The Official Online Dating Diaries Thread

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And as far as the surgery...I'm alive, obviously....feel like crap. About to take another Percocet. Try to brave standing up and cooking cause I'm starving. They couldn't do the ablation cause there was too much blood and tissue....did a thorough d&c said that should help...says I may be a candidate for laparoscopic hysterectomy. My cyst was so large they had to take my whole left ovary. Said as long as I have the right one tho..the hysterectomy wouldn't thro me into menopause. I'll have to make that happen...cause I'm not dealing with this bleeding anymore...I'd need like 10 days off from work....so I'm gonna just have to figure it out...

Thanks for asking
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Glad the surgery is over and went well I'm assuming. That sucks about your friend, hope you don't rely on him for anything else, it's pretty ****ty what he did.
I'm not mad...cause stuff does happen...I get that...but I wasn't surprised. It's like the more this stuff happens the harder it is to trust anyone cause I assume their gonna let me down. So eventually I just get all...no one cares about me at all...all the ones who did are dead.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I don't think I have to explain anything to anyone on this site. None of you know me, or the entire situation with Steve, and your comments are not "tough love", they're just *****y in general. I don't even know why I came back to this board because nobody offers positive support. I know what online dating entails, and so what if I'm planning for a Christmas-time meet up? What f*cking business is it of anyone's here? If I want to get excited about someone I'm waiting to meet two months from now, I'll do just that. I fall in love easily, and get hurt easily, but there is nothing I'd change because each time I learn something about myself. Heartache sucks, but I'm trying to live my life waiting for another one to come around so much so that I'm suspicious of every single person I come into contact with. I have my wits about me. I'm not jumping into anything, but I am enjoying the time I get in communication with Steve. We Skype everyday, talk on the phone, and text, so I don't think assumptions about him "playing around on a dating site" are even valid. I guess it was SL who made the comment about me wasting time on someone who may or may not have time for a relationship- that was the previous guy, and also, you said you didn't know who I'm dealing with now...and yet you have so much sh*t to say about it right? Gtfo with your sh*t ok.

Now I remember why I don't waste time on message boards such as these. Too many catty a** women. And you can say I'm just pissed because "you're telling the truth and the truth hurts", but that's far from it. You're just straight up b*tches altogether and I don't want any part of it. And the chicks on here who are already in a relationship, why the F are you even on this board?? Get a life.

Goddess, I'll PM you my email so we can stay in touch, and thank you so much for your support from the start, I hope you're feeling better too.
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
I don't think I have to explain anything to anyone on this site.
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
I don't think anyone said you did?

I know what online dating entails, and so what if I'm planning for a Christmas-time meet up? What f*cking business is it of anyone's here?
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
You'd be right, it's none of our business what you do -- that is, until you post it. Then it becomes fair game for anyone on the internet to comment on.

I really don't think any of us were being uncaring or insensitive at all. The "tough love" we were dishing out wasn't even all that tough, for Pete's sake! :/ I shudder to think how you might react to how more acerbic posters would respond to your posts. Or, god forbid, a troll.

You'll probably ream me for saying this (well, you won't because I'm pretty sure you're done with this thread, but in case you're lurking) but if you're feeling sensitive about the things you are posting, you probably should not be posting them where literally anyone can comment on them.

Anyway, I'm going to keep reading and occasionally posting in this thread. It's anyone's right to do so, provided they haven't been banned. I could even argue I've more of a place here than the typical poster because I used to post here when I was single and actively online dating. Go ahead and look, the posts are still there.

Hmmm, online dating advice from someone who's been where you are and successfully come out the other side with a desirable outcome ... yeah, you don't want any part of that. /sarcasm

I'm also going to keep giving advice to people who I see making the same mistakes I and my friends have made when online dating.
Is it weird that I don't wanna tell my friends I met the bloke online? I like him...he's been calling and checking on me after my surgery..and as soon as I feel better wants to come take me to dinner. I've just gotten so down in online dating...and my friends that don't do it kinda give me the side eye...and don't expect anything to work out, so.....
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Is it weird that I don't wanna tell my friends I met the bloke online? I like him...he's been calling and checking on me after my surgery..and as soon as I feel better wants to come take me to dinner. I've just gotten so down in online dating...and my friends that don't do it kinda give me the side eye...and don't expect anything to work out, so.....
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
Not weird at all, I know how you feel I sometimes feel like my friends get tired of hearing about my active dating until its something serious I don't bother anymore. He was an extreme case as he had dramatic circumstances pop up so I say nothing wring with giving it a go! Kept us posted, and I hope you are well on the way to healing!
"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.
Well...this guy seems nice and I didn't wanna bias my family and friends against him. So far he seems humble...kinda shy...very endearing. And looking for a relationship. He's been concerned about me since my surgery so that's nice too.

And I'm healing...I guess the gas they pump u full of when they do laproscopic surgery..it hurts worse than the friggin cut. I feel like I swallowed a Watermellon. It's a bit better today...and the excercize I can do to help with it...is painful too. I haven't been able to get off the couch and when I do I'm bent over like a 90 year old. Thank god for the time off work.

Now with this storm coming...I'm praying for no issues...cause I can't deal with then now. I got a friend to buy me some food and stuff yesterday...I wasn't actually figuring I'd be flat on my back...I did stock up but then when I heard about the storm...and how awful I felt...I figured I needed more so thank goodness for him. I've had lots of friends calling and texting so that's nice

Oh...and they couldn't do the ablation...too much blood and tissue I think...so in a few months I'll probably do a laproscopic hysterectomy. At least that will end these problems for good!
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I didn't tell some people about how SO and I met. I basically left that detail out unless the person I was speaking to had done online dating and therefore "got it." Others I told later.

Some people won't ever really get it because they never did online dating and never will. Some people will always think it's a weird way to meet someone. So be it!
Ok...I feel better about it now
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Is it weird that I don't wanna tell my friends I met the bloke online? I like him...he's been calling and checking on me after my surgery..and as soon as I feel better wants to come take me to dinner. I've just gotten so down in online dating...and my friends that don't do it kinda give me the side eye...and don't expect anything to work out, so.....
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
No, not weird at all. People who;ve never done online dating always assume its a bunch of socially awkward people and perverts. Much easier to leave that out of the conversation.
I even told the guy...cause a girl friend of mine wants to meet him cause of the British accent...lol. So I warned him...my story was that I met him while walking to the FedEx in town for a package. He seemed cool with it.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I don't think I have to explain anything to anyone on this site. None of you know me, or the entire situation with Steve, and your comments are not "tough love", they're just *****y in general. I don't even know why I came back to this board because nobody offers positive support. I know what online dating entails, and so what if I'm planning for a Christmas-time meet up? What f*cking business is it of anyone's here? If I want to get excited about someone I'm waiting to meet two months from now, I'll do just that. I fall in love easily, and get hurt easily, but there is nothing I'd change because each time I learn something about myself. Heartache sucks, but I'm trying to live my life waiting for another one to come around so much so that I'm suspicious of every single person I come into contact with. I have my wits about me. I'm not jumping into anything, but I am enjoying the time I get in communication with Steve. We Skype everyday, talk on the phone, and text, so I don't think assumptions about him "playing around on a dating site" are even valid. I guess it was SL who made the comment about me wasting time on someone who may or may not have time for a relationship- that was the previous guy, and also, you said you didn't know who I'm dealing with now...and yet you have so much sh*t to say about it right? Gtfo with your sh*t ok.

Now I remember why I don't waste time on message boards such as these. Too many catty a** women. And you can say I'm just pissed because "you're telling the truth and the truth hurts", but that's far from it. You're just straight up b*tches altogether and I don't want any part of it. And the chicks on here who are already in a relationship, why the F are you even on this board?? Get a life.

Goddess, I'll PM you my email so we can stay in touch, and thank you so much for your support from the start, I hope you're feeling better too.
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
Whoa. I'm sorry if I offended you. I definitely wasn't trying to be "*****y" or "catty." And you're right that you don't have to explain anything. But if you say something, people will weigh in with how they see the situation. I don't even think I (or anyone else) was being negative or unsupportive. I said a million times that I hope it works out. I wasn't trying to be negative about Steve. And I never said you shouldn't be excited, or even that you shouldn't meet him at Christmas. Only that it's a vexed and really meaningful time for a lot of people, and that it might be less pressure to meet during a more neutral time of year. I didn't think that was such a controversial thing to say!
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...Anyway, I'm going to keep reading and occasionally posting in this thread.

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Hmmm, online dating advice from someone who's been where you are and successfully come out the other side with a desirable outcome ... yeah, you don't want any part of that. /sarcasm

I'm also going to keep giving advice to people who I see making the same mistakes I and my friends have made when online dating.
Originally Posted by wild~hair
For what it's worth, I think your posts (and the posts of other people in relationships) have been really valuable generally and helpful to me personally.
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Wow okay, lol!

As far as telling people you met online..I would tell people but i don't care what others think. I met my first bf online in an aol chatroom. I really don't see why it matters how people meet, as long as the relationship is real and not virtual.
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Well....he's been calling and texting me since I've been home sick...and worried with the storm...he's goofy and sweet. Can't wait till I feel better...to go out with him!
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Well....he's been calling and texting me since I've been home sick...and worried with the storm...he's goofy and sweet. Can't wait till I feel better...to go out with him!
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
I hope you have a quick and complete recovery!
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

Thanks....I'm hoping so too. I'm really tired...and my tummy still hurts.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Thanks....I'm hoping so too. I'm really tired...and my tummy still hurts.
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls

I'm scheduled for my robotic hysterectomy on Nov 12. So I will tell you how it goes. But I hope you won't need it. (But if you do, wil it be done robotically?)
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

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