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Old 07-13-2011, 04:00 PM   #1301
 
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Rejection e-mail today. This is the potential job I cared about the most. They didn't even bother calling me for an interview.
I'm sorry. I have gotten a bunch of those, including for admin jobs that I know I'm darn well qualified for. I swear, there is no rhyme or reason for these things..........................
+1 - it's so frustrating. The admin world is insane.

Saila, I'm sorry they didn't interview you. Their loss, for sure!
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Congrats curlypearl!! I'm so happy for you!

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I applied for a bunch of jobs last night and some of them sounded SO great for me and if they don't call me, I'm just dumbfounded.

I also applied for a bunch of jobs with the publisher Scholastic.I have interviewed with Scholastic probably about 10 times over the years, always have amazing interviews and never. hear. back. Actually, the very last time I interviewed with them (about 5.5 years ago, right before I got another job) the woman wrote me a VERY sympathetic rejection that I was great, she could tell how much I wanted to work there, etc. etc. etc...BUT..."we're hiring internally".

I swear, every time I go to that building, my heart soars. It's so beautiful. I feel like such a geek. I would love to be around all those children's books.

Anyway...I'm sure they'll call me in, I'm sure I'll have a fantastic interview and I'm sure I'll never hear from them again. That's the way the cookie crumbles.
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Pls pls pls read this book - "what colour is your parachute". I was out of work last year & this book absolutely changed everything for me . I've passed this onto so many of my unemployed friends & it has def helped all of us.

remember times are tough and that's no reflection on you or skills.

I think the previous poster's suggestion of volunteering is a good one if u have time. Volunteering is a great way to keep Yr skills up to date.

Keep positive. Best of luck in Yr search. & I really hope u find something soon.

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And I am looking forward to the day when I am SO successful and HAPPY and they're all coming to me for loans. I have to tell myself that day will come or I will go insane.
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I got a job!!!

Check out the update on my thread: "Advice on dressing for a different type of interview."

I'm excited, scared, relieved !!!

I'm going to keep watching this thread and rooting hard for all of you, my curly friends. I SO hope we are all successful.
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!

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Another battle with my mom, in a restaurant I thought she was in sane mode.

She told me how much my sister resents and dislikes me because if something happened to my mom, she would have to "take care of me."

They talk like I am some vegetable who can't speak or walk.

Just because I am struggling now does not me I will be forever.

I am not complaining about her, I recognize that it is ludicrous that she has given up that I will ever find any kind of success or even get married at this stage of life.

She also kept bringing up how everybody else will suffer if something happens to me since I am uninsured.

Well...

Odds are I won't get hit by a car tomorrow.

My sister's $75000 wedding, down payment on house, two elaborate showers, several parties, furniture, etc.,etc.,etc.????

Already happened.

I said as soon as I found a job I was moving out...she said I could never afford it and to "stop threatening" her.
Thats kind of a low blow. Try not to let her or anyone else's negativity get u down. Instead try to spin it so it fuels Yr motivation.

For example, u have 2 more things to spur u on - move out of Yr mom's house & prove them all wrong.

Don't let other ppl's negativity drag u down. Easier said then done ... I know.

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Thanks a lot Annabanana. That is very sweet of you!

You are still looking at law firms right? That's a very tough search. How is it going?

CIBC, I'm so sorry that on top of having to look for a job in this environment, you have to deal with a toxic family.
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And in the midst of everything, my sister called me to babysit.

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(She doesn't pay me.)

Is this a comedy routine? I kinda feel like it has to be at this point.
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Another battle with my mom, in a restaurant I thought she was in sane mode.

She told me how much my sister resents and dislikes me because if something happened to my mom, she would have to "take care of me."

They talk like I am some vegetable who can't speak or walk.

Just because I am struggling now does not me I will be forever.

I am not complaining about her, I recognize that it is ludicrous that she has given up that I will ever find any kind of success or even get married at this stage of life.

She also kept bringing up how everybody else will suffer if something happens to me since I am uninsured.

Well...

Odds are I won't get hit by a car tomorrow.

My sister's $75000 wedding, down payment on house, two elaborate showers, several parties, furniture, etc.,etc.,etc.????

Already happened.

I said as soon as I found a job I was moving out...she said I could never afford it and to "stop threatening" her.
Thats kind of a low blow. Try not to let her or anyone else's negativity get u down. Instead try to spin it so it fuels Yr motivation.

For example, u have 2 more things to spur u on - move out of Yr mom's house & prove them all wrong.

Don't let other ppl's negativity drag u down. Easier said then done ... I know.

Chin up

Thank you. I know that everything she says is illogical and she's also contradicted herself a million times with everything she's ever said.

I have it in my head that one day I WILL be very successful (and happy!) and married to a good person, even if she assumes that none of that is in my future.

She tells me I'm delusional and in lalaland if I ever speak about the future, having a good job and/or my writing being successful.

Aren't parents supposed to encourage their daughters to fly???
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It's not just law firms, it's any job that I'm remotely qualified for.

It's to be expected since I have a BA (which my mom thinks is useless) and I'm leaving for grad school. I've tried looking for jobs in my school's city, but that's nigh impossible. Insert more wallowing and self pity.

Anymoo, congrats again! I hope your first day goes well.

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CIBC, I'm sending good vibes towards to you. You're such a great and strong personality if you can still bear it. I would probably already hit my head against the wall (what I've done sometimes after some vivid discussions with my mother regarding to importance of being married). Wait until you'll be able to move out, it will help a lot. Do you mother also trash talk about others who in her opinion behave dictatorial towards to their kids without even noticing she behaves the same way towards to me? It's really a Jeckyll and Hyde stuff about them. Sometimes very supportive and sometimes just driving me to distraction.
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Annabanana, wallow away! I totally get that. Joking aside, you don't sound self-pitying any more than the rest of us. This is such a very hard time. I'm 66 and never in my life has there been such a tough economy.

I'm not sure I understand - are you going to grad school in the fall or just looking into it because you can't find a job yet?

Wishing you the very best!!!
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CIBC

Yeah parents are meant to encourage their kids.

U need to try to put her negativity behind u & keep on filling yr time with positive action. Don't harp on it. Just let it go. You have better things to be doing.

Job/marriage/wealth dont define u as a person... Just remember that.
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Another battle with my mom, in a restaurant I thought she was in sane mode.

She told me how much my sister resents and dislikes me because if something happened to my mom, she would have to "take care of me."

They talk like I am some vegetable who can't speak or walk.

Just because I am struggling now does not me I will be forever.

I am not complaining about her, I recognize that it is ludicrous that she has given up that I will ever find any kind of success or even get married at this stage of life.

She also kept bringing up how everybody else will suffer if something happens to me since I am uninsured.

Well...

Odds are I won't get hit by a car tomorrow.

My sister's $75000 wedding, down payment on house, two elaborate showers, several parties, furniture, etc.,etc.,etc.????

Already happened.

I said as soon as I found a job I was moving out...she said I could never afford it and to "stop threatening" her.
Ok seriously, I know you live with your mom, but is there anyway you can just keep away from her??

Like, come on Mom! Really??
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Negotiating a job offer... on pins and needles today waiting for a response...
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I deferred my admission to the winter quarter months ago for a few reasons. So I don't start school until January. The job would be to save some money. And I was going to work while in school.

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Hi ladies! I just found this site this morning, in the search for a possible new haircut. But, as I was browsing, I found this thread and ended up reading through many many pages of posts. How amazing that you all have been having this conversation for years now! Wow. Anyway, I feel like it was fortuitous in some way that I stumbled upon this thread, as so much that you all have posted so closely describes me and my journey.

I will save you all the details, for the moment, but I wanted to say how interesting it is that job-hunting has such a wide-spread effect on so many parts of our lives. While there are the obvious effects, like money issues, there are so many more intrusions. The depression and feelings of worthlessness; the hope and excitement and the following let-down; the family troubles; the relationship troubles; the confusion stemming from the double-standards (I'm OVER-qualified? seriously?); and on and on, you get the point.

I have given up on my job hunt - which has been going on since January, when I graduated with my 2nd bachelor's after leaving a HORRIBLE, soul-crushing job - and resigned myself to going back to school for a Master's in English Literature. I'm not sure this will help me get a job, but having some intellectual pursuits makes it possible for me to get out of bed in the morning, to do the dishes everyday, to have a schedule, and to focus on something other than my own misery. Yes, there is a high cost associated ($60k and stress!), but it can't be a higher cost than doing nothing all day, sinking deeper into a depression (which affects my relationship, my weight, etc.).

It seems like there are a number of smart, strong, capable women on here who have had hard times thrown at them. It inspires me that you all have found avenues to support each other (in unlikely places), in what seems like a very non-judgmental environment! Even if I don't continue to post here, I wanted you to know that there are others out there who share your struggles, and whose lives mirror your own in a way that gives us a stronger tie to our own humanity and to the human experience that we all share.

I wish you all the best of luck in your lives!

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Okay, I lied, I will share a detail! My "umph" was lost when I applied at a company, had a phone interview, took 5 hours of standardized tests (which I did very well on), and then had 5 hours of face-time interviews with a total of 6 people. They gave me a tour of the facility. They told me how much they loved me. yadayada. I sent a follow-up email, like they asked me to do. And I never heard back. Not a rejection letter. Not a F-off. No reply to my email. NOTHING! How discouraging.

It's sad that we are in a situation such that employers can be as picky as they want, turning away competent, reliable workers because they are "too old", have been looking for work too long, are fat (I read this on some job post somewhere that this actually happens), or for any number of other irrelevant, outdated, or otherwise unconscionable reasons.
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Hi ladies! I just found this site this morning, in the search for a possible new haircut. But, as I was browsing, I found this thread and ended up reading through many many pages of posts. How amazing that you all have been having this conversation for years now! Wow. Anyway, I feel like it was fortuitous in some way that I stumbled upon this thread, as so much that you all have posted so closely describes me and my journey.

I will save you all the details, for the moment, but I wanted to say how interesting it is that job-hunting has such a wide-spread effect on so many parts of our lives. While there are the obvious effects, like money issues, there are so many more intrusions. The depression and feelings of worthlessness; the hope and excitement and the following let-down; the family troubles; the relationship troubles; the confusion stemming from the double-standards (I'm OVER-qualified? seriously?); and on and on, you get the point.

I have given up on my job hunt - which has been going on since January, when I graduated with my 2nd bachelor's after leaving a HORRIBLE, soul-crushing job - and resigned myself to going back to school for a Master's in English Literature. I'm not sure this will help me get a job, but having some intellectual pursuits makes it possible for me to get out of bed in the morning, to do the dishes everyday, to have a schedule, and to focus on something other than my own misery. Yes, there is a high cost associated ($60k and stress!), but it can't be a higher cost than doing nothing all day, sinking deeper into a depression (which affects my relationship, my weight, etc.).

It seems like there are a number of smart, strong, capable women on here who have had hard times thrown at them. It inspires me that you all have found avenues to support each other (in unlikely places), in what seems like a very non-judgmental environment! Even if I don't continue to post here, I wanted you to know that there are others out there who share your struggles, and whose lives mirror your own in a way that gives us a stronger tie to our own humanity and to the human experience that we all share.

I wish you all the best of luck in your lives!

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Very thoughtful post! I hope you stick around and keep posting in this community.

Yeah, I can't believe I have been a regular contributor on this thread for 4.5 years!!! Yikes.
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