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Old 07-08-2005, 03:32 PM   #61
 
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I made my husband vacuum the ceiling in the laundry room to encourage potentially baby biting spiders to re-locate.
OMG! I'm dying laughing... Motherhood makes us crazy!
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Rainyday,

He actually joined an on-line support group for men with pregnant wives. :blush:blush.gif
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He actually joined an on-line support group for men with pregnant wives. :blush:blush.gif
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He actually joined an on-line support group for men with pregnant wives. :blush:blush.gif
Aww, how cute is that
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Rainyday,

He actually joined an on-line support group for men with pregnant wives. :blush:blush.gif
Aww, how cute is that
Unless he was really just looking at online nudie pics.
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Amneris,

I understand where you're coming from about the dentist and finger cuts. I don't know about the other mothers here, but when I was pregnant, I nested severely.

I let the doctors test me for everything they wanted to, even though I knew that nothing was wrong with me or the baby.

I had the chimney swept professionally.

I refused to take Tylenol, despite the fact that the doctors said it was okay. (Incidentally, scientists recently found out that being exposed to acetametaphin in the womb is associated with smaller male genitalia.)

Let's see, I woke my DH up at 3 am one night to tell him that we needed to move the bed in the morning so that I could vacuum underneath it better before the baby was born.

I had a car seat installed by police officers at the local station to make sure it was done right.

I made my husband vacuum the ceiling in the laundry room to encourage potentially baby biting spiders to re-locate.

So, while I wasn't at high risk for AIDs, I was happy to take the HIV test because to me, it was just part of the paranoia that was my baby preparation. Like I said, I can't speak for other mothers, but I think that taking every precaution that the prenatal mother can think of is pretty common.
Oh my goodness, I was the same way. (My husband had me convinced that only I would act like this) I had every test done including genetic counseling. I would not take ANY medicines. I used the BabyPlus machine every single day except for the last 9 because the hospital staff wouldn't let me. I had the house professionally cleaned and then I cleaned after them just to be sure. I did everything I could for him. I didn't know about the whole Tylenol thing. I'm glad I didn't take any but I still got tired of nasty people talking about how "big" he is down there just to be a baby. Then having the nerve to mention "taking after his father." WTH? The whole HIV test was just a matter of signing another form because I was already getting a battery of tests done. Most women probably are not at high risk but high or low, what does it matter? It's a real danger and I just wanted to say that I'm negative with confidence.
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Maybe when I am pregnant I will think differently.
I appreciate all your thoughtful replies - they will be good to keep in mind when the time comes.
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I was tested even though I knew there was no chance I would test positive. I assumed it would be a pain to try to refuse it.
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Old 07-08-2005, 06:15 PM   #69
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So-do they routinely test now?
They didn;t when I was pregnant.
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So-do they routinely test now?
They didn;t when I was pregnant.
I think that most do. I know that mine does, and did four years ago when I got pregnant with my son.
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you can bet your sweet bejesus, missy. :cowboy:cowboy.gif
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I really don't see the big deal about not wanting to get tested. You're giving blood anyway. When I was pregnant (2001) they asked if I wanted it and my doc said that I could get it there or go somewhere else and have it done anonymously. There was no pressure.
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So-do they routinely test now?
They didn;t when I was pregnant.
Actually, my ob/gyn didn't really require it 5 years ago, it was optional. The PA was ordering my blood work and was telling me everything that I needed, he looked at my chart and said, "I'm guessing you don't need an HIV test?", I told him to throw one in anyway.
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You know, the fact that so many gyn's are making the HIV test mandatory, means there's a good reason. They see that most women are contracting it through what they thought were monogamous, heterosexual, 'safe' relationships.

Black women have the highest and fastest rising percentages of hiv infection. (someone correct me if you know otherwise) Why? Because there a many, many black men out here sleeping with several black women at the same time. And yes, this is heterosexual sex, and many of the women believe they are in a monogamous relationship. So I say we as black women have to be that much more vigilant about our relationhships and our status. This is not to say that all races and all sexes don't have to be careful, they do.
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You know, the fact that so many gyn's are making the HIV test mandatory, means there's a good reason. They see that most women are contracting it through what they thought were monogamous, heterosexual, 'safe' relationships.

Black women have the highest and fastest rising percentages of hiv infection. (someone correct me if you know otherwise) Why? Because there a many, many black men out here sleeping with several black women at the same time. And yes, this is heterosexual sex, and many of the women believe they are in a monogamous relationship. So I say we as black women have to be that much more vigilant about our relationhships and our status. This is not to say that all races and all sexes don't have to be careful, they do.
I understand what you are saying, and though I resent it, I have to admit that many Black men fall into this category, but I've also known some white men who were real dogs and would put the worst black men I know to shame (and there are white men out there preying on black women desperate to be with white men, just as many black men prey on white women - it's not all cut and dried.) My Black man is NOTHING like that, and I say that not out of naivete but out of absolute conviction that I know this person - I know his soul, I know his heart. I totally understand people who don't know me wanting to go for the safe route/not believing me etc. and what you guys are saying is the right thing, and as I said, I guess if it's not that big a deal, I'd do the test, but I KNOW as much as I know anything that it is not an issue for us.
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You know that it isn't an issue for the two of you based on how you "think" it can be transmitted. I knew that it wasn't an issue within my marriage either as far as ways people think it can be transmitted but like you said, the test is no big deal to take.
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You know, the fact that so many gyn's are making the HIV test mandatory, means there's a good reason. They see that most women are contracting it through what they thought were monogamous, heterosexual, 'safe' relationships.

Black women have the highest and fastest rising percentages of hiv infection. (someone correct me if you know otherwise) Why? Because there a many, many black men out here sleeping with several black women at the same time. And yes, this is heterosexual sex, and many of the women believe they are in a monogamous relationship. So I say we as black women have to be that much more vigilant about our relationhships and our status. This is not to say that all races and all sexes don't have to be careful, they do.
I understand what you are saying, and though I resent it, I have to admit that many Black men fall into this category, but I've also known some white men who were real dogs and would put the worst black men I know to shame (and there are white men out there preying on black women desperate to be with white men, just as many black men prey on white women - it's not all cut and dried.) My Black man is NOTHING like that, and I say that not out of naivete but out of absolute conviction that I know this person - I know his soul, I know his heart. I totally understand people who don't know me wanting to go for the safe route/not believing me etc. and what you guys are saying is the right thing, and as I said, I guess if it's not that big a deal, I'd do the test, but I KNOW as much as I know anything that it is not an issue for us.
Unless you are a mind reader, and are with your Black man 24/7, you don't 100% know what goes through his mind and what he does when you aren't around. I am not saying that everything needs to be suspect, but I am one of those people that while I trust my husband, I am not with him 24/7. I don't have anything to worry about either as far as my marriage is concerned and contracting AIDS, however, that's not the only way that I can get it.

MY point is that, it just seems that there is some naivete about some things. ANYTHING I can do to protect my unborn child, I will do. On that note, I have also gotten several different blood tests looking for genetic diseases (Cystic Fibrosis, Thalasemias, etc) I know NO ONE in my family with those, but that doesn't mean that mine wouldn't be the first. I will also get the AFP blood test when I am around 15 weeks, which tests for neural tube defects (spina bifida, anencephaly, etc). While I have been taking EVERY precaution to try and prevent those defects, that doesn't mean that there is NO chance.

ITA that if doctors are making it a part of the routine blood screen, there must be a reason.
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i think its automatically in the round up of tests they did at my clinic. along with all the test for 10,000 other STDs & gory diseases i could have had
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Unless you are a mind reader, and are with your Black man 24/7, you don't 100% know what goes through his mind and what he does when you aren't around. I am not saying that everything needs to be suspect, but I am one of those people that while I trust my husband, I am not with him 24/7. quote]


ALL MEN..not just BLACK ones.
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Unless you are a mind reader, and are with your Black man 24/7, you don't 100% know what goes through his mind and what he does when you aren't around. I am not saying that everything needs to be suspect, but I am one of those people that while I trust my husband, I am not with him 24/7. quote]


ALL MEN..not just BLACK ones.
I was saying that to Amneris, since she posted that she was talking about her black man.

I realize that it's ALL men, not just certain races/ethnicities.
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