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Old 12-27-2012, 12:40 PM   #2201
 
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Personally, I would let this one go. I am totally not interested in LDRs and esp not w/ a 22 y/o guy.

But in general, if a guy is starting to back off, I let him. I'm not chasing any guy. If and when he decides he is interested in me, he will be back. I wouldn't try to guess what the reason is or try to analyze it too deeply. In the meantime, I would enjoy getting to know other men. There is no reason whatsoever to feel guilty or awkward about it (bc, if I understood correctly, he is unsure if/when he might want something exclusive).
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Old 12-27-2012, 12:55 PM   #2202
 
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Lotsa, I'm in TN so it's not very conducive and I know I'm not wanting a LDR..

Spider you're right...This ain't my first rodeo and I know better, I just have too much heart sometimes and it gets me in situations.
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OMG!

i got a laughable one through PoF's "Meet Me" today!

this is what the guy's profile says:

HI....I'M ON HERE WITH ONE SIMPLE MOTIVE....I'M LOOKING FOR A friend/lover/WOMAN TO JOIN ME for a trip to vegas on Valentines weekend 2013. A little cheesy? Oui. Delightfully so. At the same time pretty hot and just what a longtime has-been married woman/mom with a desire for realness needs to jump start a sleeping libido.

so, he's looking for a married woman who's a "has-been"...



wonder if he'll get any offers?

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and you can tell that they just look at the pretty pictures and don't bother to read profiles before they hit "yes" on the "Meet Me" button because today i got one who has in his profile:

NO DRINKERS!!!!

while my profile plainly states that i drink too much wine because my parental units are retired from the wine business!

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Old 01-06-2013, 11:53 AM   #2205
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saw an ad looking for a "sirius relationship." is she only seeking out radio dj's or a fan of Harry Potter?
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Well, after going out with a bazillion guys over the last year, I finally have my true dating horror story!

He told me that I was over the hill, that I'd end up being a cat lady in a few years (but then, to soften the blow: "no, there's still hope..."). He said that in a couple of years I wouldn't have any guys sending me messages. Well, maybe 70 year-olds, since men only like younger women, but unfortunately not many senior citizens are computer-savvy. When I said that I had dated some younger guys, he suggested that younger guys would only date someone my age if they were looking for a sugar mama.

He said that he had past lives (& he told me the intricate details of them--actually this is what he opened with). He also talked THE WHOLE TIME & never asked me anything about myself. He joked about being crazy in a way that suggested he didn't really think he was crazy but, yeah, he was clearly mentally ill.

Honestly, I can't even remember all of the nutty things he said. These are just a few of them.

I had a feeling that I shouldn't have accepted the date but I thought, you know, he seems eccentric but what's the harm? And I guess there wasn't any harm done. It was a waste of time but it was also freaking hilarious. Probably worth it for the entertainment value!
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Old 01-07-2013, 09:38 AM   #2207
 
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Ursula that's hilarious and mind boggling all at the same time! Opened with past lives? Wow! I once had a guy tell me I was going to end up as an old cat lady too...I laughed and said that was a far more desireable situation than spending any more time with him, LOL!

Ahhh this whole dating thing is for the birds.
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OMG!

i got a laughable one through PoF's "Meet Me" today!

this is what the guy's profile says:

HI....I'M ON HERE WITH ONE SIMPLE MOTIVE....I'M LOOKING FOR A friend/lover/WOMAN TO JOIN ME for a trip to vegas on Valentines weekend 2013. A little cheesy? Oui. Delightfully so. At the same time pretty hot and just what a longtime has-been married woman/mom with a desire for realness needs to jump start a sleeping libido.

so, he's looking for a married woman who's a "has-been"...



wonder if he'll get any offers?

I really want to think he meant a woman who has been married. Not a married woman who is a has been. LOL
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So, um, totally hypothetical situation. If someone tells you that all of his long-term relationships ended badly and that he doesn't talk to any of his exes, would that be a deal breaker for you?
I have no use for any of my exes!
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OMG!

i got a laughable one through PoF's "Meet Me" today!

this is what the guy's profile says:

HI....I'M ON HERE WITH ONE SIMPLE MOTIVE....I'M LOOKING FOR A friend/lover/WOMAN TO JOIN ME for a trip to vegas on Valentines weekend 2013. A little cheesy? Oui. Delightfully so. At the same time pretty hot and just what a longtime has-been married woman/mom with a desire for realness needs to jump start a sleeping libido.

so, he's looking for a married woman who's a "has-been"...



wonder if he'll get any offers?

I really want to think he meant a woman who has been married. Not a married woman who is a has been. LOL
I think he means a woman who was married a long time and that he assumes doesn't have sex (jumpstart sleeping libido).
Pretty stupid assumption. Pretty stupid requirements.
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Ursula that's hilarious and mind boggling all at the same time! Opened with past lives? Wow! I once had a guy tell me I was going to end up as an old cat lady too...I laughed and said that was a far more desireable situation than spending any more time with him, LOL!

Ahhh this whole dating thing is for the birds.
What?? Someone said that to you, too? What is wrong with humanity?

I wish I had said something like you did but I just let him babble--I was too shocked! And I was also a little concerned about my safety because he seemed unstable. I honestly don't think he meant to be rude or insulting, though. I think he had no filter or possibly was autistic. I think he just thought he was telling the truth and wasn't thinking about my feelings at all.
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So, um, totally hypothetical situation. If someone tells you that all of his long-term relationships ended badly and that he doesn't talk to any of his exes, would that be a deal breaker for you?
I have no use for any of my exes!
Yeah, I'm getting the sense that it's fairly common for people to cut ties with their exes!

It's more the fact that all his breakups were bad that concerned me. I was thinking of the guy Elaine goes out with on Seinfeld who is a bad breaker-upper. I like him though and I'm going to see where it goes.
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Someone just asked me out for a first date in April! Call me optimistic, but I'm hoping I'll be in a relationship by then! (Gotta think positive...) I don't know if I should accept. The tickets are expensive.
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Someone just asked me out for a first date in April! Call me optimistic, but I'm hoping I'll be in a relationship by then! (Gotta think positive...) I don't know if I should accept. The tickets are expensive.
He invited you somewhere and you have to buy your own ticket? Or you don't want him to go to the trouble?

Why can't he meet sooner?
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Someone just asked me out for a first date in April! Call me optimistic, but I'm hoping I'll be in a relationship by then! (Gotta think positive...) I don't know if I should accept. The tickets are expensive.
He invited you somewhere and you have to buy your own ticket? Or you don't want him to go to the trouble?

Why can't he meet sooner?
I'm wondering the same things. I assume that you've never met this guy before.
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He actually lives in my home town (a few hours away, but I go there often) and I met him over the holidays when I was visiting family. So we ran into each other a few times over the week that I was there and we've had a few lengthy, flirty conversations but no dates.

Since then we've been emailing. The April date he invited me on is to a ball game. To SL's first question: it's that I don't want him to go to the trouble, especially since I hardly know him and I don't think there's a future with him. He's really cute and fun to hang out with, and I kind of wouldn't mind going on a date with him, but he lives far away and I don't think we'd be compatible for anything long-term anyway.
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Old 01-11-2013, 08:24 AM   #2218
 
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So I have been waiting to meet this one guy for two months! (We had two other dates planned but things came up and, in general, we've both been busy.)

And we're finally supposed to be going out tonight.

He is the one who seems like a great catch and is my exbf's former supervisor.

Anyway, the plan is that he will be taking me to see Django and then out to dinner.

So we were talking last night and he told me that he just got promoted at work (as of yesterday).

He's really into his career and I can tell this promotion is a big deal to him.

So should I take him out tonight (our first date) instead of letting him take me?

Or maybe I could pay for dinner and he could pay for the movie?

Normally, I have a very strict expectation that the guy pays for the first few dates...just on general principle and also after a few bad experiences w/ cheap or broke men.

But I don't mind making an exception, in this case, to celebrate the good news with this guy...if I can bring it up w/o it seeming awkward for setting a bad precedent.

The guy seems a bit traditional and like a man's man, so I'm not sure how he would take it anyway.

What would you do?
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^^^you can offer to pay for the movies then let him pay for dinner or buy him a small gift and present it to him at during dinner. if he is traditional then he would appreciate the gift
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^^^you can offer to pay for the movies then let him pay for dinner or buy him a small gift and present it to him at during dinner. if he is traditional then he would appreciate the gift
I am really bad w/ this kind of stuff. Can you suggest a gift?

I won't have much time to shop.

Tell me if you think this is a nice gesture or totally unnecessary to the point of being weird. LOL (As it's our first date.)
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