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What an ass!
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
No I think it's the caliber of men around us. We have a very poor selection these days. I'm crazy also,I mean I'm on medication for bipolar disorder and have frequent breakdowns because of it. I think the men now are so selfish and jaded just like they say women are. And I also think society has shaped both men and women,but more negatively in men. They've learned to treat women like objects and be deceitful. It's sick. I hid my pof profile for now. I'll continue to get to know the guy in Florida and if that doesn't pan out,I'm done for a while.I'm so weary from it all.
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
I am weary too. I've his my pof also I'm tired of dates that never pan out and guys that just stop texting out of the blue when they seemed so interested
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
At least have the common decency to let me know you're not interested anymore! I've had to tell a few guys I wasn't feeling it,and they may have been hurt but at least I didn't randomly drop them out of nowhere! So rude!
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
And as far as what we mentioned before. I was on meds too years ago. I got off and I have been dealing but I do have a huge issue with anxiety and worry. And this love thing and these health issues has made me fall into a funk that I can't get out of. Now I'm happiest on my couch with books and my tv. And I'm not gonna meet anyone here...I think I'm gonna look up shrinks during my time off and consider going back on something.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Yep,I can honestly say I couldn't function without meds.I've never been a fan until I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder months back. My symptoms are way too severe otherwise. I have manic states that last for weeks unless I'm on meds. And the dating fiascos I've experienced aren't helping those manic episodes. Another reason I hid my profile. Just can't handle anymore brushoffs. It does a number on your self-esteem.
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
It really does. I the memory issues and attention issues do a number on my confidence too. This constant worrying is gonna give me ulcers. I just feel hopeless.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
So...oddly enuff...I was about to delete my pof...it was already hidden and I didn't figure anyone could see me. So I browsed a bit...I was looking at this one profile...that I had seen before...but never messaged the guy...anyway...so I added him as a favorite and he saw it. He messaged me...seems nice...he's from England ....I love the accent...has one kid doesn't want anymore. Has a good job and a car and lives pretty close in Jersey. We've chatted a bit...gonna meet for drinks this weekend. Nice build...plays sports...looking for a relationship....did I mention I love the accent?
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
i love british accents! have fun!
I have also joined JDate. Yes. There is a box to check for "I am not Jewish, and I am not converting." I have gotten over 40 responses in two days. One young man is posing with a Christmas tree.

Yes, I have officially lost my mind.
So...oddly enuff...I was about to delete my pof...it was already hidden and I didn't figure anyone could see me. So I browsed a bit...I was looking at this one profile...that I had seen before...but never messaged the guy...anyway...so I added him as a favorite and he saw it. He messaged me...seems nice...he's from England ....I love the accent...has one kid doesn't want anymore. Has a good job and a car and lives pretty close in Jersey. We've chatted a bit...gonna meet for drinks this weekend. Nice build...plays sports...looking for a relationship....did I mention I love the accent?
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
OOOHH, English accents really do it for me! I hope he turns out to be a contender Goddess!
I have also joined JDate. Yes. There is a box to check for "I am not Jewish, and I am not converting." I have gotten over 40 responses in two days. One young man is posing with a Christmas tree.

Yes, I have officially lost my mind.
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
Wait, I thought Jewish men pretty much always marry Jewish women....
So...oddly enuff...I was about to delete my pof...it was already hidden and I didn't figure anyone could see me. So I browsed a bit...I was looking at this one profile...that I had seen before...but never messaged the guy...anyway...so I added him as a favorite and he saw it. He messaged me...seems nice...he's from England ....I love the accent...has one kid doesn't want anymore. Has a good job and a car and lives pretty close in Jersey. We've chatted a bit...gonna meet for drinks this weekend. Nice build...plays sports...looking for a relationship....did I mention I love the accent?
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls
OOOHH, English accents really do it for me! I hope he turns out to be a contender Goddess!
Originally Posted by envgirl
Yes...the Bloke seems pretty nice...fingers crossed!
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
I have also joined JDate. Yes. There is a box to check for "I am not Jewish, and I am not converting." I have gotten over 40 responses in two days. One young man is posing with a Christmas tree.

Yes, I have officially lost my mind.
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
Wait, I thought Jewish men pretty much always marry Jewish women....
Originally Posted by envgirl
I thought so too...if they were serious about the religion. Maybe ideally they'd marry a Jewish woman...but if they fall for a non Jew...then so be it.

Or....maybe they aren't looking to get married now...and when they do will pick a Jewish woman.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
It's absolutely just kind of a social experiment/writing prompt for me.

One of my closest friends is Jewish, first generation Israeli-American, and would marry a non-Jew. I know a lot of Jews that would. I had a friend in high school whose mom was Jewish and whose dad was a Methodist minister!
YAY Goddess!!! KUP!!

Me and my Floridian are cruising along nicely I like learning something new about him everyday. Not sure where it'll lead us, but for now, I'm enjoying him and vice versa.
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
That's great Coco!

U should hear the way he talks....loving the accent
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
Gahh I'm not sure if this is a vent or what but it seemed like the appropriate place to let it out. Sorry if some of the details are not included I'm on my iPad and aside from that not sure how much I can even let out of myself.
So three years ago I had something going with someone from my work. I still have a close friend that works with him. He had gone through a..strange breakup with a girlfriend of 5 years and he wasn't very open about the details. We started something that was intense and magnetic from the get-go, but with intense and magnetic comes drama.

We never committed to each other and along the way I found a few times he had been with his ex but he always had an explanation and also did admit to not being over her. I was very naive to love and ultimately figured he'd feel what I felt (though I never admitted to him that I loved him) but I knew I did.
Ultimately what happened was this other girl had an inkling about me as did I to her, and she got my number out of his phone and texted me straight up asking if something was going on. I told her yes and that it had been going on for the past 8 months. Turns out she was living with him again and had been for the past who knows how long. He was caught out, it ended, and she also moved out of his place but they continued to see each other.

I have run into him here and there very briefly and every time has been friendly and good. We had also texted a bit, more increasingly the last 4 or so months. We never discussed what had happened and never discuss our personal lives.
I know from my close friend that he has a girlfriend who he lives with now and they have been together just under 2 years. About two weeks ago he told me that he misses me and missed being understood like how i had. I told him that he didn't realize at the time how crazy I was about him and he said at the time no, but in the last couple years yes he had, and that he had grown up a lot and that one day he would explain to me.

So today I met up with him for lunch. I wasn't nervous at all as we have been so friendly the past while and so much since all that happened (3years ago). We did the whole catch up thing and I brought up his girlfriend and asked how it was going. He said not good, and that she is struggling with some depression issues and he thinks they can't recover from them. He said he is considering his "exit strategy" and is considering fast tracking his house purchase from the spring to this winter. We talked a bit about what happened in the past and he says he was scared of those emotions at the time and was a very immature person. He said he has grown since then and would never act that way or treat someone that way again. He also admitted that after it all when down that he went to counseling and went onto antidepressants for about a year.
The conversation never had a "I want you back" vibe, more of a "I trust you and need to vent and get this all out" vibe.

Anyway, the point of this story is that I am still in love with this kid. I'm not talking like oh he makes me smile, I'm saying like I knew I had feelings for him still, and I knew that I have compared everyone since him TO him subconsciously, and I knew that I was suppressing something, but as I left that lunch I was like "eff" and sat in the parking lot for ten minutes trying to accept that yea, okay, I'm still in love.
I told my friend tonight "if he would've said lets get on the next flight outta here and figure it out" I would've done it.

Now I'm not sure the point here as I know there is nothing I can do about it. When he texted me after to say it was nice to see you etc, I may have told him that it was nice to see him but also kind of hard. He replied "I know how you feel, it is the same for me when I'm around you, there is an undeniable charge." but that was the end of the conversation.

*sulk* why, why, WHY am I not over this
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I have also joined JDate. Yes. There is a box to check for "I am not Jewish, and I am not converting." I have gotten over 40 responses in two days. One young man is posing with a Christmas tree.

Yes, I have officially lost my mind.
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
I don't know if this were meant to be funny, but you made me laugh. :-) I've lost my mind quite a few times if it helps you any.
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I have also joined JDate. Yes. There is a box to check for "I am not Jewish, and I am not converting." I have gotten over 40 responses in two days. One young man is posing with a Christmas tree.

Yes, I have officially lost my mind.
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
I don't know if this were meant to be funny, but you made me laugh. :-) I've lost my mind quite a few times if it helps you any.
Originally Posted by multicultcurly
Oh, I know it's funny. Haha. I'm not deceiving anybody on my profile! I clearly check-off "I am not Jewish, I am not willing to convert." I have a lot of Jewish friends, feel quite at home in the culture, and I do think, in the NY area, Jewish families and Italian/Catholic families are very very similar.

However, tonight, one very-Orthodox looking man keeps IMing me.

What does he want from this girl who has made her entire schtick "I am the nice Catholic girl on JDate"???

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