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Old 05-28-2012, 10:30 AM   #1261
 
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Old 06-01-2012, 03:47 PM   #1262
 
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I'm so, so sad. I can't believe I can feel so heartbroken after such a short time of knowing someone.
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Old 06-01-2012, 04:09 PM   #1263
 
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OK, let's be rational:
  • drinks to excess
  • smokes to excess
  • doesn't have a great job
  • temperamentally very different from me
  • wouldn't be an attentive boyfriend

I could go on and on. So why do I like him so much? And why doesn't he like me? He's making me feel very desperate and it's embarrassing.
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Old 06-01-2012, 11:21 PM   #1264
 
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Aw...I understand. U can rationalize all u want tho...the heart wants what it wants. So use ur reasons to remind urself of why ur better off...the rest is just gonna take time. And other, better guys of course! Lol


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Old 06-02-2012, 12:43 AM   #1265
 
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OK, let's be rational:
  • drinks to excess
  • smokes to excess
  • doesn't have a great job
  • temperamentally very different from me
  • wouldn't be an attentive boyfriend

I could go on and on. So why do I like him so much? And why doesn't he like me? He's making me feel very desperate and it's embarrassing.
Aww, hugs to you Ursula. Our hearts are not known for being rational. I think it's really good of you and your heart to have given this guy a chance being that there were some issues/challenges, but having a list of why he's not actually good for you is very smart.

It sounds like this guy gave you mixed signals. It was great for a week or so, amazing! and then not. Nothing gets me hooked like mixed signals. I want that good feeling again! I want the relationship like it was when it felt right! But the sooner I recognize that I'm hooked in a way that is painful for me, the sooner I'm able to move on and feel better.

IMO, there's no shame in going with your heart, in fact I think it's a beautiful thing, even if we probably get hurt more doing so. Still, I wouldn't change the fact that I go with my heart/instincts, because though it can lead to pain, it can also lead to things that are really, really beautiful when you meet the right person. Plus, being rational is no guarantee against pain either!

Hang in there girl, you will feel better and you will meet guys who have it together and will be consistent and want to be with you.
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Old 06-03-2012, 04:41 PM   #1266
 
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Ok....so I just had drinks with a guy who I had on the back burner....my god this man was fine!!!!!

Convo was good...he's smart and professional, big and tall...used to play college football....he couldn't be more my type if I designed him. (fingers crossed)


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Old 06-11-2012, 11:05 AM   #1267
 
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Eta...my first post didn't go thru

What do u guys think is the best site. I was gonna try to join a pay site this weekend...I figure maybe if the pay then the dudes will be serious. Also I was thinking of making an okcupid profile...I think my POF luck is shot.
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Hi Goddess, Im on OKC and in my opinion, its very hard to take anyone seriously on there. I have zero expectations. I should note that Ive been on there about a month and went out with 2 people. One which wanted to take me to his best friends kid's 4th birthday party after one date and has messaged saying stuff like "im thinking about you" and "i hate not seeing this weekend". Pretty after only ONE DATE!
Sorry, wondered off track here. OKC is free. Join, there's nothing to lose.
Im also on Eharmony which was fine at first but I havent gotten a single bite in a month. Maybe Match?
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Wait, what happened to the hot guy you posted about?

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Who knows! But I'm not putting all my eggs in his basket anyway. We texted and I thought we were supposed to meet for drinks or something yesterday but nothing ever materialized so...I'm not gonna push...if he wants to get to know me more...he will I guess


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That guy definitely is smoking hot tho!!


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Idk why that came up blank last night!!!!

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Old 06-12-2012, 01:52 PM   #1275
 
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But Ursula I know exactly how u feel!!!! I am so mad at myself for falling!

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Old 06-12-2012, 04:21 PM   #1276
 
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@envy

I actually got a free ebook on online dating from a dude who supposedly met his wife that way. So far it's pretty good. He is also an advocate for OKC over POF. So I may get a profile this weekend.

About the Football Player. At first when I wasn't texting him much he text me asking if he lost me, meaning the typical POF connection...wondering why we stopped talking...I then made a date with him and like him a lot. We didn't get to go out Sunday like we planned and I hadn't been hearing from him do I text today if I had lost him. He said no...he's been real busy with work. So I'm hoping that is it... I'd love to see him again!


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Good luck GoddessCurls!

I have not tried POF but have been on OkC on and off for years.

My verdict in my city-- takes like 10-20 unique dates before I actually meet someone I am attracted to (and otherwise like). Was not this bad when I lived in NYC.

I don't think I'm being overly picky-- I'm pretty nice looking, for my age certainly, and feel like I'm a pretty nice, quality person, and have been agreeing to meet men who sound great but whose pics just look average. If I didn't agree to meet the average looking ones, I'd agree to meet almost no one but some of the ones in their early 20s, who are way too young for me. I've been trying to take to heart that some women on this thread have found men they met online to be more attractive in person. I haven't found this to be the case.

However, I did meet my last bf (lasted 5 months) on OkC and met the current guy I'm into (only had 2 dates so far, he deleted his profile after meeting me, deciding he's happy he met me but the online thing's not for him) on OkC, but I'm thinking of hiding my profile and simply forcing myself to go out more.

I'm just really tired of trading a few amazing emails and then feeling no chemistry for the man in person, and feeling like an *sshole having to say I don't want to go on the 2nd date.

Sigh. I wish this was easier and I could afford to pay some genius matchmaker to find me some good options.
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Old 06-12-2012, 06:24 PM   #1278
 
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I completely agree. I hate saying I don't wanna go out again. I am pretty picky also but I need to go out more. I'm usually out with young friends at young places and get hit on by too young guys. And that never works. I don't usually find them to be more attractive in person either...but this one...he is. Like I couldn't stop smiling..lol so it does happen


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It's really great to have this place u know. I pretty much have no one else that's really supportive of the endeavor


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Agreed goddess!!!

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