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Old 10-08-2006, 08:36 AM   #81
 
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OK, scanning this thread, no one seems to have mentioned...foot stench.

I know people who are embarrassed to remove their shoes because they have stinky feet. They seriously agonize when they're going someplace where they know it's a shoes-off policy.

So, is it rude or helpful to keep a "foot fresh" or air freshener spray by the door?!
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Old 10-08-2006, 08:46 AM   #82
 
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I struggle with this because I do home visits as part of my job. Taking off my shoes feels unprofessional, but leaving them on (in some situations) seems rude.
Some homes I visit are really gross, so I would prefer not to take of my shoes or anything else in their homes.
I live in Chicago and with the snow this issue is going to come up again.
I dread it ugh!! Maybe i will get some of those rubber sole slippers just in case and hope my shoes don't get stolen while i am in the homes.
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Old 10-08-2006, 08:54 AM   #83
 
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It's the norm where I live to take your shoes off when you get inside your own house or someone elses. So everyone does without question.
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I always tell people to leave their shoes on, because otherwise they'll just have dirty socks when they leave. I'm NOT the best housekeeper in the world!

This is my reasoning too. Why would folks want to put their shoes back on with dirty socks?


We take them off in my house just for comfort. I don't ever ask anyone to take them off because it's not that serious to me. I live 3 floors up, have a mat downstairs and by my door and my main entrance is in the kitchen, by the time they get to the carpeted areas their shoes are pretty dry. I have gone to no shoes homes and unless they are my family I really don't like taking my shoes off.
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Old 10-09-2006, 07:11 AM   #85
 
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In some cultures it is considered rude to wear your shoes in someone's house. I had some friends from Singapore once and it was a big faux pas to wear your shoes in their house. I forgot once and my friend shouted "your shoes!!" and I raced to take them off! I don't know if that was a cultural practice from Singapore or a religious practice (they are Muslims; you also are not supposed to wear shoes in the mosque) or both.

So I think if you are visiting someone, or they are visiting you, and they have a cultural preference for shoe-wearing, it should be respected.

I am also from upstate NY so of course in the winters we always took our shoes off right away on entering a house--to not do so would be really rude because you would be tracking in snow and slush all over the house.
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Old 10-09-2006, 07:26 AM   #86
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We kind of are, and we kind of aren't.

When people come over, my mom always says that they don't have to take their shoes off, but they can if they're more comfortable that way. For some reason, before she can even get that sentence out, they have already taken off their shoes. Personally, I'm more comfortable if people take off their shoes when they come in our house, but that's just me.

I don't wear shoes around the house, so I wouldn't want people tracking in their germs from who knows where, onto our floors. :P

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Old 10-09-2006, 07:40 AM   #87
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I struggle with this because I do home visits as part of my job. Taking off my shoes feels unprofessional, but leaving them on (in some situations) seems rude.
Some homes I visit are really gross, so I would prefer not to take of my shoes or anything else in their homes.
I live in Chicago and with the snow this issue is going to come up again.
I dread it ugh!! Maybe i will get some of those rubber sole slippers just in case and hope my shoes don't get stolen while i am in the homes.

I have a solution. Hurray!!!

Buy a packet of those disposable shoe covers that surgeons wear and you can just slip a pair over your pair of shoes each time you enter a house.
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Old 10-09-2006, 07:45 AM   #88
 
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Until I read this thread, I never knew that some people keep their shoes on in their own houses or anyone else's. I've never had to ask anyone to remove their shoes because I've never known anyone who left their shoes on! I can't say that it's a regional or familial thing because I've been in households across the country and it's always the same - everyone just takes their shoes off.
My boss and I both go shoeless at work most of the time. Just for comfort. Most people go barefoot at my sister's workplace. Again just for comfort.
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Old 10-09-2006, 10:11 AM   #89
 
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I don't care if people wear shoes in the house, with three dogs and five cats people can just add to the dirt tracked in. This is why Mark bought a Roomba, I have hardwoods throughout the house so cleaning isn't a problem.

Now if you have been out in the mud, snow or your shoes are caked with dirt I would prefer it if you sat on the bench I provided in the basement and front porch remove your shoes. Better yet I'll come down and talk with you so you don't have to worry. When I go into a house's breezeway with dirty boots I'll stand there since I had taking boots on and off.

What kills me is when people come in from the snow, remove their boots and their pant legs are covered with snow which they track all over.

I don't mind dirt, but stepping on cold snow in socks will piss me off everytime.
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I grew up in Minnesota, where most of the year there was some sort of slop on your shoes from the weather. We always took off our shoes at home and everywhere we went we took off our shoes.
same with me, except upstate NY. and i have to have slippers - i hate taking off my shoes and my socks getting all cold and wet from the slushy mess. i still always take off my shoes the second i walk in the door and immediately put on slippers, my fiance always takes his off, and guests usually do too, because they see we do, not because we ask. at other people's houses, i don't like taking off my shoes unless i have slippers, which i sometimes bring with me. i guess i'm a weirdo!
Hee! For a good 18 months after I got married, I called my husband "my boyfriend" at times, and I KNOW people were wondering if I had one of each!

To answer the original question, I never wear shoes aroudn my house, but I don't ask guests to take theirs off. I do appreciate it if they ask though. In houses I've been to where shoes were not to be worn inside, there was always a rug or something similiar at the door and all sorts of shoes, so I just take the hint in those cases! :P I don't mind to be respectful of that, but it does tend to make me a bit tense in the house, as though I'll break something!
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Hee! For a good 18 months after I got married, I called my husband "my boyfriend" at times, and I KNOW people were wondering if I had one of each!
Look at the dates girly! When I wrote that, he WAS my fiance
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I don't care if people wear shoes in the house, with three dogs and five cats people can just add to the dirt tracked in. This is why Mark bought a Roomba, I have hardwoods throughout the house so cleaning isn't a problem.

Now if you have been out in the mud, snow or your shoes are caked with dirt I would prefer it if you sat on the bench I provided in the basement and front porch remove your shoes. Better yet I'll come down and talk with you so you don't have to worry. When I go into a house's breezeway with dirty boots I'll stand there since I had taking boots on and off.

What kills me is when people come in from the snow, remove their boots and their pant legs are covered with snow which they track all over.

I don't mind dirt, but stepping on cold snow in socks will piss me off everytime.
That is the WORST!!! Just thinking about it makes me shudder
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Hee! For a good 18 months after I got married, I called my husband "my boyfriend" at times, and I KNOW people were wondering if I had one of each!
Look at the dates girly! When I wrote that, he WAS my fiance
hahaha!! I thought this was a new thread that had somehow taken off in the past day or so! hehe... Sorry!
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hahaha!! I thought this was a new thread that had somehow taken off in the past day or so! hehe... Sorry!
No need to apologize Sweetie
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Old 10-09-2006, 01:18 PM   #95
 
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Until I can teach my dogs to take their feet off, nobody need bother with removing their shoes.
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Old 10-09-2006, 02:22 PM   #96
 
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the only time people have left shoes at our front door (and we didn't even have to ask them to do it) was when the weather was wet and nasty out and they didn't want to track in water and debris from outdoors.

i don't mind people wearing their shoes into our home.

i'd imagine that my guests' sneezes and fingers that touched "God knows what" before they walked into our home would do far more harm to us and our kids than any invisible dirt on the bottoms of their shoes. whose to say that their perfume and pet hair that gets embedded into our furniture wouldn't offend us more than trace amounts of dirt from outside?
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Old 10-09-2006, 02:45 PM   #97
 
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I'd feel wierd wearing my shoes in other people's houses. Where I grew up, you ALWAYS leave your shoes just outside the door. Its good house manners. I dont like people wearing their shoes in my house either. You also dont go into someone's bedroom and sit on the bed unless they say you can.

while we are at it, a few other rules that I grew up with and still maintain, as do most of the people that I know: ask if you want something from the refrigerator at someone else's house, even if you are very close friends with them. When I'm at my best friend's house, I always ask if I need water. She tells me I dont need to ask, just go ahead, but I'd feel odd to do that.
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No rule in my house. Guests are free to do whichever they prefer. I can't say that I have been asked to remove my shoes in anyone else's house since I was a child either, and as an adult, I'd find it a little odd in my part of the U.S.

As to whether I do remove my shoes elsewhere, depends on whose house and why I am there. Unless it's family or a close friend, I wouldn't consider them close enough to wear sweat pants or disrobe in their house, and I would think of not wearing shoes as a similar informal and intimate gesture. Unless, of course, I had just plodded through a bunch of dirt, and wearing them would obviously track the dirt in, in which case, I would say, "Would you be offended if I took off my shoes? I don't want to track mud."
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Old 10-10-2006, 07:09 AM   #99
 
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People do that a lot in my area. I went to a kids birthday party last weekend, and there were shoes lined up on the front porch and stairs. These folks have hardwood floors, too.

I want to do this in my house, sign on the door and all. People track leaves and dirt all in the house when they step inside. I have a child crawling all over, so that makes it a concern.
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