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Old 03-03-2011, 02:00 PM   #821
 
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I got rejected for a job without even getting an interview. Apparently they had a lot of applications. I'm disappointed as I matched the job spec scarily well and I think I was a really good candidate.
I've had that happen countless times. When a place is getting hundreds of resumes for any given position, you're basically sending your resume into a black hole.

Have you gotten any unbiased feedback on your resume? Maybe it's as easy as making a few tweaks or adding some key words. If you apply online, you pretty much have to include key words from the job posting or you'll never make it past the initial scan. I have definitely been getting more interviews since I hired a career coach. She reviewed my resume and gave me some great tips for positioning myself better.
Well, I've been to a job hunting workshop and I've had lots of tips on CV writing in the past. I think my CV is pretty good and obviously I tailor it to every position I apply for, but perhaps I should get someone else to give it the once over. I did apply online, but just had to email my CV and a covering letter.

So what do you do to stand out? I think I did stand out for the position I went for. I had all they wanted and more. I had both the experience and the qualifications. Also, with some of what they were after, I don't think that many people would have had all of it. Or maybe I'm fooling myself. I'm not saying that I'm the greatest thing ever (because I know damn well I'm not) just that for that job specifically, I was a great candidate. And now I'm rambling. I'm totally blaming it on the bad cold I've got. I hope I'm not coming across as ranting at you because I totally don't mean to and I appreciate your help. But yup, I hope that a few tweaks is all it will take. I knew the job market was bad, but still thought I was in with a decent chance of an interview. At the same time, I know this sort of thing is happening to thousands to people, so I shouldn't be acting so special.
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Applied for another set of jobs, let's see how these go.
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Old 03-03-2011, 07:30 PM   #823
 
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What was that what I said about not telling my mother anything from now on?

I'm sitting here, exhausted and PMSing and crying.

One of the staffing agencies I met with today was LOVELY. They were so great. I felt so good talking to them. I was there for about an hour, very detailed.

I told my mother.

Mistake.

My mom said, "They would have called you by now and set you on interviews if they liked you."

I feel like such a loser. I wonder what she thinks I do at interviews that ruins them all, as she views any job I interview for and don't get. Does she think I curse at people and go in wearing pajamas?

I'm just so sad and frustrated and I can't handle all of her criticism anymore.
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Old 03-03-2011, 09:57 PM   #824
 
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I know my job search is nothing compared to you guys who want full time jobs. But...I have a question..
when applying at a food place, what is the optimal time to go? in the morning? in the afternoon? Does it matter? I know they get busy at certain times so I wouldn't want to come at a busy hour.
It depends on the type of food place, but if it's not a sit-down restaurant, then I would say anytime before noon on a weekday. The manager or assistant manager would probably be there. Also, those are usually slower times than Saturday nights and the weekday lunch rush.
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Christine!!!!!

You are NOT a loser.

I mean this in the kindest possible way - STOP enabling her!

Do not confide in her. Do not allow her to speak to you this way. The moment she starts to turn nasty, calmly hang up/walk away. If you feel you need to, say to her - I am not prepared to let you talk to me this way, so I am walking away from this conversation.

Don't argue with her. Just ignore her. You will feel much better for it and eventually she may start to understand her own behavior (unlikely).

Please. Just stop engaging with her.

How many people are unemployed right now? There just aren't enough jobs. Its got nothing whatsoever to do with you personally. Plus - you only met then today. No one would get job interviews pouring in immediately.

The mother talks out of her a*s. Why does she view all the interviews you go on? Don't bother telling her. I wouldn't let that woman know a single thing about my life.

Want me to come round and slap her for you?
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Christine!!!!!

You are NOT a loser.

I mean this in the kindest possible way - STOP enabling her!

Do not confide in her. Do not allow her to speak to you this way. The moment she starts to turn nasty, calmly hang up/walk away. If you feel you need to, say to her - I am not prepared to let you talk to me this way, so I am walking away from this conversation.

Don't argue with her. Just ignore her. You will feel much better for it and eventually she may start to understand her own behavior (unlikely).

Please. Just stop engaging with her.

How many people are unemployed right now? There just aren't enough jobs. Its got nothing whatsoever to do with you personally. Plus - you only met then today. No one would get job interviews pouring in immediately.

The mother talks out of her a*s. Why does she view all the interviews you go on? Don't bother telling her. I wouldn't let that woman know a single thing about my life.

Want me to come round and slap her for you?
Thank you

I won't see her until mid-May now.

I'm not telling her about interviews.

I'm not telling her if I get a job.

I'm not telling her if I get engaged to Apolo Ohno or if I buy an island.
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Good

(((((hugs)))))

Im afraid I got all worked up in that last post lol


But do, of course, tell us, if you buy an island. Caus that sounds like fun. An island for curlies.....
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The staffing agency has an interview for me already!!!!!!!
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Old 03-04-2011, 08:53 AM   #831
 
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YAY CibC!!

And I must say that I totally agree with Kat's earlier post.

{{{Hugs to all}}}

Any updates from anyone else? Mrspoppers? ~GP~???

Hoping for the best for you guys.
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Good

(((((hugs)))))

Im afraid I got all worked up in that last post lol


But do, of course, tell us, if you buy an island. Caus that sounds like fun. An island for curlies.....
Thank you so much kat!!!! You've been amazingly supportive and sweet.

I have to accept that I will NEVER do right in ANY way with my mom.

If I brought home Prince Harry tomorrow, she'd probably comment that I couldn't find a American Boy that wanted me.
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Well my mums not like yours but she can often be spiteful too.

Right now all she makes is nasty little comments about my lack of having a job when she thinks I can't hear her (i.e when Im upstairs with the door shut).
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I got rejected for a job without even getting an interview. Apparently they had a lot of applications. I'm disappointed as I matched the job spec scarily well and I think I was a really good candidate.
I've had that happen countless times. When a place is getting hundreds of resumes for any given position, you're basically sending your resume into a black hole.

Have you gotten any unbiased feedback on your resume? Maybe it's as easy as making a few tweaks or adding some key words. If you apply online, you pretty much have to include key words from the job posting or you'll never make it past the initial scan. I have definitely been getting more interviews since I hired a career coach. She reviewed my resume and gave me some great tips for positioning myself better.

This happened to me last week. I just know I was perfect for the position but they said I wasn't. I should've sought a career coach earlier when I had some money.

P.S. Thanks, Frau!
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Well my mums not like yours but she can often be spiteful too.

Right now all she makes is nasty little comments about my lack of having a job when she thinks I can't hear her (i.e when Im upstairs with the door shut).
Ohhh, you would think jobs were falling from the sky! Nobody would CHOOSE this! I'm so sorry.
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I really would love for my unemployment to kick in soon.

I was finally able to get a person on the phone this morning (I now know the trick...you need to call a minute before their phones open for the day). She told me they are still investigating my claim to see if I was an employee and if they determine I am, then my former boss pays a very meager fee (I believe 1.4% of six months of my salary...sounds like a teeny price to pay for the hell he put me through!) and I can collect.

The woman was nice so I didn't want to take out my frustrations on her, but I wanted to go, "IT HAS BEEN FOUR MONTHS! YOU KEEP SENDING ME FORMS AND I KEEP SENDING THEM BACK TO YOU! I WAS OBVIOUSLY AN EMPLOYEE! HE WAS WRONG!"
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And one reason I really want my unemployment to kick in...I would like it to use for therapy and possibly medication!

I'm still really, really struggling with my feelings towards what happened on the day I lost my job.

I've been reading-up on it and this caught my interest:

Job Loss, Trauma, and PTSD (page 2) | ThirdAge.com Articles

It's comforting to know that other people have had the same emotions that I am having.

The thing is, last summer, I had never been happier or felt better about myself or more accomplished or loved. And now I've done a complete 180. It's not just about the job.
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So bored of filling out the same thing over and over again on different forms

The trouble is my CV looks ****. To be frank. I've had 3 canteen jobs, on the till and washing up. Thats it.

Nobody cares that I've been at uni studying, or that I have taken part and organized exhibitions.

No wonder no one bother replying to me. I wouldn't bother replying to me. The only people who do reply (well not lately) are washing up/serving customers in cafes jobs. I dont want to be doing that. Just because I have done that doesn't mean I can't do other things. But no one is willing to give the chance.

Im scared.
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So bored of filling out the same thing over and over again on different forms

The trouble is my CV looks ****. To be frank. I've had 3 canteen jobs, on the till and washing up. Thats it.

Nobody cares that I've been at uni studying, or that I have taken part and organized exhibitions.

No wonder no one bother replying to me. I wouldn't bother replying to me. The only people who do reply (well not lately) are washing up/serving customers in cafes jobs. I dont want to be doing that. Just because I have done that doesn't mean I can't do other things. But no one is willing to give the chance.

Im scared.

I get scared of that too. I mean I'm still in uni (I like saying uni ahha) but I can't even get a freaking part time job because my resume is crap because i have no job experience. And if I won't get hired NOW, what about when I do graduate and I've gone all this time in freaking school with NO JOB because I can't get a job because of lack of experience and then how am I supposed to get a job after school because I never got any experience because I can't get experience because you have to have experience to get experience?!?
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Have you two considered doing some voluntary work in order to get experience? Apologies if you've considered/tried this already. I also know that you are looking to actually earn money. But as you're finding it that difficult to find paid work and a problem is lack of experience, then voluntary work could be the way to go. It could give you experience, learn new skills and a reference.
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