Which of us are job hunting? - Page 91

wild~hair · 09-15-2011, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine

Oh, I totally get that! I'm definitely NOT negative all the time, though. I think a lot of my posts here have shown I am keeping a sense of humor.

Also, when I did that interview for TV, I was DETERMINED to focus on the positive but all the reporter wanted to talk about was the negative.

I'm trying. Occasional really bad moments/days are just that.

Oh, I see you doing just that. Like I said, it was more of a general statement.

Please don't ever stop posting here.

I love this thread and how supportive it is, and you are a big part of that, CIBC.

annabananalise · 09-15-2011, 02:57 PM

This thread is about job hunting, which is stressful and often disappointing. Unless someone totally enjoys being unemployed for a long period of time, then yeah, posts might sound negative sometimes. CIBC is just fine, and her posts are fine.

On the phone! Sorry for teh errerz.

CanItBeChristine · 09-15-2011, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by annabananalise

This thread is about job hunting, which is stressful and often disappointing. Unless someone totally enjoys being unemployed for a long period of time, then yeah, posts might sound negative sometimes. CIBC is just fine, and her posts are fine.

On the phone! Sorry for teh errerz.

That's actually a really funny thought. Wahoo! Another night in with Monster.com!!!

wild_sasparilla · 09-15-2011, 04:07 PM

Not here to make friends, you say?

If you truly believe that your purpose in life is to help people, trust me when I say that patronizing them is not the way. And if you really were just "daring" to tell the truth, there wouldn't be so many posts correcting you. Unless you employ the royal "we" to talk about yourself, I don't get this "then we find out" business.

CanItBeChristine · 09-15-2011, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by annabananalise

This thread is about job hunting, which is stressful and often disappointing. Unless someone totally enjoys being unemployed for a long period of time, then yeah, posts might sound negative sometimes. CIBC is just fine, and her posts are fine.

On the phone! Sorry for teh errerz.

That's actually a really funny thought. Wahoo! Another night in with Monster.com!!!

Flat bottom tacos - YouTube

It's like the ending of this commercial...every unemployed morning, every unemployed night.

(I really have no idea why I love this commercial so much.)

MizzFlamez · 09-16-2011, 02:29 AM

just started my job search. praying for positive feedback.

CanItBeChristine · 09-16-2011, 08:46 AM

I'm trying not to obsess over that interview I went on on Friday that I really really would love...it was first rounds and the position doesn't have to start until mid-October. I'm telling myself it's very possible they called people in that weren't able to come in until late this week.

I really hope that email my friend wrote has SOME kind of weight. I also gave them a letter my former boss wrote about me.

I thought it had gone really well because when the man asked me about my ultimate career goals, I talked about writing and wanting to stay in theatre but as far as office work goes, I really WAS quite happy being a good assistant/helper and he nodded and said, "That's exactly the type of attitude we want..."

CanItBeChristine · 09-16-2011, 08:48 AM

Also, there's a publishing house I have interviewed at probably at least 10 times over the past seven years. I always come-out just DROOLING and wanting it SO MUCH.

I met a young lady at my friend's bridal shower last week who works in publishing and she told me she knows a ton of people there and nobody is ever happy and there's a revolving door.

Made me feel better.

SusieSuze · 09-16-2011, 01:27 PM

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Seriously? So, your purpose is to offer unsolicited advice to those who don't want it? Yeah, I can see where that attitude isn't going to net you a lot of friends. For the record, it's probably not going to help anyone either, but I am pretty sure you knew that already.

Also, even as I type this, without even hitting post, I can feel my inbox filling with magical pm's agreeing with me!! It's so VALIDATING!!!

When someone posts on a public message board shows that they are in pain and suffering, over and over again is it so horrible that one wants to help that person? That their just being here is a request for assistance of some kind? That they might want ideas perhaps on how they can help their cause? Or is this thread only to be used as place where we dump on everyone else? Are no constructive ideas allowed?

I may get carried away when writing about a subject I love so much, and I'm sorry it sounded preachy. I was just trying to explain why I think being negative isn't going to get you anywhere. I understand a vent here or there, but I know that repeatedly voicing pain is actually re-living it, and does not help anyone. Wild-hair's post mentions this as well.

Here's a post I made a while back. Is this a good post only because it is positive and re-affirming of the person? Is it just 'the secret' cr^p? I suggest to you that when someone gives you good news it is awesome and when someone gives you bad news that you think you should shoot the messenger.

thread:Embarrasing question - speech impediment w/ children?

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I agree with Cailin. Also I'd like to add that you may not realize this, but you are a fantastic role model! You can show people you have worked hard to overcome the limitations of your disability-- and being able to communicate is evidence of your success. Younger children may not be able to understand you at first, but they will eventually, and actually you will be helping them form new neural pathways that will help them develop foreign language learning skills in the future. Seriously! These kids will have a better future because they have to work a bit harder to understand you!! It is a huge blessing for them to get to know you.

My neighbors daughter had a malformed hand with only 2 fingers. She was a bright beautiful girl who was my children's age. I was so thankful for having her in our life. She helped to teach my boys to be openminded and considerate and accepting. You must learn to view your disability as a huge opportunity for you to help others in very deep life affirming ways.

I hope you see how important you are!!!

The story about your neighbor's daughter is very touching. Your answer to this question opened my mind and helped me realize that my disability is a gift. Thank so much to the two other ladies who answered this question as well! I agree that children may not understand me first but when they get used to me, they can now understand me better because that happened to me with a young distant relative. Now we can talk without any problems. I have to just look beyond the barriers that are surrounding me and go ahead to achieve my dreams.

Anyway thank you again!

gekko422 · 09-16-2011, 02:22 PM

Why on earth would I shoot someone delivering bad news? If that's your take away from the 2 posts I made regarding this subject, that's on you. I have to deliver bad news all the time, it's part of my job and bad news is a part of life.

Also, I don't care what you have posted where and when, I am not the board police, I was responding to posts you made in this thread. Please don't feel the need to rehash your posting history to back yourself up, I am not going to go through 11 years of posting to back myself up.

Scarlet · 09-16-2011, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by SusieSuze

Of course no one here really knows anyone else.

The thing is, when i read her posts all I see is despair.
She makes her life sound like a living hell!!! Then we find out she actually IS working part time, has income and friends and a great life..

Excuse me for taking her posts at face value.

I know I'm not the only one here who's wanted to see her life improve, I've had pms thanking me for speaking up.

With her many posts, she's made a bit of a celebrity of herself here- for all the world to see. It should be expected that people will offer opinions and advice and even constructive criticism, which is what I dared to do.

Think what you will of me- I'm not here to make friends. I do have a message though, and a purpose in my life to help people. Obviously all the time I've spent crafting well intentioned posts have been a waste of time so I'll leave and hope you all continue enjoying the dramatic displays of pain and despair.

You know, you sound a little nuts. But I'm just taking your posts at face value. I mean, you posted here for all the world to see so I'm just offering my opinion.

curlypearl · 09-16-2011, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by abenanyarkoaa

just started my job search. praying for positive feedback.

Best of luck Abenan, are you looking for something in a particular field?

curlypearl · 09-16-2011, 06:57 PM

I was interviewed this a.m. at a large brokerage firm. I know zip about real estate (and care less).

One of the two possible supervisors said Zhit twice during the interview (not at me). He seems to be a crude type of guy. I felt uneasy but I hope they offer me the position.

The good part is I tested really well (hurray!) and the lady in HR liked me a lot - I could tell.

Also, I had a 2-day temp job that paid badly but the people were incredibly nice to me. They fell all over themselves thanking me and bought me lunch the second day! Amazing. Lovely 2 days. That was great.

Soldiering on....

CanItBeChristine · 09-16-2011, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by curlypearl

I was interviewed this a.m. at a large brokerage firm. I know zip about real estate (and care less).

One of the two possible supervisors said Zhit twice during the interview (not at me). He seems to be a crude type of guy. I felt uneasy but I hope they offer me the position.

The good part is I tested really well (hurray!) and the lady in HR liked me a lot - I could tell.

Also, I had a 2-day temp job that paid badly but the people were incredibly nice to me. They fell all over themselves thanking me and bought me lunch the second day! Amazing. Lovely 2 days. That was great.

Soldiering on....

Haha, I've had people curse several times in interviews and it ALWAYS seems so weird to me! Did you see the movie Morning Glory? At the very end she's in an interview with The Today Show and I think she curses twice...my friend whispered at me in the movie theater like, "I can't BELIEVE that!"

I'm glad the temp job was so nice! I hope it makes-up for that other temp job which didn't end as well.

CanItBeChristine · 09-16-2011, 07:20 PM

I have two interviews on Wednesday (I have a wedding on Monday...weird, I know...so I'll be gone Monday and Tuesday.)

They're both in my field. One is an advertising agency and works with a show a producer friend of mine works on. After they called me, I called her and asked how well she knew them and she said the owner of the company is a very good friend of hers. This woman particularly just LOVES me and has been trying to help me out so if I go in here and it's something I can see myself doing, I'll definitely try to get her to talk me up.

The other is an office I interviewed at in February, but for a different position. A former colleague works there now so I'll try to get into touch with him over the weekend to talk. I think it's a pretty small company.

Annnnnnnnnnnd no word from all those other jobs.

I was talking to my cousin this morning, who worked her way up in the same company from 21 to 35 (she left to stay home with her kids). She came right out and said, "I cannot IMAGINE having to start sending out resumes and looking for a job..." but said that it's a good thing I haven't gotten offers on anything I didn't want yet and didn't settle and maybe that's why...because something I particularly want is on the way.

curlypearl · 09-16-2011, 07:35 PM

Thanks for responding, CIBC. I'm glad to be able to post here.

I wish I could find a job with nicer people and I'd take much less money but as you know the pickin's are so slim.

Since I'm 66, I can't be choosy and of course, I'm not looking to have a career. I'm just looking to make enough money so that my situation isn't so tight. When you are younger, of course the situation is very different - the choice of a field is critical.

I just hope that when you make it in your field (and I believe you will) that you'll get extra tickets to some exciting performance and we will be the beneficiaries.

Good luck, CIBC. I wish I knew some good contacts for you! All I know now are good doctors LOL.

NYCurlyGirly · 09-17-2011, 10:11 AM

okay, I have to chime in here. I actually DO know CIBC in real life, and have been friends with her for close to a decade now. The fact that she is being portrayed as some miserable, suicidal girl who keeps turning down jobs is just laughable. She has every right to vent, but has consistently kept up an amazing attitude and has actually snapped ME out of my own depression more than once. Can;t understand why she would be targeted like this. She has handled her situation better than most people, and she knows how proud I am of her =)

McDonald's isn't the answer, i'm sorry. I did that in high school. I'm a college-educated woman and i'm ready to utilize my skills. I'm already swallowing my pride and considering retail again, which is difficult enough, it is hARD out there, but i'm glad we have this thread for support

multicultcurly · 09-17-2011, 01:48 PM

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CIBC - Understood. Then I guess what I don't understand is why are you having breakdowns in supermarkets? Obviously you aren't living on the street in a back alley. Be grateful for what you do have. I know it's hard getting turned down over and over again, it is happening to me on a weekly basis, but you can't let that take your mental health. It's not worth it. You said it yourself, you have a roof over your head and you have spending money. All this time I thought you had absolutely nothing and spent your entire day laying in your bed. That's how you portray yourself sometimes.

I'm sorry, I don't mean to start anything or to get you mad at me. I just thought I'd mention what I did. I apologize.

As someone who was underemployed for six months, it is depressing to be out of work or doing something that you hate, especially when you have student loans to pay back, are barely making ends meet and dealing with the crazy rules of the unemployment office. You go to college, and then you're rejected for basic receptionist and office positions - it makes you depressed and lethargic at times.

The only thing that I do agree with Suze about is that CIBC should stop saying that she won't get a job because she is willing that to happen. Other than that, I think both Suze and you are out of touch with how difficult it is to find a job, especially for someone who has been unemployed for more than six months.

CanItBeChristine · 09-17-2011, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by curlypearl

Good luck, CIBC. I wish I knew some good contacts for you! All I know now are good doctors LOL.

If they're straight and single we might be on to something here................

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CanItBeChristine · 09-17-2011, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by NYCurlyGirly

okay, I have to chime in here. I actually DO know CIBC in real life, and have been friends with her for close to a decade now. The fact that she is being portrayed as some miserable, suicidal girl who keeps turning down jobs is just laughable. She has every right to vent, but has consistently kept up an amazing attitude and has actually snapped ME out of my own depression more than once. Can;t understand why she would be targeted like this. She has handled her situation better than most people, and she knows how proud I am of her =)

McDonald's isn't the answer, i'm sorry. I did that in high school. I'm a college-educated woman and i'm ready to utilize my skills. I'm already swallowing my pride and considering retail again, which is difficult enough, it is hARD out there, but i'm glad we have this thread for support

Weren't we accused of being the same person on this board once?

Thanks for the nice words

I really AM okay, but I do have some very bad lows and maybe I shouldn't type publicly when those lows come! I guess I felt like I rather would "tell" people who weren't dealing with me in person because I really don't want to worry my friends and family that much. I'm definitely not bipolar (discussed this with my doctor). My highs and lows are always related to things high and low and don't come out of nowhere. I really was on top of the world and thrilled and happy when most things were going right last year, but right now, it doesn't seem like much is.

Losing three jobs just really has done a number on me, and the way my former boss chose to let me go just made me feel so thrown away. (Especially because, as abusive as my boss was and as toxic as the environment was, I DID like my job and felt I was great at it and felt at home there). I'm not sure when it will stop stinging or when I'll stop being so angry at him.

And you can be a millionaire with an amazing support system and people chanting your name in stadiums every night and STILL battle depression.