Which of us are job hunting? - Page 105

Lotsawaves · 10-14-2011, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine

My mom turned down that job

I guess crying poverty and constantly saying she'll have to sell her home is just a lot of fun for her.

My mom is this way, as well. Some people feed on this. I'm sorry you have to be this close to all this negative energy. I don't know how you deal with this. I know I couldn't. (((HUGS)))

SarcasmIsBeauty · 10-14-2011, 12:44 PM

I also think you did the right thing CP, you never know what can happen with this job. They may love you and hire you permanently with a pay raise. That other position wasn't guaranteed, you need a job now not some possible opportunity. I'm happy you got the job and hope it goes really well for you!

CBIC, I really really hope you get the position!

curlypearl · 10-14-2011, 09:20 PM

CIBC - crossing fingers, toes and eyes for you. I hope this is it!!! It's too bad that your mom is adding to your anxieties.

Right now I'm almost delirious with happiness that I don't have to scrounge for a job anymore. What a relief!

Lady V, I appreciate the story.

I'm feeling much better about it now, and I totally agree, I'm taking what the agency lady said with an entire salt cellar. They'll say anything to undermine you if they want you to interview for a job they have.

Sarcasm, you are right! I got this job, I'm really happy about it, all the signals are great and it's the old bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush story. And thanks for the good wishes, sweetie!

Curly Laura, who is D?

Good luck everyone!

CanItBeChristine · 10-14-2011, 09:23 PM

I am "D" ( real first name is not Christine

)

Sent from my iPhone using CurlTalk

curlypearl · 10-14-2011, 09:32 PM

Oh - ha ha.

Trixie1979 · 10-16-2011, 01:56 PM

CIBC I'll be crossing everything I can for you. Let's hope that this is your break. You have been though so much, you deserve it!!

CP way to go!!!! Awesome news!!

Well my fiancee is unemployed again. He couldn't do the care work job. There were so many problems with it. He had an interview but didn't get it and we don't know why. He had 4 years experience in the industry. He has a few resumes out so let's hope he gets something.

curlypearl · 10-16-2011, 08:37 PM

Thanks, Trixie! I should be asleep because I need to be up early for this job, but I'm so nervous I can't sleep!

Meanwhile, what is care work? I hope your fiance finds something good.

CanItBeChristine · 10-16-2011, 09:51 PM

GOOD LUCK TOMORROW CURLYPEARL!!!!!!!!

CanItBeChristine · 10-16-2011, 09:55 PM

So, since I had that breakdown after seeing my old boss in the street last week, I realized I had to do something about it and of all the anger/hurt I've been carrying around.

Yesterday, I made a list of everybody that I have negative issues with and I wrote them all really nice greeting cards and put them in the mail.

That list ended-up only having four people on it...my old boss and three friends I had a falling-out with that was kind of a "them against me" deal.

The card I sent my former boss said that I wished him all the best in the upcoming season.

I feel lighter.

curlypearl · 10-16-2011, 10:50 PM

Thanks CIBC! I'm going to need luck because I'll be lucky if I can get 4 hours sleep tonight. Not a good way to start off. I hope I don't yawn in someone's face! Can't understand why I don't fall asleep - well, I do understand but it's frustrating anyway. I drank beer - didn't help.

I appreciate the good wishes. Universe - I need some good luck!

eche428 · 10-17-2011, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by curlypearl

Thanks CIBC! I'm going to need luck because I'll be lucky if I can get 4 hours sleep tonight. Not a good way to start off. I hope I don't yawn in someone's face! Can't understand why I don't fall asleep - well, I do understand but it's frustrating anyway. I drank beer - didn't help.

I appreciate the good wishes. Universe - I need some good luck!

Hope your first day is going great, curlypearl!

That was a very gracious thing to do writing those letters, CIBC. Very cool.

TRBL · 10-17-2011, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by eche428

Hope your first day is going great, curlypearl!

That was a very gracious thing to do writing those letters, CIBC. Very cool.

+1 to both of these!

Lotsawaves · 10-17-2011, 02:11 PM

I'm thinking of you CP.

annabananalise · 10-17-2011, 02:54 PM

Yay CP! Hope your day goes well.

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

CanItBeChristine · 10-17-2011, 04:18 PM

Anxiety attack on top of anxiety attack

Just got a lecture from my mother.

"I'm selling the house in the spring and moving down south. You're going to have to come with me if you don't have a job, you know."

--The talk of selling the house I pretty much grew-up in always hurts me enough.

--The idea of having to move with my mother is driving me crazy.

--The thought that my mom has no faith in me that I will ever find a job or even, like, get married or anything wild like that, bothers me a lot.

I really feel like I am going crazy. I just want a job. Selling the house makes me feel so sad for some reason and it's just adding insult to injury right now.

I feel like that line in Titanic, "I feel like I'm standing in the middle of a crowded room screaming at the top of my lungs and nobody even looks-up."

I just want to know for certain that things will fall into place over the next few months. I really really do. I know nobody can give me that, but when the one person in the world who is supposed to love and encourage me just says, "I don't have a crystal ball. I can't tell you things will be okay" it just sucks.

This sucks so much. I genuinely can't take it anymore. I feel like this HAS to be rock bottom.

curlypearl · 10-17-2011, 04:38 PM

CIBC, could you move in with a roommate? I don't think you should go with your mother unless you have absolutely no alternative. I hope you hear something great this week! I really, sincerely hope this is your week for good news.

I had the most wonderful first day on my new job. No complaints and my boss was so nice to me - everyone was really pleasant and they seem to like working there. I am blessed!!!

Eche, Lotsa, TRBL and Anna - I thought of you guys today. I thought - I can't wait to tell my curlfriends that I'm having a great day. Amazing how important web friends can become!

Lotsawaves · 10-17-2011, 04:49 PM

CP, I'm so glad it went so good today! Hopefully, you can sleep better tonight.

CIBC, I wish there was something I could do for you. I do think sending those cards was an excellent idea. It must have felt very cleansing. You did a good thing, so maybe something good will come back to you.

annabananalise · 10-17-2011, 05:30 PM

I'm so glad today went well, cp. You totally deserve it.

Oh sheesh, y'all. 'Tis my phone!

eche428 · 10-17-2011, 05:57 PM

Oh curlypearl! I'm so glad you had such a good day! I thought about you all day and am so happy you're off to a great start.

CIBC, my heart hurts for you when your Mom says this crap to you. I wish there was a way you could try to think like a duck and let all her negativity roll off you like water off a ducks back. Maybe you can try to picture a duck when she says bad stuff to you. Focus on the duck like a meditation. Watch the words literally roll off the ducks back. Think about the type styles and not her words. If that's too silly try this one ... when I worked for a boss that was so verbally abusive I was throwing up at work, I went to a counselor and she helped me with this exercise. Whenever he would start berating me (or anyone else - it all effected me) I would imagine a huge pink dodge ball enveloping me. His horrible words were like arrows that he'd hurl toward me but they'd just bounce right off the ball and never land on me. I practiced with the counselor and then on my own. I was able to do this when he'd start yelling and it really helped. Of course I left the job as soon as I could but it made the remaining time much more bearable. Plus it drove him nuts that he could no longer get to me! Big plus.

kasden · 10-17-2011, 07:28 PM

Ms. Pearl - SO so so glad it went well today! They're lucky to have you!!!