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Old 05-17-2012, 05:29 AM   #1181
 
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Every guy I've dated online has paid every time.
i ALWAYS pay my own way with guys i meet online.

to each their own...

how would you answer an email like this:

you have been here a long time .. why? .. you have too many wonderful qualities

i've never met the man or communicated with him before...

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Old 05-17-2012, 07:10 AM   #1182
 
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Every guy I've dated online has paid every time.
i ALWAYS pay my own way with guys i meet online.

to each their own...

how would you answer an email like this:

you have been here a long time .. why? .. you have too many wonderful qualities

i've never met the man or communicated with him before...

"Take me out, wine me and dine me and get me off the market!"
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Old 05-17-2012, 07:53 AM   #1183
 
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There is a guy who has been after me since the day I joined two months ago. I tried to engage in friendly emailing with him at first but he P'd me off repeatedly and I wound up blocking him. After a few weeks, he cancelled his membership and rejoined as a new member so he could apologize to me and try again.

I guess I was moved by this and I accepted his apology...and after a couple more emails, wound up giving him my number.

(WHY???)

When I gave him my number I told him he could text me whenever but I'd appreciate if he didn't call before 5 pm (work).

So that same day, he called at 5:15, 5:30 and every fifteen minutes until I answered at 9:15pm.

And the conversation was so insane, I just had to share...
(mind you, this is the first conversation we've ever had, andf he is trying to dig himself out of the doghouse.)

Him: Spider, spider, spider, you tell me to call you at 5:00 and I have been calling you all night and you don't answer til nine. That's N-I-N-E.

Me: Sorry but I didn't say you had to call at 5:00. Or even at all. I just asked you not to call before 5:00.

Him: And you left this brother hanging all night. All night! That's N-I-G-H-T.

Me: I was out at a restaurant. Anyway, what's going on with you?

Him: I know you can have anyone you want. Anyone. A-N-Y-O-N-E. And you know, so can I. I have 300 messages in my inbox.

Me: OK?

Him: But I am not like all those other guys.

Me: Oh, really?

Him: No. I'm not trying to get between your legs. L-E-G-S. I actually care about you. Y-O-U.

Me: You care about me? We don't even know each other.

Him: But I still care about you. And what I need to do to is find out, during this conversation, how you feel about me.

Me: I don't feel any kinda way about you. As I said, we don't now each other. That is why I gave you my number...so we could get better acquainted.

Him: I aready know I care about you. C-A-R-E.

Me: OK, tell me why.

Him: Because you are no joke. You are used to men bowing down to you. And I ain't that kinda man. Because I could have whoever I wanted, but you have just captivated me from the moment I saw you and it's like there are no other women even on the site, besides you. I look at your profile almost every day and am mesmerized.

Me: But what specific things, from my profile, made you feel there was a connection?

Him: Because you got it going on!

Me: Specifically, what did I write in my profile that leads you to that conclusion?

Him: Well, it's not like I am on the computer right now and have your profile open.

Me: Perfect. Tell me what you remember from my profile that drew you in, specifically?

Him: uhhhhh...hmmmmm...you asked me too fast.

Me: I can ask it more slowly.

Him: OK, bc you are a hard worker.

Me: That's what you liked?

Him: And you're probably a good mother. If you have kids...I really can't remember. Do you have kids?

Me: It doesn't seem to me like you really read or remembered much from my profile about me.

Him: I'm not like these other dudes; I'm not trying to get between your legs. I mean, if that happens, cool. But that is not my objective. I care about you. C-A-R-E.

Me: Look, you're being a little too familiar in the way you are speaking to me. There is no reason to talk about about "getting btwn my legs" in our first conversation. Have some class, OK?

Him: What???? You don't think I have any class. I've been to college! All my mom's kids are college graduates. And I will be walking across the stage for a second time in December, getting my master's degree. That's M-A-S-T-E-R-S. So please don't say I have no class.

Me: Education is not class. And why do you keep spelling everything? English isn't a foreign language to me. That's a really strange habit.

Him: Oh, you don't like that? (LOL)

Me: No. And this conversation has left me speechless, so I'm going to go...I have a lot to do tonight.

Him: You may not believe this but I have been single for five years. F-I-V-E.

Me: You don't say.

Him: Really. And I wish you would give me a chance. I am actually kind of shy. And I have been totally enamored by you since the moment I saw you. When I opened up my email and I saw you had given me your phone number, I was like hallelujua! H-A-L-L...

Me: OK, I need to get going now.

Him: I want you to do one thing: call me tonight before you go to sleep. If you can, please.

Me: No, I won't be able to do that.

Him: OK.

Me: Good night.

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Old 05-17-2012, 07:56 AM   #1184
 
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good one!

um, about that guy up above.... can you say "loser"? that's with a CAPITAL L!!!!

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Old 05-17-2012, 11:08 AM   #1185
 
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Woah. Just....w-o-a-h.

He was about to spell hallelujah?

That guy is a MAJOR creeper. I'm kind of shocked he hasn't been single longer than five years.

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Im so sorry Spider, that convo make me laugh out loud at work. WTF? There are SOOO many nut jobs online! I love that he was going to spell hallelujah, LMAO!
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Every guy I've dated online has paid every time.
i ALWAYS pay my own way with guys i meet online.

to each their own...

how would you answer an email like this:

you have been here a long time .. why? .. you have too many wonderful qualities


i've never met the man or communicated with him before...


When I get this, I point out that there are mean, unattractive, boring people who are coupled up, and kind, attractive, interesting people who are not. And if I say anything else depends on if I like his profile or not! I know comments like that are meant as a compliment, but I think it's kind of a stupid thing to say. Then again, I am really losing patience with online dating.
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Im so sorry spider, that convo make me laugh out loud at work. Wtf? There are sooo many nut jobs online! I love that he was going to spell hallelujah, lmao!
omg, +1!! P-l-u-s o-n-e!
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Im dangeroulsy close to giving up on online dating again.
One guy, before we'd ever had a convo, texted hello, asked me one question and then asked me to send photos. I said no, I have plenty online already. He texted me 7, S-E-V-E-N photos of himself, one of which was him laying in a bed with red sheets

Another, got my number, texted to ask when was a good time for him to call, that was Thursday/Friday and then....nothing! I sent this text on Tue "?". In reponse the next morning he texted to say was on a fishing trip for 3 days only got back the night before and that he'd call at 8:30. i didnt respond to that text and of course, he didnt call.

WTF happened to men making any effort to pursue you anymore?
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Another first time meetup right now, wish me luck!

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Oh my God, spider--what the heck was that?! At least it seems like he got the hint at the end!

Hope your date went well, secret_karma!

I'm still on cloud 9 from my date on Wednesday and I'm hoping I can see him again today. I can't remember the last time I was so enchanted by somebody.
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I know...this place is great right!


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Oh, spiderlashes. That made me laugh out loud. What is WRONG WITH PEOPLE?
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Old 05-18-2012, 11:07 AM   #1195
 
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What do you all do after you've given a creepster your number? Do you block him? Change it?

Spider, I would've hung up the moment he told me he that he looked at my profile every day.

Wow.

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What do you all do after you've given a creepster your number? Do you block him? Change it?

Spider, I would've hung up the moment he told me he that he looked at my profile every day.

Wow.

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I was ok until he said, "I'm not trying to get between your legs. I mean, if that happens, cool. But that is not my objective."

Yes, dummy. Most people think sex is cool. But why do you keep mentioning it during our first conversation??

I am totally NOT a prude. But these fools are making me feel like I am. Like I'm dealing w/ 13 yr old boys again.

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I've never had a problem w/ online guys stalking or harrassing me.

This guy called me once or twice since that conversation (Monday or Tuesday night) but didn't leave a msg. He is continuing to email me on the site twice a day, tho.

If it gets overly annoying, I will block him (on the site) again. But I don't suspect he will start blowing up my phone.

In one of his emails, the day after the conversation, he wrote "I gave you your pearls."

WTH does that mean?

The thought of him J'ing off on my pic flashed in my mind...but surely he didn't mean that.
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Old 05-18-2012, 04:02 PM   #1197
 
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Errr... I think I would block him Spider. Just to be on the safe side. He sounds really... unstable.

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i have to agree with midgi, spider. block him.
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In one of his emails, the day after the conversation, he wrote "I gave you your pearls."

WTH does that mean?

The thought of him J'ing off on my pic flashed in my mind...but surely he didn't mean that.
Is he referring to that story about the dad asking his daughter night after night to give him her cheap, plastic pearls because he had a gift of genuine pearls for her?

Here is part of the story. You can google to get the rest of it. It seems to have to do with that verse about giving pearls to pigs. Maybe he is telling you that you have found the 'one' in him and no longer need to search.

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A few nights later when her daddy came in, Jenny was sitting on her bed with her legs crossed Indian-style. As he came close, he noticed her chin was trembling and one silent tear rolled down her cheek. "What is it, Jenny? What's the matter?" Jenny didn't say anything but lifted her little hand up to her daddy. And when she opened it, there was her little pearl necklace. With a little quiver,she finally said, "Here, Daddy. It's for you."

With tears gathering in his own eyes, Jenny's kind daddy reached out with one hand to take the dime-store necklace, and with the other hand he reached into his pocket and pulled out a blue velvet case with a strand of genuine pearls and gave them to Jenny. He had had them all the time. He was just waiting for her to give up the dime-store stuff so he could give her genuine treasure.
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In one of his emails, the day after the conversation, he wrote "I gave you your pearls."

WTH does that mean?

The thought of him J'ing off on my pic flashed in my mind...but surely he didn't mean that.
Is he referring to that story about the dad asking his daughter night after night to give him her cheap, plastic pearls because he had a gift of genuine pearls for her?

Here is part of the story. You can google to get the rest of it. It seems to have to do with that verse about giving pearls to pigs. Maybe he is telling you that you have found the 'one' in him and no longer need to search.

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A few nights later when her daddy came in, Jenny was sitting on her bed with her legs crossed Indian-style. As he came close, he noticed her chin was trembling and one silent tear rolled down her cheek. "What is it, Jenny? What's the matter?" Jenny didn't say anything but lifted her little hand up to her daddy. And when she opened it, there was her little pearl necklace. With a little quiver,she finally said, "Here, Daddy. It's for you."

With tears gathering in his own eyes, Jenny's kind daddy reached out with one hand to take the dime-store necklace, and with the other hand he reached into his pocket and pulled out a blue velvet case with a strand of genuine pearls and gave them to Jenny. He had had them all the time. He was just waiting for her to give up the dime-store stuff so he could give her genuine treasure.
Sounds like a pretty creepy story.
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