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View Poll Results: What Do You Want To Have Happen To Your Body After You Die?
I want to be buried 7 13.73%
I want to be cremated and then buried 5 9.80%
I want to be cremated and sit in an urn on a shelf 2 3.92%
I want to be cremated and have my ashes scattered 30 58.82%
Other 7 13.73%
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Old 04-21-2005, 05:30 AM   #1
 
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I'd like to be cremated... maybe sprinkled over someplace pretty so my loved ones will always know where I am.

I saw a thing where you can have your loved ones ashes made into a diamond. It may sound awful, but as dear to my heart as my daughter is, I can see myself having a diamond necklace made so that I could always wear her close to my heart.
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Old 04-21-2005, 05:48 AM   #2
 
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Without a doubt I want to be cremated. Burying dead bodies skeeves me out, not to mention do we really need millions of acres in this country used to bury dead people?
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Old 04-21-2005, 05:48 AM   #3
 
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Ashes to ashes...

Hubby and I have been discussing this lately. We both love the coast - he wants to be cremated and his ashes buried under a palm tree,

I want to be cremated as well, but I want my ashes spread over the ocean. There is a pier in Myrtle Beach. Our first time going there we rented a house with others right on the ocean. It was such a beautiful view. There is this great little restaurant at the base of the pier. Our daughter was conceived there (in the house not the restaurant!) - she was kind of unexpected - in the best possible way.

I figure, we created a pretty amazing life there once, might be a good place to start the next phase.
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Burying dead bodies skeeves me out, not to mention do we really need millions of acres in this country used to bury dead people?
I'm glad you said this. I have the same feelings exactly. Besides, after one or two generations, the graves are not tended by anyone but the cemetery (even that is iffy).

I am surprised so many people want to be cremated. My husband wants to be buried and acts like I am a freak for not wanting that. his reasons are based on his beliefs from the bible (which I do not take literally). My mom also wants to be cremated, but my dad was buried (according to his wishes). Maybe it's a guy thing.
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Old 04-21-2005, 06:27 AM   #5
 
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I also want to be cremated. I'd like my ashes spread, but I haven't decided where yet.
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Old 04-21-2005, 06:47 AM   #6
 
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I'm not quite sure. My deceased loved ones are all buried. I like going to their grave sites and "being" with them, ya know? Because of that, I think I'd like to be cremated, but then buried.
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Old 04-21-2005, 06:48 AM   #7
 
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Also, I never quite understood the urn-on-a-shelf thing -- even before seeing Meet the Parents. It just seems kind of... icky to me.
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Old 04-21-2005, 06:56 AM   #8
 
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Ideally I'd like to be cremated and buried under a tree. But a Jewish burial is important to Mr. Geeky. That is being buried in a plain pine box, no enbalming, no airtight coffins with satin linings. I told him my first preference, but that a Jewish burial is OK with me too. I figure as long as my body breaks down and is returned to the cycle of nature it's fine with me.
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My husband wants to be cremated. If he goes before me I will keep his ashes in an urn. I may even carry them around with me, which would make me a crazy old lady but I don't give a damn.

As for me, I don't know. Part of me really wants to be buried in the cemetary in my hometown with my grandparents, my sister, and my daddy. My mom'll be buried there too. But if I go first, I don't want to be buried 1000 miles away from my husband. So maybe cremation is the way to go with some of my ashes buried under a headstone with my parents and the rest of my loved ones.

I was only sort of kidding about carrying around an urn of my husband's ashes. I KNOW I'll get one of those tiny vials and wear some of his ashes in the vial on a chain around my neck.
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Old 04-21-2005, 09:08 AM   #10
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not my choice.

I'm comfortable with whatever gives my family and friends peace.
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Just plain buried for me. Nothing fancy. I think it's ridiculous to spend all this money on a box that's going to end up being plant food. I won't be needing satin, and I won't need ruffles or bows, either.

ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.
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ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.
Call me old-fashioned but I prefer open caskets (when possible). I find comfort somehow in it.
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Cremated. I can't even begin to think of being buried, I'm claustrophbic, even though it would hardly matter at that point.

My dad was cremated and his ashes are buried in a barrel planter in my mum's backyard, with a garden fairy on top and, of course, plants and flowers each year. Sometimes I get the vision in my head of his body being burned to ashes and it's horrific, but it's what he wanted. I have a very overactive imagination unfortunately.
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ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.
Ugh, I hate open caskets. The worst one I ever went to was a couple months ago. A friend of ours (an Army Staff Sgt.) was killed in Iraq by shrapnel to the back and back of the head. I was horrified there was an open casket. There was so much make-up on, even more so than a normal open casket. Afterwards, his brother mentioned to me how creepy it was, but his (the deceased's) fiancee and the father wanted it open. Blech.
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Cremated and my ashes scattered. I certainly don't want the cat knocking me off the mantle.
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Cremated and my ashes scattered. I certainly don't want the cat knocking me off the mantle.
What she said!



Despite being a Jewish service, my grandpa's funeral was open casket. I think I was the only one who didn't have any desire to look. I just kind of hung out behind my mom with my hand on her shoulder so she'd know I was there....and my brother said he wished he hadn't looked. I figured that wasn't my grandpa, just his body, and theonly thing it would have done was make me feel horrible for how much he suffered before finally going.
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ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.
Ugh, I hate open caskets. The worst one I ever went to was a couple months ago. A friend of ours (an Army Staff Sgt.) was killed in Iraq by shrapnel to the back and back of the head. I was horrified there was an open casket. There was so much make-up on, even more so than a normal open casket. Afterwards, his brother mentioned to me how creepy it was, but his (the deceased's) fiancee and the father wanted it open. Blech.
There are definitely instances when an open casket is completely inappropriate.
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Donate for medical/research what I can, burn and scatter the rest. I will leave it up to whatever family member/friend gets the ashes to choose where to scatter them.
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not my choice.

I'm comfortable with whatever gives my family and friends peace.
Same here,but if I am cremated,I'd rather be interred than scattered or sat upon a mantle
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Cremated and scattered. I want the organic matter of my remains returned to the earth as quickly as possible.

I think that modern burial practices are wasteful, extortionistic, and a tad bit gross. We are embalm people, then stuff them into $5000 satin-lined mahogany caskets with the extra comfort pillows and the deceased's favorite paintings above his head. Why? Why do the dead need pillows? Can the dead even see paintings? In the dark?!?! What's next... caskets with a flat screen tv and a dvd player? And most of us think the pharoahs were a bit off for having Fluffy embalmed and mummified.

The prices are marked up *way* above the costs of actually making the damn things, and are marketed to the grieving (who probably aren't thinking straight and don't have time or the desire to shop around for prices) so they'll feel bad for burying Uncle Otto in the basic casket instead of some overly marked up box with a pretty name containing "Love" or "Serenity" or something.

Then there's the "peace and comfort in death" thing of these lovely airtight containers. Yeah, right. They don't prevent the body from decaying. They contain the gases that a decomposing body creates, prevents them from escaping into the atmosphere, heats the container, and causes the remains to liquefy into goo until the casket explodes and leaks. Its like giving the dead body E bola after it dies. I'm sorry, but I do not see how an exploding human liquification device is more honoring or "comforting" to the deceased than the plain old pine box or a good hot fire, no matter how pretty of a name the device has. Blegh!

The death industry makes me ill. :x
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