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Old 08-04-2011, 08:51 AM   #1501
 
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I checked the website, looked up their clients, it's in a neighborhood I know and the job was listed someplace reputable (not Craigslist.)

This is the same woman who didn't want me volunteering at a Holocaust charity because she was worried neo-Nazis would bomb the building.
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And now, she is trying to convince me that they're going to kill me because it's a talent agency and they're interviewing me at 5 PM "at night" on a Thursday. She is making a whole Law and Order: SVU episode out of this.
I am soooooo not siding with your mother here, but I couldn't just let this go by without saying something. Everyone should be careful, and make sure the interviews are legit, and make sure people know where you're going and when, and with who. A distant relative of mine (actually, it would be my cousin's aunt. I saw her a couple times per year as a kid whenever my cousins had birthday parties) was murdered by a man who lured her to a building under the pretense of a job interview. You should be as careful going to a job interview as you would be going on a blind date. Check it out. Know the situation. And make sure people know where you are.
I'm sorry for your loss, Who me. But may I disagree with you. Life is generally very dangerous and going to interview is indentically dangerous as being outside after 8 p.m. or taking a cab. I second your opinion about behaving cautiously, but really, the way, how CIBC is treated by her mother and sister is at least ridiculous.
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Oh CIBC...(((((HUGS))))) I'm so so sorry for you. I wish I had words of wisdom. I cut my family off for 2 years. It's hard but in the end it brought us together. 5pm in the summer is completely different than 5pm in the winter. I trust your a big girl and know all the safety things to do. Your mom is treating you like poo. And how is your sister getting away with things. Keep venting here if it helps. I wish you all the best in your interview!!
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And now, she is trying to convince me that they're going to kill me because it's a talent agency and they're interviewing me at 5 PM "at night" on a Thursday. She is making a whole Law and Order: SVU episode out of this.
I am soooooo not siding with your mother here, but I couldn't just let this go by without saying something. Everyone should be careful, and make sure the interviews are legit, and make sure people know where you're going and when, and with who. A distant relative of mine (actually, it would be my cousin's aunt. I saw her a couple times per year as a kid whenever my cousins had birthday parties) was murdered by a man who lured her to a building under the pretense of a job interview. You should be as careful going to a job interview as you would be going on a blind date. Check it out. Know the situation. And make sure people know where you are.
I'm sorry for your loss, Who me. But may I disagree with you. Life is generally very dangerous and going to interview is indentically dangerous as being outside after 8 p.m. or taking a cab. I second your opinion about behaving cautiously, but really, the way, how CIBC is treated by her mother and sister is at least ridiculous.
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I don't think we're really disagreeing! Going to a job interview is not any more dangerous than any other occasion where someone can get you alone and not afraid that something is going to happen. Same as a blind date. In both situations, it's wise to check things out ahead of time, and make sure people know where you are.

I think CIBC's mother is behaving irrationally and treating her disrespectfully. I think CIBC is behaving completely safely and responsibly. The story simply reminded me of my distant relative's murder, and I thought I'd remind everyone to be safe WHENEVER they are meeting a stranger alone, and that simply calling something a job interview doesn't mean you should be any less cautious than you would be in any other situation. PSA over. :-)
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I think it's really good advice, Who Me. There are so many distractions when one is going on interviews, I could easily see personal safety being pushed to the back burner.

Not that I think CIBC was doing that, either. Still, a good reminder.
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Thanks everybody...all good!!

I think it went pretty well but who the heck knows at this point? I can't figure any of them out. The owner's dog hangs-out in the office and I took care of the dogs in my last office (and was in charge of euthanizing one of them.......................) so I thought that was a good sign.

The first words out of the man's mouth were, "So. (Former Boss's Name.) ARE THE STORIES TRUE?"

Not a terribly fair question, wasn't sure if it was a trick, so I just smiled and said, "Well...probably...but I wouldn't have traded a second of it for anything." (Which is true.)

My former boss really DOES have a notorious reputation of being this sadistic psychopath so maybe I need to give myself more credit that I survived him for three years.
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Thanks everybody...all good!!

I think it went pretty well but who the heck knows at this point? I can't figure any of them out. The owner's dog hangs-out in the office and I took care of the dogs in my last office (and was in charge of euthanizing one of them.......................) so I thought that was a good sign.

The first words out of the man's mouth were, "So. (Former Boss's Name.) ARE THE STORIES TRUE?"

Not a terribly fair question, wasn't sure if it was a trick, so I just smiled and said, "Well...probably...but I wouldn't have traded a second of it for anything." (Which is true.)

My former boss really DOES have a notorious reputation of being this sadistic psychopath so maybe I need to give myself more credit that I survived him for three years.
Gorgeous and smart answer! Well done, girl!

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I'm sort of in the pre-job hunting, thinking about it stage, and I've been reading this thread to see how others' experiences have been. Good luck to everyone - it is so difficult out there now!

CIBC, have you considered other markets? It sounds like you're in an extremely intense, competitive field with high turnover even in good times. When I first took the job I have now, I was in something similar in DC. I loved a lot about the city and the lifestyle, but was frustrated feeling like there were a million other people just like me and I would never get the chance to really stand out (and I was miserable). I'm now in a great city in the midwest, and while there are definitely some things I miss, it's really cool being a much bigger fish in a smaller pond. I'm getting such better experience out here than I would've back there. And the overall quality of life and prices are much better here.

Maybe a fresh start in a less crazy place would be good? In any case, good luck!
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Oh, I'm definitely submitting EVERYWHERE...I am even considering taking classes to be a paralegal...the money's pretty good.
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I would love to go back to school for dental nurse or lab tech nut can't do anything for no money. It's crap!!
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Can't. Win.

I helped fix my mother's cover (gave it personality) and directed her to job sites I use.

(I know you're going to tell me I shouldn't be bothering with her, but good lord, I just want her to get a job almost as much as I want one myself. I want her out of my hair and not to have to hear about her money problems 24/7).

She had an interview yesterday.

She called me and told me, "Guess what got me the interview...your cover letter. The woman went on and on about how nice it was to laugh over a cover letter."

Me: See? I told you...it goes a really long way having a little personality and a sense of humor.

Mom: Yes, but you never get the job, do you?


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That's so ridiculous it's almost funny! But obviously, your mom has it all figured out!

I'm sure you'd be great at paralegal work...but it definitely sounds like in your heart, you're a writer and theatre type. I think you need to follow that, and take jobs to support yourself until you can find something in that field (and you will!).
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Can't. Win.

I helped fix my mother's cover (gave it personality) and directed her to job sites I use.

(I know you're going to tell me I shouldn't be bothering with her, but good lord, I just want her to get a job almost as much as I want one myself. I want her out of my hair and not to have to hear about her money problems 24/7).

She had an interview yesterday.

She called me and told me, "Guess what got me the interview...your cover letter. The woman went on and on about how nice it was to laugh over a cover letter."

Me: See? I told you...it goes a really long way having a little personality and a sense of humor.

Mom: Yes, but you never get the job, do you?


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I swear...can't win.
CIBC - I was on a freelance website a few nights ago and I ran across this: Genuinejobs.com - Over 1400 Work From Home Jobs To Fill Immediately!

I checked out the owner's site, and her writing isn't professional, but she is looking for someone to write cover letters. You have to have Skype to do the interview. It may be worth checking out.
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Got a rejection letter. It went something like "after deliberation we are pleased to say that you are suitable for the position". So I thought great, landed a job.....awesome!!! But wait there's more. It continues on "unfortunately after reviewing your hours and shifts available, we don't have shifts available". Well that's *****. Now I should mention that this is a brand new store set to open soon. I'm so disappointed I'm just beside myself. All I want to do is cry. I don't know what I'm going to do.
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Got a rejection letter. It went something like "after deliberation we are pleased to say that you are suitable for the position". So I thought great, landed a job.....awesome!!! But wait there's more. It continues on "unfortunately after reviewing your hours and shifts available, we don't have shifts available". Well that's *****. Now I should mention that this is a brand new store set to open soon. I'm so disappointed I'm just beside myself. All I want to do is cry. I don't know what I'm going to do.
I would, when you're calm, contact the store and ask for an appointment to discuss work hours. Say you're very excited about the opportunity and would be happy to attempt to meet their needs. I think that would show that you're proactive and willing to work with them. What's the worst that can happen if you try?
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My former boss really DOES have a notorious reputation of being this sadistic psychopath so maybe I need to give myself more credit that I survived him for three years.
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Would you be mad at me if I said your mom seems sort of sadistic, too?
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Solidgold I don't know how many more hours I could give them. In the interview I told them I'd work Monday to Sunday, 6am to 10pm (basically their opening hours. They want to keep me on file just in case something opens up. Sounds like they are keeping me in case whoever they hire doesn't work out.
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My former boss really DOES have a notorious reputation of being this sadistic psychopath so maybe I need to give myself more credit that I survived him for three years.
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Me: See? I told you...it goes a really long way having a little personality and a sense of humor.

Mom: Yes, but you never get the job, do you?
Would you be mad at me if I said your mom seems sort of sadistic, too?
Nah, not mad Honestly, I have no idea what her issues are...I really don't. One of my best friends constantly just says, "She is mentally ill" whenever I talk about her. When I tell my therapist that my mom always will say that she's telling me things "out of love" she says that's what most people who say incredibly hurtful things say.

I wrote her a very long email which I addressed everything, and I had ever intention on sending it, but I didn't...I knew it would make things worse and she'd use it to hurt me more.
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Solidgold I don't know how many more hours I could give them. In the interview I told them I'd work Monday to Sunday, 6am to 10pm (basically their opening hours. They want to keep me on file just in case something opens up. Sounds like they are keeping me in case whoever they hire doesn't work out.
I'm guessing that if they open at 6, there is probably a shift starting at 5 or 5.30 to get ready to open and if they close at 10, you may have to stay till 10.30 or 11 to cash out, etc. and there may be an overnight shift working on stocking or inventory or whatever. Could you let them know that you're available 6 - 10 but would obviously be prepared to come or stay a little later to finish the shift if necessary? Chances are you would get either a 5am - 1pm-type shift or a 2pm - 11pm-type shift and could then organize your life around that.
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Thanks everybody...all good!!

I think it went pretty well but who the heck knows at this point? I can't figure any of them out. The owner's dog hangs-out in the office and I took care of the dogs in my last office (and was in charge of euthanizing one of them.......................) so I thought that was a good sign.

The first words out of the man's mouth were, "So. (Former Boss's Name.) ARE THE STORIES TRUE?"

Not a terribly fair question, wasn't sure if it was a trick, so I just smiled and said, "Well...probably...but I wouldn't have traded a second of it for anything." (Which is true.)

My former boss really DOES have a notorious reputation of being this sadistic psychopath so maybe I need to give myself more credit that I survived him for three years.
Gorgeous and smart answer! Well done, girl!

Sending all good vibes I have towards to you.

Yes, that was a great and smart answer to an inappropriate question!
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