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Yay! Have a great time. I'm happy for u
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Well,no date tonight he's swamped at work. He was telling me yesterday how they've been short handed all week. He won't be leaving work til late,but is hoping he doesn't end up too late. Either way it's not so bad because he's off tomorrow so we can hang out then...if they don't want him there tomorrow too! Poor guy is not happy he's missing Our date.
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
I'm not even sure how to explain it. We just didn't feel as connected as we felt on the first date and I'm pretty sure it was my fault. There was just less excitement and less chemistry between us. There were awkward moments and pauses, and the kissing wasn't as good. He even mentioned that things felt awkward! I think I psyched myself out a little bit because I like him so much.

We talked about a third date but I got the feeling he wasn't too into the idea. There seemed to be a lot of scheduling issues because we're both going out of town soon. If we go out again, it probably won't be for another 2 weeks. And I'm sure someone else will snatch him up by then! He's pretty great.
Originally Posted by ursula
If he's going out of town, too, he probably won't be dating, right? So it's not too likely that he will get snapped up before your next date.

What was the first awkward incident on the second date? What happened?

So did you wind up going on the date w/ the other guy?
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
We're going out of town at different times, unfortunately. He's leaving when I get back. So he says.

There wasn't a particular awkward incident. It was just that the conversation didn't flow easily. I think he thought I was more reserved and didn't seem interested. I'm realizing that I may have a problem with self-sabotage, because it's when I'm most interested that I subconsciously try to play it cool. I can't help it. And then I drive them away even more by overcompensating and starting to chase them when they pull away. It's a vicious cycle. He said he was going to email me tonight but he didn't say what about; I'm worried he's going to end things.

I did go out with the other guy. It didn't work. He just seemed to suffer in comparison and it made me like the first guy even more. The second guy asked me out again for tonight but I lied and said I had plans. There was nothing wrong with him but I would rather stay home alone than go out with him again. I don't want to lead him on or risk having him try to kiss me.

I know you've probably already made your decision about Cincinnati, Spiderlashes, but just for the record I think it's perfectly acceptable to cancel just for the night and "bide your time." If you're not absolutely sure that you don't want him, why not keep him on the back burner? At least until you know where things stand with Army. You don't even have to have an exclusive relationship with him to have a sense of "where things stand."
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Well,no date tonight he's swamped at work. He was telling me yesterday how they've been short handed all week. He won't be leaving work til late,but is hoping he doesn't end up too late. Either way it's not so bad because he's off tomorrow so we can hang out then...if they don't want him there tomorrow too! Poor guy is not happy he's missing Our date.
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
That sucks! Hope you get to go out with him tomorrow. If you do, have fun!
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How do you ladies typically respond to a guy online who sends an icebreaker e-mail that is just a little too perfect? Almost like it wasn't written for you personally, but something that they send to many women? My instincts all were to ignore them, but... I'm rethinking my approach and wondering how others would respond. Maybe I've been being too harsh by expecting something more personal from a complete stranger?
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How do you ladies typically respond to a guy online who sends an icebreaker e-mail that is just a little too perfect? Almost like it wasn't written for you personally, but something that they send to many women? My instincts all were to ignore them, but... I'm rethinking my approach and wondering how others would respond. Maybe I've been being too harsh by expecting something more personal from a complete stranger?
Originally Posted by jmw
Great question for my future reference! How do you handle generic messages? (I would normally ignore them, too...)

Not online dating at this time, as it never actually produced a "date". But plan to try again soon...The guys on OKC were never online and if they were they would ignore me.
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I haven't gotten generic messages,I've gotten very lengthy or very blunt messages. One guy sent "let me taste it"....and of course was ignored. I don't get down like that. To me,if the message sounds rehearsed or premeditated, I ignore.
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
I hate a great date last night...he got me a cheese cake that said Happy Birthday with my name on it. We went to a nice dinner...and had a few drinks. Very nice time...he's a sweetheart!
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Yay Goddess!!!!!!! This is also the guy Who got you the book or no?
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
Yeah...the guy who bought the book. We had a great time...he's such a nice guy
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I'm starting to get a little excited for you!!!
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
I'm pretty damn excited myself!

So do u hang out with mechanic today?
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I even brought up with ChristianBoy that we would have to have that dreaded talk soon. He took it way better than I would have...so either he really doesn't care or he was hiding it. Before when we brought up this subject he said he was prepared for this, he knew what he was getting into
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I'm so glad it's going well, GoddessCurls!
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How do you ladies typically respond to a guy online who sends an icebreaker e-mail that is just a little too perfect? Almost like it wasn't written for you personally, but something that they send to many women? My instincts all were to ignore them, but... I'm rethinking my approach and wondering how others would respond. Maybe I've been being too harsh by expecting something more personal from a complete stranger?
Originally Posted by jmw
I don't respond to generic messages. I posted a pretty hilarious one that I got upthread. It's not too much to ask that a person make an effort when he or she sends a message. Act at least like you've skimmed my profile and there was something about me that you liked besides my appearance. Why bother writing profiles then?
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I haven't gotten generic messages,I've gotten very lengthy or very blunt messages. One guy sent "let me taste it"....and of course was ignored. I don't get down like that. To me,if the message sounds rehearsed or premeditated, I ignore.
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
I would say that "let me taste it" is pretty generic! He probably sent that to a lot of women!!
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I haven't gotten generic messages,I've gotten very lengthy or very blunt messages. One guy sent "let me taste it"....and of course was ignored. I don't get down like that. To me,if the message sounds rehearsed or premeditated, I ignore.
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
I would say that "let me taste it" is pretty generic! He probably sent that to a lot of women!!
Originally Posted by ursula
I'm like really guy??

Goddess, no we didn't get to hang out He's watching his niece all day, and woke up with a cold. He sounded terrible! I was gonna bring him some soup, but we decided we'd see each other Wednesday instead (he was all for me coming tonight but I didn't want to be bombarding if he had his niece there). Anyway, I really like him!! He's been showering me with attention from day one and most of all, I like that he's genuine. And he's hilarious to boot! I almost peed my pants the other night laughing.
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
That's great! There is nothing better than a funny guy! Except a funny guy who can fix ur car....lol
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Just something I have noticed- Most guys are not online until late at night.
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Oh and Spider, he did mention why things didn't work out...they were together a while and I think started to grow apart...things weren't working and like a lot of couples figured they thought they could heal it by having more kids...lol
which obviously doesn't work
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.

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