How to introduce a non-seafood lover to seafood? - Page 2

SpiceCurls · 05-14-2008, 05:16 PM

He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.

iris427 · 05-14-2008, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by SpiceCurls

He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.

But if you aren't specific, then people are going to ask you questions like I did. You can't leave info out of your original post and then get annoyed when people don't know that info. Or when they take the words you choose to mean the things that those words usually mean.

I'm not trying to flame you, Spice Curls. I asked you some questions to clarify the situation in my mind and then I was confused because your responses weren't consistent with your original post.

criscat · 05-14-2008, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by SpiceCurls

He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.

"He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood."

Aha!
That's a polite way to say he hates it.

But, if you want to know more details, you could suggest a Japanese restaurant and see what the reaction is.

" Have people been really pushy with you in life?"
Yes, I've been hunted by preachers with bibles.

iris427 · 05-14-2008, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by SpiceCurls

He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.

"He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood."

Aha!
That's a polite way to say he hates it.

But, if you want to know more details, you could suggest a Japanese restaurant and see what the reaction is.

" Have people been really pushy with you in life?"
Yes, I've been hunted by preachers with bibles.

Yep, that's what I think.

Criscat, I think the pushy question was directed at me.

Josephine · 05-14-2008, 05:35 PM

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How can I encourage a non-seafood lover to eat seafood? I won’t force anybody or be naggy about it. But I find that when I try stuff that turned me off initially, I usually like it.

What kind of seafood dishes are OK for newbies?

I guess it would depend on the person. I hate seafood so none for me. Recently though at one thai place I go to I will eat the soup with the shrimp picked out since it doesn't smell. Everywhere else I can smell it. Before I was so picky, if it even touched my food (even if there was no smell) I wouldn't eat any of it.

Some people are a little more open. My brother and sister used to hate seafood as well and I think they started out with shrimp and fried fish. My ex also hated fish and most seafood but could eat it if it didnt smell too bad.

criscat · 05-14-2008, 05:43 PM

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Criscat, I think the pushy question was directed at me.

Oh, now you want the pushy question just for yourself, how cute

iris427 · 05-14-2008, 05:44 PM

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Criscat, I think the pushy question was directed at me.

Oh, now you want the pushy question just for yourself, how cute

It's because I'm pushy. I'm a pusher.

(Mean Girls, anyone?)

cympreni · 05-14-2008, 05:53 PM

If he wants to try it, fine. But you haven't even asked him yet. Only thing you know is he isn't big on it, (which I too, interpret as hate it).

Stop thinking so much!!!! You don't even know enough about him to know his seafood history, and you're still counting dates. But your making long-term plans about introducing him to stuff in the future, before even asking if he'd be open to it. Save the long-term plans for when your an exclusive couple. Otherwise, don't plan past the next date.

criscat · 05-14-2008, 05:56 PM

I'd be immediately turned off by a guy who can't appreciate a juicy tuna.

Just sayin.

FieryCurls · 05-14-2008, 05:57 PM

Why don't you just take past suggestions and chill on men for a while?

spiderman5000 · 05-14-2008, 06:11 PM

I hated all seafood up until about six months ago. A few years ago my best friend wanted to take me out to sushi. I went and ended up loving it. The first thing I had was a piece of yellowtail sashimi. I had always kind of enjoyed locks (sp?) as a kid and it tasted very similar. I slowly started eating different kinds of sushi and finally gave in and started eating shrimp, muscles, oysters (YUM), etc etc a few months back. I'm obsessed now.

iris427 · 05-14-2008, 06:12 PM

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I hated all seafood up until about six months ago. A few years ago my best friend wanted to take me out to sushi. I went and ended up loving it. The first thing I had was a piece of yellowtail sashimi. I had always kind of enjoyed locks (sp?) as a kid and it tasted very similar. I slowly started eating different kinds of sushi and finally gave in and started eating shrimp, muscles, oysters (YUM), etc etc a few months back. I'm obsessed now.

lox

spiderman5000 · 05-14-2008, 06:38 PM

Hahahah thank you! I don't know why I was so confused.

Now I have to go down to the deli to get a bagel with cream cheese and lox. NUMMY~

Scarlet · 05-14-2008, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by FieryCurls

Why don't you just take past suggestions and chill on men for a while?

ITA

YolyC · 05-14-2008, 07:52 PM

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He could be allergic (again, I doubt it).

Could be and he just doesn't feel like getting into details.

SpiceCurls · 05-14-2008, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by cympreni

If he wants to try it, fine. But you haven't even asked him yet. Only thing you know is he isn't big on it, (which I too, interpret as hate it).

Stop thinking so much!!!! You don't even know enough about him to know his seafood history, and you're still counting dates. But your making long-term plans about introducing him to stuff in the future, before even asking if he'd be open to it. Save the long-term plans for when your an exclusive couple. Otherwise, don't plan past the next date.

??? I'm not the one who's overthinking this.

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I hated all seafood up until about six months ago. A few years ago my best friend wanted to take me out to sushi. I went and ended up loving it. The first thing I had was a piece of yellowtail sashimi. I had always kind of enjoyed locks (sp?) as a kid and it tasted very similar. I slowly started eating different kinds of sushi and finally gave in and started eating shrimp, muscles, oysters (YUM), etc etc a few months back. I'm obsessed now.

See?! That's exactly what I mean. It could happen! Spiderman HATED seafood and she has now changed. I don't interpret his not "big on" statement as hate. But then I don't know and neither does anyone here. So I'll ask.

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Originally Posted by FieryCurls

Why don't you just take past suggestions and chill on men for a while?

Maybe later.

FieryCurls · 05-14-2008, 08:04 PM

You may not stop until later, but I think you will be doing yourself an injustice. You seem to be trying so hard to find a man and it sometimes doesn't work that way.

Scarlet · 05-14-2008, 08:12 PM

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See?! That's exactly what I mean. It could happen! Spiderman HATED seafood and she has now changed. I don't interpret his not "big on" statement as hate. But then I don't know and neither does anyone here. So I'll ask

But why does it even matter? Seriously, you're running the risk of having him think you're fixated on minor details of his life. That doesn't bode well for having date #5.

SpiceCurls · 05-14-2008, 08:21 PM

Why does what even matter?

How can I run "the risk of having him think you're fixated on minor details of his life" by asking him what he thinks about seafood (whether "not big on" really means he hates it or something else)?!?!?!?

My pt in quoting spiderman was that others had said I was being pushy but her experience was a positive example of what could happen. Any negative possibilities seem less likely. Spiderman didn't seem to think her frnd was being pushy (who knows? maybe she did)...

Also keep in mind, all of you here are seeing the "back story." But it's not like I'm going to go to him and say "Now how can I get you to love seafood?!"

cympreni · 05-14-2008, 08:36 PM

you're overthinking because you're making future plans with a person whom you have no future with yet.

Yes, some people might have had a change of heart after trying something that they previously hated, but that is not always the case. Most people I know would consider it rude to push something on someone after they stated they don't like it. And certainly not with a person who you barely know.

You yourself have admitted that this username is solely for relationship/dating questions. You shouldn't be surprised when someone brings up your back stories.