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Sorry about Army Spider, He seemed like a real keeper. Alas! Hope it works out.
Originally Posted by thelio

He texted me Good Morning.

But then I replied w/ something that may have been offensive to him (not on purpose). And I haven't heard back from him.

Oh well.
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Last edited by spiderlashes5000; 10-11-2012 at 08:01 AM.
I have yet another date tonight but this one is a 2nd date. Now taking bets on how I'll screw this one up...
Originally Posted by ursula
How did it go???
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
It went great. He kissed me, which was nice. I definitely liked kissing him very much, but I don't feel like there's intense chemistry. I'm attracted to him but he's not what I would normally find really attractive. But I'm thinking maybe that's a good thing. The situations where I felt intense chemistry in the past have been kind of toxic.

But, as with Cincy, this guy lives far away. I'm not sure I want to get involved with all that.

I get the feeling that he's a genuinely nice and decent guy. Decent, attractive (to me), smart--maybe that's worth pursuing despite the distance. Still figuring it out.
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Goddess, how are you??? Where are you??
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Goddess, how are you??? Where are you??
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
Hey girl. I'm still around. I check the site often and just read. I'm ok...getting ready for surgery.

Things didn't work out with bday guy either
Honestly it all started to go down Jill from his initial driving at 1:00am remark. He started getting on my nerves and we would bicker. I didn't feel like it should be so difficult this early on...that's supposed to be the time when ur all stupid happy right? Lol

I do pay attention to horoscopes and me and him are both Virgo's. I read that can either go splendidly or horribly... I guess him constantly pudding me off was a sign.

Not really thinkin about going back to the websites....it's depressing. A few friends offered to try and fix me up...plus an older pod prospect started texting again....he seems to be happy it didn't work out with the other guy. Who knows. But I'm here
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Goddess, how are you??? Where are you??
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
Hey girl. I'm still around. I check the site often and just read. I'm ok...getting ready for surgery.

Things didn't work out with bday guy either
Honestly it all started to go down Jill from his initial driving at 1:00am remark. He started getting on my nerves and we would bicker. I didn't feel like it should be so difficult this early on...that's supposed to be the time when ur all stupid happy right? Lol

I do pay attention to horoscopes and me and him are both Virgo's. I read that can either go splendidly or horribly... I guess him constantly pudding me off was a sign.

Not really thinkin about going back to the websites....it's depressing. A few friends offered to try and fix me up...plus an older pod prospect started texting again....he seems to be happy it didn't work out with the other guy. Who knows. But I'm here
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
Gah how did this happen We all seemed to have it going so well now we are all back to square one. Dating sucks!
"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.
I know right! Lol

He really started bugging me and making me angry. I felt he was a bit condescending. He did mention in the beginning that he stayed away from dating older women cause they were set in their ways. I'm starting to think more like he dates younger woman cause they are more malleable.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I wonder if I'll have more luck with a girlfriend of mine fixing me up...she kinda knows my type..

I'm just sad....life sucks!
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I wonder if I'll have more luck with a girlfriend of mine fixing me up...she kinda knows my type..

I'm just sad....life sucks!
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
Yea I'm feeling pretty bummed too. I am home with the flu the last couple days and just wish I had someone to bring me soup and tea and tuck me in!
"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.
I wonder if I'll have more luck with a girlfriend of mine fixing me up...she kinda knows my type..

I'm just sad....life sucks!
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
I know you posted about this before but what about bars and lounges in your area? Where do you live again? You can go at night on the weekends or happy hour.
Sorry u don't feel well Narnia. It suck when u have no one to take care of u.

And I live in south Philly.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Ugh, I'm dreading my date tonight! I wish I could skip it.

Usually before meeting someone I give them my number as a just in case, so if they're running late they can text me. I gave him my number yesterday and he proceeded to text me. Then asked if we could talk on the phone. I said yes, even though I don't like doing that before meeting.

I had a feeling there was something weird about him from his profile and messages, but over the phone he came across as even more weird than I suspected. He has an odd way of talking. I know it's jumping to conclusions to say this, but he struck me as autistic. Plus he said a few things that made me sure that we wouldn't be compatible. Anyway, I'm going through with the date. In a way, it's a relief to know what to expect rather than be shocked by his weirdness only when I meet him in person. But I am aware of the fact that I'm wasting time: both mine and his. And I'll just have to deal with the whole no-spark conversation when he asks me out again (because I'm pretty sure he will). But maybe this will be a good opportunity to try practicing the not-interested mode of behavior so he never does ask me on the second date in the first place. Although, if he is autistic, he may not pick up on those cues...
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I wonder if I'll have more luck with a girlfriend of mine fixing me up...she kinda knows my type..

I'm just sad....life sucks!
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
I think that's a great idea. I wish my friends would fix me up. I feel like it's more promising than online dating, because it's real life. You know what I mean? They can't disappear on you.
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Ugh, I'm dreading my date tonight! I wish I could skip it.

Usually before meeting someone I give them my number as a just in case, so if they're running late they can text me. I gave him my number yesterday and he proceeded to text me. Then asked if we could talk on the phone. I said yes, even though I don't like doing that before meeting.

I had a feeling there was something weird about him from his profile and messages, but over the phone he came across as even more weird than I suspected. He has an odd way of talking. I know it's jumping to conclusions to say this, but he struck me as autistic. Plus he said a few things that made me sure that we wouldn't be compatible. Anyway, I'm going through with the date. In a way, it's a relief to know what to expect rather than be shocked by his weirdness only when I meet him in person. But I am aware of the fact that I'm wasting time: both mine and his. And I'll just have to deal with the whole no-spark conversation when he asks me out again (because I'm pretty sure he will). But maybe this will be a good opportunity to try practicing the not-interested mode of behavior so he never does ask me on the second date in the first place. Although, if he is autistic, he may not pick up on those cues...
Originally Posted by ursula
How come you don't like to have even short phone conversations before the date?

Is it possibe his weirdness could be endearing or refreshing in some way?
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

Goddess, how are you??? Where are you??
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks
Hey girl. I'm still around. I check the site often and just read. I'm ok...getting ready for surgery.

Things didn't work out with bday guy either
Honestly it all started to go down Jill from his initial driving at 1:00am remark. He started getting on my nerves and we would bicker. I didn't feel like it should be so difficult this early on...that's supposed to be the time when ur all stupid happy right? Lol

I do pay attention to horoscopes and me and him are both Virgo's. I read that can either go splendidly or horribly... I guess him constantly pudding me off was a sign.

Not really thinkin about going back to the websites....it's depressing. A few friends offered to try and fix me up...plus an older pod prospect started texting again....he seems to be happy it didn't work out with the other guy. Who knows. But I'm here
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
Hey goddess, sorry it didn't work out but at least it didnt get too deep with him. Hope all goes well with the surgery and keep us posted

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Ugh, I'm dreading my date tonight! I wish I could skip it.

Usually before meeting someone I give them my number as a just in case, so if they're running late they can text me. I gave him my number yesterday and he proceeded to text me. Then asked if we could talk on the phone. I said yes, even though I don't like doing that before meeting.

I had a feeling there was something weird about him from his profile and messages, but over the phone he came across as even more weird than I suspected. He has an odd way of talking. I know it's jumping to conclusions to say this, but he struck me as autistic. Plus he said a few things that made me sure that we wouldn't be compatible. Anyway, I'm going through with the date. In a way, it's a relief to know what to expect rather than be shocked by his weirdness only when I meet him in person. But I am aware of the fact that I'm wasting time: both mine and his. And I'll just have to deal with the whole no-spark conversation when he asks me out again (because I'm pretty sure he will). But maybe this will be a good opportunity to try practicing the not-interested mode of behavior so he never does ask me on the second date in the first place. Although, if he is autistic, he may not pick up on those cues...
Originally Posted by ursula
Ugh, i hate waste of time dates! I suppose its good practice but i hate having the 'there's no chemistry' convo. Hopefully he was just nervous on the phone and will relax tonight.

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Spider, sorry I dropped off for a bit!! "I" actually met someone online and it's going well.

In terms of the A hole awareness in PTSD. Yes they do know that they do it. It is very promising that he is getting help though!! A major part of PTSD is the depression and pessimism they can funk themselves into. Check out a site called Depression Fallout (Google it). There's a book, but a lot if times the forums are way more useful!!

So lets talk about this guy I met on POF. I was in a relationship until right after Labor Day. Was a 4 month thing and the last couple months were just exhausting. I was into it at first, but once I settle into a relationship, I don't need to be up someone's butt lol he never lost that and it became clingy/needy, but then maybe I just checked out!!

Anyway, I swore off of dating sites because I went right back in after the breakup and was surrounded by tool boxes!! After a few weeks I decided I wanted to find someone to talk to for just that. Some light texting when bored, whatever, but no dating. I did that for less than a week when I met this guy!! Initially we weren't going to pursue anything bc he smokes lot sometimes and I want nothing to do with that, but the next day he texted and said I should give him a chance because he's not a loser slacker stoner. He has a good job, owns his own home, and drives a nice car. He only smokes if he's at home watching TV and he only continues to do it because it helps his anxiety and OCD. He has agreed never to do it around me and has said repeatedly that he would quit if it became an issue for us. We have discussed the laws about it and we will see. So far he has only done it once. If we hang out as often as we have been, he may do it once a week and he was doing it nightly.

Beyond that, like I mentioned, he's not some slouch. The last 2 guys I was in serious relationships with were unemployed. One of them because he was collecting unemployment and lazy and the other was on disability because if his depression. No matter the reason, I have established that I cannot be with someone long term that doesn't work!! They sleep when I'm working and stay up until wee hours of the morning and for some reason I find the lazy messy ones!! Haha

Me and the new guy (who doesn't feel so new anymore, this last week....yes week has been wicked intense) seem almost destined. We like the same things, we are incredibly attracted to each other, we even both share a desire to have a house I the country with at least a couple of acres. He lives in my town (5 minutes away), gives me as much attention as I give him (rare for a lot of guys), and is no afraid of being mushy. Not to mention what my feelings for him do to me. I am/was the most cynical b* alive!! People gushing to each other on Facebook got people blocked or unfriended and the actions and discussions we have had within a week is out of my mind!! I will talk about "meant to be" and moving in together and the fantasy of us forever. It doesn't help that everyone we tell is supportive (I think he dated the same hot messes i did only in female form lol). It's encouraging us to remain this "crazy" lol. Everyday I feel less crazy and I accept it. We have discussed major deal breaking things and without leading questions and we line up (for example "what do you think about gay marriage? Rather than "do you agree with gay marriage?"). It's surreal and I'm just trying to not be myself (cynical) and really enjoy it. Wish me luck :-)

He also likes my curls!! He said he wasn't sure at first but once he got to know me and saw me he realized they suited me :-D and without me saying anything, he said he wants to play with my hair but doesn't want to mess it up lol like he knows the more you mess with it he fuzzier it gets. I assure him that it bounces back well and if I'm with him and going home from there, I don't mind lol
Ugh, I'm dreading my date tonight! I wish I could skip it.

Usually before meeting someone I give them my number as a just in case, so if they're running late they can text me. I gave him my number yesterday and he proceeded to text me. Then asked if we could talk on the phone. I said yes, even though I don't like doing that before meeting.

I had a feeling there was something weird about him from his profile and messages, but over the phone he came across as even more weird than I suspected. He has an odd way of talking. I know it's jumping to conclusions to say this, but he struck me as autistic. Plus he said a few things that made me sure that we wouldn't be compatible. Anyway, I'm going through with the date. In a way, it's a relief to know what to expect rather than be shocked by his weirdness only when I meet him in person. But I am aware of the fact that I'm wasting time: both mine and his. And I'll just have to deal with the whole no-spark conversation when he asks me out again (because I'm pretty sure he will). But maybe this will be a good opportunity to try practicing the not-interested mode of behavior so he never does ask me on the second date in the first place. Although, if he is autistic, he may not pick up on those cues...
Originally Posted by ursula
How come you don't like to have even short phone conversations before the date?

Is it possibe his weirdness could be endearing or refreshing in some way?
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
I guess I just feel like talking before lessens the mystery and excitement of a first date.

I actually like weirdness generally, but his was not an endearing weirdness. At least not on the phone. It was kind of uncomfortable.
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Ugh, i hate waste of time dates! I suppose its good practice but i hate having the 'there's no chemistry' convo. Hopefully he was just nervous on the phone and will relax tonight.

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Originally Posted by envgirl
Thanks for being so optimistic for me, you guys!! We'll see what happens.
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I wonder if I'll have more luck with a girlfriend of mine fixing me up...she kinda knows my type..

I'm just sad....life sucks!
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
I think that's a great idea. I wish my friends would fix me up. I feel like it's more promising than online dating, because it's real life. You know what I mean? They can't disappear on you.
Originally Posted by ursula
Exactly Ursula....that's what I was thinking too.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Ha ha! He canceled on me! Well, problem solved. Now I don't feel obligated to say yes if he tries to reschedule. It's so weird because he kept going on and on about being nervous about meeting me. I wonder if that's the real reason he canceled and not work (like he said).
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