Say It. I Dare You.

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I'm realizing something that I've known for a long time (if that makes sense).I have a certain friend who I chat with online daily when I'm at work and we speak on the phone a couple of times a week (it used to be 4-5 days a week but I stopped answering the phone).

I haven't spoken to her in 4 weeks and I do not miss her. One time, just ONE, I thought "oh I can't wait to tell her this"

She's negative and needy and I really don't feel any need to communicate with her. This makes me sad but mostly I just don't know what to do with the feelings. I've known this person for a long, long time so don't think I can just ignore her indefinitely. The slow fade, I guess.

So far this week, she's messaged asking me to consider coming back online early (not when I return to work next week -i won't chat online from home bc it's too much of a time suck for me). She's also called twice.

Being me, that feels like pressure and now I don't want to take her calls at all.

Okay, longer than I thought, I'm done
Originally Posted by PerriP
Maybe you could tell her the topics you have been discussing lately are making you feel bad/depressed? That you need some happy talk?
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Or change the subject when she becomes negative?
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A sample from the kind of gross spam I receive:

"Why wait? Start an affair with a cheating wife today!"

Barf.

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I honestly never considered addressing it with her, lol. She's been told (at work, other friends) that she needs to work on her positivity. She finds it ridiculous. And it isn't necessarily specific, it's just constant never happy. I'll change my mindset about it ("she'll never change, she's draining") and try to subject- change with her.
Modified CG since Dec 2011
Hahaha!

Woman crashes car while shaving bikini area | New York Post

"But Florida Highway Trooper Gary Dunick was not surprised when he came to the scene of the crash.
Dunick has had some crazy experiences pulling over drivers but said “If I wasn’t there, I wouldn’t have believed it. About 10 years ago I stopped a guy in the exact same spot … who had three or four syringes sticking out of his arm. It was just surreal and I thought, ‘Nothing will ever beat this.’ Well, this takes it.”

I also read (in another poorly written article) that this was the 6th time her license had been suspended and she did not have insurance. Way to go!!

I love drivers like that. A few nights ago we dealt with a guy in his late 20s who had his licenses suspended umpteen times. He was permanently revoked. He was riding a 4 whlr down the highway at 4am while intoxicated. To stupid to function.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G

"prompting police to issue fresh warnings about safe driving"


I imagine the police putting out warnings to the public about not shaving your bikini line while driving. Some days that's how I feel at work where I think "I shouldn't have to tell grown men not to do this" then 9 times outta 10 some one goes and does it.
Or don't; whatever makes you most comfortable. Some people are very resistant to becoming aware of their bad patterns.

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Or don't; whatever makes you most comfortable. Some people are very resistant to becoming aware of their bad patterns.
Originally Posted by claudine191
we'll see. For me the important lesson is that I don't miss our interactions. That's something for me to think about and consider what boundaries I need to establish (whether it's a slow fade, redirection, ignoring, confrontation, etc)
Modified CG since Dec 2011
I really really don't need to be accosted by missionaries on bikes when I'm walking the dog. I would have thought that saying quite clearly that I'm a non-believer when I realised who they were should have been a big clue that I wasn't interested in interacting with them. Apparently not.
3b in South Australia.
Starmie, they probably thought they hit the jackpot "ohhhh, one we can save"

Here they wait at the gas station and start talking when you start fueling
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Ok this has really been bothering me so I guess I will just say it lol. My closest friend is a compulsive liar! She was fine at first, but I caught on a bit too late. She lies about everything! Don't even get me started on all the types of lies. Have you ever been able to tell someone's lying and just while their talking say "I know your lying!!!" It's so annoying and immature. She always needs my advice. She is always upset about some "fake problem". And she wants me to feel bad for her. It's sickening.
I think it takes a lot of nerve to send me a bill after what actually happened, but I'm not surprised they'd try to get something. However, it's not going to happen: I'll fight this one tooth and nail.

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Starmie, they probably thought they hit the jackpot "ohhhh, one we can save"

Here they wait at the gas station and start talking when you start fueling
Originally Posted by PerriP
Captive audience, how sneaky and annoying.

Maybe they did think they could save me, they invited me to some meeting or something even after my very negative responses. Just as well I don't feel the need to be saved or I might be really worried now!
3b in South Australia.
Hahaha!

Woman crashes car while shaving bikini area | New York Post

"But Florida Highway Trooper Gary Dunick was not surprised when he came to the scene of the crash.
Dunick has had some crazy experiences pulling over drivers but said “If I wasn’t there, I wouldn’t have believed it. About 10 years ago I stopped a guy in the exact same spot … who had three or four syringes sticking out of his arm. It was just surreal and I thought, ‘Nothing will ever beat this.’ Well, this takes it.”

I also read (in another poorly written article) that this was the 6th time her license had been suspended and she did not have insurance. Way to go!!

I love drivers like that. A few nights ago we dealt with a guy in his late 20s who had his licenses suspended umpteen times. He was permanently revoked. He was riding a 4 whlr down the highway at 4am while intoxicated. To stupid to function.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G

"prompting police to issue fresh warnings about safe driving"


I imagine the police putting out warnings to the public about not shaving your bikini line while driving. Some days that's how I feel at work where I think "I shouldn't have to tell grown men not to do this" then 9 times outta 10 some one goes and does it.
Originally Posted by cailin
That seems to be a common. I am constantly explaining things to adults that 4 year olds should know. It gets worse every year. The world has always had it's share of stupid people. I know we have a larger population now and that has to factor in but I really do think people are getting dumber. They either can't figure out how to do the simplest things for themselves or they shave their biscuit while driving.


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I need to buy a lock for my locker. I have managed to go over 10 years w/o one but someone can not leave my things alone right now. All of my current magazines for work (that have con ed quizzes) are missing and someone keeps using my headset and leaving it out. I do not share my headset. I'm pretty sure my little cousin is using the headset when he works part time, which doesn't bother me as bad, but forgetting to put it back in my locker does. He does not have to do con ed here so I really do not know who is taking my journals.

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Blaaaaah. It is such a wet & gloomy day and I am feeling it. I tossed and turned until 1:30 this morning and had to get up at 5.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Ahhhh. Today is the last day of my internship, and I feel a little sad I'm going to miss some of these guys
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We have to put our cat down today :/
Originally Posted by Rimi
I am so very sorry, (((Rimi))). Putting a pet down feels horrible, even if it is the best thing to do.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
Thank you. Yes, it was what was best for her.
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You are welcome.


Good grief it is pouring today. We have had 3 straight hours of heavy rain. It will start flooding soon if this keeps up.


Our cleaning lady is cracking me up today. She is fussing about one of our messier co workers. She is the type to cough and gag the whole time someone tries to clean. She says she can not handle the strong smell of the cleaners and often hides them or throws them out so people can not use them. Sorry but the office has to be cleaned! She is full of it anyway and we all know it. The cleaners in question are highly concentrated and very watered down. They hardly have a scent and it dissipates quickly, especially the vinegar based window cleaner. She will foam at the mouth after one squirt of those and then turn around and spray half a can of incredibly strong industrial air freshener normally used in time released wall mount systems. Most recently our housekeeper found her spraying a ton of air freshener on one of our anti static floor mats. She was spraying it down and wiping with a cloth and cleaning off some of the stains, but only in the spots where she was writing her name. She then started to b*tch at the housekeeper about needing to scrub them. They are mopped 3 days a week as it is. That did not go over well. I wanted to say, "welcome to the club!". She hides the mildly scented cleaners and then brings in large rubbermaid containers full of different scented candles she is selling and burns 5 different ones in one night.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Bloody hell!

Measurable decline in vision; now need glasses for every day and for reading.

Stupid aging process. What's next? Big print books and ugly shoes? A girdle? A three-pronged cane?

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Last edited by claudine191; 08-08-2014 at 03:01 PM.
I can't help chucking when I read helpful advice on relating with others such as ...

Do not call Native Americans "Chief". Who randomly calls someone that does not hold a Chief of ... title that anyway? Besides the Joe Dirts of the word AND me when addressing my friends who deemed themselves Chief? It's a popular nickname, and it's not easy being Chief of a shopping village (you see what was done there, for the tourists?) that shares your last name.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Now I am imagining the internal horror of others that hear me screaming Chief across a parking lot. It's okay. That is what he asks his friends to call him.

*I do love Brant. He beat up 7 guys the first night I met him. We were at a punk show in a bar that you accessed thru a gas station (don't ask). He is 3 years older than me and I knew him from high school but he was always very shy and quiet. A gentle giant if you will. Big guy! Anywho, these younger guys who had no idea how to behave in a mosh pit kept running around pushing people who just walked in the door or were trying to get drinks. They got into a fight with some other people and one threw a plastic chair toward our table. It hit me and 2 of my girlfriends. Chief lost it. I saw why he picked that nickname then. Beat all 3 to a pulp and then came back and sat down. Did not say one word. I finally got him to laugh and start talking. He's a teddy bear, with fangs.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 08-08-2014 at 04:30 PM.
I hope I can get in the bed soon. I wanted to climb in around 9 but then I had to push it to 10 and now it's close to 11. It's hard to come in, get things done, eat and be ready for sleep in 2 hours. Right now I am just glad tomorrow is Saturday. I could sleep until 5:30 if I wanted but I do not want to. I enjoy my 30 minute grace period in the mornings. Sometimes I am perky and other times I pull a Murdoc Alphonce Niccals and need all the slow motion help I can get.

When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

My sister came in drunk with all her friends last night and from
1:30 to an hour later shouted and talked extremely loudly. I was woke up and couldn't sleep again until 3. I was planning to wake up at 7 so that I could finally go to the gym (i've had morning appointments all week preventing this) but now it can't happen on 4 hours sleep. I can't make time at all to go today now because my mum is taking us all out for the day at 1pm.

I'm just so pissed off. I felt too shy to go tell them all to shut up because there were boys downstairs and I was in my pyjamas with a t shirt on my head. I know that if this morning I say something to her about being a bit more considerate she's going to be immature and ratty to me instead of apologising like I would do if I was in her situation.
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