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Do you have a "no shoes" house?

Yes. In Canada it is very rude not to - people automatically remove their shoes in other people's homes (probably because of all the dirt and wetness in winter.) Also, I have many relatives and friends who are Muslims or Nation of Islam and in their faith shoes must be removed in the home.
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We're a no-shoes house. I grew up that way, all of our friends are that way. I don't care about in the kitchen, foyer, etc. b/c that is all hardwood, but once you hit the white carpet, shoes are off.

I bring my slippers to friends houses.
I mostly wear slippers or flip-flops in the house. I don't ask people to take their shoes off when they come to my house. I've been to shoeless houses before and to one where there was a sign outside the door. It definately made me uncomfortable. I don't like walking around shoeless in other folk's houses.
I had never heard of people (outside of Asia) taking off their shoes in someone's house until a couple of years ago. I'm almost 50 and still have never been asked to do it. For the people who require this, do you ever have dinner parties or occasions where people are dressed in heels where their clothes would drag without heels? Do you notify people ahead of time that this is your policy?

ETA: I used to have an off-white 8 x 10 rug in my dining room. I was shocked when people would try to walk around it, instead of on it. My thinking is that it's there to be walked on, so walk on it.
I had never heard of people (outside of Asia) taking off their shoes in someone's house until a couple of years ago. I'm almost 50 and still have never been asked to do it. For the people who require this, do you ever have dinner parties or occasions where people are dressed in heels where their clothes would drag without heels? Do you notify people ahead of time that this is your policy?
Originally Posted by Myradelle
Whenever we're going to have several people over we generally don't make them remove their shoes. However, if they are close friends of ours, they generally know that we do and they abide by that. But, if their shoes are messy (muddy, wet, etc), I will ask them to remove their shoes.

ETA: given how we normally do not wear shoes in our home, we tend to not have many people over (like parties). I realize not everyone is used to this, so we rarely entertain large groups of people. But, the people we do have over are very aware of our preference and abide by it, no questions asked.
I had never heard of people (outside of Asia) taking off their shoes in someone's house until a couple of years ago. I'm almost 50 and still have never been asked to do it. For the people who require this, do you ever have dinner parties or occasions where people are dressed in heels where their clothes would drag without heels? Do you notify people ahead of time that this is your policy?

ETA: I used to have an off-white 8 x 10 rug in my dining room. I was shocked when people would try to walk around it, instead of on it. My thinking is that it's there to be walked on, so walk on it.
Originally Posted by Myradelle
In Canada, when people go to dinner parties etc. they expect to take off their heels. For us, this is so normal, this conversation is so funny to me. It's like that SATC episode where Carrie was ticked she had to take off her shoes at a party, and my friends and I were watching it and thinking, "So?"
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Yes. In Canada it is very rude not to - people automatically remove their shoes in other people's homes (probably because of all the dirt and wetness in winter.)
Originally Posted by Amneris
I spent a couple of summers in Quebec and went with the landlady to lots of gatherings in various homes. No one took their shoes off at the door. Of course that was in the summer. I'm guessing in the winter, the shoes/boots WOULD automatically come off so as not to drag slush and ick into peoples' homes!
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Yes. In Canada it is very rude not to - people automatically remove their shoes in other people's homes (probably because of all the dirt and wetness in winter.)
Originally Posted by Amneris
I spent a couple of summers in Quebec and went with the landlady to lots of gatherings in various homes. No one took their shoes off at the door. Of course that was in the summer. I'm guessing in the winter, the shoes/boots WOULD automatically come off so as not to drag slush and ick into peoples' homes!
Originally Posted by PartyHair
Maybe it is seasonal? Having spent almost every summer of my childhood in Nova Scotia, I also never noticed the taking off the shoe thing. No one did, including my Canadian family.
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but still, don't you people also have doormats? you walk in you wipe your shoes and move on. As I said I dont' wear my outside shoes in my house but I always have slippers on, I'm a slipper person. But I'm not that strict that I'd ever ask anyone to take their shoes off in my house. For the most part there isn't that much mud around to make me nervous and rain is just rain. I will cleanthe floors anyway so I'mjust not that stressed over it.
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When I have people over, it is absolutely no big deal for them to remove their shoes. They know me and quickly learn/accept my house rules, or else they would not be invited over to my place (I do not generally have throngs of unknown people over to my house - my house is my sanctuary and I like to keep it that way). Re: cleanliness, I have hardwood floors with carpet in my bedroom area and I like to keep them clean.. I have even asked service men and repair people to remove their shoes!! And half of the time, they do It's just how I grew up. When I go to other people's homes, if they like to wear shoes, I will conform to their house rules and keep my shoes on (although it is not my preference). In my house, shoes come off with no fuss.

Also, I've been to big parties at fancy homes where the owners don't want dents in their softwood floors from high heels, and they will indicate on the invitation that women are not to wear high or pointed heels.
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My gosh....who has time to even think about taking off their shoes when they come in the door?
Originally Posted by PoodleDoo
True. Given my hectic lifestyle, all my time is used up deciding whether to turn on a light, close the door, take off my jacket, drop the mail on the table, etc. :P
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My gosh....who has time to even think about taking off their shoes when they come in the door?
Originally Posted by PoodleDoo
True. Given my hectic lifestyle, all my time is used up deciding whether to turn on a light, close the door, take off my jacket, drop the mail on the table, etc. :P
Originally Posted by mouse
I can understand this, but I grew up this way (no shoes in the house). There is a difference. It's the first thing I do when I walk in the door, the shoes come off
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Also, not to pick on you, but clearly not all americans wear shoes in the house. My family and the other families I know (mostly asian) that don't permit shoes in the house are just as "american" as people who allow shoes in the house or consider it the norm. The no shoe rule is as cultural as it is regional/geographic, maybe even more so. As I'm sure you probably know, americans are by definition extremely diverse.
Originally Posted by eyestrain curly
Oh, yah, I definitely know that! I just mean that it seems odd to the Canadians (even just looking at the responses in this thread - check out any that are from Canadians) that this would even be talked about.
It's mainly just an observation.

For us, this is so normal, this conversation is so funny to me. It's like that SATC episode where Carrie was ticked she had to take off her shoes at a party, and my friends and I were watching it and thinking, "So?"
Originally Posted by Amneris
Lol, I remember that episode and I too remember thinking "Is she nuts??"
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but you don't hear about bird hoarders or gerbil hoarders or whatever. just the cats. Must be something about those felines.
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That's cool. I understand now that it was an observation. I just have a major pet peeve about "americans" being presumed to be white, from the heartland, meat and potatoes loving, etc...

I also remember that SATC episode (I should, I've seen everyone of them ). It was really petty and silly and fun! I miss that show
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Cultural norms are so interesting aren't they? I remember growing up that we had our dessert right before we went to bed as did my cousins and the kids next door. So I was a teenager, at a school function, before I knew that people eat dessert right after a meal. What you grow up with seems normal and if you didn't grow up taking off your shoes to walk in someone's house, you think it's strange to hear talk of it. And vice versa...

Well if any of yall visit my home, you are welcome to keep your shoes on or take them off. Whatever makes you comfortable.
Well if any of yall visit my home, you are welcome to keep your shoes on or take them off. Whatever makes you comfortable.
Originally Posted by Myradelle
Lovely!

And we'll be having dessert either way, I assume!
We still have to get our carpet cleaned but we both have always lived in a no shoes house. I don't know many people that don't. I don't feel comfortable at anyone's house with my shoes on. I dont' think it's a Canadian thing like you're making it out to be. My soror was born and raised in Canada and she says that they didn't have to at her house but they did at her aunt's house.
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Some more info:

In countries all over the world, it is a sign of respect for the household for guests and visitors to remove their shoes before entering a home. Most widely accepted as a cultural norm of Asia, it is also a courtesy to remove shoes in unexpected areas as well.

For instance, it is considerate to remove shoes before entering a Russian or Scandinavian home. There, guests are given shoes to wear while in the household. In an effort to keep sand from the beach out of homes, Hawaiians also practice the ritual of removing shoes before entering a home. Even in America, more and more people are opting to remove shoes as a courtesy and for basic cleanliness.

More than just a nicety or a national custom, the habit of removing shoes before entering is just good sense. After walking into public restrooms, city streets, yards where there are animals, etc., the amount of bacteria and filth in the home is not only carried into the home on the soles of shoes of well-meaning visitors, but that same dirt and grime is also trapped in your home. That’s because the dirt, bacteria, and filth gets stuck in the fibers of carpeting if you have throw rugs or wall-to-wall carpeting.

The US Government gets involved with dirty floors
Interestingly, in 1991 the EPA conducted a study called the “Door Mat Study” that measured the amount of lead dust that was in homes. The study found that in homes where there was a doormat at the entrance and where shoes were NOT worn, there was a marked reduction (about 60%) of lead dust and other chemicals in the home. Not only that, but in homes where shoes are removed, there is a reduction in allergens and bacteria being tracked into the house.

Removing shoes has been scientifically proven to reduce contaminants in the home. If that still doesn’t convince you to have your family remove their shoes before entering the house, then think about how much longer and nicer your carpets and floors will stay and how much easier it will be to clean if shoes aren’t permitted in the house. When you look at it like this, it won’t be so hard to ask family and friends to remove their shoes before coming into the house.

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My gosh....who has time to even think about taking off their shoes when they come in the door?
Originally Posted by PoodleDoo
True. Given my hectic lifestyle, all my time is used up deciding whether to turn on a light, close the door, take off my jacket, drop the mail on the table, etc. :P
Originally Posted by mouse
I can understand this, but I grew up this way (no shoes in the house). There is a difference. It's the first thing I do when I walk in the door, the shoes come off
Originally Posted by amerasiancurls
Same here. I was being sarcastic in my original post because PoodleDoo's comment struck me as very funny - who has time to even think about taking off their shoes? It just doesn't seem to me as a decision that warrants a lot of consideration. Unless, I guess s/he is talking about someone else's house. Even then though, it makes me picture her at a party, standing just inside the door, contemplating all the socio-political ramifications of removing her footwear.

PoodleDoo, I'm not making fun of you with the intent to hurt or upset you. Your statement just triggered a series of comedic images in my brain. I hope you understand.
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Wow.. this is really interesting. I had no idea so many people have "no shoes" homes. Where I live now, in the South, this is not seen at all. Maybe an occasional home here and there, but it is def. not the norm.
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