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Old 05-03-2012, 11:45 AM   #1141
 
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I had a first time meetup at Starbucks last night. It was such a disappointment. His teeth were jacked up! Now I have to tell him I'm not interested *sigh* I hate having that talk.

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I honestly don't think you owe the other person very much after one date.

The Dear John speech/email/text is optional imo. (But maybe I'm just an azz like that.)
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Old 05-03-2012, 03:05 PM   #1142
 
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I had a first time meetup at Starbucks last night. It was such a disappointment. His teeth were jacked up! Now I have to tell him I'm not interested *sigh* I hate having that talk.

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I honestly don't think you owe the other person very much after one date.

The Dear John speech/email/text is optional imo. (But maybe I'm just an azz like that.)
Yeah usually I just blow them off but I hate it when that happens to me so I thought I'd try a different approach. I still haven't had the talk soooooo... I think I'll just skip it.

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I know exactly what u guys r talking about...I hate having to have that talk with people...I'm such a chicken that way. And u do end up having to have that talk a lot with online dating...it sucks!!

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Old 05-03-2012, 08:55 PM   #1144
 
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I have a coffee date set up for this Saturday. I've been really wishy-washy about the whole online dating thing for the last couple months. I have a thing for one of my friends and part of me would much rather try to pursue that. The other part of me is terrified of ruining the friendship and is anxious to meet someone, just to get my mind off of my friend. I realize this inner conflict has the potential of causing me to brush off a very nice guy. But I have yet to figure out how to have a conversation with my friend (or at least a sober one- we've discussed the relationship thing several times after we've been drinking). So Saturday should be interesting.

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Old 05-04-2012, 06:05 AM   #1145
 
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"Well today seems to have gone well. I even got some compliments, but not tremendous ones. But she seemed happy with what I was able to do. I had to go to court to file some paperwork regarding something really important, and I am 99.99% sure that I got everything totally right. If I made any mistake, I'll surely be fired, but I am extremely confident that I did it right, in which case my stock will rise in her eyes.

I am lucky that they didn't fire me - they had said that they were actually impressed with my arguments for not firing me, since that showed negotiation skills. They do see potential in me, especially the male partner, but they said that I was behind in certain areas, which I'm working very hard to correct. Learning things like never to send e-mails longer than 2 sentences to one of the partners, never to write research memos unless asked, and to be better prepared in terms of what I have to say when I go in to talk to them about my research results.

If I had to make a guess, I'd say there's still a good chance I will get to stay - but after they almost fired me, part of me would not feel that safe there. So I'm still going to look for a new job regardless, while trying hard to keep this one. I know that I have what it takes, it's just a matter of focusing on whatever little thing is in front of me at the time and avoiding the accumulation of small mistakes - and making sure I know exactly what I am doing before I submit anything."
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Has he even asked to meet up yet? Seems he's only interested in online therapy!
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Forgot to say I went on a first date with someone on Monday. He's extremely nice and polite, attractive....however, he tends to giggle, well, titter actually and I find it extremely unattractive and he uses his hands alot when talking (and not in a masculine way). I feel kinda bad putting him off because I do want to be with a nice guy but the titter is terrible!
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Old 05-04-2012, 08:07 AM   #1148
 
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Has he even asked to meet up yet? Seems he's only interested in online therapy!
Nope.

I'm writing a one liner back that I'm going to a wedding as a plus-1 tomorrow. (which is true.)
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Old 05-04-2012, 02:42 PM   #1149
 
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Ok, he just left this crazy voicemail, so I just sent him this text, sounds kindof professional, dont you think

Hi, it was nice meeting you the other day, however I dont feel a romantic connection. Wish you the best. Take care

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Wow, sounds like a winner.

I've been in the NYC theatre world for so long...ad,yes, there are many gay guys...but also plenty of straight guys, and all of my creative/artsy straight male friends are completely comfortable with gay people and would never make disclaimers like "not to sound gay."
It just majorly makes me roll my eyes. My dad was also really into theatre and as masculine as they come.

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Ok, he just left this crazy voicemail, so I just sent him this text, sounds kindof professional, dont you think

Hi, it was nice meeting you the other day, however I dont feel a romantic connection. Wish you the best. Take care

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That is short and to the point, sounds good. I'm going to start using the same line, adding a line about maybe being friends for the occasional one I'm interested in being friends with.
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Wish me luck ladies..I have a date with a guy from POF tonight....we've been talking for like 2 weeks...this is our first date


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Wish me luck ladies..I have a date with a guy from POF tonight....we've been talking for like 2 weeks...this is our first date


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I hope he's cute, smart, and the other things you're looking for! Have fun!
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Good luck, GoddessCurls! I hope it goes well!
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Would you ever consider being with an Albanian guy?
Sure, but I wouldn't consider being with a guy who can't read my profile and notice that 1) I haven't specified races I'm interested in and 2) I explicitly state that I want the initial message to have some substance and not reference sex (or what seems like a reference to sex anyway).
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Pretty good I'd say. We went to a local bar he seems very smart and interesting. We had a good time...do I guess the ball is in his court now.


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Sure, but I wouldn't consider being with a guy who can't read my profile and notice that 1) I haven't specified races I'm interested in and 2) I explicitly state that I want the initial message to have some substance and not reference sex (or what seems like a reference to sex anyway).
I'm always oft-put by "Would you date a [fill in blank with an ethnicity, race, nationality] guy?" questions.

Other bad signs IMO are usernames that include race or skin color, like "Lightskinned53" or "SicilianRock." I asked Lightskinned53 why he created that username and he wrote, "Have you ever met a lightskinned guy that wasn't good looking?" (He didn't have pictures up yet.) Ew. Skin color has nothing to do with attractiveness. I told him that and more about why that theory is so problematic and he got really pissed off, lol. I hate being "mean" to someone once I've met them, but if you seem like an idiot and you're messaging me, I don't hold back.
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No new stories?
I decided to not respond to the "titterer". I figured since we'd only met up for coffee once, that I didnt owe him a "breakup" email or text....I do feel a little bad though. Did i do the wrong thing?
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