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Old 07-05-2005, 10:31 AM   #21
 
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My fear was related to what one of the other posters mentioned. Unsafe sex isn't the only way to contract the virus. What if I had a cut on my finger and got bled on by someone with the virus? What if I've had an HIV positive dental hygenist and didn't know it? You never know.
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My fear was related to what one of the other posters mentioned. Unsafe sex isn't the only way to contract the virus. What if I had a cut on my finger and got bled on by someone with the virus? What if I've had an HIV positive dental hygenist and didn't know it? You never know.
I think thats a great point, and a one alot of people don't consider. Although very unlikely to happen, I would definatly want to know for my childs sake and the Drs & Nurses who would treat us!
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Old 07-05-2005, 10:47 AM   #23
 
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I don't think I was asked to give one, but I could have been? But, I give blood regularly, and your blood is tested for that. If you did have it, you would be notified that way, too.

I know my husband and I didn't have it when we got married, and don't have it six years later (he gives blood, too), so I wouldn't take it because I was worried about being positive, I'm just a "rules' type of girl. If they wanted me to take the test, I wouldn't have a problem doing it.
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Wow, lots of cool replies!

When I got tested, it was for the sake of my baby and the hospital staff. I wanted to do that so it outweighed other feelings, but I did have some.

Dh and I got tested before we hooked up, and I was sure we had both been faithful, but still I was a little.... uncomfortable. I think its that little nagging fear someone mentioned, thinking back about cuts I had gotten in public places, squishing a mosquito already filled with someone else's blood, that sort of thing.

I can't think of any other kind of medical test that would make me feel like that, though, so there must be a social taboo factor too.
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I had it done for piece of mind - when they are already taking 7 vials of blood, another one doesn't really warrant mentioning.

My husband is a surgeon and has been stuck a few times, much to my horror. I'd like him and his colleagues to be as knowledgeable as possible as to what they are dealing with everytime they treat a patient. We live in a city with a high HIV rate.
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Old 07-07-2005, 02:41 PM   #26
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No-at that time it was not an issue
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No... I wouldn't need one since my husband and I were both virgins until we got married and we trust that neither has broken our vows, so there'd be no point.
You and your husband know in your case, but do you know how many times medical professionals are told that and it's not true? It's good information for them to know for certain.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being tested. Give your doctor and nurses peace of mind, IMO.
Amneris and Goldencurly, sexual transmission is not the only way HIV is transmitted. So being a virgin and not breaking vows has nothing to do with anything. It's better to KNOW than to assume, no matter how wonderful you think your relationship is.
true...but neither of us has used IV drugs either so as I say, there'd be no point, and I wouldn't want to waste mine or anyone's time.
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true...but neither of us has used IV drugs either so as I say, there'd be no point, and I wouldn't want to waste mine or anyone's time.
You do realise there are other ways to contract AIDS right? Besides sex and drug use?
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true...but neither of us has used IV drugs either so as I say, there'd be no point, and I wouldn't want to waste mine or anyone's time.
You do realise there are other ways to contract AIDS right? Besides sex and drug use?
I forgot blood transfusions, which neither of us has had.

According to this list http://www.avert.org/howcan.htm neither of us is at risk at all.

ETA: I guess if it's such a big deal to the doctors sure, go ahead, do the test... but they'd be wasting their time.
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A waste of time? Trust? Not at risk? There isn't an excuse that's good enough. It should just be mandatory. Why rely on what you think is true when you can have the piece of mind that comes w/ being tested.
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true...but neither of us has used IV drugs either so as I say, there'd be no point, and I wouldn't want to waste mine or anyone's time.
You do realise there are other ways to contract AIDS right? Besides sex and drug use?
I forgot blood transfusions, which neither of us has had.

According to this list http://www.avert.org/howcan.htm neither of us is at risk at all.

ETA: I guess if it's such a big deal to the doctors sure, go ahead, do the test... but they'd be wasting their time.
HIV tests are literally 20 minutes for results these days...so nobody's time would be wasted. I think anyone who is sexually active, MARRIED or NOT, in this day and age, should be tested for HIV. For one, you can only control yourself, you can't control what another human being does or has happen to them. Your spouse could contract HIV unbeknownst to them. So getting an HIV test should be a routine part of the blood-work done in your yearly physical. Now that aside, once you're pregnant, one would hope you (in general) think of your future child, and also get tested just for the sake of everyone involved.
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I'm sorry Amneris (I meant to reply before you edited your post, but got busy) if it sounded like I was jumping on you, but I just find it scary when people think they are safe because they have always practiced safe sex and never used drugs. Something as simple as bandaging a childs scraped knee and you having a cut on your finger could have you infected without realising.

It's such a simple test, and such an easy way to put everyones mind at rest...I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.
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This is only MY opinion. I had an HIV test done when I first found out that I was pregnant and it was never because I thought me or my husband had it. I don't really trust "people" saying that HIV is only spread this way or only spread that way. I've seen too many cases of unknown exposures. Even in small children. It was never a trust issue with our marriage, it was more of a let's be sure because this world is FULL of secrets. Things happen to virgins too.
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I'm sorry Amneris (I meant to reply before you edited your post, but got busy) if it sounded like I was jumping on you, but I just find it scary when people think they are safe because they have always practiced safe sex and never used drugs. Something as simple as bandaging a childs scraped knee and you having a cut on your finger could have you infected without realising.

It's such a simple test, and such an easy way to put everyones mind at rest...I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.
There are always going to be people that think, "It will never happen to me..."
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I think people fall into a false and unsafe sense of security because of what the FDA ( or other countries' equivalent), doctors and researchers say can and cannot happen. They rarely know what can happen until it DOES happen. Drug use, sex, and blood transfusions are NOT the only way to get HIV. I believe that it's best to be safe and NEVER a waste of time. Like I stated before, there are children with the virus who are virgins, never did drugs, no transfusions, parents are negative and one girl was actually home schooled and doctors have NO clue where she got HIV. Everything you hear isn't always what you should believe. I bet you didn't know there was a cure either.
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I bet you didn't know there was a cure either.
I know that there are drugs that they can give pregnant moms to prevent it from being passed to the baby, but as for an actual "cure", I hadn't heard anything about that.

Do you have a link or anything that proves this?
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I bet you didn't know there was a cure either.
I know that there are drugs that they can give pregnant moms to prevent it from being passed to the baby, but as for an actual "cure", I hadn't heard anything about that.

Do you have a link or anything that proves this?
I haven't personally been cured of AIDS but US patent #5676977 is the cure for AIDS. I also don't believe that HIV is the only means of getting AIDS. Sometimes we have to realize that the rabbit hole runs deeper than we think. I still think that testing is important and that it has saved lives.
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Very interesting about the patent, this is the first I've heard of it I believe. What else has anyone else heard?
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A cure for AIDS???? I have NEVER heard that.... I have heard that the anti retroviral drugs control HIV but do not eliminate it from the body. Are there new developments since then?

As to anyone being at risk, well yes, that is technically true, but I am about as low risk for AIDS as it gets. Could I have mad cow disease right now? Well, technically anyone could, but since it comes primarily from beef and I've been a vegetarian most of my life, I am very low risk for that too and if they were going to screen people for it, better to target the meat eaters.

I have no problem being tested for things I AM at risk for. Diabetes and high blood pressure are very high in my family and my culture. I have a lot of allergies and was tested and carry an Epi-Pen as I am at risk for anaphylactic shock. Most of the women have ahd fibroids, so I get checked for those too. But AIDS????? The chances of getting it from a cut are probably less than those of being struck by lightning.
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A cure for AIDS???? I have NEVER heard that.... I have heard that the anti retroviral drugs control HIV but do not eliminate it from the body. Are there new developments since then?

As to anyone being at risk, well yes, that is technically true, but I am about as low risk for AIDS as it gets. Could I have mad cow disease right now? Well, technically anyone could, but since it comes primarily from beef and I've been a vegetarian most of my life, I am very low risk for that too and if they were going to screen people for it, better to target the meat eaters.

I have no problem being tested for things I AM at risk for. Diabetes and high blood pressure are very high in my family and my culture. I have a lot of allergies and was tested and carry an Epi-Pen as I am at risk for anaphylactic shock. But AIDS????? The chances of getting it from a cut are probably less than those of being struck by lightning.
Again, there are always going to be people that think, "It will never happen to me."
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