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Old 11-02-2012, 09:20 AM   #2041
 
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Josephine - glad you guys got to cool off. I def need a cool off period and so do a lot of other people. I don't really understand what he said that pissed you off so much...but it's always possible for a person to stick his foot in his mouth and later recognize the error of his ways (after you point it out to him). And men almost NEVER admit they are wrong during the argument!

That said, I wil only date a Christian man. But I know there are plenty who are more flexible on that issue.
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Old 11-02-2012, 09:22 AM   #2042
 
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Josephine - if you are happy that is all that matters! I know the feeling of posting something on here and then felling like I left it XYZ or told too much sometimes. It is what it is, and only you know your relationship

Goddess that is AWESOME news!! Details!!

Thanks for listening(a lot), I was feeling really ****ty for those few hours and I'm a little crazy lol. It is more natural to post the negative than the positive and it's just too much to write, I feel like already posted a book lol!

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Josephine - glad you guys got to cool off. I def need a cool off period and so do a lot of other people. I don't really understand what he said that pissed you off so much...but it's always possible for a person to stick his foot in his mouth and later recognize the error of his ways (after you point it out to him). And men almost NEVER admit they are wrong during the argument!

That said, I wil only date a Christian man. But I know there are plenty who are more flexible on that issue.
Yea, I didn't want to post the details of why I got upset. I was being oversensitive but at the end I was hurt and offended and he completely understood and apologized. He was also trying to be right which he was not, we just disagreed and I took it personally.

I've only seriously dated a Muslim guy and last ex grew up around Muslims and actually practiced a little bit with his friends and had no problem converting(he's more spiritual and can follow any religion). So current dude has never been around and is ignorant and I'm not used to that. He is not hatefully or purposely ignorant though.

I used to only be for dating a Muslim guy or someone to convert but given I'm not very religious and difficult in general(it's hard to find someone to put up with my quirks and I'm a bit odd and particular so it's hard for me to find people I respect and get along with and vice versa), so I'm not going to lose love or something so hard to find over religion or even kids at this point.

Also to be realistic, I don't get along with most Muslim guys, they are usually too conservative and/or traditional(even ones born here) or not attractive to me. It would be great if I could find one but I'm not limiting my options, it's already hard enough finding a guy as is.

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He was just as cute as his pictures, which rarely happens to me. He was a gentleman and sweet and funny. He was nervous and it was so cute. U get guys thinking they r gods gift. I LOVE the accent! I've been smiling since yesterday. We've been texting or talking pretty frequently. We have a real date tomorrow..since he has no time constraints. He wants to see me Saturday too. I have a real good feeling about this one...I had from the start which was why I was so disappointed when things seemed to go south. I had stumbled on his profile a few times before...he always interested me but for some reason I never messaged. I'm so glad he contacted me!!
Yay that's so exciting, sorry I missed it but where is he from again and how old is he?
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He was just as cute as his pictures, which rarely happens to me. He was a gentleman and sweet and funny. He was nervous and it was so cute. U get guys thinking they r gods gift. I LOVE the accent! I've been smiling since yesterday. We've been texting or talking pretty frequently. We have a real date tomorrow..since he has no time constraints. He wants to see me Saturday too. I have a real good feeling about this one...I had from the start which was why I was so disappointed when things seemed to go south. I had stumbled on his profile a few times before...he always interested me but for some reason I never messaged. I'm so glad he contacted me!!
I'm so excited for you Goddess! It's definitely a nice feeling that he pursued you as well. I'm glad it turned out to be genuine as to why he had to bail before, and it sounds like he is making up for it
How did the next date go?
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The next date is tonight...I'm so excited.

So originally from England...grew up in Philly some...lives in west Philly now. Close to me. He's 35. Athletic. He's got a good job...drives..and is smart and funny. He says he so glad he met me cause he is really ready for a relationship. It does feel like we've known each other longer than we have. He's been just as gushy with me as I have with him. My girlfriend already wants to crash one of our dates to meet him...he's cool with that. I am so hopeful! I really like him!!
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The next date is tonight...I'm so excited.

So originally from England...grew up in Philly some...lives in west Philly now. Close to me. He's 35. Athletic. He's got a good job...drives..and is smart and funny. He says he so glad he met me cause he is really ready for a relationship. It does feel like we've known each other longer than we have. He's been just as gushy with me as I have with him. My girlfriend already wants to crash one of our dates to meet him...he's cool with that. I am so hopeful! I really like him!!

Sounds promising. Have fun! But take it easy...you just had surgery!
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He's on his way. And I will certainly take it easy. Last time he even brought his car instead of SUV cause he figured it be easier for me to get in and out of.

So cute!!
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Aw that's nice. Can't wait to hear details. And he has 2 cars? That's a good sign.

Spiderlashes, what happened with Cincinnati?

I'm waiting for my boo to come over, so excited to see him still and then were going to go eat and watch the heat game.
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So happy for you, GoddessCurls! I hope you have fun tonight!! (You, too, Josephine--glad things got resolved.)
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Just got home. He's a good kisser. We had a great time. He's like he's gonna tell his best friends wife who is always trying to get him married off. He's not looking for anymore kids...he doesn't care what religion I am. He's says he's still nervous with me. I think I have a real serious prospect now.
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Yay!! How exciting! Good kissing is very important, and it's not a bad thing that he's nervous with you.
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Yeah...I think that's adorable! U know how some guys are just overly cocky. He's not like that. He told me on our first date he was so nervous and that he had a good feeling about me so was hoping I liked him. His whole attitude is very endearing. And he would talk about his brother that just got killed. He almost forgot he was gone. He would say...man ur gonna love my brother...then realize...and get sad.

Jeez it's taken a long time! I've been on POF and dating since like 2005. Been on a million dates. Had a few relationships that were leading no where. I really wasn't expecting it to happen now.
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We're going out again later tonight...
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I'm so happy for you ! You said before that you have that familiar feeling with him that you feel like you've known him before. I had and still have that same feeling too. It's odd and eerie to me but comforting.
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It's weird. U know those people that have been together for ages...and they just say they knew that person was gonna be special to them. Maybe this is what they mean.

Now on the surgery front. I feel better, not taking the meds any more but I'm still bleeding...not like I can't leave the house..but still like a heavy period. I have the NuvaRing in and I'm not supposed to bleed at all. He did a thorough d&c trying to delay this...but I may need another surgery sooner than I thought.
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It's weird. U know those people that have been together for ages...and they just say they knew that person was gonna be special to them. Maybe this is what they mean.

Now on the surgery front. I feel better, not taking the meds any more but I'm still bleeding...not like I can't leave the house..but still like a heavy period. I have the NuvaRing in and I'm not supposed to bleed at all. He did a thorough d&c trying to delay this...but I may need another surgery sooner than I thought.
Glad you're feeling better and making progress. And even better that you are having fun with this guy while you're recovering, it's probably helping taking some pain away.

What did you guys do last night and what are you doing tonite? Sorry if I'm being too nosey. And yay for great kissing. I'm at starbucks now doing some work(yes I know lame on a Saturday night but I have some goals I need to meet by Jan and behind). Having a bf(who's needy but that's okay because so am I) is very time consuming and it's been kind of hard to juggle since I've been busy lately. He's going to come over in about an hour or so. I just got my period this morning so no fun for me . I know you're going through so much worse though!

I didn't know he'd be special to me but I think he knew. All I know is that after the second time we hooked up(we started out as a fling, at least from my side) and I was in bed with him afterwards there was no odd uncomfortable feeling. It felt like he was an old friend or ex and we've been together for years.

Okay back to work.
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Last night we did a seafood restaurant. Tonight just a diner for a burger. He's definitely made my recovery better.

And it's great to wake up with someone in the morning and not feel akward.
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Aw that's nice. Can't wait to hear details. And he has 2 cars? That's a good sign.

Spiderlashes, what happened with Cincinnati?

I'm waiting for my boo to come over, so excited to see him still and then were going to go eat and watch the heat game.
I posted a while ago that Cincy and I went out on one date. It was OK but I was slightly disappointed that he wasn't as cute in person as in his pics. So the next day or something he asked me if we could go out again in two weeks (next time I would be free). I said yes. But in the intervening time, he and I had a couple of big misunderstandings and the date was cancelled. I was starting to find his personality very irritating. IDK how to explain it exactly but it's something i've heard men complain about w/ women. Like pouting and sending these annoying little manipulative texts to me kind of trying to provoke a response. And just getting on my nerves. Mess like...

Him: when you didn't call me back earlier, I assumed you were out w/ your other man. heh
Me: I was fixing dinner!


Him: I think you're one of those aggressive New York women.
Me: What do you know about New York women???


Him: So I'm thinking you can pick the restaurant and I will pick the movie.
Me: What if you pick a movie that I don't want to see?
Him: I see you're used to getting your way.


Him: So when do you want to meet?
Him: You're not saying anything.
Him: I guess that means you don't want to go?
Me: Sorry I was on the phone. How about 5? Is that good for you?
Him: If you want it to be 5, it can be 5.
Me: 5 isn't good for you?
Him: It doesn't matter.
Me: if you prefer a different time, let me know.
Him: Didn't I say if you want 5, it can be 5.

All this crap. So the date was back on...but finally about an hour before we were to meet, we had another "misunderstanding" because he was getting too hungry and couldn't wait for me to get there...complaining that he had been doing everything to kill time and couldn't take it anymore...that it was not normal for him to go so long btwn meals and he was the type of man to window shop blah blah blah...

And I told him to go order a cocktail and I'd be there shortly. And he was like, "I don't drink. I told you that."

I flew off the handle at him and told him he should think about starting bc he was entirely too annoying when sober. And we went back and forth and eventually I told him to forget it; my mood was ruined. And he hung up. That was 2 weeks ago; haven't heard from him since.

Good riddance.

I've been kicking it w/ Army this whole time (since Sept 1). And while I like him, I realize now his PTSD is too severe for him to be able to carry on a mutually-satisfying, healthy relationship w/ me. Very disappointing. His doctor actually wants him to admit himself to the hospital for inpatient PTSD treatment (again) which would last about 4 months. But he refuses.

I am willing to be his friend or whatever. But even that is difficult to do bc of his symptoms.

Very sad situation bc he is a really nice guy.

I've gone out w/ a couple of other guys really recently but nothing major. And I still have feelings for my last boyfriend who had such an issue w/ my divorce taking so long, etc. But bc it's still not even close to being finalized, not too much is going to come of that.

I feel like I'm on a soap opera! LOL
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Wow sounds like a lot of stuff! Cincinnati sounds like an ass. I've communicated with guys like that and fortunately they showed that side before I met up with them. It's an instant turnoff and I usually end up ignoring the person forever.

Too bad about army and sucks about the ex. So the only issue is that the divorce was taking so long. I'm assuming it really is taking that long and you're trying to get it moving as fast as possible? Or does he think you might be delaying it for whatever reason?
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Man...I agree...Cincy sounds like a needy PITA...lol
And I feel for army guy...that's really sad.
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