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I think I'll go for the "stand in the back" strategy, once I see my friend (his wife) so she knows I was there. That way I can duck out like you suggested. Maybe I will bring paper and pen; that's a good idea. I just don't want anyone to think I'm writing about it for the newspaper (I used to be a reporter).

The other thing is that I'm a sloppy crier. My nose runs, and I'll probably have to blow it a lot, which can be distracting. Do you think that's okay to use as an excuse, as in, "I didn't want to annoy anyone with my honking"?

I don't want to take anyone with me because I'd hate to impose. Plus I'm going to know about a thousand people there, anyway. I got some other advice that suggested I just try to deaden myself for that time and work on the "thousand yard stare."

As for the bill, I'm just going to lie. It was the freaking least I could do, and I know my friend or her daughter will pursue me with a check, which I do not want. Or should I accept it and just throw it away? I don't know. Hopefully the whole thing will just slip their minds.

Thanks for the advice and everything. I've been especially brainless since it happened forgetting stuff, sleeping too much, etc.

Then this morning I got caught in traffic beside a truck transporting calves.

I'm in a dark place. Thanks for putting up with me.
Originally Posted by claudine191
- that's a lightbulb, in case you can't see it - it'll help with the darkness


i think excusing yourself for the honking is totally fine - people will be doing ttheir own grieving, too - it could be that you are just one goose in a roomful of honkers. Be kind to yourself. people will think what they want, anyway - so take the paper if it helps YOU, (you can always go to the bathroom, hide in a stall and write).

Lie about the bill, it's easiest - it's clean - it saves you worrying about it - for me, I'd just come up with whatever line I plan on saying and practice it (but I'm a little OCD about things like this LOL) - so when/if the time comes, it rolls right off your tongue

as for the thousand yard stare - YES!!! I assume you have one, I think most of us do - and also, fill your house with some goodies for when you come home - I know I'd want to eat like a madwoman coming home from something like that
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a tiny bit of good news...

we have 7 managers on our regional team - 4 of them are women.

all 4 of them have become friends over the past 3 years (yes, i've been here almost 3 years, can you believe it?), and will call me to ask my advice, to vent, just to talk over things. of course, i've become closer to one than the others.

she is the person who will become interim director while they run the competition to replace The Boss.

she called me a short while ago to tell me.



she is also the manager who lives furthest away from us (over 100 miles/close to 200 km driving distance).

i've already called a downtown hotel with residential rates and 1 bedroom suites to set up direct billing for her and work on getting a reduced rate.

this lady is *awesome*!

i'm much happier now.

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I have no advice on the funeral, I'm thankfully not very experienced with them but am generally a mess. I would do as you plan to - stand near the back with hankies to blub into if needed (and wipe the 'mess' and muffle any noise). Everyone grieves differently and no-one has any place to be thinking anything of anyone's behaviour at a funeral.
Re the bill, if your friend says anything I would probably own up to it, just say that you felt the need to do something and that seemed a good, practical thing you could do.

Sorry you're feeling so awful right now.
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These guys don't care if you are a sloppy crier

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Agreed. I would just say that you felt to helpless that you needed to do something.

Stay in the back and leave early
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You ladies are the best.

Scrills, I thought about asking you as a way to get you away from that boss from hell, but I just can't subject you to a thing like this. There's an extra-morbid quality to it, seeing as how it happened on the anniversary of his son's murder.

Thank you so much for offering. You're great. And if you want to tell your boss you're coming along, feel free. She can call me to verify and everything.

I would like your post if "like" was visible.
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Today's conversation at work: What is the difference between a shotgun and riffle. My co-worker is a little concerned about how my eyes lit up as he answered all my questions, LOL

<this post is in no way related to my post about my manager. She works in another city/state>
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Shotguns shoot shells and rifles shoot bullets (and that is the extent of my knowledge)

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Another beaver here.

fifi, I think you definitely need to take a breather. He sounds like he's becoming an energy vampire.
Originally Posted by Starmie
Hello Beaver friend!

He has been one for some time now. The best way to put it would be self obsessed. He lays in bed and thinks about himself 24-7. He is not happy with his life but does he ever take any type of steps to change this? Nope. He just lays there and says I can't. He has been doing that last part since we were 18. He has gone back to school more times than I can count, but he always quits. Every decision is wrong. Nothing is ever right. He makes me want to scream. I want to be there for him when he breaks down because is a 39 year old high school drop out with a GED who waits tables and has been 5 credits short of completing his general courses in college for the past 8 years, but I can't muster it up anymore. I want to say be thankful you have employers period amd especially ones who put up with your isht. He laus out more than he works. Unless he gets out of his pattern, it will never change. I can't muster up any more sympathy for his love life either. This is the 4th or 5th melt down in a year and a half. He says the exact same thing about every guy. He even fell that hard for someone that he only met once, but talked to online and that person lied about his name and everything. He was a married man. Again, he is stuck on a loop. I try to be understanding. I try to keep the issues he is having in mind, but at this point I am not getting any peace of mind. I may as well not even be there when we talk or he comes over. He's not. He is no longer present.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

If i typed something crazy, pardon. I can't see my phone while I sit in the sun

PS on that. I told him Sunday that I loved him but he was going to have to work on getting out of his head. I don't quite know how he manages to have relationships, period but I do know he is putting the expectation on everyone else to make him happy. Okay, enough of that.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


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The list that my manager told me to combine into one massive list because she didn't like all the separate list, well I just got 15 mins on how she hates the long list, it's a mess, why would I do, I have until Thursday to separte it out into smaller lists. I can't
*sigh*

i went to an Oscars party on Sunday night and my friend Joanna took a picture of me that she posted online today.

it's a disgusting picture - i have triple chins and look like a lump in my dress.

NO i am NOT making this up or being hard on myself!

if it was you, would you ask her to take it off the website?
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The list that my manager told me to combine into one massive list because she didn't like all the separate list, well I just got 15 mins on how she hates the long list, it's a mess, why would I do, I have until Thursday to separte it out into smaller lists. I can't
Originally Posted by scrills
scrills, she is either off her rocker or is trying to set you up. Please go to your HR department and get all of this documented before it goes any further. Also, ((((hugs)))). And *aspirin*
*sigh*

i went to an Oscars party on Sunday night and my friend Joanna took a picture of me that she posted online today.

it's a disgusting picture - i have triple chins and look like a lump in my dress.

NO i am NOT making this up or being hard on myself!

if it was you, would you ask her to take it off the website?
Originally Posted by rouquinne
I've had friends request I remove pics or crop them out - and I do it!
I think it won't hurt to ask!!

(( rou))
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^^^thank you dear!

Twit Coworker who plays Candy Crush all the time (and is doing so as i type) really needs to put the cell phone DOWN because she has majorly screwed up The Boss' expense claims for last week - 3 times in one day!!!!

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Just had a chat with one of my co-workers about letting go one of our students who wasn't fitting well with the job....and she just quit! That made it easy.
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Dear Coworker,

You are making me stabby. Please stop.

Alas, I know this is a futile request. I want to be nice to you, I want to help you, but you need some common sense, and some capability.

When will people understand that 'education' does not equal competence? Oooh she's been working as a temp in law offices, and has been taking paralegal courses. Big flipping deal.. if you can't use Outlook, you won't be a good assistant!

Sincerely,

Your work neighbor
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Tell me about it. I'm ready to yell at people. Get this, part time co worker who keeps leaving never told us why he needed to leave early today. His wife comes by and tells us all about the 2 supposedly super sick children's ball games this evening. In the same breath she is rattling on about spending 8 hours in the ER with her daughter yesterday :-/ You had to pick him up from school today because he is throwing up and she is bed ridden but they are both playing sports tonight. Okay then. Work on your stories.

I was informed today that our boss has had people snooping through our calls to see who is doing a good job putting in notes and who is. I was told they are highly impressed with me, but the ones I have fussed about may be in trouble. They make no sense and like I said, it's causing problems in court. People have tried to talk to the newer employees but it's "I don't want to hear it! Who uses a pen and paper to take notes anymore? You are so out dated". Keep telling yourselves that. You are about to be terminated.

Oh my word. You can't help getting an odd feeling with a very intoxicated frequent flyer calls several times with odd stories about their spouse and possibility of sickness. The caller is worried BUT wants officers to come take the spouse to jail or to a mental hospital to be checked by doctors. Okay then. It gets even weirder when the caller changes the story several time and adds things to the list. The spouse is missing. The spouse might harm their self. The whole time the spouse is in the background saying... I AM FINE. LEAVE ME ALONE! The freaky part comes when this person calls right back again saying their spouse in injured. Dying in blood even, but still won't go to the hospital. They want you to officially note that if their spouse dies, they tried everything to get them help.

Um... The spouse is perfectly fine. What were you planning?

(The caller will be sleeping it off for a while so no worries there)
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


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