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Old 11-23-2011, 05:50 PM   #2221
 
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Double crossed fingers for you, D!
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Anna, Cmb and CIBC, Good Luck!!! If I got a job, anyone can. I really was about to give up...66, weird voice, hadn't worked in more than 2 years.

As MulticultCurly said - things will get better. I keep reading the posts here and crossing my fingers for all of you.
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I have been jobless for more then 6 months now and I'm desperate. I would do about anything right now.
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Alivine, what field are you looking at ? Maybe we can help make suggestions if you give us a little more information. I felt sad for you when you said you were desperate. I'm crossing my fingers for good luck for you!
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Old 11-25-2011, 09:20 AM   #2225
 
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Thanks, everybody.

My aunt REALLY irritated me yesterday...I shouldn't take the words of somebody who cropped me out of family photos because I'm not married too much to heart, I know...she asked, "Are you still getting unemployment?" and I said I was and she said, "Then WHAT are you worried about? Why do you care? You are getting unemployment and you're not paying rent. What's the big deal?"

It wasn't in a helpful, "Please don't stress yourself out so much!" way, it was said in a tone that she was rolling her eyes in a, "This girl doesn't have a care in the world!" way.

So, I'm not allowed to feel empty/bored/frustrated/rejected in this jobhunt because I have unemployment insurance coming-in and I have a roof to live under (which I would love to get out from underneath.)
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:42 PM   #2226
 
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Oh, my aunt also said, "Why don't you just get a job in a store? Everybody's hiring now for the holidays!"

--I probably will end-up doing that (because I'm going crazy with boredom) and I've ALREADY worked a retail job since being laid-off

--Even if I DID have a job in a store, I'd STILL be annoyed/frustrated/feeling bad about not having something in my field where I wanted to be.


Never ever EVER start a suggestion with, "Why don't you just..." to somebody who has been unemployed for a long time. Odds are quite good they have already THOUGHT of it.
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Old 12-01-2011, 05:27 PM   #2227
 
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I had that second interview on Monday and got my rejection yesterday

I had such a good feeling. I wasn't in there long, but I met with about six people at once and they told me that my first round was longer than anybody else's and that they had a very complete summary of me.

They raved about how great my references were.

And then I got the rejection.

I keep thinking I'm okay and doing better and then I get another rejection and I just feel like the biggest loser and failure in the world.

My mom has been supportive and sympathetic, at LEAST...I told her how hurt I felt on Thanksgiving because my aunt and one of my cousins truly treat me like I'm the Black Sheep Loser of the family. My mom agreed with me that they really are pretty awful to me because I don't have the things in their value system (husband, kids, money.) My cousin had one job in her entire life, which her mom got her, and didn't live on her own until she had a man to move in with...but apparently that makes her much more successful than I am. They also grill me about how much I get paid for stuff I write when it's produced, and don't understand why I do it if I'm not getting a lot of money for it. They just don't get it.

(Background info...this is the aunt who made the collage of everyone's wedding photos and cut me out of every single group shot because I was the only girl not married....................................)

I'm going to those "Positive Thinking" classes and trying to go to meetup groups to try to meet new people just to get out.

And Facebook is the absolute Devil. Every day, I'm hearing about somebody buying a house or getting a promotion or getting married or being pregnant.

I just want something good to happen. It doesn't even have to be a job. It just has to be something.
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Oh! Forgot to mention that when I got the email rejecting me, the young lady wrote that she hopes we can stay in touch and be friends because I'm so funny and interesting and we have so much in common.

Well, it's nice to know I'm such a lovely, likeable person.

Cuz darnit to hell, I don't feel that way right now.
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CIBC, you are getting so close - one of these days you're going to hit the jackpot. I really believe that.
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Old 12-01-2011, 10:07 PM   #2230
 
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Thank you! The salary for this job was less than I was making at my last job...not enough to live on alone and not even worth commuting for, probably...so I have to remind myself of that...maybe something better is coming.

I just feel like I am on a horrible wild goose chase. I just don't get it. I mean, I don't think EVERYBODY gets really nice rejection letters all the time like I do. I HAVE to be doing as well in these interviews as I feel I am. I just don't get it...I'm SO confused. What do these people WANT from me?

And I'm also SO SICK of hearing my mother cry poverty, after she turned down a job and several interviews.
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Oh! Forgot to mention that when I got the email rejecting me, the young lady wrote that she hopes we can stay in touch and be friends because I'm so funny and interesting and we have so much in common.

Well, it's nice to know I'm such a lovely, likeable person.

Cuz darnit to hell, I don't feel that way right now.
I think you should consider writing this woman back and asking for some more details as to why you weren't chosen for the position. I don't think you have anything to lose here.
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Oh! Forgot to mention that when I got the email rejecting me, the young lady wrote that she hopes we can stay in touch and be friends because I'm so funny and interesting and we have so much in common.

Well, it's nice to know I'm such a lovely, likeable person.

Cuz darnit to hell, I don't feel that way right now.
I think you should consider writing this woman back and asking for some more details as to why you weren't chosen for the position. I don't think you have anything to lose here.
She told me in the first email...I don't have any experience in payroll and they went with somebody who has worked in HR before.

Did I mention this was about a $25,000 job? That's below the NYC poverty line. I feel like these companies want A LOT for their dollar these days. Sheesh!!!
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Old 12-03-2011, 04:14 PM   #2233
 
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2 of my friends landed jobs this week. One had been unemployed for 2 years and the other for 1 year. Coincidentally I celebrated my 1 year anniversary at my job this week. I was unemployed for 8 months.

Please everyone keep your chin up. Your turn will come!!


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Old 12-05-2011, 08:08 AM   #2234
 
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I honestly can't begin to say how frustrated I am. It feels like I'm in an alternate universe at this point.
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I'm in depression mode today. I'm still in my pajamas watching horrible TV.

A girl I knew died last week (the daughter/sister of two good friends of mine) and I've just been so sad since.

I can't listen to my mom cry poverty anymore. She is turning down jobs and interviews. Even if she sells her house, it wouldn't give her money to live forever. She's back with her boyfriend...the one she discovered was cheating for nine years this spring...and I'm so mad at her that she is illustrating that she thinks an existence without a man is pointless.

She was awful to me this past year, calling me a selfish ***** and saying I was unsupportive of her and telling me how my sister hates me because if something happened to our mom she knows she'd have to "take care if me." WOW, she makes me feel like crap.

Maybe I was unsupportive during her difficult breakup because I knew she was going back to him and I knew that, once again, he'd be the center of her world.

When I was feeling great about that job last week, she nagged me about the hours because she was concerned about me watching HER dog, who she left here so she could run off and play with the man she was wishing death on since April. She wasn't even excited or hopeful for me. She just cared about her dog.

I'm so angry and hurt all around today. This sucks so much.
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I'm in depression mode today. I'm still in my pajamas watching horrible TV.

A girl I knew died last week (the daughter/sister of two good friends of mine) and I've just been so sad since.

I can't listen to my mom cry poverty anymore. She is turning down jobs and interviews. Even if she sells her house, it wouldn't give her money to live forever. She's back with her boyfriend...the one she discovered was cheating for nine years this spring...and I'm so mad at her that she is illustrating that she thinks an existence without a man is pointless.

She was awful to me this past year, calling me a selfish ***** and saying I was unsupportive of her and telling me how my sister hates me because if something happened to our mom she knows she'd have to "take care if me." WOW, she makes me feel like crap.

Maybe I was unsupportive during her difficult breakup because I knew she was going back to him and I knew that, once again, he'd be the center of her world.

When I was feeling great about that job last week, she nagged me about the hours because she was concerned about me watching HER dog, who she left here so she could run off and play with the man she was wishing death on since April. She wasn't even excited or hopeful for me. She just cared about her dog.

I'm so angry and hurt all around today. This sucks so much.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I really am.

Your mom sounds like a classic narcissist. Has she ever been diagnosed with a personality disorder?
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There will be dancing in the streets when you finally get out of that toxic environment, CIBC.

...Or maybe the sidewalks, to prevent casualties. But there will be dancing!
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I'm in depression mode today. I'm still in my pajamas watching horrible TV.

A girl I knew died last week (the daughter/sister of two good friends of mine) and I've just been so sad since.

I can't listen to my mom cry poverty anymore. She is turning down jobs and interviews. Even if she sells her house, it wouldn't give her money to live forever. She's back with her boyfriend...the one she discovered was cheating for nine years this spring...and I'm so mad at her that she is illustrating that she thinks an existence without a man is pointless.

She was awful to me this past year, calling me a selfish ***** and saying I was unsupportive of her and telling me how my sister hates me because if something happened to our mom she knows she'd have to "take care if me." WOW, she makes me feel like crap.

Maybe I was unsupportive during her difficult breakup because I knew she was going back to him and I knew that, once again, he'd be the center of her world.

When I was feeling great about that job last week, she nagged me about the hours because she was concerned about me watching HER dog, who she left here so she could run off and play with the man she was wishing death on since April. She wasn't even excited or hopeful for me. She just cared about her dog.

I'm so angry and hurt all around today. This sucks so much.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I really am.

Your mom sounds like a classic narcissist. Has she ever been diagnosed with a personality disorder?
Not that I know of. Funny you said that, because she diagnosed her long-time boyfriend as a narcissist. Maybe he is, too.

I just think she's totally Jekyll and Hyde. I can't believe how she constantly contradicts herself. I can't win.
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I'm giving the local temp agencies another shot...I think my unemployment is good for about another six months and, good lord, I hope I find something by then, but I really need to get out.

I really am just INCREDIBLY frustrated. I can't believe it's been over a year.

I have one well-meaning friend that I'm ready to belt. She lives in another part of the country and works in a different field and keeps giving me advice and she's driving me crazy. She's the one that keeps telling me, "You KNOW your resume is dead after six months, right?" (So...all my experiences are negated now? Ohhhkay.)
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What's gotten into me??? I feel horrible the past few days. I can't turn-off the voices in my head that just say "failure failure failure."I feel like everybody is judging me like I'm a loser. I'm ashamed to go anywhere where I'll run into people I know because I don't want to hear,"Why don't you just get a job?"

I can't even get into Christmas. I'm so lonely and frustrated and scared. I've been on so many interviews. Why won't anybody hire me?
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