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It really just gets so much harder the older u get...I am tempted to delete my POF page after last night fiasco...but I honestly don't know where to meet men...


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What happened Goddess?!

I'm REALLY excited today. I've been texting back and forth with the guy (Blake) from OkC, and he is the sweetest thing. He's funny, and gets my sarcasm, and is just generally an all-around good guy so far. I hope it stays that way. We've been texting since ten o'clock this morning and it's now almost five o'clock. I'm over the moon right now ladies. I really am. I haven't connected with someone like this in YEARS. And what I love is how sweet and innocent our conversation is. He hasn't hinted at anything sexual at all. He asked for more pics at first, and I told him up front I wasn't sending naked or even partially naked photos, and he said "No no, just of your face is fine, I just like looking at you you're beautiful". I know, all this sounds SO CHEESY and cliche and every other negative connotation that comes along with these type of sweet lines, but I'm usually pretty good at sensing (even through text/email) when someone is truly genuine with their feelings and this guy seems to be so far. Of course, we have a looooong road ahead but for now I'm liking what he's showing me. We're setting a date for sometime next week because he wants to take me out to eat downtown.

*sigh* I'm really happy.
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I met my current BF on OKC, and he's a sweetie pie.

Good luck on your date!
I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
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Yay Coco! Keep us updated.

@GoddessCurls, I agree, I don't know where to meet them either since I dont go out as much as I used to.

I met 2 guys on a social site last week. One clearly wants sex although I made it clear thats not going down and he still wants to hang out, he's 35, good career, other than wanting sex he's fun to be around. The other guy is ready to settle down, he's a college grad but does blue collar work and referees, he's 50. I've never dated anyone that much older than me, I'm 39 btw. But the 50 yo seems really genuine about getting to know me and take me out on dates.

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@Coco

I met a guy online a few days ago...sounded interesting and we chatted back and forth...he's had medical issues like me...lost a lot of family like me...mixed like me and our convo was deep and existential. His profile said he didn't judge so he sounded cool...I gave him my number and we talked. It was a brief convo but one that chilled me to my core...lol

He talked about himself the whole time and said how he hated shallow self centered girls...talks about the fat girls messaging him and makes jokes about them...but he doesn't judge! Lol Then tells me his mom try to get him arrested for trying to kill her...yet he lives with her...no job...no car...
It was just awful!!


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Really happy for u and ur guy...sounds promising!


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@Goddess, OMG you are joking me right?! That is asinine!! Run for the freaking hills please! I'm stunned. As I was reading your post I was open-mouthed and making comments out loud. Trying to kill his mother...and yet still up in her house AND no job or car?! Not no but HELL NO. How old is this kat? If you're over the age of 18, there is nothing attractive about not having a job. Period point blank. I'm sorry he was such a dud. Hows military man and Christianboy turning out? I'm not a fan of Christianboy because of his behavior recently....

Well, I talked to Blake until eleven o'clock last night I told him I'm not opening up my legs for him until I know he's real, and that could be a while. He said he doesn't quit that easy, and I'm more than worth his efforts. I loved that answer. *sigh* I woke up on cloud 9 this morning. I am praying he doesn't flip script and turn into a douchelord at any point.
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@Coco...that's great about ur guys. And sadly I was not joking about dude. He's 29 too!

ChristianBoy is a trip...how is he gonna be upset that I didn't have anytime for him this weekend...when he is the one that forgot and broke the plans we had Saturday. I wasn't even real pissed but u can't expect me to change my stuff around when this was ur fault. It's like he doesn't want me to be his gf...but gets mad when I don't act like one.

MilitaryMan is promising...if he ever gets some free time from work...I'd like to get to know him more...but at least I am comfortable with him and don't get any major bad vibes. He's sweet and cute and we get along.

I edited this to change a typo...damn auto correct.


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Last edited by GoddessCurls; 04-02-2012 at 12:27 PM.
Alright, so Blake is seeming a little too clingy for my taste. If I don't text back immediately, he's sending another text asking me what I'm doing. I'm like the same thing I was doing twenty minutes ago...Last night I was sick with a stomach bug, and told him so. He continued to text. then, admits he's the jealous type and if he saw a guy looking at me, he'd have to approach him and tell him I was his. I don't like that. I'm a pretty chick, guys look at me all the time. If he's gonna have a hissy over it, we're gonna have a big problem. He seems one dimensional and I also don't like that. He doesn't ask a lot of getting-to-know-you questions...I do. He gives really short answers, doesn't elaborate. When I tell him about me, same thing. Not a lot of interest. I don't know, but I'm feeling I'll have to let him down easy, I'm just not feeling it at this point. I knew trying to date someone younger than me was a bad idea.

The guy in my class has been texting on and off. He told me three weeks ago we would plan a date...I asked him again today and he said in two weeks. Really guy? Really? How long is he gonna put me off? I text him back telling him he's been giving me the same song and dance for weeks now. He hasn't replied and that was about 3 hours ago.

Sigh....this dating crap isn't all its cracked up to be. I'm basically back to square one.
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Coco, I know...it sucks dating...right? Who knows...and it seems that I feel like I want a man...and then I feel like men just crowd and bother me. I worry that a boyfriend will just be another thing on my schedule that I have to do...lol


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Oh...and yeah...the young ones can be awful! They just aren't as interesting and don't have as much to talk about.

And the jealousy stuff...yeah I couldn't deal with that either


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Sorry Coco. Its so disappointing to get your hopes up about someone and then be let down. The jealousy and "ownership" thing is a little scary. How does he expect that noone will look at you? Isnt that what he should want?
I started seeing a guy who is nice, good looking, well travelled, successful and smart. However, he's into shopping, clothes and shoes and getting facials and massages. What do you girls think about that?
Ive always dated extremely manly men and Im not sure what to make of a guy who is a self confessed shopaholic and who has 3 times more clothes and shoes than me....
Idk if I could date a guy like that! I don't even do half those things Lmao!!!!

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Yeah...I'm with y'all...I don't think I could do the metro sexual thing...lol


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Alright so, Blake did not text at all last night, and has only text once today to which I just replied "hey". No response as of yet and that was a few hours ago. I'll have to figure out a way to let him down easy :/ He's just too young, even two years seems like ten when someone is younger than you are, especially men. The intellectual stimulation just isn't there for me. I thrive on intelligent conversation where I can learn from that person.

In other news, Mat (guy from class) called to check on me last night since he knew I'd been sick. I confronted him about feeling blown off. We ended up laughing about it because he assured me he definitely didn't want to blow me off. He was under the impression I wasn't too interested because I'd told him a few weeks ago no rush when he suggested we meet up at the park. Miscommunication is all. We chatted for a bit and he had me cracking up. I'm attracted to the way he handles me. I'm no picnic- I'm moody, sometimes whiny, and usually uptight about smaller things. He laughs them off, and I end up laughing also. I still admire him for even approaching me the first time after I called him out in front of our class that one day. I need a man that can take me on like that and not back down. Every guy I've dated has been a puss about stuff like that. I need someone like-minded that will go toe to toe with me, and kind of put me in my place if you know what I mean. Not in a disrespectful way, just won't have a problem pointing out when I'm wrong or confronting something I've said. We ended our conversation laughing- he's really good at random punch lines that have me cracking up. I like him
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I wish I had the nerve to meet these guys in person



I'll talk to some guys for months but I'm SO shy and SCARED to actually meet them! (Not scared that they'll kill me, scared that they'll see me and leave or scared that I won't like them at all but they'll like me and I"ll have to tell them that, or scared that I'm going to panic and settle because there's nothing wrong with them and I'm not getting any younger.)
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine


I feel you when it comes to the bolded. For some reason I'm not as anxious about the opposite possibility--that I'll like them and they won't like me--but I think that's because I have pretty low self esteem and assume that will be the case most of the time. But now there are 2 guys I have to call back who want to go out again and I am dreading having the conversation about how I'd rather not. They are both so nice, but they're just not for me. Why is this so hard for me?
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I was in therapy a few years ago and it turned out that my therapist was also a dating coach. Not cool was her instant decision that I was sad because I was single. But I did manage to get some good advice for navigating online dating. Her first piece of advice was to meet in person within 2 weeks. it keeps me from getting too emotionally invested only to be disappointed when I finally meet him in person. It's become a tough rule to follow though because I'm so wrapped up in karate and choir that I don't feel like making the time unless I'm totally wowed and that doesn't happen often. And I'm sure I'm missing out on some potentially nice guys because I've gotten too picky.

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So Blake text this morning saying he thought I was mad at him: eyeroll: I told him straight up I didn't think we're a good match,we're at different speeds in life... He had asked me if the kids were out of school today. I've told him more than once how old my kids are and also that they're not in any daycare or school programs right now... I felt like he hasn't heard a word I've ever said. He's always making comments about wanting a kiss or how sexy he thinks I am...we never got into the important things about him...his home life,relationship with his parents, what does he like to do outside of work etc. So one dimensional. Anyway, after I sent him that text, he proceeded to say he thought my kids were in school... Like hellooooo did you not read the last text?! I didn't answer so he CALLED. asking what was I doing. I told him I was going to the park with my kids and our friends. He asked to join. I said no,and then told him I'd have to call back later. I was busy packing my kids and gathering everything else we needed. I haven't called back,and I'm not. I hate to be rude but I told him it's not working!!!!!


Eta: the metrosexual thing...NO. I don't even shop that much or get facials or massages! I definitely don't want a guy that takes longer to get ready than I do. I've dated someone like that before and no thanks. Never again. I'd say run away lol. Too much work if ya ask me! Plus you don't want to feel like you have to outdress the guy if he's in high end Couture!
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Last edited by CoCoLoCks; 04-06-2012 at 02:29 PM.
On a lighter note...a good guy friend met his chick on POF....they've been together almost 2 years. She's met his parents and they are getting ready for their second trip to Ecuador where he's from.


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I have met all 3 of boyfriends online. I think it's easy to filter the genuine from the creeps.

2 I met on POF and the current I met on Jdate. Works for me! Pretty sure I'd be a 27 year old virgin without it.


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