The Official Online Dating Diaries Thread

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on PoF only people in your age range can contact you.
Originally Posted by rouquinne
Ohh, that's a good feature. I'm not sure if I'm up for juggling 2 sites but maybe I should try PoF too. I wonder if it's mostly the same people on both sites?
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it's funny, though... i've had more nasty emails from older men than younger ones. not sure why that is. if you say "no thanks" to a younger one, they wish you well. say "no thanks" to older ones, and you almost always get something back like "hey fatty, i was just trying to throw you a bone, i'm sure you don't get much looking the way you do". i've had a LOT of those, but never from young guys...

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dia, i've heard you see the same people on ALL the sites - pay and free!

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Diaspora - I just wanted to say that when I went on a first date with a man I met on Match, I wasn't sure at all, although I thought he was a nice person. I decided to try a second date and we got talking and I started to want a third date. It went from there and we've now been together just over a year.
Originally Posted by Piglet
Aww Thanks for sharing that.
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Anyone gotten good at reading btwn the lines of these guys' BS?

For instance, I have found that:

I am a movie buff actually means I have no hobbies

Looking for a physical and emotional connection actually means I am looking for sex

I don't like to argue actually means don't question me, nag me or make any demands on me.

What online dating codes have you cracked?? LOL
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I don't necessarily agree with the take on film buffs. I'm a film buff and I do have hobbies; granted, most of them are sedentary, but I still have hobbies.
I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
"
Nothing too specific, SL, but I've learned when someone's profile is full of what they aren't looking for and super negative, you can read between the lines: they're describing their ex to a "T." It also means they aren't over her or are incredibly bitter about the breakup, or both.
Well, since "Diaries" is in the title of this thread, I'm going to post what is essentially a journal entry and not feel too bad about it! I would love advice if anyone has any, but I'll post this mainly just to get it off my chest, assuming that there isn't much to say in response.

I am falling too hard too fast. I'm trying to control myself but I am way too into the guy I'm seeing. I feel emotional all the time and it's upsetting to me.

We went on our first date last Wednesday. He seemed immediately head over heels, which I'm sure made me more smitten. We saw each other again on Friday. And then again on Saturday (when he slept over), and on Monday (when he slept over again). I have no issue with the fact that I've slept with him already, so I don't care to hear any judgment about that. Now I've had to go out of town for a week, so I haven't seen him or talked to him since Tuesday morning. And I miss him.

I feel like I'm liking him more and more--thinking about him all the time--and he already seems way less into me. It's only been a week since we met! I'm pretty sure it's not one of those situations where he was just trying to get into my pants and now he's done (although we do have unbelievably sexual chemistry). I worry that he had this ideal image of me at first and, now that he's getting to know me, I'm not as amazing as he thought. I'm just a regular lady. Actually, I'm pretty boring.

When I first signed up for OKC about 4 months ago, I noticed that I'm really good at dating. I didn't really have experience with it before then--I hadn't been single in 12 years, and didn't date much before then. All but 1 of the 12 or so guys I've gone out with in the last 4 months has asked me on a 2nd date. But what I'm wondering now is if I'm good at making first impressions but bad at keeping a guy's interest. Before the current guy, I was dating a guy who fell off the face of the earth after about a month of dating. I didn't care--not just because I didn't care about him, but also because the situation with the current guy was getting intense. But now that I've actually finally found someone I want some sort of relationship with, I'm constantly worrying that he's not into me enough.

Sorry for the long post, but it does feel better to write this all out and express my silly anxieties!
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I don't necessarily agree with the take on film buffs. I'm a film buff and I do have hobbies; granted, most of them are sedentary, but I still have hobbies.
Originally Posted by kayb
I know people can legitimately be movie buffs. But I just think it conveys something different when men say it online. LOL
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Well, since "Diaries" is in the title of this thread, I'm going to post what is essentially a journal entry and not feel too bad about it! I would love advice if anyone has any, but I'll post this mainly just to get it off my chest, assuming that there isn't much to say in response.

I am falling too hard too fast. I'm trying to control myself but I am way too into the guy I'm seeing. I feel emotional all the time and it's upsetting to me.

We went on our first date last Wednesday. He seemed immediately head over heels, which I'm sure made me more smitten. We saw each other again on Friday. And then again on Saturday (when he slept over), and on Monday (when he slept over again). I have no issue with the fact that I've slept with him already, so I don't care to hear any judgment about that. Now I've had to go out of town for a week, so I haven't seen him or talked to him since Tuesday morning. And I miss him.

I feel like I'm liking him more and more--thinking about him all the time--and he already seems way less into me. It's only been a week since we met! I'm pretty sure it's not one of those situations where he was just trying to get into my pants and now he's done (although we do have unbelievably sexual chemistry). I worry that he had this ideal image of me at first and, now that he's getting to know me, I'm not as amazing as he thought. I'm just a regular lady. Actually, I'm pretty boring.

When I first signed up for OKC about 4 months ago, I noticed that I'm really good at dating. I didn't really have experience with it before then--I hadn't been single in 12 years, and didn't date much before then. All but 1 of the 12 or so guys I've gone out with in the last 4 months has asked me on a 2nd date. But what I'm wondering now is if I'm good at making first impressions but bad at keeping a guy's interest. Before the current guy, I was dating a guy who fell off the face of the earth after about a month of dating. I didn't care--not just because I didn't care about him, but also because the situation with the current guy was getting intense. But now that I've actually finally found someone I want some sort of relationship with, I'm constantly worrying that he's not into me enough.

Sorry for the long post, but it does feel better to write this all out and express my silly anxieties!
Originally Posted by ursula

But you've only ben dating for a week and hung out four times, so how can you really feel a taper off?

What is he doing that is making you feel is less into you now?

When you left town, what did either of you say about calling or texting while you were gone?

Would you consider sending him a quick text to see how he responds? (Maybe he is missing you, too?)
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Thanks for the feedback, spiderlashes. I realize it sounds silly to talk about a tapering off after a week, but it's a vibe I get. He was so open and over-the-top about me at first--it almost seemed to me like love at first sight from his perspective. Maybe I'm just innocent, but I don't think he was feeding me lines. Now it feels like we've already settled into a regular sort of thing, which would be fine normally, but it feels like a drop off from before.

When we said good bye to each other on Tuesday, he didn't say anything about talking to each other this week. He said he'd see me when I got back to town.

The other thing is that he is bad about phoning and texting. I knew this from the beginning: even on OKC, he took a week to reply to me both times I messaged him. I don't know if he doesn't consider me a priority or if he's just flighty and flaky, but I guess it's bad news either way. I'm not high-maintenance, and I'm not even sure I want something serious, but I imagine that I will eventually get annoyed by that.

I actually did call him and left a message Thursday night saying that he didn't need to call me back if he was busy (which I know he is right now) and that I was just calling to talk. He hasn't called back. It's been a day and a half since then.
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My soon to be ex BF (whom I met online) is a no good, lying P.O.S. There are many things I can deal with, but lying is my deal breaker. Go on, babe. I hope the door smacks you on your way out. Peace!
I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
"

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My soon to be ex BF (whom I met online) is a no good, lying P.O.S. There are many things I can deal with, but lying is my deal breaker. Go on, babe. I hope the door smacks you on your way out. Peace!
Originally Posted by kayb
Wow....soon to be ex? How long we're u guys together?


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I went on date number 2 with a guy from POF...he annoyed me tho!! Since when does 7:30-8....mean 9:30? I was friggin starving! He hinted too much at wanting to be physical too early. Also we started talking about bad areas in Philly..and what an armed persons rights should be protecting theyre property. No idea where that came from. But anyway...he's like well they shouldn't be allowed to shoot...they CHOSE to live in that sitch! I'm like, excuse me!!! When ur poor..u can't afford to live somewhere better...my neighborhood was good when I was little...got bad later...we owned our home and couldn't live anywhere else...he's like we'll those kinds of people shld think about that before they have kids! Meanwhile his arrogant ass has never been seriously poor!!! Man was I pissed!!


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GC, please tell me you won't consider a third date!!!!

what a maroon!

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Kayb, sorry to hear that, break ups suck!
Godess, good lord, what an azz
Online dating is really pissing me off...I feel like I have the same issues. It's so much better when u can meet someone the real way. Maybe u put too many expectations on the person before u meet them...not sure. But so far I just don't meet many that it works with...either they don't do it for me...or there is just no spark....ugh! #sofedup


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Online dating is really pissing me off...I feel like I have the same issues. It's so much better when u can meet someone the real way. Maybe u put too many expectations on the person before u meet them...not sure. But so far I just don't meet many that it works with...either they don't do it for me...or there is just no spark....ugh! #sofedup


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Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
+1. Sigh.

When someone does seem compatible enough for me to want to meet them, I try to meet them quickly so we don't go from having a great email relationship to finding there's no chemistry in person. The disappointment really sucks.
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My soon to be ex BF (whom I met online) is a no good, lying P.O.S. There are many things I can deal with, but lying is my deal breaker. Go on, babe. I hope the door smacks you on your way out. Peace!
Originally Posted by kayb
Wow....soon to be ex? How long we're u guys together?


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Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
3 months.
I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
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GC, please tell me you won't consider a third date!!!!

what a maroon!

Originally Posted by rouquinne
Lol....uh...no


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