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Old 06-02-2008, 04:27 PM   #1
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Default Okay, why are you still single?

I am. I need to get it together.

How about you?

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Old 06-02-2008, 04:38 PM   #2
 
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Im still single because I havent met a guy who melts my heart. Im open but not LOOKING.
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Old 06-02-2008, 04:46 PM   #3
 
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I am single because whenever I think about going out and trying to meet someone, the idea of my pajamas, my couch, and a glass of wine sounds SO much better.

In my defense, I'm not antisocial - I just work 80 hour weeks!
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Old 06-02-2008, 04:47 PM   #4
 
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Im still single because I havent met a guy who melts my heart. Im open but not LOOKING.
Same for me. And add I needed a break. I was a serial dater before and I almost forgot who I was. Right now I am enjoying wooing myself.
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Old 06-02-2008, 04:51 PM   #5
 
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Im still single because I havent met a guy who melts my heart. Im open but not LOOKING.
Me too! And right now I am trying to concentrate on me and bettering myself.
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:01 PM   #6
 
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I've yet to meet someone who I think is worth the effort to pursue. I want that guy who sends my heart into wild palpitations just by standing next to me.

And since my most recent break up, I'm scared of getting too close to anyone. So relationships are out of the question until I get over that. And I honestly don't have the time to date.

There are a lot of factors. And I'm cool with being single, I'm actually much happier now than when I was dating someone.
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:08 PM   #7
 
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I forgot (well, not really, but you know what I mean). I'm also single because I found that guy who makes you a little short of breath even when you think about him. The one who makes your heart race when you first catch sight of him after even a few hours apart. The one who makes you feel like the two of you will be united against the world, and that together you can make all your dreams come true. It ended for silly reasons and now he's marrying someone else. So I'm still single because it's taken me a year to even kiss someone else without wanting to cry.
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:16 PM   #8
 
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i'm getting over someone ultra slowly. no one has done a good job of replacing him. bleh.

and i work with 100% women and our social networks are pretty limited to each other. that ain't helpin!!!

oh, and men i have met in bars are not dateable.

diagnosis complete.
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:25 PM   #9
 
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I'm looking for a good quality man who makes me swoon. I won't settle for less. There are worse things than being alone...being with the wrong man is one of them. I'm just working on myself until he finds me!
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:27 PM   #10
 
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Not looking and no one awesome has run into me yet.
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:32 PM   #11
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I am trying my best to be that happily single 30 something, but it is difficult doing so when all of your friends are getting married THIS YEAR or are dating really nice guys! Geez! I do have a few single friends remaining, but it still stings everytime a female friend gloats about having found the ONE.

I meet cool dudes and try to get to know them, but I am so paranoid sometimes. Either I can't help obsessing on thoughts of whether the guy is a killer, or a cheat. I think some of my circumstances and my fear of committing to a guy keeps me single.

What are my female friends doing differently?

I can see myself single forever not by choice. I had an aunt that was single and childless all of her life. She seemed happy hanging out with her sister all of the time. The problem with me adopting that way of life is, I don't have a sister.

I really do need to get it together.
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:37 PM   #12
 
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Cause I'm too hot for my own good?

Cause I'm crazy?

Cause no man can handle *all this*?

Your guess is as good as mine. LOL

Seriously, I guess I am an ass-backwards commitment phobe and control freak on a very, very deep level.
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Old 06-02-2008, 05:41 PM   #13
 
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Honestly, I don't know. I divorced at 32-ish, now very nearly 39. I've certainly done my share of dating in the intervening years. I can honestly say I'm ready for a relationship, ready for children [as ready as one can get].

I'm also very happy just as I am. When I think about being alone indefinitely, I can totally see an upside to it and I'm ok with it possibly happening. I'm not looking for anyone to "complete me," and I don't think there is "The One" out there for anybody.

I find it best not to think about it too much. I can't and won't live my life waiting for something to come along to make me whole. I'm already whole.

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Old 06-02-2008, 05:42 PM   #14
 
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let's see...i found the love of my life and then he decided he wasn't ready for commitment...that ended 2 yrs ago and i'm still looking for somebody that makes me swoon like he did...well not looking at all...i'm waiting for them to find me.

oh and i still love my ex...i'm a mess...can someone send me a glass of jack and coke
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Old 06-02-2008, 06:10 PM   #15
 
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Huh! Good question

I really like "me" and my life! In fact I love both!!!

I'm definitely open to something coming along, but not looking at all. There are a lot of things I want to accomplish for myself, before adding to the mix...if that makes sense!
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Old 06-02-2008, 06:54 PM   #16
 
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I am single because whenever I think about going out and trying to meet someone, the idea of my pajamas, my couch, and a glass of wine sounds SO much better.

Word.


I met a guy the other day and I actually keep thinking "Please don't call. Please don't call."

Because I'm not sure I'm even into him and I don't want to be bothered to find out.


I would like to be in a relationship. They're good when it's the right person, but when it's the wrong person, they're oh so very very bad.
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I am single because whenever I think about going out and trying to meet someone, the idea of my pajamas, my couch, and a glass of wine sounds SO much better.

Word.


I met a guy the other day and I actually keep thinking "Please don't call. Please don't call."

Because I'm not sure I'm even into him and I don't want to be bothered to find out.


I would like to be in a relationship. They're good when it's the right person, but when it's the wrong person, they're oh so very very bad.
Wow. Must be a NY thing. I'm seriously WAY over NY guys.
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Old 06-02-2008, 07:10 PM   #18
 
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Many reasons. My ex ran me through the gutter, and now the girl who was pretty screwed up to begin with is a jaded, cynical being.

And yet I still want him back. Or at least, the old him.

I'm also a bit of a control freak, too.

Also, there's no one out there right now for me. And I'm tired of being the one that always pushes relationships forward. Been there, done that, bought the tee-shirt. I want someone who's willing to chase me.
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Old 06-02-2008, 07:18 PM   #19
 
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I'm single because I'm attracting just weird people and *******es. I need to take some time for a thorough self-assessment so I can understand what I'm doing wrong before I go forward.
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i still haven't figured it out and i'm going to be 48 in 2 months. never mind all my friends getting married, i don't even have any friends any more and most of the people i know my age have children about to graduate university and start families of their own.

i'm doomed...
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