The Official Online Dating Diaries Thread

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I'm glad everyone enjoyed the email!
You find about the same caliber on any website really. I've joined them all just for fun now even if I never get a serious response. Some of my emails have provided lots of laughs for a lot of people.
I actually did get a real person yesterday too though and so far things have started off on a very good note! We spent a couple hours or so chatting on Yahoo IM and he just lives around the corner...bonus!
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We spent a couple hours or so chatting on Yahoo IM and he just lives around the corner...bonus!
Originally Posted by amy51373
That's what happened with my mom and her boyfriend...they have been together for about eight years (wow). He lived less than a mile away and on the same block as my best friend from high school, but they had never met!
That's cool. I'm hoping this one might be a good one.
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i'm on match....guy winks me, i wink back, guy e-mails, i e-mail back. after a couple of e-mails he offers his number for a chat. i like to talk sooner rather than later too. chat for almost 2 hours the first time we talk. the next day i get a midday "hey how are you? thinking of you" call. i chat briefly. guy asks about getting together. i agree and we meet for drinks at a place before i have dinner with some friends. he asks when he'll see me again. the next day i had to shop for a trip i was taking but told him he could meet me at the store where i was picking up some items. he did. we went to dinner afterwards. we talked while i was on my trip once and exchanged a few brief e-mails. no cause for concern. i call him from the airport when i'm on my way back home. his FIANCEE' answers his phone. asks who i am. how do i know him (to which i reply "you should ask him"). then she tries to ask me a few other questions. i hang up.

as ticked as i am that this guy is (1) on match and (2) initiating conversations and (3) setting up dates....i'm more disturbed that he's engaged and this other girl seemed to have NO IDEA!! thankfully i dodged a bullet because this all happened within a week and a half and we didn't even so much as kiss or anything but i feel bad for the "fiancee" who doesn't know her guy is on match and for the other women he is talking to that might not be so lucky to get a tip from the fiancee answering his phone. ironically i was on yesterday after a hiatus because of my trip and he had been on during the week which wouldn't have been an issue since he and i just met but obviously he's a "regular" on there and he's going to marry someone else. now part of me thought what if they aren't engaged or whatever but then he has not called so it's obvious she is/was something...maybe exactly what she said, his fiancee....why marry? he's listed as divorced and talked about that situation. why make new friends if you're engaged? his pic is on there but i did think he looked about 5 years older than his pic (more gray) and slightly different. i wasn't sure if i should flag it for concern but i really don't want to be involved in any drama with him.

oh well...another one for the online dating diaries!!! ironically, i'm still encouraged that i'm going to meet "the one" and i don't think that match is a "bad" site even though there are obviously loosers there!

cibc don't worry about the guy that didn't respond. i use to get my hopes up on guys i thought were a perfect match (based on what was in their profile) but i'm WAY more relaxed about it now and just really feel like the person who is for me is for me, end of story and sometimes someone NOT responding is your biggest blessing!!!
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Last edited by luvmylocs; 02-07-2010 at 03:06 PM.
luvmylocs - what an ass***! like you said, the one upside is that you found out sooner rather than later. i have a good friend who ended up dating two married guys (one for almost two months, the other for about three weeks). my friend is super-smart with great instincts, but the guys had both concocted very elaborate back stories and had their own bachelor pads. eventually, my friend became suspicious, did some detective work, tracked down the guys' (other) home phone numbers, and confronted the wives (one of whom wasn't surprised in the least). i don't think it helps that my friend used craigslist (which i wouldn't trust for online dating), but i'm not surprised to hear there are married guys on other, more "reputable" sites as well.
Boooooooooo!!!! What a jerk!

I feel bad for his fiancee
lml, as always, I love your attitude. I wish I could be more like you.

I'm back into online dating again, after yet another disappointment in an IRL potential-gone-awry situation.

I'm trying to be somewhat introspective here, asking, what is my role in all this? Because you don't get to where I am, for as long as I've been here, without doing something wrong. I'm sorry, it's just not possible.

Anyway, I'm a few days into the online thing and wary as all get out. This article echoes a lot of my concerns about it.

Excerpt:

10 Things I Hate About Online Dating

1. Liar, liar, pants on fire. Jaysus if you want to find the largest cluster of deluded liars, check out online dating sites. Many of these people could be done for violations of the trade description act if it applied to dating. False photos, pretend careers, false personalities, pretend lives, forgotten marriages, forgotten children, and much more. There is so much dishonesty it’s difficult to trust that someone is actually being honest when they are.

2. Unsolicited d*ck shots. For quite a lot of guys, it seems that making contact with a woman online means that it’s time to get their penis out, photograph it and send it to her. When Baggage Reclaim did a Penis Parade in the old forum over a year ago, there were literally hundreds of penis shots submitted by women who had got them from their online dating escapades. At least if you chat to a guy in a bar, he’s unlikely to whip his penis out unless he wants to get arrested….

3. Dumb profile names. As if anyone is supposed to believe that you’re not looking for a shag when your name is Hotdick69, Cumtomebaby, Sirlicksalot, Siliconelove, Barebacklover, and much more. Ugh!

4. Overfamiliarity breeds contempt. It’s like there is no decorum. Someone sees your photo and if you’re online, they IM you with an innuendo or send BS emails about how they are in love with you, want to meet you, or want to touch you, and all because they saw your picture and read your profile. When you’re face to face with someone and they make sexual innuendo’s when you barely know them, it’s not good. When it’s done by email or IM it’s downright laughable. I was amazed at how many guys skipped over introducing themselves and went straight into seduction!

5. Weirdo alert. You get a load of winks and there is always one guy that takes umbridge about the fact that you didn’t wink back or get in touch with him. Or they send an introductory email and let’s say you’ve had a busy week so you don’t look at your emails for a few days, they’ll be a string of increasingly terse emails from guys who are clearly highly insecure about the lack of reply.

6. Cheaters central. Online dating is the haven of people who should be logging off and spending time with their husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend. Instead they’re soliciting dates, having a flirt, sending dirty emails and arranging dirty get togethers with either unsuspecting individuals or other equally devious people. They even have special websites just for this type of extra-curricular activity…

7. RFTP. Read The F*cking Profile.
I’d like to meet a guy between 25-34 based in London solicits men ranging age from 18 to 80 living in may different countries… People spend time writing profiles about interests, likes and dislikes, only for people who clearly didn’t read it to get in touch. And that’s all because these people aren’t really that interested in reading the profile, they just want to get into your pants.

8. It’s that Eighty:Twenty Rule. One set of people ruins it for the others. I’m sure there are honest people genuinely looking for friendship and love, it’s just that there is clearly an overwhelming majority who want to wreck it for them by abusing the opportunity to meet someone new and putting online dating in a bad light.

9. Why would I want to pay for a headache? Most of these sites get you to pay to avail of all of the communication options and to get full use of the site. But really, you’re just paying for lies and weirdo’s making their way into your inbox and potentially into your life.

10. Technology actually hinders communication in dating. Emailing, IM’ng and texting should not make up the bulk of any persons contact when they really want to embark on a relationship or even open up communication to start dating. Tone is open to interpretation and these type of communications ultimately make people lazy. But then again, making face to face contact with some of these crackerjacks could be more than you bargained for…

Last edited by wild~hair; 02-07-2010 at 09:38 PM.
that's a good list. stay encouraged wild~hair!!

the best thing to do when online dating is to keep real life dating and getting out!!! also, impose times where you will not get on there (for me friday night and saturday nights are no-no times for being online...it's just bad karma for me i think). also, if you get too attached and are overly concerned about it all, just give yourself a self imposed haitus of 3-5 days. it really helps put things into perspective and any "good" guy would understand you being away for a little bit to um, live your life.

again, let's stay encouraged girls about love girls and if it happens online great, but if not great too as long as it happens!!
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He sounds nice, too!


Hello

Hi, My name is Kenny. I really enjoyed your profile. You definitely are a writer. You have a gift of expressing yourself with words. I like that you have such a good memory. I am the same way. I remember almost every conversation I've ever had. Of course, I couldn't tell you what I just ate for dinner, or how to get to my kitchen from my bedroom. I just truly am interested in what other people have to say, and that gets my full attention. I like that you are so honest. Most people seem to only want to tell you about how successful and driven they are, or how everybody likes them. I also like that some of the things you are into are exactly the kind of things I am into. Specifically, I like that family and friends are important to you, and that you like Frank Sinatra (how could you not?), and that you are a writer (I have secretly always wished I was a novelist), and that y ou seem to have such a sunny and positive outlook on life.

I may be the nice guy you seek. I try to help others as much as possible and I am indeed very close with my mom. I am close with my whole family, and my friends are like family to me. I am almost always in a good mood and I can always find something to laugh about. I try to make every day memorable and find some kind of new adventure whenever possible. On the down side, I have an unusual schedule and work some nights and most weekends. This can make having a "normal" relationship/social life, slightly difficult, but not impossible. I forgot to mention that I love animals. Don't have any pets at the moment, but I grew up with two cats and three dogs. I also love to try new things. I will eat just about anything and go just about anywhere. Anyhow, I hope you are having a fantastic day, and I look forward to hearing from you!

-Kenny
I'm not allowed to get all neurotic when a guy who sounded so promising doesn't respond when I respond to his initial email?

Right? Right? Right?

Okay.

Just checking.
I'm not allowed to get all neurotic when a guy who sounded so promising doesn't respond when I respond to his initial email?

Right? Right? Right?

Okay.

Just checking.
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
Yup. You can't do any of these things. Or any of these things either.

Thick skin, baby.
Right. No impatience. If he's not responding, he either hasn't had a chance... or he's not the guy for you.

I'm also telling myself this over a guy I know in person. Ugh.
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Wild~hair, I think I've been contacted by every single one of those guys. But you weed them out really quick!

So far nice guy that I've been chatting with is still nice guy. We're hoping to meet up this weekend if my cold gets better. I've got my fingers crossed.

And CIBC you are allowed to get all neurotic about being contacted back. I do it alot and often and my best friend just says to me what does Frankie say and I have to respond with RELAX.
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Wild~hair, I think I've been contacted by every single one of those guys. But you weed them out really quick!

So far nice guy that I've been chatting with is still nice guy. We're hoping to meet up this weekend if my cold gets better. I've got my fingers crossed.

And CIBC you are allowed to get all neurotic about being contacted back. I do it alot and often and my best friend just says to me what does Frankie say and I have to respond with RELAX.
Originally Posted by amy51373
Half the fun for me is the spazzing out part that comes from wondering when if/he will contact you next...and the huge adrenaline rush when you see the email/text or hear him on VM!

I dunno...that list of 10 things to hate about online dating is applicable to men you meet off line, too.
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Last edited by spiderlashes5000; 02-10-2010 at 08:33 AM.
Talking to another guy who seems great, BUT he's a bit older than me and a professional type...it's probably a good idea if I went towards those types just to see who's out there, since I'm used to the free-spirited artsy types (like myself!)
Talking to another guy who seems great, BUT he's a bit older than me and a professional type...it's probably a good idea if I went towards those types just to see who's out there, since I'm used to the free-spirited artsy types (like myself!)
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
What is a bit older? And definitely give other types a look-see.
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Talking to another guy who seems great, BUT he's a bit older than me and a professional type...it's probably a good idea if I went towards those types just to see who's out there, since I'm used to the free-spirited artsy types (like myself!)
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
What is a bit older? And definitely give other types a look-see.
Originally Posted by Windflower

Six years.
Things are still going pretty darn well. "J" is a sweetie and has remained consistent in his interest in building a strong friendship.

We had a great weekend and it has been nice getting to know him as I have. He says I'm the most considerate woman he's met and a "keeper". It's funny because he said I even make the women in his family look bad. LMAO!

He's already showing he's a smart man, eh? LOL!
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Things are still going pretty darn well. "J" is a sweetie and has remained consistent in his interest in building a strong friendship.

We had a great weekend and it has been nice getting to know him as I have. He says I'm the most considerate woman he's met and a "keeper". It's funny because he said I even make the women in his family look bad. LMAO!

He's already showing he's a smart man, eh? LOL!
Originally Posted by eccentric_kurlz
yeah!!! hands clapping!! that's great! keep us posted
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My date with the nice guy is tomorrow. We're going to dinner and to see Book of Eli. I've got my fingers crossed but am so worried that we're getting along so well that I won't be interested when I see him or he won't be interested in me. Guess we'll see.

Glad things are going well Eccentric!
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