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Old 03-19-2014, 07:49 AM   #1
 
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A friend who's going with me to a wedding said she wanted to go with me to a hair salon to do hair and makeup. I told her I was doing my hair and makeup myself, and she answered that she would then drop by my house earlier to get ready as well. I have a strong feeling she wants me to help her out with makeup. She hasn't explicity said she wants to use my stuff, but she doesn't really own many products and is very much in the habbit of helping herself to my things (food, for instance).

Thing is, I don't like sharing my makeup, especially lip and eye products. Just like I wouldn't share a toothbrush.

How would you handle this?
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Old 03-19-2014, 07:56 AM   #2
 
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I would bring up the subject again and say something like, "Don't forget to bring your own makeup!" If she has a problem with this, just be honest. Say you don't feel comfortable sharing makeup, because it's not sanitary.

I told a friend this once at our friend's wedding. She was initially irritated, but got over it pretty quickly. She also has herpes, so I didn't want any of her bodily fluids touching my stuff. Gross.
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I'd ask her how elaborately she's going to make herself up or what look she's going for, and tthen tell her what products she will need to BUY to achieve that look. Make some recs, if she doesn't have much experience w/ make up.

Sharing make up is gross and totally unhygienic!
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Another idea would be to either buy or ask her to buy new applicator brushes: eye shadow brush, lip brush, foundation sponge and mascara wand. The things that you don't use an applicator for like eye liner and lip liner, you could ask her to bring her own. If the only reason for not wanting to share is sanitary reasons, this would avoid that. They don't have to be expensive tools, you should be able to find decently priced ones at a pharmacy or even Sally's. I would be honest about the sanitary issue. It doesn't have to be in an offensive way, but just state that you don't typically share make-up because of this.
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I agree with everyone so far. I'd casually ask her what kind of makeup she's bringing and what look she is going for. If she says she was planning on using yours, just tell her that you'd rather not share as a personal preference. She should have her own makeup an if she doesn't, it is high time she buys some! =)
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Another idea would be to either buy or ask her to buy new applicator brushes: eye shadow brush, lip brush, foundation sponge and mascara wand. The things that you don't use an applicator for like eye liner and lip liner, you could ask her to bring her own. If the only reason for not wanting to share is sanitary reasons, this would avoid that. They don't have to be expensive tools, you should be able to find decently priced ones at a pharmacy or even Sally's. I would be honest about the sanitary issue. It doesn't have to be in an offensive way, but just state that you don't typically share make-up because of this.
That doesn't eliminate safety on her friend's part, since I'm sure the makeup has been used by the same brushes/applicators many times. It goes both ways, not just one way.
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Another idea would be to either buy or ask her to buy new applicator brushes: eye shadow brush, lip brush, foundation sponge and mascara wand. The things that you don't use an applicator for like eye liner and lip liner, you could ask her to bring her own. If the only reason for not wanting to share is sanitary reasons, this would avoid that. They don't have to be expensive tools, you should be able to find decently priced ones at a pharmacy or even Sally's. I would be honest about the sanitary issue. It doesn't have to be in an offensive way, but just state that you don't typically share make-up because of this.
I'm not a microbiologist or anything...but if some of the friend's eye juice or eye boogers got on the applicator and then got re-wiped into the the eyeshadow, and then Dedachan wiped her applicator over the same area of eyeshadow, cldn't Dedachan get infected? Or is there something in some make up that kills bacteria? I have heard that ppl get sties from sharing make up.
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Old 03-19-2014, 12:09 PM   #8
 
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I'm glad I'm not crazy. I did grow up with a sligthly hypochondriac mother.

I think she would be clueless about which aplicators to get. I do have a product that is meant to sanitize brushes, so maybe I should not worry too much. Perhaps I should tell her to at least bring mascara and lipstick. As for eyeliner, she's on her own, because I don't use any and wouldn't know how to draw them on.

The other aspect is that I have never done makeup on another person.
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I must be weird because I don't see what the big deal is. I would just tell her you don't share makeup if she asks when she's there. A friend told me the same when I wanted to borrow her lip gloss, no big deal. Around winter time, I get sick often and I don't share any drinks or food either (sometimes friends want to taste my drink).
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Hehe. It's not so much a hypochondriac thing. It really is a sanitary issue. Models pitch a fit when makeup artists attempt to use unclean brushes on them before runway shows or shoots because it's a wise thing to do. I'm sure a few have learned the hard way. Make up gets a good deal of ones bacteria on it from every day skin issues. Zits, etc. Problems can just increase from there.
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I'm glad I'm not crazy. I did grow up with a sligthly hypochondriac mother.

I think she would be clueless about which aplicators to get. I do have a product that is meant to sanitize brushes, so maybe I should not worry too much. Perhaps I should tell her to at least bring mascara and lipstick. As for eyeliner, she's on her own, because I don't use any and wouldn't know how to draw them on.

The other aspect is that I have never done makeup on another person.
The way MUA do multiple faces with the same makeup is by using miniature pallets and spatulas, or tossing away applicators as soon as they have been used once.Using a new applicator and double dipping pretty much undoes the purpose of using a different applicator, as the facial bacteria gets transferred right back into the makeup

Even if you clean a brush, if it touches her faces and goes back into the makeup it is compromised- which is why MUA usually transfer product to a separate pallet or spatula first.

I would tell her that you have very sensitive skin, and are very careful not to share your makeup to prevent breakouts.

If you have never done makeup on another person I wouldn't recommend letting her bully you into doing it this time, it can be very stressful and what works for your face may not work for hers!
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Offer to go shopping with her to help pick out the makeup she'd like to wear. Some people who don't have a lot don't know much about it and become overwhelmed when they go to buy makeup. If you have an Ulta or Target you can probably find her some nice affordable stuff to work with.
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I would have to say that getting ready for big events is stressful for me, and I would be most comfortable getting ready on my own.
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The day before, I'd tell her my eye was a little itchy and to make sure she brings her own stuff so she doesn't catch anything.
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The day before, I'd tell her my eye was a little itchy and to make sure she brings her own stuff so she doesn't catch anything.
Okay, but isn't that kind of passive aggressive? If she thinks that's the reason then the same issue could come up again when her eye is 'not itchy'.
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The day before, I'd tell her my eye was a little itchy and to make sure she brings her own stuff so she doesn't catch anything.
Okay, but isn't that kind of passive aggressive? If she thinks that's the reason then the same issue could come up again when her eye is 'not itchy'.
Totally! The only friend I can think of that would want to do that though, would be really offended if I just said I don't want to share for hygienic reasons. For me, in this case, the lie is the better option.
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Seriously? No one thinks taking a friend out to buy her own things is a better option than lying?
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Yea but that requires a lot more work.
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The day before, I'd tell her my eye was a little itchy and to make sure she brings her own stuff so she doesn't catch anything.
Okay, but isn't that kind of passive aggressive? If she thinks that's the reason then the same issue could come up again when her eye is 'not itchy'.
Totally! The only friend I can think of that would want to do that though, would be really offended if I just said I don't want to share for hygienic reasons. For me, in this case, the lie is the better option.
People aren't stupid though, they can see straight through this kind of thing. I had a friend use that excuse on another friend and it was a very transparent lie. What is so harmful about being honest and simply saying you don't like to share makeup. You don't have to explain your actions to anybody in this life. If I had a friend who got mad at me for something so trivial, I'd think it would be time to find a new friend.

I personally wouldn't wait til the day of when she got there and then has no makeup to wear. I like chupie's idea of taking her out to find "the right colors" for her.
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I second the buying idea, this way the girl has her own makeup and won't need to borrow.
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