Should I go part-time or quit entirely?

Like Tree32Likes

I'm thinking of asking my job to go part-time. If they don't agree, I quit. However, if they agree, should I do it?

I am asking important friends and family, but unbiased, outside responses may help me see the issues more clearly.

Reasons NOT to work part-time (assuming my job agrees to p/t):

I don't get satisfaction from this job. I do it only for the $. I'm 69. My parents both died around age 78. Longevity doesn't run in my family - cancer does. Since the job isn't pleasurable, maybe I should quit and enjoy whatever time is left while I am still healthy.

As a part-timer, I lose all benefits so med. insurance is not a reason to stay.

At this point it is very tiring and will be stressful even part-time.

Reasons TO STAY if they allow me to work p/t:

Extra $ is a comforting cushion. I worry about huge medical bills that might happen if I get ill, since none of the NYC drs. seem to take medicare.

I don't like the job or my boss, but my co-workers are mostly very nice and I enjoy the contact. I won't be lonely at all. Since my voice was altered from surgery, I can't do what I had expected to do in retirement (theatre, singing). Worried about being solitary since I don't have hobbies that involve other people and I'm shy and find it hard to push myself to do social activities.

Thanks in advance for reading this long post.
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Protein sensitive
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift

Last edited by curlypearl; 09-07-2014 at 01:03 PM.
I would go part-time as a cushion and to "stay involved."
rouquinne likes this.

http://geaugadoggy.wordpress.com
I'm seconding ninja
rouquinne likes this.
Modified CG since Dec 2011
Growing out super short cut

High porosity, fine, unknown curl type, somewhere in the 2s at the moment
Mostly low poo
Current rotation includes:
Wash: Yes To Carrots -Condition: Yes to Cucumber, Nature's Gate Jojoba, One C - Stylers: Deva volumizing foam, Deva UDG B'Leave In, Foxy Curls Hi-Def Curl spray
Thanks very much Ninja and Perri.

I really appreciate that you responded. {{{Ninja & Perri}}}.

One of my good friends IRL said I should quit because of my family history. However I I'm leaning in the direction of staying for exactly the reasons you mention but I vacillate a lot.
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Protein sensitive
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift
What if you go part time for now, and then try to find another PT in something you love?


For instance, if you knit, a PT job in a yarn store might be right up your alley. Offering advice to people when they have stitch issues or some such. Or perhaps finding a job in a theater even though you can't sing now.


I just feel if the money is extra and not completely needed there's no sense being miserable.
rouquinne, scrills, Zinnia and 2 others like this.
I would not see the harm in going PT, CP. It might be a nice transition into retirement. So many people end up getting part time jobs afterward because they miss it. You could get the feel for it, see how you handle it, and always quit down the road if you appreciate the time off more.
rouquinne likes this.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Cailin, very interesting advice. I totally agree with the sentence about not being miserable if I don't actually need the money. It's so confusing. If I lived modestly, I wouldn't need additional income unless something unexpected came up - like large medical expenses. I think if I work part-time I will definitely look for a part-time job where I care more about the mission of the organization or where the work is more enjoyable. Thanks for your input!!!

Fifi, another great idea! I guess I could look at it as something I am trying out. Maybe even just for another year - even one more year would give me a "cushion" and I would be better able to decide if I want to continue. I don't need to feel I'm locked in forever. Thank you!

It's interesting - Some of the ideas you all have mentioned seem obvious - but I haven't really thought them through before. I guess anxiety is making it very hard for me to figure this out. Glad I posted!
rouquinne and curlyprincess1 like this.
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Protein sensitive
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift
CP, you may find a health plan that suits you that isn't Medicare. I agree with other about working a part time job that you enjoy. This is not a dress rehearsal, we have one time to do this, so enjoy yourself while you can.
curlyprincess1 likes this.

texture - medium/fine, porosity - low/normal, elasticity - normal
co-wash - NaturelleGrow Coconut Water or Marshmallow Root, Slippery Elm Bark & Blue Malva Cleansing Conditioners
LI - KCKT mixed w/ SM C & H Curl & Style Milk
DC - NG Mango & Coconut H2O or Chamomile/Brdck Root
Gel - SM souffle (winter), KCCC (summer) or CR Naturals Aloe Whipped Butter Gel (year round)
Sealers - Virgin Coconut Oil, Avocado butter, Aloe butter
Ayurvedic treatments - Jamila Henna, Sukesh, Aloe Vera Powder, Hibiscus Powder
.




I agree with Cailin. Go part time and find something else that you love
Juanab, what you said really struck me "this is not a dress rehearsal - enjoy yourself while you can." I am looking for advice that "resonates" within me - that did. The fact that my parents died less than 10 years older than I am now has really had an impact on me. On my mom's side everyone died from cancer - I mean everyone, and many of them died in their 40's and 50's. I am trying to picture how I would feel if I got ill in a few years and had wasted one precious year of life in a job I dislike with a boss I dislike.

Hi there Scrills, - thank you for chiming in! I still am back and forth about whether to work part-time but if I do I will definitely look to do something else at the same time that I enjoy, paid or unpaid. It will lessen the stress of this job.

Thank you everyone for your thoughtful ideas. Maybe there isn't a "right" answer. I need time to process everything.

I hope I can give back to this community. Everyone - have an excellent week!
curlyprincess1 likes this.
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Protein sensitive
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift
I think I would stay part-time because 1) you will have more time for yourself than you do now (so maybe it won't be as stressful as you think). 2) It assures you that if something happens you will have enough money (you won't need to stress about it) and 3) almost everyone I know who is retired ends up feeling a bit bored or lonely eventually, because they don't see many people. Your work could be thought of as an socializing activity which brings you money, instead of a chore.

ETA: I agree, however, about changing jobs. The worst that can happen is that you still won't like it, but at least there is a change that you will. You said you like theater and singing. Since you can no longer sing, maybe try to find a job backstage or something else that interests you.
3b, low porosity, high density, medium hair width hair

Current Products:
  • Dr. Mercola Shampoo
  • Dr. Mercola Revitalizing Conditioner (also as leave-in)
  • Gelatin as protein treatment
  • Currently trying flaxseed gel +gelatin as hair gel
Techniques: Scrunching + Plopping Overnight



Last edited by EverydayCurls; 09-07-2014 at 07:53 PM.
Thank you EverydayCurls for your interesting response. Maybe I need to reframe my thinking as you suggested, and try to consider my job as a socializing activity which brings in money rather than as a chore.

Also, I agree that if I work fewer hours it will be less stressful.

One thing that many other posters (including you) have said that seems like a good solution to me is to find a different pt job that I like better.

I'm glad I don't have a job where I need to make tough decisions! Not my strong suit
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Protein sensitive
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift
I am glad that it did CP. I'm thinking we should all have a plaque in our home that reads "life live it, it's the only one you have".
curlypearl likes this.

texture - medium/fine, porosity - low/normal, elasticity - normal
co-wash - NaturelleGrow Coconut Water or Marshmallow Root, Slippery Elm Bark & Blue Malva Cleansing Conditioners
LI - KCKT mixed w/ SM C & H Curl & Style Milk
DC - NG Mango & Coconut H2O or Chamomile/Brdck Root
Gel - SM souffle (winter), KCCC (summer) or CR Naturals Aloe Whipped Butter Gel (year round)
Sealers - Virgin Coconut Oil, Avocado butter, Aloe butter
Ayurvedic treatments - Jamila Henna, Sukesh, Aloe Vera Powder, Hibiscus Powder
.




CP...We're close in age so I understand this being a hard decision for you. At my last job I didn't care for my boss or his wife who ended up working out of his office. I worked there for 6 years. I was really burnt out when I left almost a year ago. Every Sunday afternoon I would start feeling anxiety because I knew I had to go back there. Before I worked for him I worked in some very stressful jobs.

I made a decision, which may not have been that smart, but I started collecting my SSI early & I work a part time job at an executive suite. 12 to 2 Monday thru Friday. I like my job there. I like my boss. On the side I do pet sitting. Don't do it often enough. I just joined an agency where they have my profile on it, so I hope I can do it more.

I don't have insurance. I'm barely getting by even with a roommate, but I am so much happier. I have some money coming in in Jan, so that will help me out, especially with insurance.

CP...it's hard being a single woman at our age. I don't know how many years I have left. I didn't want my time to be shortened becuz of my stress & I want to enjoy my time I do have left.
curlyprincess1 likes this.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Hi Lotsa. I don't know why, but your post made tears come to my eyes. Maybe it's because we are close in age and both single and I felt you really understood. It was the sentence saying you are so much happier that touched me so deeply. I'm glad you are happier.

This is such a very difficult decision but everything you said made sense to me. {{{Lotsawaves}}}
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Protein sensitive
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift
I think I'd give the part-time thing a try, I know from my own experience that cutting back my hours has made work bearable and saved my sanity and it may do the same for you. That said, if I didn't need to work I wouldn't and I think at your age (sorry if I sound rude there, I don't mean to) I'd leave and find some volunteer work, or, like others have said, a p/t job in a field you'll enjoy.
Good luck, I'm the worst at making decisions so I know where you're coming from!
curlyprincess1 likes this.
3b in South Australia.
Some of the retired ppl I know say they feel just as busy, stressed out and stifled now that they are retired as they did when they worked. I think retirement might be a tad overrated, esp as compared to working a parttime job you love.

I think you should see what else is out there.
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

Should I go part-time or quit entirely?-imageuploadedbycurltalk1410201919.722779.jpg
curlypearl likes this.

texture - medium/fine, porosity - low/normal, elasticity - normal
co-wash - NaturelleGrow Coconut Water or Marshmallow Root, Slippery Elm Bark & Blue Malva Cleansing Conditioners
LI - KCKT mixed w/ SM C & H Curl & Style Milk
DC - NG Mango & Coconut H2O or Chamomile/Brdck Root
Gel - SM souffle (winter), KCCC (summer) or CR Naturals Aloe Whipped Butter Gel (year round)
Sealers - Virgin Coconut Oil, Avocado butter, Aloe butter
Ayurvedic treatments - Jamila Henna, Sukesh, Aloe Vera Powder, Hibiscus Powder
.




Sorry that you are unhappy in your job! If they will let you work part-time, I would do it until you can find another job (PT or FT) that you like better. IMO, some money coming in is better than none, if one of your goals is to have some financial cushion for "just in case" times.

However, with part-time scheduling, I hope you would get to drive the bus on that. From what I've seen with part-time positions, the hours are not set in stone, usually requires flexibility with scheduling which can add additional stress, so it may not be worth it emotionally to stay there if you really don't like the job or the boss.

Best wishes with whatever you choose to do!
Location: Texas
Type: 3b/3c (i), below shoulder length.
CO wash: A-O GPB LYY, Salon Care Honey Almond, Devacurl OC, Acure Argan Stem Cell+Argan Oil, Mill Creek Botanicals Keratin Repair
Leave-ins: BWC, KCKT, cno overnight
Styling: BRHG, MGA Sculpting Gel, A-O Mandarin Magic Gel, LOTD AVG, LALSG
DT: Kiehl's Olive Fruit Oil Deeply Repairative Hair Pak, Curl Junkie Deep Fix, Briogeo Don't Despair Repair!
I think going part time is the best idea. That way, you can see if you like it and look for something else in the mean time. You'll still get that interaction and will have more time for yourself. You definitely have to take care of yourself.


3B, fine, normal porosity, high density, medium width and length
Conditioner: Tresemme Naturals
Co-Wash: As I Am Coconut Co-Wash
Leave in Products: As I Am Leave-In, SM Smoothie/Milk
Air Dry

Looking for new products and methods to try!

Avatar is a product of this lovely lady: Ash The Painter on Tumblr


Trending Topics


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -6. The time now is 08:33 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Copyright 2011 NaturallyCurly.com