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Sometimes it's better to be alone...less problems that way!
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It's not a romantic partner, but thank you.
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The chick at the fuuuckin' oil change place, you are a fuuuuckin' idiot! tg I ask questions, cuz you suck ass...
Jeezus...my neighbor is an idiot!

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I feel bad, so I bought a pink furry visor with bunny ears attached for a dollar. I kind of feel better when I wear them.

You know the little brother in "A Christmas Story"? The one who hides in the cupboard? That's who I feel like lately.
Stay on your meds, or whatever you did to cause this positive change. You're actually quite likable this way. I fear, however, it's cyclic.

In other news...double bullseye!!!

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I wondered if it tasted like a hot dog. ~Phoenix
So, here I am thinking that I am having a good hair day.

A young customer (about 4-6 yrs old) is watching me ring up her family's food. She is asking all kinds of questions, like why the woman in front of her gave me money, and why did I give her money, and would I give money to her Mom, and why do you need money for food and so on.

Then, the pointed question - "Why is you hair messed up?"

What a struggle not to laugh. Also, I admit to feeling a small stab of annoyance. Her parents did looked a little embarrassed, but, damn, it was a funny question, and there wasn't malice in the girl's tone.

I replied, "Oh, my hair is just curly and this is what curly hair looks like."

The funny thing is that the girl was a wavy herself.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
You're so much more composed than me...when I was wearing my hair weave and growing out my hair, one of my many embarrassing hair weave moments was when a little girl (9-11 yrs old) at Farmers' Mkt was encouraged by her adult guardian/parent to ask me if my hair was real. Of course, I realized in retrospect that the little girl simply meant "were my curls real?" not my hair because the color was a fabulous fiery golden brown in the sun, and the 3b curl pattern was to die for with the help of KCKT/KCCC. It looked totally natural, but I "felt" like everyone knew it was a weave because it was too beautiful.

So, we had stopped to buy apples from this particular vendor, and I could see the little girl staring at me--as people always do, grrr--then asking the adult if my hair was "real," at which point, clueless adult says, "I don't know...ask her"...which she did. I told the little girl that that was not an appropriate question to ask strangers, but that, yes, it was "real," which wasn't a lie because, after all, it was "real" human hair. She responded shyly "I just meant that it was pretty."

I lamented all week about how I had handled myself and hoped that they would both be there next week, which they were. I found the little girl and apologized to her, telling her that I was completely out of line for the sharp way I had spoken to her; then, I turned my anger on the adult and said: "You, on the other hand, should have known that that it was inappropriate to encourage a child to ask a complete stranger if their hair is 'real' and put her in a position of being reprimanded and embarrassed, which she was." She stared blankly at me, so we stopped patronizing their stand, and we had been regular customers prior to this incident--but the little girl had never been there before.

It irritated me not only because I was sensitive to her question because it was a hair weave, but because I taught my son from very young not to ask strangers probing questions...or to stare, for that matter, because I find it to be extremely rude, having been stared at and questioned like a sideshow freak for most of my life.

They had the best apples, too...damn.

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I wondered if it tasted like a hot dog. ~Phoenix
I had to cut off two inches of hair yesterday. That's what I get for waiting four months between cuts. It was finally long enough that I was comfortable starting to wear it curly again, and now not so much. It's still long, but not long enough for curls when you take in shrinkage. I hate shoulder-length curly hair on me. I just keep reminding myself it'll grow, and I need to get it cut at least every two months. Stupid, stupid medication messing with my hair.

And speaking of medication, I'm a little upset I just have to live with arrhythmia #2. I'm already on the medicine used to treat it, and it's not really treating it, and there's not much I can do if I don't want to deal with major side effects. It's lose-lose. And lose again, if you count my hair. Whine, whine, whine.
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I don't know what some people are thinking. I got in BIG trouble for asking rude questions when I was young, including punishments, apologies to strangers, etc. I can't understand why people do things differently now, when all their laxity is causing is discomfort and ill will.
I have two different people telling me two different ways for handling a certain type of call. So when I get the call, I hesitate for a second after telling her that we don't discuss prices over the phone. I'm not sure whether to field it or go into the "newB" speal. She thinks I'm wrapping up the call and I end up wrapping up the call, potentially losing a new client. I don't feel like it's entirely my fault because I'm often being given two different sets of information and am not confident enough yet to trust my own instincts. Plus, we've had some strange calls lately from people asking for price quotes, and I did observe someone else handling the call in the same manner I did.

I don't know why I freeze up sometimes and can't just talk naturally. It's hard being naturally shy and unsure of myself around others. I'm so glad I'm not the receptionist and don't have to deal with calls nearly as much as she does, but I wish I had done some rehearsals and decided exactly what to say in that instance - at least I'm more prepared now, but I can't stop beating myself up over the last call. Ugh...
This job isn't as easy as looks, and I like to overcomplicate things as well.
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I don't know what some people are thinking. I got in BIG trouble for asking rude questions when I was young, including punishments, apologies to strangers, etc. I can't understand why people do things differently now, when all their laxity is causing is discomfort and ill will.
Originally Posted by ninja dog
It's a sign of the times, I guess. I was also raised not to do these things--before the situation ever even came up once--and my parents were terrible parents. Parents just aren't parenting much these days. I can't believe how lax most of his friends' parents are. My son has come home day after day over the years with story after story of how some thoughtless child/teen has made a rude comment or asked him some out-of-line or trivial question like: Why are you so short? This one, of course, has been the bane of his existence because he is of short stature, and for men, this can be like a death sentence. He talks about kids (boys included) picking on each other because their clothes are not name brand or don't "match" perfectly or because someone's bike is from Walmart. I don't remember boys being so brand-conscious when I was a kid, but then, we didn't have many brands to be concerned about back then. But the degree to which boys have become nit-picky these days about clothes/shoes really shocks me. Maybe it's just because I grew up in the country and none of those boys cared about fashion.

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~That you don't share my experiences/opinions doesn't invalidate them
I wondered if it tasted like a hot dog. ~Phoenix
I have two different people telling me two different ways for handling a certain type of call. So when I get the call, I hesitate for a second after telling her that we don't discuss prices over the phone. I'm not sure whether to field it or go into the "newB" speal. She thinks I'm wrapping up the call and I end up wrapping up the call, potentially losing a new client. I don't feel like it's entirely my fault because I'm often being given two different sets of information and am not confident enough yet to trust my own instincts. Plus, we've had some strange calls lately from people asking for price quotes, and I did observe someone else handling the call in the same manner I did.

I don't know why I freeze up sometimes and can't just talk naturally. It's hard being naturally shy and unsure of myself around others. I'm so glad I'm not the receptionist and don't have to deal with calls nearly as much as she does, but I wish I had done some rehearsals and decided exactly what to say in that instance - at least I'm more prepared now, but I can't stop beating myself up over the last call. Ugh...
This job isn't as easy as looks, and I like to overcomplicate things as well.
Originally Posted by ElsaG
I am the same way. Hate it, hate it, hate it. In my profession, I have to talk to other medical professionals all day long and have to be very precise, accurate and timely because everyone is busy and one wrong word could result in a medical catastrophe. When I was new to the field, it was VERY nerve-wracking to have to deliver my findings and impressions to a physician who was all but drumming his fingers and rolling his eyes because I wasn't speaking quickly enough for him. With much repetition, I overcame my intimidation, but I still get tongue-tied in other speaking situations. I find myself searching for words a LOT, with progressively increasing frequency as I get older.

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~That you don't share my experiences/opinions doesn't invalidate them
I wondered if it tasted like a hot dog. ~Phoenix
But the degree to which boys have become nit-picky these days about clothes/shoes really shocks me. Maybe it's just because I grew up in the country and none of those boys cared about fashion.
Originally Posted by ~Ghost Poster~
For boys, wearing the right brand can be a lot more than a sign of trendiness, wealth, or conformity. It can actually become a sign of masculinity, like a sort of phallic symbol. I think this is most common among the urban working class.
But the degree to which boys have become nit-picky these days about clothes/shoes really shocks me. Maybe it's just because I grew up in the country and none of those boys cared about fashion.
Originally Posted by ~Ghost Poster~
For boys, wearing the right brand can be a lot more than a sign of trendiness, wealth, or conformity. It can actually become a sign of masculinity, like a sort of phallic symbol. I think this is most common among the urban working class.
Originally Posted by Eilonwy
Right, but not to the degree about which I'm talking--shoe colors MUST perfectly match the shirt colors and jackets must match both, etc. I mean, back in the day, there were brands that everyone wore, but nothing like what I've witnessed with my son and his friends. I'm talking about boys who have a pair of shoes to match with each and every outfit in their closet--25 outfits with 25 pairs of matching shoes with 25 different matching jackets. Unfortunately for my son, I refuse to indulge that level of frivolity.

Where I grew up, boys had a pair or two of Nikes or Adidas (or something similar) that went with everything, maybe a pair of boots--work or cowboy. There were no "outfits" for boys that age back then. Not where I lived.

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~That you don't share my experiences/opinions doesn't invalidate them
I wondered if it tasted like a hot dog. ~Phoenix

Last edited by ~Ghost Poster~; 03-05-2010 at 03:07 PM.
I know that young girls and some young women are impressed by males who care about their appearance to that degree. In fact, I think it's probably a requirement in some cases. I have to remember that these guys are not trying to impress and hook an old lady like me! I'm not relevant in that realm anymore!!

Baby fine, honey & caramel hilites, 4a/3c now 2b w/DIY BKT & LOVIN' it.
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KCCC/KCKT (winter)
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Cassia+henna+grays=Gold-red hilites
~That you don't share my experiences/opinions doesn't invalidate them
I wondered if it tasted like a hot dog. ~Phoenix

Last edited by ~Ghost Poster~; 03-05-2010 at 04:30 PM.
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