In a certain way, I'm canine in my reactions: I wanted to growl and bark at anyone who might cause them trouble or pain.

How do I get through it without acting like an @ss? It's likely to be packed, if that's relevant to any feedback.
I don't like to behave very emotionally in public, especially when my feelings are very dark and/or negative.

TIA

p.s. I also secretly paid a bill for the family today. Is it okay to lie through my teeth when they eventually find out? The amount of $ was small, but they have their pride, and the company to which they owed money is one with which I'm very familiar and one which also knows of my closeness to the family. My instinct is to simply say, "Shut up" (In a friendly way) or "I don't have the faintest idea what you're talking about" but I'm concerned about causing offense. How would you handle it?
Originally Posted by claudine191
First you can absolutely lie. Or come up with something in between or even say "I really appreciated him and I'm happy I was able to help" or "I was blessed to know him, he showed me how to be compassionate and giving and I'm glad that in his passing I can show him that he taught me well.

Don't drink before the funeral, even if you want to, that'll help you get through it. Will there be someone there with you? Someone you could have go with you to help you if you start to lose it?

You can always go early and pay respects and sneak out if you need to or go later and stand in the back. Take something to write on and write with, in case you want to launch at someone go to the bathroom and write it out (or tear up paper and stomp your feet)

Lastly, If I was closer I'd go with you and (((hugs)))

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After seeing the majority of the films in the best supporting actor category (still no Wolf of Wall Street or American Hustle), I can safely say that Jared Leto deserved the Oscar, hands down. I do not doubt that the 2 I have not seen were good and I was blown away by the talent present in the other films BUT JL just put in that extra special something.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Claudine, I normally think 'keep it together', over and over, if and when I feel like I am going to get emotional. I am not big on crying at funerals. I never have been. I'd rather do it afterward BUT do keep in mind that no one will be judging you (but you) if you do happen to cry. People are typically very supportive in that situation. As for the other, is there some reason people would lash out at the family of the deceased? No need to give detail if you don't want to. I know at least one person will always say something tasteless to the family, usually out of stress & grief of their own, but that is part of it. As for the bill, you don't have to say anything. You can brush it under the rug ever so subtlety if you wish.

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I am ready to go back home and go to bed.
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When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I think I'll go for the "stand in the back" strategy, once I see my friend (his wife) so she knows I was there. That way I can duck out like you suggested. Maybe I will bring paper and pen; that's a good idea. I just don't want anyone to think I'm writing about it for the newspaper (I used to be a reporter).

The other thing is that I'm a sloppy crier. My nose runs, and I'll probably have to blow it a lot, which can be distracting. Do you think that's okay to use as an excuse, as in, "I didn't want to annoy anyone with my honking"?

I don't want to take anyone with me because I'd hate to impose. Plus I'm going to know about a thousand people there, anyway. I got some other advice that suggested I just try to deaden myself for that time and work on the "thousand yard stare."

As for the bill, I'm just going to lie. It was the freaking least I could do, and I know my friend or her daughter will pursue me with a check, which I do not want. Or should I accept it and just throw it away? I don't know. Hopefully the whole thing will just slip their minds.

Thanks for the advice and everything. I've been especially brainless since it happened — forgetting stuff, sleeping too much, etc.

Then this morning I got caught in traffic beside a truck transporting calves.

I'm in a dark place. Thanks for putting up with me.

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Jeebus. You know who packed up his stuff at 8:50 and said he needed to leave for a little while and would be back later. He is also supposed to leave again at 2. Wtf is the point of coming in? Yesterday he told out other co worker that one kid had the stomach flu and the other was being tested for mono and having an x ray to make sure her appendix was okay. His wife had already posted on FB that the mono test came back negative and her x ray was fine. He was telling us she tested positive for mono and they didn't know about the x ray yet. He finally said she had mono and a UTI. It's supposedly just a UTI. His wife was coming to pick him up yesterday because she needed his help and their daughter wanted her daddy. BS! One of his friends came to pick him up. This morning I Heard him tell our other co worker that his son was throwing up until 10 pm. When he got up to leave he came over to me and whispered that he had to go pick his son up at school, take him to get meds, and take him back home. His wife couldn't. She is at the doctor with a friend. Okay, then who has your child with "Mono and a horrible UTI"? And why did you send your son to school if he has the stomach flu and was throwing up all day yesterday? So annoying. I know he is pulling this on every shift he agrees to cover. The last time he agreed to work for me he showed up with his wife who sat around demanding he take her to the ER because she burnt her leg earlier on a heater. They left an hour later. Why did you even come in? No need for all this drama. Go home and stay home.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Honking is always a valid excuse.
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