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Old 04-07-2012, 01:40 PM   #981
 
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I have met all 3 of boyfriends online. I think it's easy to filter the genuine from the creeps.

2 I met on POF and the current I met on Jdate. Works for me! Pretty sure I'd be a 27 year old virgin without it.


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I love that the guys you dont like are the ones who work the hardest to pursue you and the ones you do like, take their sweet time. Dating is so annoying!

About the metro guy, I cant afford to shop the way he does and frankly I've had exactly 2 facials and 2 massages my entire life and Im in my 30's!

And we just went on date 3 and he still hasnt even tried to kiss me? WTH is that about?
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I love that the guys you dont like are the ones who work the hardest to pursue you and the ones you do like, take their sweet time. Dating is so annoying!

About the metro guy, I cant afford to shop the way he does and frankly I've had exactly 2 facials and 2 massages my entire life and Im in my 30's!

And we just went on date 3 and he still hasnt even tried to kiss me? WTH is that about?
Are u sure he really likes chicks?


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Old 04-07-2012, 03:17 PM   #984
 
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How long do you ladies usually casually date someone before deciding whether to be exclusive or not? 3 months? 5 months?
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How long do you ladies usually casually date someone before deciding whether to be exclusive or not? 3 months? 5 months?
Well....I'm probably not qualified to even answer cause nothing online has actually gotten that far....but....I'd probably do closer to 5-6 unless of course the relationship was unusual...and I felt I knew all I needed to know in less time.


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Lol, no Im not sure he;s into chicks! He has a 20 yo daughter, thats all I've got.

Wow, 6 months, ok. I met all of my previous boyfriends the old fashioned way, without the internet and we were exclusive probably within 2 months, thats why I ask...
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6 months is long to me too. I usually know if I want to be exclusive/get more serious by 2-3 months (sometimes wayyy sooner-- of my 3 long-term, live-in relationships, we got serious pretty fast, and I am still good friends with 2 of them), and if they guy still isn't sure or doesn't want to be after 5 or 6 months, I'm out. It's been about 1 month with a guy I met on OkCupid, by far my favorite of the sites I've tried, but I don't have a feeling yet how far I want this to go. I want to be open to meeting other people still, but I see this guy a few times a week so haven't had much time, lol. Also, I admit, it's hard for me to keep track of who's who when I'm seeing multiple guys.
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Old 04-07-2012, 06:42 PM   #988
 
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So I'm wondering if any of you understand this phenomenon: why do some men "favorite" you but don't actually write you? Are they married, just looking? Shy? Would you write them first if you were interested?
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So I'm wondering if any of you understand this phenomenon: why do some men "favorite" you but don't actually write you? Are they married, just looking? Shy? Would you write them first if you were interested?
I think that's their non invasive way to try and communicate with you.
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Lol, no Im not sure he;s into chicks! He has a 20 yo daughter, thats all I've got.

Wow, 6 months, ok. I met all of my previous boyfriends the old fashioned way, without the internet and we were exclusive probably within 2 months, thats why I ask...
Lol....I was joking about that?

And I am kind of indecisive...and have to be really sure before I make a commitment cause im afraid I'll settle...and miss out on something better. So I have to be sure he's what I want. And that number is really abstract because I tend to not find guys I want more than a few dates with...


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Well,after texting with the guy from class last night, he basically made it clear his life is too busy and complicated for any "drama" right now. In a long-winded description, he stated he's still bitter and hurt over his divorce, and is trying to rebuild himself and immersing himself in his job.

All of this is not a surprise, as he's always blowing me off and giving the same excuse that "he's got a lot on his plate right now", but it would have been nice if he'd made this clear a month ago when suggesting we hang out.... I'm angry because I feel like he led me on without saying much,and I guess was feeling good because I was giving him attention. Typical ******* move,let the chick puff your ego even though you know you're not planning to have any type of relationship with her. I'm pissed.
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That sucks CoCo! Yeah guys always do that...like why even act like u wanna start something if u don't want it right now...jeez!


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Yeah I'm really bummed
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Ugh, sorry to hear that CoCoLoCks! I've been there.
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Sorry Coco. I hate people that waste time and can be so inconsiderate
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I just started online dating about 6 weeks ago. I am having a great time, and have met three really nice guys. But I really had to weed out the morons. It's a different world. I notice the men start to chat and then disapeer for about two weeks...then boom back again wanting to chat. I call them "serial daters". So far so good. Oh and I'm 56 so this is really strange to me! LOL
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i am SO squicked right now by the testimony at the child murder trial where they are trotting out a bunch of ex-girlfriends of the accused and he met them all on PoF!

YUCK!

*very* glad my profile is hidden right now!!!!!

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I reactivated OKCupid and Match last night. Almost ready to update the pic on POF. And so the weeding out begins. They say girls are needy?? Hah! This was my conversation this morning via Yahoo.
Him: how's it going
Me: things are really crazy here today
Him: where's here?
Me: I work in a hospital
Him: which one?
Me: (silence)
Him: so tell me about you
Me: (silence)
Him: how long have you been single? what are you looking for on this site? What do you want in a guy?
Me: that's way too much for me to IM right now from work. Told you it's crazy here today

In all fairness, I wasn't lying about the three ring circus that is my office today. I think I just lack the patience to attempt dating anymore.

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So I'm wondering if any of you understand this phenomenon: why do some men "favorite" you but don't actually write you? Are they married, just looking? Shy? Would you write them first if you were interested?
They do it to keep tabs on your profile so they can readily (and undetectably) view your profile and see when the last time you logged on was, if you are currently on or if you've updated your profile, without you noticing that they are "stalking" you.

If they take you out on a date and then you continue to remain active on the site (obviously you woudn't be talking to them on the site bc you would already know their phone number), it will be clear to them that you aren't especially interested in them.

Similarly, if they have you favorited, they will remember your username if they should ever want to block you in the future for reasonable or nefarious purposes.
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How long do you ladies usually casually date someone before deciding whether to be exclusive or not? 3 months? 5 months?
Two months in or sooner.

I think you pretty much know who you like and who you don't by the first few dates. If he's my fav and I'm his fav, then it just seems to work best if we make each other our main focus. And I don't have the time in my schedule to really focus on more than one guy.

When I join, I will spend the first few weeks, going out w/ a many guys I can, who meet my qualifications. Then I start whittling away like crazy bc I can't keep up that frantic, crazy schedule of dating a different guy every free night of the week and three on wknds. It's just exhausting.
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