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He did 23 58.97%
I did 12 30.77%
We were set up by a mutal friend, colleague, etc.. 4 10.26%
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Old 05-30-2005, 12:23 PM   #1
 
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This is a spin-off of my question to Mephisto - which he has yet to answer....

Just doing a little unscientific research
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Old 05-30-2005, 12:24 PM   #2
 
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you should add a mutual option as there are people who just sort of clicked spontaneously into a relationship. I am not sure if mine was that or initiated by him, actually....
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Old 05-30-2005, 12:26 PM   #3
 
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I can't remember. Technically we met over the phone (one of those party line thingies) so I don't remember who left a message for who. We agreed to meet, both called each other (he gave me his # and I called first after the initial meeting) so seems like I broke all the rules I had before meeting my husband.

I used to be of the "let them make the first move" camp but realized that it pretty much only brought around pompous jerks. With my husband I felt a genuine attraction that was mutual so we didn't keep score as to who did what (I actually had to ask him to remind me of the technicalities of when we met).
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DaNa did. I'm happy he did, because I was interested (I loved) in the other guy. But, I had prayed for the right man, and prayerfully written a list of the qualities my husband should have. My "test" of whether the person could be the one was whether or not the person wanted to grow in the Lord with me, and in knowledge and adherence to the Bible specifically. Well, I prayed that one night, and the next day DaNa came to my room and asked if I would start reading the Bible with him.

I was pretty disgusted actually, because I just knew I was praying for the other guy . But, I decided to give DaNa a chance. It took a year before I broke up with the other guy (I wasn't sleeping with either of them). I'm so blessed that DaNa waited on me to get it together!!!!
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Do I pick He did or I did to make this poll accurate?
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you should add a mutual option as there are people who just sort of clicked spontaneously into a relationship. I am not sure if mine was that or initiated by him, actually....
Same here. we worked together and did stuff as friends first. We both initiated it at the same time.
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Old 05-30-2005, 12:30 PM   #7
 
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He made the first move. He asked me to go to a teenage dance with him. We have been together a longggggggggggg time since I was 15 yrs old.

Side note: His brother also asked me to go to the same dance with him & I turned him down. Boy, did I make the right choice!!
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Old 05-30-2005, 01:10 PM   #8
 
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Amneris- I created this poll with a mutual option - I started it with 3 options on purpose - did you not see the third option?????

GB - Sorry for the oversight but I am going to let the poll alone since about 90% of posters seem to be female.. But I/we LOVE having you here and your input, so please stay (with your curls )

Skywatcher - 15 That's amazing that you have grown together and have remained together - what an inspiration!! I am curious - is there much of an age difference between you and DH?

Thanks to everyone else for posting too - Keep those votes and stories coming....
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Old 05-30-2005, 01:14 PM   #9
 
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[quote="eyestrain curly"]Amneris- I created this poll with a mutual option - I started it with 3 options on purpose - did you not see the third option?????

Isn't the third option for being set up by a mutual friend? I meant mutually being attracted to/approaching one another, not necessarily on a set-up which I think is different .... but maybe I am missing something?
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Old 05-30-2005, 01:14 PM   #10
 
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Yip, eyestrain 15 Love him more & more every day too

He is 1yr 5 months older than me.
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Old 05-30-2005, 01:42 PM   #11
 
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Amneris-

Oh, I see your point...... Usually someone makes the first move in approaching the other person or striking up a conversation or asking the other person out. I've really never known it to be so completely mutual!? That's cool if that's what happened to you.

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Awwww, so cute Puppy love :P
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I think alcohol should be a choice!!!
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I think alcohol should be a choice!!!
Not if you're a "good" Christian
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I think alcohol should be a choice!!!
Not if you're a "good" Christian
Good Catholics can drink as much as we want!!!!!

... maybe that explains me...(had to say it before you all did)
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I think alcohol should be a choice!!!
Not if you're a "good" Christian
Good Catholics can drink as much as we want!!!!!

... maybe that explains me...(had to say it before you all did)
But you'll aren't "real" Christians anyway!
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I think alcohol should be a choice!!!
Not if you're a "good" Christian
Good Catholics can drink as much as we want!!!!!

... maybe that explains me...(had to say it before you all did)
But you'll aren't "real" Christians anyway!
hey, we didn't start the schism!!!!!

(I am JOKING)
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Old 05-30-2005, 02:40 PM   #17
 
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Foxycurl-

LOL at your post

It kind of bugs me that I have to click the "view results" button just to monitor my own thread?! But since I'm not a married curly, I am not allowed to vote

So far, we are at 8 (he did) and 2 (I did) with no one picking the third option.. I 'm not sure which GB picked..
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I think my husband made the first move and he insists I did. I truly think it must have been mutual. It did take alcohol to bring us together. Thankfully, I'm Catholic so it's okay.
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I'm not sure who made the first move. We were friends first. I had him firmly in the male friend category complete with complaining about the guys that I was dating and asking for advice. Somewhere along the way, we both realized that we would rather be more than friends but I don't remember anyone making a first move. I think I will ask him.
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We were already friends, but he initiated the relationship by first asking me out. We had a fun first date, but I had to go out of town unexpectedly right afterwards and through some misunderstandings, he didn't think I was interested in him. So I had to "re-initiate" the relationship when I got back to town.
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