What Do You Want To Happen To Your Body After You Die? - Page 2

gemini · 04-21-2005, 11:06 AM

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I think that modern burial practices are wasteful, extortionistic, and a tad bit gross.

And expensive!!! When we buried my dad, my mom went to a cemetery that my dad had mentioned when he casually discussed plans and I think the plots were 6 or 7K apiece (in 1993). It's a huge cemetery, my friend's dad is buried there and she has a hard time finding his grave because the place is so huge. It just happens to be on a hill with a panoramic ocean view.

My mom chose a plot in a smaller private cemetery and I know exactly where he is.

I don't get all of the fuss with coffins, etc. I mean you really can not take it with you. On a sidenote, does anyone remember a couple of years back there was a rapper who was buried in his car? At the funeral, he was propped up like he was driving. That is just bizarre to me.

I also don't get how people wait a week+ to bury the person.

Also, I would like to donate whatever I can--why not help someone if I don't need my parts anymore?

I'm done ranting now.

legends · 04-21-2005, 02:39 PM

Cremated and ashes scattered, for the reasons KK and stated. If my family really wants a burial, then I don't want to be embalmed and want a plain box.

dia99 · 04-21-2005, 04:13 PM

Hopefully, I will die in a fashion where I can still donate all my organs, including my eyes, and my skin if they can use it. I think that would be pretty freaky to see in an open casket

, so I would prefer to be cremated. But, I told DaNa that he can do whatever will make he and Dia feel better after I die, as long as they donate my organs while I'm alive. I had to put that in writing because he doesn't want to donate organs (his or mine).

Sisa · 04-21-2005, 04:28 PM

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Hopefully, I will die in a fashion where I can still donate all my organs, including my eyes, and my skin if they can use it. I think that would be pretty freaky to see in an open casket

, so I would prefer to be cremated. But, I told DaNa that he can do whatever will make he and Dia feel better after I die, as long as they donate my organs while I'm alive. I had to put that in writing because he doesn't want to donate organs (his or mine).

I'd love to have my family donate any useable organs, too.

When I was married, I had expressed that desire to my husband, and he wasn't keen on it either. Do you think that it's a guy thing, or just a spouse not wanting to imagine the thought of their young, pretty wife "cut up into pieces"?

For me, while I am here on earth, it is a body that doubles as a temple - so I try to treat it well. After I die, you can do what you will - Sisa ain't here no mo'! :dance:dance.gif

dia99 · 04-21-2005, 05:01 PM

Sisa, I think it may be a guy thing. My husband doesn't want to be cut up either, and he wouldn't even know he was being cut up! Women are natural "mothers" I think, and a lot of us will go to our grave, literally, trying to help others. I'm sure there are lots of guys who will donate, too, but women probably think about it more often.

Rain · 04-21-2005, 05:03 PM

Other. I don't care. Whatever gives my family the most peace.

gg · 04-22-2005, 03:07 AM

I chose othert. I've been wanting to donate my body to medical science.

GuardianB · 04-22-2005, 07:29 AM

I really feel I'd like to be cremated but where I am spread or if my family chooses to bury me at that point I think is their choice. I would ask that they think of me and us in their decision so we can all be satisfied with that since I still don't know what would become.

gemini · 04-22-2005, 07:45 AM

My husband is not too fond of organ donation either, though I hope he would follow my wishes.

He tends to think the doctors will let you die if they know you're a donor.

I just tell him "What if YOU were the one who needed the organ? You'd change your mind about organ donation then, wouldn't you?" People don't think about being on the receiving end.

browneyedgirl27 · 04-22-2005, 09:00 AM

I chose buried, but really, I couldn't care less. I'll be dead, I won't be in this body anymore.

goldencurly · 04-22-2005, 09:47 AM

I want breast implants, a tummy tuck, and laser eye surgery. Then in the next life, if I come back as an Ancient Egyptian, I'l be sexy and not vision impaired.

Or if my family choose to not cremate me and do that horrid open casket thing, they can truly say, "oh, she never looked better!"

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geeky · 04-22-2005, 10:05 AM

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Cremated and scattered. I want the organic matter of my remains returned to the earth as quickly as possible.

I think that modern burial practices are wasteful, extortionistic, and a tad bit gross. We are embalm people, then stuff them into $5000 satin-lined mahogany caskets with the extra comfort pillows and the deceased's favorite paintings above his head. Why? Why do the dead need pillows? Can the dead even see paintings? In the dark?!?!

What's next... caskets with a flat screen tv and a dvd player? And most of us think the pharoahs were a bit off for having Fluffy embalmed and mummified.

The prices are marked up *way* above the costs of actually making the damn things, and are marketed to the grieving (who probably aren't thinking straight and don't have time or the desire to shop around for prices) so they'll feel bad for burying Uncle Otto in the basic casket instead of some overly marked up box with a pretty name containing "Love" or "Serenity" or something.

Then there's the "peace and comfort in death" thing of these lovely airtight containers. Yeah, right. They don't prevent the body from decaying. They contain the gases that a decomposing body creates, prevents them from escaping into the atmosphere, heats the container, and causes the remains to liquefy into goo until the casket explodes and leaks. Its like giving the dead body E bola after it dies. I'm sorry, but I do not see how an exploding human liquification device is more honoring or "comforting" to the deceased than the plain old pine box or a good hot fire, no matter how pretty of a name the device has. Blegh!

The death industry makes me ill. :x

I agree. Which is why I'm OK with the Jewish tradition.

gg · 04-23-2005, 12:34 AM

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I also don't get how people wait a week+ to bury the person.

In my family we are scattered throught the US and some overseas. We wait a week to make sure everyone is notified so if they want the can make travel arrangements to go to the funeral.

Ladydncing · 04-23-2005, 06:03 AM

It's up to my children, but if I had a choice, I would want to be cremated.
Plant a tree, then throw my ashes around it. A much more attractive burial site.

SPRINGY · 04-23-2005, 10:33 AM

I don't want a funeral. I want my close friends and family to go to the bahamas and have a great time. Sprikle me off the bridge to Paridse Island and then pour a lil' rum in after that. I make it a point to have fun in life. So I may as well have some in death.

CurliLocks · 04-23-2005, 02:35 PM

Other. I want to be cremated, but they can either bury the ashes or spread them to their liking. Hubby wants to be cremated and the ashes spread.

Dad has told us he wants to donate organs and cremate the rest. His ashes will be put in a cremation wall next to my Mom (who was cremated). Actually, he wants to donate his body to science as well, since he's had excellent health for over 70 yrs (and still going!). But he's been looking into it and it's harder to do than expected.

I don't want to be put on the mantle. But I will say my last dog (my first "baby") was cremated and his ashes are in a wooden box at my house back home in CA. This is because I want his ashes to go wherever mine go in the end. The same goes for my current fur-baby when it's time.

Elicia · 04-23-2005, 07:35 PM

I'd like to be cremated and then buried (don't care where)
I don't want to be scattered, or divided among different places that is just unsettling to me. I want my organs donated, but there better be no chance of getting better (wouldn't want to be needing that eye after it has been donated)
When I told my mom I wanted to be cremated she said she did not want to do that-- so if my mom is alive and it is going to cause her grief to burn me up, then they can do what ever they want with me. Kitty thanks for that vivid post on the decomposition process in airtight coffin.

YolyC · 04-23-2005, 07:55 PM

Burn me up and bury my ashes somewhere calm and peaceful. of course that's only my wish. My kid says o.k to burning but I'm going to sit on mantle for as long as she's alive. I'll probably end up in box in a dark damp basement because my grandkids won't want me around.

Elicia · 04-23-2005, 09:14 PM

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I'll probably end up in box in a dark damp basement because my grandkids won't want me around

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tell them you will haunt them if they don't bury you .