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Old 12-20-2012, 08:40 AM   #2181
 
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It's after the fact but I just wanted to say that I agree completely with Lotsawaves. Did you end up telling him? How did the date go overall?

I also had a first date last night and it went really well. Plus I have a 3rd date this weekend with a guy I thought was out of the picture. On top of that, the thing with the two-month guy that I thought had fizzled out naturally since neither one of us texted the other for days has suddenly resurfaced (so I need to officially end it). It's seriously feast or famine.
We had to reschedule the date! Ughhh

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I always knew my phone missed a lot of calls. But I never realized it misses about 50% of them. I conducted an experiment this week and I am stunned by how crappy my phone is. Men are always mad at me for blowing them off and not returning calls...and my relationships seem to be punctuated by a bit more communication drama than other people's.

Now I see why. So glad I'm scheduled for a phone upgrade next month!

Make sure your phone are working, daters!
Not related to dating, but I've been missing about 50% of calls lately, also. Very frustrating.

I recently learned that the cell phone companies are switching their towers out to be 4G, and that anyone whose phone is not 4G capable is suffering major service problems.

I just ordered a new 4G capable phone, despite having just purchased a new phone in July.
Yeah, I'm still on a 3G Samsung Galaxy.

So if I upgrade next month, but someone else is still on a 3G or older, will the issue be that he/she doesn't get my calls/texts or that I don't get his/hers?

These phones are so ~advanced~ they contained GPS readers and video cameras and bar code scanners...but you can't freaking use them to call someone!
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We had to reschedule the date! Ughhh

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I always knew my phone missed a lot of calls. But I never realized it misses about 50% of them. I conducted an experiment this week and I am stunned by how crappy my phone is. Men are always mad at me for blowing them off and not returning calls...and my relationships seem to be punctuated by a bit more communication drama than other people's.

Now I see why. So glad I'm scheduled for a phone upgrade next month!

Make sure your phone are working, daters!
Not related to dating, but I've been missing about 50% of calls lately, also. Very frustrating.

I recently learned that the cell phone companies are switching their towers out to be 4G, and that anyone whose phone is not 4G capable is suffering major service problems.

I just ordered a new 4G capable phone, despite having just purchased a new phone in July.
Yeah, I'm still on a 3G Samsung Galaxy.

So if I upgrade next month, but someone else is still on a 3G or older, will the issue be that he/she doesn't get my calls/texts or that I don't get his/hers?

These phones are so ~advanced~ they contained GPS readers and video cameras and bar code scanners...but you can't freaking use them to call someone!
I know! I really just need a cell phone for - get this - making calls!

Not sure, but my guess would be that the person on 3G won't (always) get your calls/texts and people on 3G will continue to have an increasingly harder time making calls and getting texts to actually send. I'm still receiving texts and voice mails, but I'm not getting the actual call, and it takes up to 30 minutes for a text to be sent, if it even sends at all.
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So, um, totally hypothetical situation. If someone tells you that all of his long-term relationships ended badly and that he doesn't talk to any of his exes, would that be a deal breaker for you?
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I would definitely question it and see it as a red flag.
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So, um, totally hypothetical situation. If someone tells you that all of his long-term relationships ended badly and that he doesn't talk to any of his exes, would that be a deal breaker for you?
All of my long-term relationships ended badly and I don't talk to any of my exes. But then again, I wasn't the one cheating and behaving badly.
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Old 12-21-2012, 08:14 AM   #2186
 
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So, um, totally hypothetical situation. If someone tells you that all of his long-term relationships ended badly and that he doesn't talk to any of his exes, would that be a deal breaker for you?
My current semi-serious person doesn't speak to any of his exes but says it's mostly by choice. He says he's done w/ them and they are not contributing to his life in any meaningful way, so what is there to talk about?

It's def a red flag for me bc that outlook seems rigid and cold to me. But it's not a dealbreaker bc there are about a milion other worse traits I can think of.

I'd be more concerned about WHY his relationships ended rather than how he behaves after they do.
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Yeah, I guess I'll have to get more info on the 2nd date.

I also went on a third date with someone else last night that was so weird. Three dates and no kiss? And he kept referring to things we'd do the "next time." "Next time"? I was like,
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No but I'd want to know why they ended badly. A guy talking to his exes would be a deal breaker for me. Don't have time for that bs.
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So, um, totally hypothetical situation. If someone tells you that all of his long-term relationships ended badly and that he doesn't talk to any of his exes, would that be a deal breaker for you?
My current semi-serious person doesn't speak to any of his exes but says it's mostly by choice. He says he's done w/ them and they are not contributing to his life in any meaningful way, so what is there to talk about?

It's def a red flag for me bc that outlook seems rigid and cold to me. But it's not a dealbreaker bc there are about a milion other worse traits I can think of.

I'd be more concerned about WHY his relationships ended rather than how he behaves after they do.
Wow so you talk to your exes and guys are ok with that?? (Besides your kids father of course) no way it would fly with me!
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What would yall do if a guy told you he really liked u and liked spending time with u but didn't want to jump into a relationship because they just got out of one?

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Well...he could either be seriously telling u the truth...which my cynical ass wouldn't believe but could be true. Or he could be giving u a load of crap. Trying to prep u for him bailing later. I've certainly heard that one before.
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Well...he could either be seriously telling u the truth...which my cynical ass wouldn't believe but could be true. Or he could be giving u a load of crap. Trying to prep u for him bailing later. I've certainly heard that one before.
I agree. I would hang out with him casually and not expect much.
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Well...he could either be seriously telling u the truth...which my cynical ass wouldn't believe but could be true. Or he could be giving u a load of crap. Trying to prep u for him bailing later. I've certainly heard that one before.
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That's what my thoughts were

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So, um, totally hypothetical situation. If someone tells you that all of his long-term relationships ended badly and that he doesn't talk to any of his exes, would that be a deal breaker for you?
My current semi-serious person doesn't speak to any of his exes but says it's mostly by choice. He says he's done w/ them and they are not contributing to his life in any meaningful way, so what is there to talk about?

It's def a red flag for me bc that outlook seems rigid and cold to me. But it's not a dealbreaker bc there are about a milion other worse traits I can think of.

I'd be more concerned about WHY his relationships ended rather than how he behaves after they do.
Wow so you talk to your exes and guys are ok with that?? (Besides your kids father of course) no way it would fly with me!
Yes, I'm actually good friends w/ a few of my exes and talk to them. Some guys are more Ok w/ it than others. But I'm not going to end a friendship bc someone is insecure for no reason. Anyone who knows me, knows that when I'm into someone, I'm all in.
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Old 12-27-2012, 11:08 AM   #2197
 
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Hello ladies

First I have to say I have enjoyed reading all of your stories, and have learned quite a bit! Anyways, I decided to forage into the online dating world, and my experience so far has been different to say the least. I met one guy about 3 weeks ago. In the beginning, I wasn't that into him, but he was nice and I enjoyed his company. As the days passed though, I started to like him more and more, as I know he did me as well. We have discussed that we are both actively dating, and not sure if/when we want something exclusive. There are two things that turn me off about him..he is 22 and I am 27, and he is moving to Phoenix in June. This past weekend, we spent the majority of the weekend together. Dinner, going out, hanging out at his house with his friends. Since then though, he has seriously backed off.

My problem is, and maybe unbiased opinions on this will be helpful, is when I start "catching" feelings for someone, I tend to cling a little and become over analytical. I don't want to back off from him completely, but at the same time I know how I get and I like this guy. When I like someone, I like them and want to see them any opportunity that we can. But the connundrum is he is leaving so I'm not even sure I should pursue anything more serious with this guy. I even feel slightly guilty staying on the website because the other guys I talk to seem boring in comparison. I'm not sure what I'm trying to get at here, but just thought I'd get some advice in general when it comes to dating. I can be intense for most guys, and either they love it and keep wanting more, or they totally back off from me. I promise I'm not crazy lol I'm just very vocal about my feelings and brutally honest. So if you read all of this thanks lol and maybe some pointers will be good. I believe I am inept at casual dating, and not sure how it works.
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I don't have any advice...just wanted to say I can be the same way. If I like someone I really like them...I can be intense and overly analytical. I feel I tend to drive guys away with that. I am cautiously optimistic about a guy I've been seeing for a while. I guess if this is the way I am..until the guy makes me feel secure ..then I need a guy who can handle that. So far I have been intense and analytic and he hasn't run. Maybe when u meet the right one all that stuff will be ok with them.

And I am also pretty vocal and really upfront about my feelings like u.
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Thanks Goddess, makes me feel better I'm not the only one out there in this lol...And you're probably right, I need that security from a man and even though I am perfectly content on my own, I just want someone.

We shall see what happens, I guess!
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Pooks, my fiance is like you. I kept breaking up with him, but he kept coming back. I love how he is now, but it was too intense so early on in our dating. I even posted here about him.

I don't know where you live, so I don't know the distance you are from Phoenix. I live around Phoenix. I've never had much luck with long distance relationships unless we are both allowed to date while not together. My 1st husband and I did that. We did it for 3 years before we decided to get married. I wish we had of spent more time together. I found after we married I really didn't know him that well.
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