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Old 11-06-2012, 07:58 PM   #3181
 
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CIBC, go meet him!!! what's the worse that could happen? He falls madly in love with you, you guys marry and you can spend all your time writting. and after a few tony's and plays on broadway you two have beautiful curlyhead babies. that would suck so bad.
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I emailed the old man back and thanked him, said I really enjoyed meeting with him (and I totally did, just don't want to be his assistant) and that I was definitely interested in talking to this other office if he could arrange that.

Haven't heard from either guy yet!

I'm also concerned because I DID indeed give this guy my card, so why isn't he just calling me directly?

Do you think he lost my card and he is going to find it on New Year's Eve and call me and track me down at the Dog Treats Barkery I'm going to be working at? (I'm not. But I want to. It sounds like my own little Hallmark Christmas movie.)
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my mom is job hunting. but i feel so bad for her. she is almost 60 and should be thinking about retirement. she has a job that pays min wage, but promised they would go up by 2 bucks at the beginning of this year. the year is almost over and no raise. she has no skills. she jays she can try for a bookkeeping job but fails to realize she needs to be able to turn on a computer. she says she can open her own business, but has no capital. she says she can get a loan but has no credit nor a business plan to present. i feel so bad that she will probably be stuck at this dead end job until she dies.
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my mom is job hunting. but i feel so bad for her. she is almost 60 and should be thinking about retirement. she has a job that pays min wage, but promised they would go up by 2 bucks at the beginning of this year. the year is almost over and no raise. she has no skills. she jays she can try for a bookkeeping job but fails to realize she needs to be able to turn on a computer. she says she can open her own business, but has no capital. she says she can get a loan but has no credit nor a business plan to present. i feel so bad that she will probably be stuck at this dead end job until she dies.
She may qualify for a gov't program if she receives assistance. She could also see if her local library offers basic computer literacy classes for seniors.
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my mom is job hunting. but i feel so bad for her. she is almost 60 and should be thinking about retirement. she has a job that pays min wage, but promised they would go up by 2 bucks at the beginning of this year. the year is almost over and no raise. she has no skills. she jays she can try for a bookkeeping job but fails to realize she needs to be able to turn on a computer. she says she can open her own business, but has no capital. she says she can get a loan but has no credit nor a business plan to present. i feel so bad that she will probably be stuck at this dead end job until she dies.
She may qualify for a gov't program if she receives assistance. She could also see if her local library offers basic computer literacy classes for seniors.
You would think my mom would quallify for some type of assistance, but she doesnt. not yet anyway. i try to tell her about certain programs which she says she doesnt have time for. or cant get there. i want my mom to be happy at a job, but honestly she really has this BIG dreams that just will not come true. i dont want to keep telling her, " yeah ma, you can do it." when i know it wont happen.

a couple years ago she told me she was opening a clothing store. i asked her the simple question, "where will you get your cloths?" she flew off the handle, telling me i didnt believe. so now i just play along and hope for the best.

oh and by the way, my mom has bipolar and she sometimes goes off her meds.
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So, I started working at the store on Tuesday. Our area was very much impacted by the hurricane and by the snowstorm yesterday (awful!)

I trained for a few hours on Tuesday and worked a full day yesterday. I was supposed to work 9 hours today, but wasn't able to because they had a delayed opening and early closing due to the snow.

I have my schedule for next week and was given 40 hours. The hourly wage is pretty good (more than I've ever made in retail!) so I'm very glad about that and happy to have hours.

I'm still applying like mad.

I admit, I'm frustrated! I was making such a good salary with my last job and was so excited to finally move-out. I just have to accept it wasn't meant to be, for whatever reason. I stumbled upon an email I had written during my last job to a friend, talking about how I couldn't handle how miserable and nasty the lady who was my immediate supervisor was, and it made me happy that I know I don't have to deal with her anymore. I think working with that lady would have driven me crazy if I had to do it much longer. It's a blessing. l have to keep telling myself that! But the money WAS nice...

Also, a lot of apartments in Hoboken were completely flooded last week. I was supposed to move to Hoboken. Another blessing.

I miss New York! But I'm grateful to have 40 hours a week of a good wage.
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I'm so glad you've started and have good hours! Don't worry, CIBC, you'll get back to New York - I know you will.
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So...

I had an interview for a clinical/administrative assistant position at a hospital that I really want last Wednesday (1 week ago). I'd be working with the physicians, doing patient assessments and other clinical stuff along with assisting the office with administrative stuff. It's the perfect opportunity for me since I want to work in the medical field and I can see the potential for this position benefiting me greatly in so many ways. The benefits and starting salary are great too. They told me that they were looking for new graduates specifically and that this position is unique. It has been open since July.

I had to take an assessment test for some computer stuff and Microsoft applications (word, powerpoint, excel, access ) and I did excellent on all of them (above 90). I got 87% on Access and the HR manager was blown away because she said most people get in the 50-60% range. Shoot, I was even surprised. Anyway I interviewed with a total of 3 people (1 from HR and 2 from the department I'd be working in) and all three interviews went very well. They seem impressed with me and that they liked me. I sent the 2 people thank you emails that same night and I left a message to the HR person the next day.

Now it's been a week and I haven't heard anything from anyone. Before I left my last interview I asked when I would hear anything and she said about 2 weeks. The guy I interviewed with said they are looking at other qualified applicants, and that's the status of my application on the website.

I guess I'm worried about nothing but I just don't know. This whole week has been a painful waiting game. That was my first in person interview since I graduated college. It went extremely well in my opinion and I'd be honest with myself about it being otherwise. I've heard that if they don't offer you an interview right then and there that you're probably not going to get it.

Is 2 weeks+ typical? Why didn't they respond to my messages? Should I call for an update? Should I call HR or the people in my potential department?

I feel like I should be doing something else but I'm not sure what else to do but wait. One thing I realized I forgot was to give them my updated resume and references. But they never asked. I probably should have offered them.
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Whoa that was way longer than I anticipated. Sorry. I just needed to share my struggle and vent a little bit to the universe.....lol

I've been trying to be positive about things in general and I think that's been helping me not have such bad luck. I know with this I just need to wait it out. I called today but I didn't get through. I was gonna leave a message but decided not to. I'll call next Monday if I haven't heard anything by then.
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I had an interview for a clinical/administrative assistant position at a hospital that I really want last Wednesday (1 week ago). I'd be working with the physicians, doing patient assessments and other clinical stuff along with assisting the office with administrative stuff. It's the perfect opportunity for me since I want to work in the medical field and I can see the potential for this position benefiting me greatly in so many ways. The benefits and starting salary are great too. They told me that they were looking for new graduates specifically and that this position is unique. It has been open since July.

I had to take an assessment test for some computer stuff and Microsoft applications (word, powerpoint, excel, access ) and I did excellent on all of them (above 90). I got 87% on Access and the HR manager was blown away because she said most people get in the 50-60% range. Shoot, I was even surprised. Anyway I interviewed with a total of 3 people (1 from HR and 2 from the department I'd be working in) and all three interviews went very well. They seem impressed with me and that they liked me. I sent the 2 people thank you emails that same night and I left a message to the HR person the next day.

Now it's been a week and I haven't heard anything from anyone. Before I left my last interview I asked when I would hear anything and she said about 2 weeks. The guy I interviewed with said they are looking at other qualified applicants, and that's the status of my application on the website.

I guess I'm worried about nothing but I just don't know. This whole week has been a painful waiting game. That was my first in person interview since I graduated college. It went extremely well in my opinion and I'd be honest with myself about it being otherwise. I've heard that if they don't offer you an interview right then and there that you're probably not going to get it.

Is 2 weeks+ typical? Why didn't they respond to my messages? Should I call for an update? Should I call HR or the people in my potential department?

I feel like I should be doing something else but I'm not sure what else to do but wait. One thing I realized I forgot was to give them my updated resume and references. But they never asked. I probably should have offered them.
They said you'd probably here something in 2 weeks? In 2 weeks I'd follow up and ask for an update of the status of your application. And then I'd keep waiting. Heck, at this point you literally might not hear anything until January! People are on vacation, and holidays, and things just get skipped over in the hectic shuffle of stuff to do.

This is just one of the reasons you should always keep applying and keep interviewing even if you had an interview go great! And remember, if you don't get the job, it can very well have nothing to do with you. You could have been perfectly qualified and people's favorite person to meet with...but it could go to an internal candidate from another department, or to someone with a reference from the department, or any number of reasons. Don't get discouraged!
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They said you'd probably here something in 2 weeks? In 2 weeks I'd follow up and ask for an update of the status of your application. And then I'd keep waiting. Heck, at this point you literally might not hear anything until January! People are on vacation, and holidays, and things just get skipped over in the hectic shuffle of stuff to do.

This is just one of the reasons you should always keep applying and keep interviewing even if you had an interview go great! And remember, if you don't get the job, it can very well have nothing to do with you. You could have been perfectly qualified and people's favorite person to meet with...but it could go to an internal candidate from another department, or to someone with a reference from the department, or any number of reasons. Don't get discouraged!
Yea I figured. Holiday season is among us. I hope I hear something soon though (before December). And I hope that something is an offer.

I'm keeping hope alive.
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Old 11-14-2012, 07:51 PM   #3192
 
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...trying not to give in to complete and utter despair.....

My rent is late every.single.month. My entire paycheck goes to rent/rent late fees..and gas.

If I lose my place I have no where else to go...I'll have to pull my daughter out of school and everything. Things are steadily sinking and I don't know what to do...

Will they get sick of me paying late and evict me? I'm terrified



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sinistral, that's such a tough bind you're in. Have you talked to your landlord? Maybe they'd be willing to work something out with you and waive the late fees until you're back on your feet. It can't hurt to ask and it might help if they know your situation. ((((hugs))))
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Definitely talk to your landlord, sinistral. They might be able to postpone or waive your late fees.
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{{{sinistral}}}

I dont know where you live, but in Baltimore city, they have prograoms to help pay bills. for ex: you can apply for assitance to pay for gas and electric by contacted the gas compnay and explaining your situation. if they feel you qualify, they will lower your payments.
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i dont want to derail the thread, but I have to vent/rant.

What the hell kind of country is this when someone is at risk of being homeless with their child, but we are suppose to be the richest most powerful force on earth? But then those with 5 homes tell those on the threshold of sleeping on the street to stop being lazy and dont expect handouts. those same people who have no idea what hunger is. or not knowing if you will have someone to sleep next month. or wondering if your child will be forced to sleep in a homeless shelter. I dont care that they are rich. let them hoard all their money and never give to charity. its their money. But dont assume just because someone is not bringing in 7 figures a year or have a rich daddy or married rich, they are lazy. we work even harder then the rich just to survive. Dont assume we all want to sit on our backsides all day waiting on our govt checks to come in. most of us want to work, we just need a helping hand, not a hand out.
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i dont want to derail the thread, but I have to vent/rant.

What the hell kind of country is this when someone is at risk of being homeless with their child, but we are suppose to be the richest most powerful force on earth? But then those with 5 homes tell those on the threshold of sleeping on the street to stop being lazy and dont expect handouts. those same people who have no idea what hunger is. or not knowing if you will have someone to sleep next month. or wondering if your child will be forced to sleep in a homeless shelter. I dont care that they are rich. let them hoard all their money and never give to charity. its their money. But dont assume just because someone is not bringing in 7 figures a year or have a rich daddy or married rich, they are lazy. we work even harder then the rich just to survive. Dont assume we all want to sit on our backsides all day waiting on our govt checks to come in. most of us want to work, we just need a helping hand, not a hand out.
Belieeeeveeee me.....I rant about the same thing!!! I read the threads here, see it in real life, and I just don't understand it--what do they expect people out here to do??? WHAT???

I'm trying to remain calm and analytical and figure out a plan.....I mean, MY parents are broke, too! They CAN'T loan me money. Incidentally, it PISSES me off when EVERYBODY suggests this. Goddammit, I'm 42 years old!!! My parents are older and they are broke!!!

And YES, I've ALREADY been "back to school"!!! I can't even take the one class I need to complete the program yet, because I'm out here trying to SURVIVE.

I have 2 sisters and both of them are struggling. One's a single parent with 2 kids; the other is a SAHM but she's married and her husband recently lost HIS job. They have 2 small kids. They can't help much, either. Both my sisters and BIL are going to school also. WTF do they expect ppl out here to do???

If I move back with my parents--they live in an extremely rural area. Where will I find a job? Unless I just work at Walmart or somewhere and live very frugally until I can get a toehold? Can I even apply for assistance while living with them and qualify? Suppose I can't even GET a job? I mean......

....and then their WATER situation isn't so good, either. Our well went bad or something, and they have to use another well down the way....it's very hard to explain but their water usage has to be VERY limited.

If I move in with my parents it'll be an hour away....my sister and aunt live 3-4 hours away. I mean should I just move back in with my ex-husband???

And my bills are NOT high!!! Well, the rent ain't ideal but I DON'T have a car payment, DON'T have a cable bill b/c I DON'T have a TV, DON'T eat a lot or buy clothes...

.....the one "frivolous" thing I had was a Smartphone but 1) that got disconnected today because I don't know when or if I will ever have the money to pay the bill; 2) I'm locked into a contract until next April and if I can ever figure out what to do, I'm going to a prepaid phone or seriously downgrading all the way down to bedrock when my contract is up.

It's just that my job pays so LITTLE and I can't find another!!! If I could just make a little more money, we'd be okay!!!

And because of my situation (not having people to move in with), I've always worked VERY hard to maintain a clean rental history. My rent is now late EVERY.SINGLE.MONTH. Am I doomed forever after if sh*t really goes down the tubes and I have to break my lease? Does anybody know?? Bolded because I was hoping someone could chime in on this particular question.


I'm sorry to derail the thread with another rant, I can make another one or something......
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I'm so sorry, sinstral. I wish I could help.
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{{{thanks everyone}}}

Called child support services today and learned that the process has been started. Before, I hadn't heard anything at all.

Going to re-visit Dept of Soc Svcs and try again for assistance. Unfortunately, in order to go there I'll have to miss time from work which I don't get paid for, because I am a temp with no benefits.

Had an interview with another temp agency yesterday, although they didn't have anything available.

Applied for a permanent position at my present assignment and (gasp) got a call back......went through a phone screening, but others here have told me that the hiring process for this company is very, very, VERY long. So I'm not holding my breath for this one because I'm forced to take the very next opportunity that pops up.

I'd LIKE to wait, because this is one of the best companies in the city to work for, but I can't.

Trying to remember how much worse a lot of people have it than me, and trying to stay proactive. Good-luck vibes, positive thoughts and prayers for all those who are struggling.
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{{{thanks everyone}}}

Called child support services today and learned that the process has been started. Before, I hadn't heard anything at all.

Going to re-visit Dept of Soc Svcs and try again for assistance. Unfortunately, in order to go there I'll have to miss time from work which I don't get paid for, because I am a temp with no benefits.

Had an interview with another temp agency yesterday, although they didn't have anything available.

Applied for a permanent position at my present assignment and (gasp) got a call back......went through a phone screening, but others here have told me that the hiring process for this company is very, very, VERY long. So I'm not holding my breath for this one because I'm forced to take the very next opportunity that pops up.

I'd LIKE to wait, because this is one of the best companies in the city to work for, but I can't.

Trying to remember how much worse a lot of people have it than me, and trying to stay proactive. Good-luck vibes, positive thoughts and prayers for all those who are struggling.
I have no words of wisdom, but I am so sorry that you are struggling like this. I hope that you are able to talk to your landlord about what is going on and get some relief from the late fees. Perhaps you could work out a deal where you pay your rent biweekly to coincide with your pay? (If you do indeed get paid biweekly.) That way, instead of paying one big bill every month, you could take care of it in bite-sized pieces. Your landlord might be willing to do it you set it up as an auto-draft. Just a thought.

I'm thinking of you and hoping that you find permanent work soon.
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