The Official Online Dating Diaries Thread - Page 28

rouquinne · 02-10-2011, 04:54 AM

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Still miss big city life sometimes

me too!

not the least reason being that there were WAY more choices when it came to men!

blackguitargirl · 02-10-2011, 01:23 PM

yeah definitely, lol. I just got invited to go to a reading but it's so far away, I probably won't be going.

divegirl · 02-10-2011, 01:48 PM

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yeah definitely, lol. I just got invited to go to a reading but it's so far away, I probably won't be going.

Have fun on your date tonight! Have you decided which movie you're going to see?

My "sleepover" guy just invited me to a renewable energy forum in his town on Wednesday morning, the day after our date! It's what he does for a living and something I'm very interested in, but it means I would definitely have to stay over somewhere that night. Sneaky guy

LAwoman · 02-11-2011, 07:24 PM

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You are not being at all prudish, you're being wise IMO. Don't sleep over, first of all you still hardly know him, and secondly you are quite right a few drinks may make you do things you will regret.

I have to admit that if I'm of a certain age, that I won't give an ish!

haha, I am definitely of a certain age. This whole dating game confuses me somewhat. I'm used to doing things the old-fashioned way - getting drunk and hooking up! This whole idea of getting to know someone first is a bit strange

I told him I would take a raincheck on the sleepover. I can just see at the end of the night, half-drunk, making out ... I will be tempted to not go back to my friend's house!

That sounds very promising about the guy. And, omg. I'm rolling at the bolded b/c I told my friends the EXACT same thing! LOL So funny.

Sounds like things are going well for some other people too- that is awesome.

I've had 2 dates so far w/ 2 different guys. The second one last night was just... oh, honey, no. Just- weird and awkward with really bad teeth. I think it was his first date...ever. His pix were not bad at ALL so it just goes to show ya that people on the Internet are not always being forthright (shocker!)

I've got another one lined up for Sunday, and next Thursday. But gotta say, I'm a little shell-shocked from this last one, and am almost tempted to cancel.

rouquinne · 02-11-2011, 09:45 PM

DO NOT CANCEL!

as the saying goes - one bad apple doesn't spoil the whole bunch!

blackguitargirl · 02-11-2011, 10:38 PM

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yeah definitely, lol. I just got invited to go to a reading but it's so far away, I probably won't be going.

Have fun on your date tonight! Have you decided which movie you're going to see?

My "sleepover" guy just invited me to a renewable energy forum in his town on Wednesday morning, the day after our date! It's what he does for a living and something I'm very interested in, but it means I would definitely have to stay over somewhere that night. Sneaky guy

Thanks! We ended up seeing Black Swan, which was really great. Natalie Portman did an amazing job playing a fragile woman. I had a really great time with KD. I actually got there a bit early. I had left my house about an hour before I had to be there because it was a 30 minute drive to the theater (KD and I live in different cities) and it was towards the end of rush hour. KD was really cute in person and really funny. After the movie, we went to Denny's and ended up eating and talking for a couple of hours. I didn't get home until really late. Can't wait to go out with him again

lol @ sneaky guy. The renewable energy forum sounds really cool. Hope you have a great time.

curlylaura · 02-12-2011, 10:32 AM

I am still too wussy to message any of the men I am interested in.

I don't know what to say.

blackguitargirl · 02-12-2011, 08:21 PM

Maybe try mentioning something in their profile that you thought was interesting. Like, "Oh cool, another (insert random band name) fan! Which song of (band name)'s do you like?" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't

curlylaura · 02-13-2011, 08:37 AM

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Maybe try mentioning something in their profile that you thought was interesting. Like, "Oh cool, another (insert random band name) fan! Which song of (band name)'s do you like?" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't

Thanks!

I'll give that a go.

I had my first IM chat with a guy last night on plenty of fish. He seemed a bit desperate though but it was a start and practice.

blackguitargirl · 02-13-2011, 11:57 PM

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Maybe try mentioning something in their profile that you thought was interesting. Like, "Oh cool, another (insert random band name) fan! Which song of (band name)'s do you like?" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't

Thanks!

I'll give that a go.

I had my first IM chat with a guy last night on plenty of fish. He seemed a bit desperate though but it was a start and practice.

You're welcome

divegirl · 02-16-2011, 11:03 AM

So, date #3 last night was amazing. We had a fancy dinner, then went out drinking, then made out. A lot.

I was on the fence about him at the beginning, but I think I like him now

He's a very cool person and we have a lot in common. I'm kind of waiting for the other shoe to drop.

He is coming to town Friday night for another date, and probably a sleepover

blackguitargirl · 02-17-2011, 12:04 AM

that's great!

divegirl · 02-21-2011, 08:18 AM

How were everybody's dating weekends??

Date #4 was Saturday night. Everything went great, but I find myself vacillating again about how I feel. I'll persevere though, we have another date later this week. He stayed over but we didn't do the deed yet. He says he has some weird superstitions from growing up in Mexico that include not having sex until the third time you fool around

My reservations include the fact that we are seemingly from different worlds - he has a lot of money (not that that's a bad thing, but the man eats out every meal and gets manicures, for goodness sake), he seems to have few friends (I guess that happens as you get older, but I have many friends that I spent a lot of time with), and, uhhh, he's not very well endowed

Pros include the fact that he has a lot of money

, we have similar values, he is worldly and has good social skills (something never to be underestimated!). Hmmm.

According to this article which has been doing the rounds, I fall somewhere between selfish and shallow

Opinions? Advice?

rouquinne · 02-21-2011, 10:05 AM

*snork*

if she thinks unmarried women are shallow and selfish and not looking for men of character, she hasn't been dating enough.

single men in their 40s and beyond are just as shallow and selfish as any woman can be. and the great majority of them don't give two hoots about character. all they care about is how you look.

and you better look like Western society's idea of "hot" (i.e. thin with big boobs) or you're not getting anywhere.

if Ms. McMillan cruised the forums at Plenty of Fish for a couple of days, she'd learn this in no time flat.

divegirl · 02-21-2011, 12:31 PM

Ha, here is what my friend had to say about him after hanging out on Saturday night:

I agree with your cons (even though that was TMI since I'm sober) and pros. I see his cons as: bad hair (we already discussed that, no guys are good with hair though) and frankly, even though he's super nice and easy to talk to, and knows cool things he just didn't strike me as someone i would call cool. You, divegirl, are cool and I picture you with someone that I would call cool. I can't define cool at this moment, it just is or it isn't. And we all have our uncool moments, a few of mine occurred on Saturday night in fact, but I think you should be with someone cool. Does that make any sense at all?? I hope so so b.c. I don't want to sound inconsiderate or judgey! Dude really was super duper nice. And it was fun to talk to him. AND whether or not he's cool shouldn't determine the fate of the two of you.

blackguitargirl · 02-22-2011, 12:25 AM

Idk. I think that you may have something with this guy. The pros that you listed seem to be pretty good to me. Are the cons you listed deal-breakers or things that you can deal with? That might help you decide. As for the whole cool thing,

I haven't gone on anymore dates recently and haven't been on OKC much either. I'm really interested in KD but sometimes he is hard to read. He's out of town right now, so we shall see what happens when he comes back.

rouquinne · 03-02-2011, 08:38 AM

so the guy i had that amazing date with the week before xmas apparently had NOT deleted me from MSN, though he did on PoF.

i heard from him once a few weeks ago and then again a couple of days ago.

and now we're going out again this weekend.

omigawd - a SECOND date!

spring1onu · 03-02-2011, 08:43 AM

Rou, that is fantastic!! Good luck and have a great time!

blackguitargirl · 03-03-2011, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by rouquinne

so the guy i had that amazing date with the week before xmas apparently had NOT deleted me from MSN, though he did on PoF.

i heard from him once a few weeks ago and then again a couple of days ago.

and now we're going out again this weekend.

omigawd - a SECOND date!

That's awesome

Hope that all goes well!

WileE-Dead · 03-03-2011, 06:34 AM

divegirl...any updates?
And what to you is well endowed? lol

g/l rou!